Thread 33519406

Recently I overcame my issues with having month long periods where I couldn't get myself to do anything. I essentially formed habits of not partaking in hobbies I once enjoyed because I overly stressed over the act or obligation to do them. Basically viewing each waking minute as possible productivity hours - in other words neurotically over stressing
To combat this, I set some very low daily quotas now, have difference expectations on weekdays vs. weekends, and look at things I enjoy as a cumulative experience, trying to balance feeling motivated but not stressed, chilled out but not lazy, setting expectations but not hard requirements
If all this sounds autistic (probably is) recognize if I don't set some sort of number for myself to reach I'll feel zero aspiration to do things, the act of enjoyment alone doesn't drive me.
Anyway, this has worked for a month or so, been happy and balancing work and hobbies but I suddenly started not wanting to do anything. No not depression or bipolar shit, just in a slump of sorts, simply wanna jerk my shit and doom scroll. I recognize it's a reactive behavior, I'm not doing this out of necessity. My real question is, when you guys hit those slumps, how do you get back on track. Currently I don't feel like I've wasted time, or need to make up for lost time, or any sort of stress, but just need that jump to get back on the horse.

Any tips on that? Sorry if this was a jumbled blog if I need to explain things better just say so

>>33519406 (OP)
I TOTALLY GET YOU!!!! im in one of these slumps right now its like paralysis where i feel like theres a million things i should be doing but i cant name a single one of them so i end up just rotting. im gonna go get my hair done tomorrow and do a deep clean of my room and hopefully that motivates me to lock in.

>>33519412
Well either way the best thing to do is probably ride it out instead of stressing about overcoming it, the only issue is when riding it out becomes your new nature

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going back to just doing things again, even though you enjoy them, can be extremely tough, unsure why it just is

Weird thing to say so don't know if its good advice, but

Sometimes if i get this feeling, I have a day that is so "Pathetic" that by the end, I have had my fill of pathetic shit. For instance

>wake at 8am
>nap till 11am
>Eat unhealthy fast food in fridge or at shop
>scroll til like 6pm, intermittently eating crisps, snacks, drink beer, etc
>play vidya
>just basically do nothing all day

By 2am or whatever, i feel like such a sack of shit that the next day I promise myself to not do it all again. In that case, I tend to organise a commitment I hawe to do that cannot involve junk shit (e.g organise a morning work meeting / meet a friend early / etc)

>>33521250
I am basically the same day
Just doom scrolling and jerking off all day
I don't know if it's the symptom of being down mentally or the cause, i believe the former though
probably just your brain needing to recharge, the problem comes with this becoming your new habit

bump for discussion
but i think it really might be as simple as just waiting for the right moment and forcing yourself
then it's back on track like nothing ever happened
odd sensation

It’s stress!
It’s all stress!
Every issue I have is due to stress!
It’s fucking annoying that it’s that simple but it is
Constantly towing the line between pushing myself to do more but not worrying about maximizing every waking moment of my life
Accepting a bare minimum and continuing tomorrow without accepting mediocrity

I think I started this slump I’m in now because I have a ton of free time at work and decided to try and use that to practice hobbies like drawing and writing
Returned to that all or nothing attitude of needed to do more more more, got subconsciously stressed and lost desire to do things - no real event all just mental thoughts and subconscious reactions

Fuck

>>33519406 (OP)
This advice has always served me well,
People don't you know, don't you know
It's about time
Can you hear the jam is pumpin'?
While you taste the piece of mine
Many different flavors
And the spice is strong
Get into the hot stuff
Let me pour a little some
Baby let me show you how to do this
You've gotta move this
You're doin' fine
There's nothin' to it
You gotta groove it
Come on and move this
Shake that body for
People don't you know, don't you know
It's about time
Can you hear the jam is pumpin'
While you taste the piece of mine
Many different flavors
And the spice is strong
Get into the hot stuff
Let me pour a little song
Baby let me show you how to do this
You've gotta move this
You're doin' fine
There's nothin' to it
You gotta groove it
Come on and move this

>>33524128
Very true anon very true

>>33524149
I know it’s just a song but for some reason it works for me, when I got back from Iraq, it’s all I listened to, kept me on right track. I was pretty level headed for the next deployments. But now at 42, that song still gets me through it. And trust me, I’m very much dead on the inside, the only things that bring me joy are my kids and this song. Everything else is just going through the motions, we are all on our way out, so act accordingly, in the mean time, there’s nothing to it, you gotta groove it, come on and move this, we’re doing fine!

Really my issue now isn’t with focusing and being productive it’s not losing that desire that ambition to get things done
I don’t know if I lose it due to pressure or if it’s just a natural thing but I want to get more done than I currently am

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