Thread 33533759

im a female loser. i have no friends or hobbies or aspirations and goals. a bad relationship with my parents and the rest of my family. my only cheer up in life is that im not american. what shall i do to not stay a loser for the rest of my life

Are you hot? Do you want to have sex (with me)?

>what shall i do to not stay a loser for the rest of my life
They say that the price to move forward is the very place where you are now.

Direction to where may be a lot and overwhelming, but where you should not appeals more to your concern.

>>33533769
>Are you hot?
if i was i wouldnt be where im at right now. attractive people cant be and arent losers.

>>33533785
stop being fat then

>>33533884
im not fat, just genetically fucked

>>33533884
Nta but as a guy this makes the biggest difference. Don’t be fat and a woman’s attractiveness jumps a few points automatically.

Just try to make new buddies, if you can't find someone. I don't mind being your friend.

>>33533901
then be my friend, please

>>33533759 (OP)
are you young, fit and childless ?

You sound funny. Do you have big booba? If you'd like, I can be your lover, bff, Daddy and prince. Hmu bebi gurl, let me rock your world

>>33533898
stop being ugly then

>>33534062
yeah

>>33533759 (OP)
do you have a penis?

>>33537351
who doesn't these days

>>33533759 (OP)
I would eat your poo and suck your clit

>>33533759 (OP)
Also because of your pic I'm assuming you're eastern European, Russian, polish or Ukrainian or some Croatian or Estonian or Latvian or Lithuanian or Serbian or Belarusian, so I would make you my gf in a heartbeat. I wouldn't even hesitate. Just come to the Netherlands

>>33537380
>I would eat your poo
You're nasty

>>33537520
Sorry. It's just 4chan and I can say whatever the Dutch I want

But yeah which country are you from? And what was your question exactly?
The definition of loser varies, I'm going to assume you are like all of us and want to find a partner.
The way I'm doing it right now is I started bachata dancing lessons and had my first lesson this week, and I'm starting to sing at a student choir next week. Expressive activity, very mixed gender, already touching each other and establishing high trust. And don't think it was easy for me. I was absolutely terrified I had to talk to myself for 1.5 hours just to get myself to go. But I'm so happy I went, danced with like 12 ladies, met really nice girls. Great stuff. I'm hopeful for the future after this. Also none of these activities required any experience so you've got no excuses! Other than being scared. And I know getting over fears is super scary.. But sadly, it's the only way to go. I wish you the best of luck femnon you can ask me more questions if you wanna

>>33533759 (OP)
femcel moment

>>33533759 (OP)
>I have no hobbies or aspirations or goals.
That's why you have no friends and you are a loser femcel. Start improving yourself, sweetheart. It sure sucks being an ugly, lazy, purposeless piece of shit, regardless if they are male or female.

>>33537351
no
>>33537393
sorry to disappoint, im not eastern european.
>>33537677
im glad that youve found something that seems to be working for you. im not really looking for a partner specifically, even just a friend would be ideal

>>33533759 (OP)
>what shall i do to not stay a loser for the rest of my life
move to america. but you won't.

>>33533759 (OP)
Okay so you probably won't believe me, but whatever, it's your choice. I'm a girl as well and even having a partner or friends does not make me anything more than a loser. Up until I saw this post I thought female incels didn't exist, just that I was so extremely unlucky in both the appearance and both the social skills (and hobbies, etc). It sure is nice to know there's more of us. Men don't realise how insanely hard it is for ugly women in this world, because we don't get accepted by neither women, nor men, whereas ugly men get accepted by men, even though they might not get accepted by women. Even though you can't change your appearance, you can change your social skills and aspiration and goals. You just can't hurry it, and guess what, most people don't have that figured out and even spend their entire lives living a life they hate.
Friends won't make you happy. You does not equal other people, you need to believe in yourself and your loneliness. Your passion will make you happy. Your ability to pass love onto others and hopefully someday feel it return. I don't know what to do in life, and I don't have any hobbies, but I just start slow by doing what feels good. For example gardening, or caring for a plant. Then advance. I can say I'm quite happy caring for a dog. You can always back out if something is wrong. Dare to try various things. You are free! Thats the blessing and curse of our lives. You can literally do whatever you want, you're a completely blank page. That's wonderful.

