Thread 33537406

Went on a date today, thought things went perfectly. We had great chemistry, and she even began planning our next date, but then messaged me tonight asking if it would be alright to be just friends. I feel like I did something wrong, but I can't see where this could've came from.

>>33537406 (OP)
She probably realized she isn't attracted to you. Sometimes women date a guy who could-be-attractive because he's nice in the hopes that she will eventually want to sleep with him. After this date, she clearly thinks you're cool but still doesn't want to sleep with you. Alternatively, I went on a date with a girl who admitted at the start of the second date that she was never attracted to me but really did want to hang out with me and couldn't figure out a way to say that

>>33537406 (OP)
That really sucks man.. I'm very sorry.
There's not much to be gained from asking her why, the answer will send you running in circles wondering how you can be better. It is really likely that her answer will be a lie passed off as truth.
I would advise, as hard as it is, to focus on being okay with this person, so that if you ever see her again it won't be awkward.
Respectfully accept the decision, and as much as it hurts, tell yourself that she did you a favor. Don't play uphill. Save yourself the pain of pursuing someone who clearly told you they aren't interested in you anymore.
>Inb4 but she wants to be friends
It's a soft let down language women use to prevent themselves from being violently graped and mutilated, it's evolutionary it doesn't make sense. I know and she knows that you wouldn't do that but she takes the precaution anyways. Don't fall for it, she doesn't want to be friends. End it amicably with an honest message from you about how you feel, you can share your pain and disappointment so that you feel like your voice is heard, and end it with a nice I wish you the best of luck and it was truly nice to have dinner with you and get to know you.

>>33537449
>violently graped
unironically kys

>>33537406 (OP)
>I feel like I did something wrong, but I can't see where this could've came from.


one way to look at it is like this:
She is into you, but not sure if she really is into you. She compares you to someone else she is also into and decides to float the "lets just be friends" line to you to compare answers.

>"o..okay"
vs
>"Just friends? I donno baby, I already have a lot of friends..."

>>33537406 (OP)
If she wants to be friends, then she isn't the one for you anon. Don't engage with a sinking ship and let the relationship wither away; go ahead and find someone new who actually wants to be around you.

Chasing a fleeting relationship is foolish, especially when all of your time and effort could've been spent with someone who actually likes you.

Ghost her. No need to waste your time. You'll forget her name in a few months. Don't overthink it.

>>33537406 (OP)
>We had great chemistry, and she even began planning our next date

YOU thought that you might have had great chemistry, you have no idea whats going on inside her head.

>>33537715
>Chasing a fleeting relationship is foolish, especially when all of your time and effort could've been spent with someone who actually likes you.

I think deep part of oneitis is this subconscious belief that nobody else would actually like you

>>33537406 (OP)
It doesn't matter "where it came from." The correct response is to ghost her immediately and permanently. Let her do the wondering.

>>33537406 (OP)
I hate a piece of shit OP who makes a thread and doesn't give us an update

GIVE US AN UPDATE MONGOLOID!!

>>33537406 (OP)
You didn't do anything wrong, she just doesn't find you attractive. Women are attracted to all kinds of things that have nothing to do with physical appearance, so she had no way of knowing if she would be attracted to you until she had spent some time with you. Now she has, and she knows she isn't, but still thinks you're cool, so she'd like to be friends if you're up for it. Don't overthink it.

>>33537406 (OP)
My vote is for don't answer the question.
If she messages again to ask if you still want to do the thing you partially planned already and says she wants still wants to, you at least know she wasn't lying about wanting you as a friend. From there, you can decide if you want a friend or not, and go out again if you do or else respond you'd rather not if not. Do not be the one to bring these or any other plans up if she doesn't first.
More likely, she doesn't like you nearly enough for her to put in any energy to any kind of relationship with you. There is no point in replying to a question about what you would be alright with since it would be a purely theoretical one intended to soften any hard feelings that may come back to her. It's most likely not your fault in the sense that it's not a $60k car's fault for having the wrong color upholstery.
If you're too mushy to even consider not replying, let alone ghosting which is now fashionable and will save you further losses in time and energy, you can thank her for her honesty (lol) since she at least didn't ghost you.

>>33537625
I chuckled

>>33537406 (OP)
I'd reply, no thanks I don't want to be friends with you actually, I'm just not attracted to you and you're not my type.

