Thread 33510204

ITT: We post about our regrets so that others may learn

just keep your fucking emotions to yourself when you talk to women. stop trying to make them feel bad for you. stop trying to debate. don't ask where your hug is

>Don't obsess over girl(s)
>Eat frugally and faste 20 hours a day
>Watch lifestyle creep
>Practice minimalism
>Practice several things every single day
>Take immaculate care of yourself

>>33510204 (OP)
Picking up a trade is the most useful thing to do in 2025, don't be ashamed to do it.
>21 Yo broke engineering student with a huge backlg from previous semesters.

>Never make vidya a priority in life
>Socialize while young, dont end up socially akward
>Take care of your body from youth, be performant, dont sit too much
>When maidenless, go all in on making money and getting better, dont waste time

If you find a good girl that loves you, do your best to stick with her. It won't get any easier

How to not raise a fuckup

>Don't use his parents as a threat
>Make him have multiple social groups, not rely solely on school "friends"
>Don't skip preschool
>Don't skip grades
>Don't change schools unless harm is being done
>Ask teachers how he's doing weekly
>Ask kid how he's doing every day
>Talk to him about sex at 7 years old or 1st grade
>Encourage him to talk to girls
>Don't forbid him from saying bad words
>If he says none, teach him to banter
>Teach him to flirt
>Allow him to travel by himself
>Encourage study out of curiosity, not to top the class or the threat of fail
>Encourage him to exercise consistently before puberty
>Get him to do team sports with a reliable social group.

If you don't vibe with them block them. Don't hesitate. Don't let your friends try to convince you they are good or any other excuse. They aren't funny. They aren't cool. They aren't good. If they become the group lolcow or punching bag leave your group and get new friends. It doesn't matter if they aren't "breaking the rules" or "their right to free speech" and specially "they consented!" The unwriten rules of family and friends always comes first.

>>33510204 (OP)
no one learns on other peoples failures.
you must suffer them and learn if you can.

i hated the people who were hard on me as a teen
and they died before i realised what they'd done for me
never got to show them that i finally learned or to thank them
the guilt is unreal

dont do that

>>33510204 (OP)
Pessimism, le epic blackbill, and 'being right' are a complete and total waste of time. There is zero reason to spend your free time and energy obsessing over how fucked things are. Nothing good exists anywhere ever because some smart-alecky faggot went around pointing out problems. The reason anything good exists at all is because people, not even great people just average fucks, got up in the morning and tried to do their best for themselves and the people around them. You will get no sympathy from anyone ever and have absolutely nothing in life if you don't even want to meet this idea halfway.

Never rip loud farts. You never know whose ears you might catch. Your neighbour next door might be a hot blonde girl. That was my case...

I don't have any profound regrets. Like, I believe I was mostly making choices that were right given the information I had at the time. Of course lots of small fuckups that don't matter in the long term, but nothing spectacular. I'm not saying my life is good. I just don't see what I realistically could've done better besides "buy bitcoin".

>>33510204 (OP)
I can't stand other people's rugrats.

Take advantage of opportunities.
Work hard in school.
Don’t be afraid to take smart risks or try different paths. Especially when you’re young.
Learn from the mistakes of others.
Try your best.
Don’t judge others.
Take care of your health.
>t. 30

Do not get involved with a BPD girl, yes they will love bomb you at first and it will feel amazing and try to suck you in but it will never last and they will never be capable of truly actually loving you no matter how you navigate it.

>>33510204 (OP)
If there's one thing I could change, it's that I would start saving for my pension the second I was in paid employment.

Wish I started on bitcoin sooner. It is pretty easy to use PayPal or cashapp and stop missing the boat.

>>33513105
This

Choose life, not death.

>>33510686
This
People tried their best to teach me, I tried my best to look for answers to my problems, and the only thing that made me actually change has been suffering. Fuckups and their consequences.
Its a sad reality, but the sooner you accept this, the easier life gets. Like this nigga right here >>33511311

>>33510204 (OP)
I don't have regrets, because everything I wasn't doing, meant more energy and self-pressure for the things I needed to do.

I jumped from a $50k full-onsite position to two-years unemployed to making more than $100k in a hybrid position, at 30 years old, because while everyone was out having fun and getting married and having kids, I had been stalking the machine learning career field and actively looking for opportunities, and finally found one, and had every incentive to / nothing holding me back from making the leap and sprinting to establish myself. In early 2018 I was (rightfully) nervous about the future of wage growth and inflation, so I made the career switch a priority. Now my friends are barely scraping by while I feel comfortable traveling and meeting people. I was never going to be able to make this leap if I had slowed down to be with someone, or go out to more parties, or engage more strongly in my hobbies. If I wasn't nervous about the economy in 2018, I would've been fine with $50k salary, and I'd have been more adventurous... and although I'd have a better social life, I'd be in a pretty terrible spot today.

>>33510204 (OP)
I wish I never touched weed. Just made me stupid and lazy, I think it's responsible for my receding hairline as well (I'm 22). Worst of all I think it's the (real, though unstated) reason why the girl of my dreams broke up with me. It just straight up makes you into a retarded loser

When I was in college, I started acting flirtatious with a nerdy woman, twice my age, that I knew was married.
I played it off as entirely playful, which it was. She flustered so easily and I thought it was adorkable. I was just teasing her.
But then it became more. My teasing elevated to where I would have my lips inches from her neck, remarking that she liked this too much.
And she did. Eventually she kissed me, and all bets were off.

