Thread 33507366

>high 5- figure job
>not short
>drive a $54k car (I don’t even like cars but redpill shit days this brings huge appeal)
>own a nice flat
>array of hobbies so I’m out almost every weekend
>14% bf lean, not big just lean
>try to travel twice a year
>decent job in stem
>started bjj and joined a hiking group
>still no gf. I went on 2 dates this year and both went shit


I’m only 27 and exhausted. I find that blackpill shit too negative but I’m starting to think they have a point
I’ve been doing this for years btw. Where did I fuck up?

Normal experience these days. Not sure what the answer is but even if you have it all together it's not necessarily enough. You have to be ok living for yourself and facing the prospect of being alone forever *potentially*

>>33507366 (OP)
The real metric is how many eligible women you are in close proximity to on a regular basis. Your social/work/family circles are important for networking and finding those females. Maximize your online dating app efforts and bring that number up, but the quality might be shit. If your hobbies are mostly men, they're not going to help too much unless you start making friends you hang with outside the activity. Go out to spots where women expect to meet men, like bars, clubs, live music, bowling alleys, whatever your local culture does on a Friday night.

>high 5- figure job
>drive a $54k car (I don’t even like cars but redpill shit days this brings huge appeal)
You don't need this and I know you can't afford it. Trade it in for something more your lifestyle and less about flashiness. The job might be male-dominated, and you have to move fast on office girls because that's what everyone else is doing.

>try to travel twice a year
One-night stands and flings are pretty easy. Making friends is good too, but you don't want to create a LTR if you have a life established where you are at.

>14% bf lean, not big just lean
Go to the beach where you can show this off. Talk to women at the gym if you're that type of guy. Women see your body.

>still no gf. I went on 2 dates this year and both went shit
Go on 20 dates and at least one won't be shit.

>started bjj and joined a hiking group
Hiking group might pay off, BJJ just seems like a good habit.

at this point it might be your face.
look up the blackpill and see what you can fix by softmaxxing (skin routine, clothes, etc) and hardmaxxing (hair transplant, lipo, etc)

>>33507366 (OP)
I’m a 6’3 athletic lawyer and I have trouble finding a date. It’s common these days.

>c cup tits, ass not flat, 20 bmi, have a job and hobbies
>i went on 2 dates and didn't get along with the guys? despite of my bmi? wtf
Stop being autistic about stats and learn to form human connections

>>33508980
Huh? Op didn’t mention bmi or cup sizes at all tho
L2r

>>33508991
He listed the male equivalent of some such stats that might look good on paper but are either completely inconsequential or don't matter past showing that he isn't clinically obese or severely dysfunctional.

>>33507366 (OP)
I won't read numerology threads.

>>33507366 (OP)
Too many people took the redpill at once and The Everybody became The One, and when The Everybody is The One then The Nobody is The One.

>>33507564
This guy is very correct, I would add that you should find some wholesome volunteering (like Boys and Girls club, NOT pet walking) to find some wholesome girls.

>>33507366 (OP)
Sounds like you need a girl who enjoys dating as a hobby. You too can experience the immense honor and privilege of paying $250 per outing to make some fat roastie happy as a clam. Just don’t ask anything in return. Especially not sex. Weirdo. Creep. Incel.

>>33508980
well you see the problem is, society only allows you to form connections with the opposite gender if you're tall, blonde, have wide shoulders, a massive square jaw, and a huge cock.

>>33507366 (OP)
The redpill doesn't work because it's complete bullshit. Anything else we can help you with?

>>33507366 (OP)
sounds like you are insufferable. Also 2 dates is nothing. Go on 20 dates. In order to find, you need to really look. Princess on white horse won't come to you sadly.

>>33507366 (OP)
congratulations, you live a lower middle class life. No woman gives a fuck about a low middle class man

>>33507366 (OP)
>Where did I fuck up?

you think all those things you listed are like a checklist required to get girls. they won't give a shit about of any of that because they know you only do that stuff to impress them which just makes you look desperate, needy, etc.

i'd advise you to really lean in on something you like and are passionate about so much you really want to improve at it specifically for yourself. maybe it's bjj, it could be whatever. but do it for you only and to the point you don't even think about the girls. this gives you something to talk about with them and it demonstrates you have other goals in life beyond MUST FUCK STACEYS. when they know that is true about you, they'll hang around you way more often.