Leave it just like that...no more, no less.

>We had great chemistry,

Fake news.

>>33537406 (OP)
STOP APPROACHING WOMEN. STOP USING ONLINE APPS. STOP GIVING WOMEN ATTENTION

Stop Asking Women On Dates, stop texting them thinking you are interesting because you are not. The reason you are getting ghosted is because you text and try to be funny, try to make her laugh or sound interesting. If you do manage to go to the next step and are actually meeting up and then get ghosted, stop taking women on dates. That stuff doesn't work anymore in the current year.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyEdsrfTd6Q
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gK1w1cAKS7o

Most importantly stop approaching women, at least for a while. They are already seething and this will only get worse and worse as they get less and less attention from men.
If men can't display a modicum of power over society, this world and women, then I guess they don't hold much power at all.

>>33537406 (OP)
You did nothing wrong. Females are made differently. Their sex drive is extremely unpredictable. One second they aren't in the mood, the next they're fucking in a public toilet. They have no stable feeling.
There's the moment she wants to suck your dick, the next day she's a lesbian. It's not (just) that they're mentally ill, they're just women.

Short story.
My birthday, 20 yo. I go pick up this girl at high school (she's 19). She tells me "I changed in the teachers' restroom, so I could wear these tights for you". We walk for miles, chatting, we get to the park, in front of the river. Very romantic situation.
I didn't even get a kiss. "Oh... I didn't think that you liked me in that way..."

Oh look another bot thread pushing for Jewish blood sacrifice. Fuck I hate Israel.

HEY people don't read this shit it's created to depress you.

>>33542360
bumping just to spite you.

>>33537406 (OP)
STOP APPROACHING WOMEN. STOP USING ONLINE APPS. STOP GIVING WOMEN ATTENTION

Stop Asking Women On Dates, stop texting them thinking you are interesting because you are not. The reason you are getting ghosted is because you text and try to be funny, try to make her laugh or sound interesting. If you do manage to go to the next step and are actually meeting up and then get ghosted, stop taking women on dates. That stuff doesn't work anymore in the current year.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyEdsrfTd6Q
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gK1w1cAKS7o

Most importantly stop approaching women, at least for a while. They are already seething and this will only get worse and worse as they get less and less attention from men.
If men can't display a modicum of power over society, this world and women, then I guess they don't hold much power at all.

>>33542386
ISRAELI BOT THREAD.

JEWISH BLOOD SACRIFICE

It's now well known over the internet that bots on 4chan are largely coming from Israel and they campaign to destroy all people's self worth and confidence.

Check out the thread about some "girlfriend" wanting to break up because she was locked inside a car lmfao

>>33542453
Can't have those Jewish conspirators shitting up my sacred board.
Also that thread is so fucking stupid.

>>33542511
Not as stupid as asking if I should break up with my bf because he left me locked inside the car during his job interview and I got heat stroke. lmfao

This guy may be real because he isn't adding a bunch of details about her outfit or something else. Having KYS in the reply is a common bot response too though.

>>33537406 (OP)
I guess she probably has another guy lined up that she likes more than you. If it doesn't work out with him, she wants you to be her plan B.
Your best bet is probably to go "sure" but don't actually be friends, just very faint acquaintances. If things don't work out with her guy, pump and dump her

>>33537449
>with an honest message from you about how you feel, you can share your pain and disappointment so that you feel like your voice is heard
don't bother with this part

>>33537406 (OP)
>I feel like I did something wrong
You are operating on the assumption that the process is that she WILL fall in love unless something goes wrong. That is exactly opposite to the reality. The norm is for any two people to be no more than friendly, and it takes something especailly right for there to be the potential for more.

You didn't lose. You just didn't win.

>>33537406 (OP)
I was in this situation, I just turned it down politely.
>we can be on friendly terms but I'm not looking for more friends right now. Thanks for a good time.
I skimmed through her follow up which said something about unfair expectations but left it on read, haven't communicated with her since, don't intend to. Move on, don't let people waste your time.

>>33537406 (OP)
>you are like the fat girl for the fat girl
like how more attractive females will have a fat friend to take pics with to look thinner

>>33544470
best comment I read in a while online

>>33542360
>>33542453
What the fuck are you babbling about?