>>33541250
All an ugly woman has to do is try. You'd be surprised how many men would say yes. simply because they don't think anyone would actually want them. I certainly would be shocked if anyone asked me, I've never mustered the courage to ask anyone myself, because I think even "ugly" girls would say no

>>33541146
>im glad that youve found something that seems to be working for you. im not really looking for a partner specifically, even just a friend would be ideal
well.. cam aaaaan... you know how to find friends.
post on reddit, there will be... 600? upwards of that, people to choose friends from, in your inbox.

also where are you from? I'm from the Netherlands like I said

>>33541250
bbygurl I'll accept you if your energy is right.
Problem is that when you're ugly you receive a lot of negative attention which reinforces you outwardly in how you treat the world which makes you even more unattractive. But if I saw an "ugly" lady as you call them (I don't even think about looks as much as about your energy and facial expressions) and she had a good vibe, her energy was good and her personality shone through, and she was nice to me, I would totally fall for that girl.
Already in my first class there was this girl like, wide gap between her eyes, kinda wide jaw like attack on titan stuff, but god damn she was so nice to me and we danced and she walked me home afterwards, like, I'm down to try to gf her if she signs up for the class and I see her next week.
If there's anything I learned in the 29 years of my life on this earth about this topic, Its that the energy of a person and their intentions are way more important than just the looks alone. Looks capture me the same way that a diploma can get you a job interview, but only skills will get you the job, in my case it would be your energy and how you talk and facial expressions and carry yourself.
Girls who smile and seem happy do it for me. So much so.

>>33541287
oh and btw I say this as a dude who spent most of his life being fat. and only recently I started making changes on that. went from 106kg to 91kg since January. The 15kg really made a difference, a real, tangible, REAL difference in how people treat me so yeah, for most of my life I was invisible. More visible than before but still invisible at the moment to some, but at around 70kg maybe I'll stop being as invisible as I am now.

ewwww

i believe in you, girl, you can do it! you have everything ahead of you and you clearly shouldn't ask for advice here

i feel disgusted by some of the comments here ewwwww

and it's not you who's a loser, it's me, hahaha

in general, i believe in you, anon, i hope everything will be good in your life and never think about the bad. think about the positive and underestimate yourself :3

It's better not to look for attention here!!

>>33541308
>>33541318
>>33541325
>>33541348
>>33541302
you're sooo fucking black, I can sniff you from here

>>33541287
i'm from a neighbouring country of yours. also i'm talking about REAL friends who actually fit to me

also to the samefagging nigger, please stop. give advice or leave

>>33541402
>i'm from a neighbouring country of your
oh cool
>i'm talking bout REAL friens who actuly fit to me
I wish it could be so easy that the RIGHT friends just show up at your doorstep, but I'll share a little bit about me. I was a hermit after a breakup with my ex of 5 years last summer. she cheated on me, I ended it. In March I started going to meetups from meetup.com cuz I realized I can't do this anymore, can't be indoors and do nothing and just watch videos and play games and cum. So anyway, I went to 100+ events since March. It had several effects:
1) I'm way more comfortable around strangers now, my general trust of others has gone up, which is a positive overall
2) I realized that not all people are going to be compatible with me
3) I tested this concept thoroughly and realized that I shouldn't force a connection, it should come naturally
4) once in 3, 4, 5 events, I met someone really nice who ended up being my friend for a while. I now have a small group of people, all from different walks of life and different genders, who I can hit up and talk to. I feel like I tapped into some sort of otherworldly consciousness, like suddenly there's a "community" that I never saw before. And these are literally just people in whatsapp groups and I get their app and then boom we meet and now suddenly I have friends and I get invited to birthday parties and shit

like, it took effort, but here we are. And I'm very careful with my definition of friend btw. I don't think any of these people will reach the level a girlfriend can reach in terms of caring about me, but they do hit me up and listen - Its so much nicer than being alone.

so yeah bottom line, you have to invest time into meeting new people to find the REAL friend who will actually fit you. I found 1 dude who I'd say is the top friend in all of this, that's not to say he doesn't have his own issues he has some anger issues, but I've been to over 20 events with him and I've only known him for about 3 months

hmmmm?? and what does that mean?

>>33533759 (OP)

hmmmmm? what?????? BLACK? did you burn me?

Are you from Catalonia?

>>33533759 (OP)
N

>>33533759 (OP)
Same here. Want to be friends?

>>33533759 (OP)
me but im also american its over.....

>>33533769
>>33533785
You can't ask a female that. Females are perpetually insecure, this is an evolutionary mechanism to make them seek approval from men.
Anyway, as long as a female isn't fat, she's likely attractive.

>>33543464
Are you speaking as the opposite gender or that gender you're describing from?

>>33543474
speaking as a male.
Though, even a physically attractive female can be repulsive through personality problem, being too woke etc.

If you swallow my cum and take it up the ass, I’ll do anything you ask. I’m divorced and pay child support. You might have to sleep ina drawer a few nights a week. I don’t need a maid or anything, I can do that, I just want sex and a deep connection were we can have a drink and people watch and make fun of shitskins, but I’m Canadian, it’s pretty fucked here.

>>33542715
sure
>>33543464
my face is the problem

>>33543490
Are you a faggot?

>>33533785
>attractive people cant be and arent losers.
lol? they can if bad enough at social skills

>>33544863
they wont be judged as much since attractive people get away with anything, including social retardation

>>33541337
holy 1337

>think about the positive and underestimate yourself
words to live by

>>33533759 (OP)
tits or gtfo

>>33547136
Whas that even Supposed to mean