I knew her and her husband and her kids before it got serious, and it weighed on me, but I couldn't stop.
We never crossed the final line, and only got to second base. We might have continued if her husband didn't find out.

He came to my house in the middle of the night, screaming at me from the front lawn.
I came out, and told him to beat the hell out of me. I deserved it.
He didn't. He was broken, emotionally. He wanted to, I could feel it, but he couldn't bring himself to hurt me, since he blamed himself.
I later learned that he was suffering from erectile dysfunction after his vasectomy, and always was worried that his wife would do something like this.
He just didn't think it would have ever been me. He had invited me to every one of his game nights, with his kids.

I told him I would never see his wife again, even in passing. I meant it.
I changed my classes at college. I avoided her in the halls. The calls and texts went unanswered.
I think that hurt her, a lot. From what I heard from our mutual friends, she was very withdrawn for the rest of the semester.

To my knowledge, they are both doing fine. Marriage counseling, and a lot of tears, they're still together and seem happy. The facebook pictures of them and the kids, they're all smiling.
It is my truest hope they're happy. I have never forgiven myself for what I did, and it is my deepest regret.

>Cheating sounds hot in porn and my wapanese animoos. But it seriously fucking sucks and hits you right in your soul, even before you're found out, or if you never are.

Don't help anybody, don't offer any advice to anyone ever. If you see someone struggling, ignore them. The suffering of others is not your business. All advice is dogshit and the very concept of advice should never have been created. You should in no way pass any knowledge or wisdom onto others; be sure to hoard everything your experiences have taught you.

My worst regret is that I dated a freshman as a senior in high school. She didn't see the problem, and I didn't either, but I should have. I should have been the one to say "no, this is wrong" and put an end to it. When we did eventually break up it was sour, and I think we both realized how fucked up it all was.

The guilt eats me alive every day.

>>33511311
Damn, this is word by word what I would say and now I wonder who brainwashed me and at which point have those thoughts been implemented in my brain.

If you're still around 20 or younger and posting dumb emo shit on 4chan about how your life is over and isolating/wasting away etc slap yourself extremely hard and GET OUT immediately because this is the last chance you have to change mentally, ever, this is the end for you if you don't do it right now

don't drink alcohol

don't marry a girl who was spoiled as a child, she won't change

>>33513105
>just avoid 33% of all women
>avoid over half of the women that show interest in YOU


you aren’t wrong but it just makes dating harder than it already is. God damn.

>>33515057
This is such a retard mindset. if you can even help one other person it adds meaning to your life and your existence. often times people are not READY to understand or accept advice. That is not a reason to not help anyone. It’s just a numbers game. people have helped me and I help others. Why else are we here? To only indulge in material desires and to basically suck up resources and think only about ourselves until we die? What a pointless fucking existence that is. Almost every person that you have met who you see eye to eye on today was at one point a retard or a foolish idiot at one point. you can give someone the advice and plant the seed and they don’t have to take it but if they realize that you were right they can offer it to someone else who may accept it and it may help that person instead. There was a time in life where fathers actually taught their kids shit. or a mentor or professor would give good advice to their students to help them in life. That is gone now. But people can still do their best to help other people. You can try to give good advice to 50 people and if only one person understands and listens to it, and you stopped that person from going through more bullshit in their life than was necessary, you did your job.

Never beat yourself up.

I wish I hadn't spent years of my life crying about tfw no gf on 4chan instead of talking to girls. All the women in my early 20s who expressed interest dropped off because I always bitched out. I was never gonna be Chad but instead of accepting that and making do I did nothing. I've been in a relationship for 6 years now so it worked out but I could have had so much more fun when I was younger.

I really wish my useless father had given me advice.

>>33518175
Stuff like that happens. Maybe it wasn't the right time, because you weren't so sure. Another thing going about your life worrying about messing up with women, isn't entirely a kind thing to them. Like what when you go to Starbucks to get a coffee and there is an attractive cashier, you're gonna go all super dramatic because you couldn't get her number. No, you just got your coffee and moved on. Added people who don't put initiative in when you have are not into you.

>>33518224
Are you saying that people who do not initiate at other times when you did previously are not into you or people who never initiate, but when you initiate, they are at least partly excited to follow through with the plans you made?

>Stay away from porn at all costs, it will fuck you up more than you will ever know and you won't realize it until it is too late
>Give up vidya now before you waste your entire life in front of a screen

>>33518742
Let me show you an example of what this girl is like with you:

You: "Hey Stephanie how's it going?!"
Stephanie: "Hi."
You: "So how's it going?"
Stephanie: "What's it?"
You: "Ya'know... How is it going?"
-Stephanie looks blanky off the distance pretending you don't exist-
You: "So last night I was making some smores with my gr-
-Stephanie just walks off and has a grandiose conversation with another guy-

That is what I am talking about.

You have to be the guy she is grandiose with like her Chad. If you are a run of the mill guy who just is like the background character of her life, you ain't gonna matter to her.