Thread 33539980

i keep getting into fights with two good friends of mine because they both ghost me on a regular basis. for example i would write one of them on friday if they wanna hang out saturday or sunday and i get a reply on wednesday, telling me that they spend time working on a car. i just dont understand what's so hard about writing one line of text. i dont care if we dont hang out but just communicate with me.

on another occassion one of them would tell me that we should hang out thursday or sunday, i wrote them on thursday about it and got a reply a week later because that person was trying to fix their sleep schedule. i just dont see how it wasnt possible to let me know. i kept reaching out and was being ghosted for the whole week.

when i bring this up, they are mad at me. it's been an issue for years now and now i am being threatened with them ending our friendship. wtf.

>>33539980 (OP)
>friend once got mad because I didn't read his text for 2 day
>now I wait to reply to him for 3+ days out of spite

its fucking over bro. no point in having friends at that point

In short, they see you as a third wheel, ditch them before it affects you more and don't you dare take the blame, they chose this so they better take responsability over their actions, you'll find better ones

>>33539980 (OP)
I won't read glutton-for-punishment threads. Stop associating with "friends" that you consider abusive.

>when i bring this up, they are mad at me.
Bringing shit up more than once doesn't help.
Fundamentally, they don't care enough about you to be glued to their phones 24/7 for you. This is not something that can be fixed via discussion, at most you'll become even less important to them because you don't know your place/ fail to take the hint.
You fix this by first deciding if you can deal with flaky people. If the answer is yes, never pester them again about this, just always have backup plans if you invite them somewhere. Divest from them a bit and get other friends too, this will also make you less mad and ironically also more valuable to them, reducing their flakiness