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Anonymous No.33540827 >>33540893 >>33540919 >>33540933 >>33540939 >>33541825 >>33542359 >>33542580 >>33543503 >>33545961 >>33550051 >>33550081
What are men who missed out on their teens and 20s supposed to do?
Anonymous No.33540893
>>33540827 (OP)
>What are men who missed out on their teens and 20s supposed to do?
report to your local university you have progeria or something because you went from 12 to 30 overnight
Anonymous No.33540919
>>33540827 (OP)
whatever man 30s isn't even middle aged yet, let alone old. You can still go out to clubs and bars and the gym and all that shit.

but reading your pic made me laugh, it's like every incel stereotype and bad incel idea rolled up into a perfect post.

>the very first thing you describe about yourself is your bank account and write a whole paragraph about your money

>being mad at parties

>thinking that guys who fuck are COMPLETE LOSERS

>never asking girls out or making the first move, always expecting girls to come and sit on your lap just because you got good grades and own things

>believing in the incel urban legend that women want to marry incels in their 30s instead of the kind of guys they were already in relationships with
Anonymous No.33540933 >>33546408
>>33540827 (OP)
Not gonna read that wall of text, but I can tell you there's a fucking lot to do and that involves

>Getting a wakeup call. E.g Falling in love with a girl who doesn't reciprocate
>Go to therapy (because nobody else has the time or interest in helping you)
>Analyze your life, and realize you've been living for other people's expectations
>Analyze people anthropologically. E.g Take notes like women only accepting men they are familiar with, women noticing guys who are chatty, speak their mind, make sex jokes etc tailored to their needs.
>Make an effort to fix the conditions that made you bitter, emotionally dependent, and self-shaming (e.g living with parents, abusive people you call "friends", abusive workplaces)
>Give yourself a break and a chance to bloom into what you were supposed to be.
>Constantly fight the urges to self shame, self blame, avoid experiences, criticize others, etc. You have to stay as open as possible.
>Put together your newly acquired confident personality with trying to have fun in places women are, and are starting out in.
>On the premise that everything you say feels fun, flirt with women and say sexual things to them, get genuine curiosity and ask how they feel about things. Touch their skin, look at their responses.
The rest is unexplored territory but I guess
>Spend time with her. Spend time doing nothing with her. Don't make everything into a competition.

That's it. It can take years of effort, because you're working what you didn't work in 20 years for the reasons that be.

>But I'm only allowed to date old women!
You can date 18 year olds too, doesn't matter. What matters is that you become comfortable with yourself, comfortable with the world, and say fuck off to anything that tells you otherwise, even loves ones.
Anonymous No.33540939 >>33546395
>>33540827 (OP)
>120k/yr
>drives a luxury car
stopped reading right there, this guy is retarded
Anonymous No.33541825
>>33540827 (OP)
Start now. Duh. You're welcome!
Anonymous No.33541863
>Duhd dudhdbd teen love and shit
Man who cares, ive had six girls asking me out and turned them down.
Never think badly about it.
Idk why you are so pathetic.
Anonymous No.33542359 >>33542477
>>33540827 (OP)
Missed out on what? If you couldn't do what you wanted to do before, then do it now. If you still can't, figure out why now.
Guy in the pic already chose from his own listed options, but does he know what he really wants or how to get it? If he didn't like those kinds of people back then, what will be different now?
He wants marriage but does not trust it. He fears dishonesty, disloyalty, and losing what he built, yet still is attached to modern marriage. He clearly has marriage options if his words about being hit on are to be believed, but it he himself is stopping it from happening based on anger from his past creating prejudiced standards which he is unable to define beyond age (which would likely still be too old in LA anyway). He is focused on his income and material value in the eyes of others when describing himself, yet wants to avoid being taken advantage of for his material value. He says he will only have women in their 20s, but his mind is still filled with anger at something he says he has no interest in. He is more concerned about what he doesn't want than what he does want. He is angry about hypocrisy to the extent it surpasses his own desires.
Let go. Don't be jealous that other people have or had nice things, get the things you want and remove things which cause you frustration.
One who truly is well-off enough to mention material wealth should be able to use that wealth to secure things to the high standards they desire. If that is not the case, then it might better be described as a bluff made from insecurity.
Do you know what you want? Do you know why you want what you want? Do you want it enough to get it, even if you haven't figured out how? Will you wait to be "given" choices by an unhealthy society, or will you go looking for what you want and take it?
There is no need to worry about the problems of the world before you have figured out ways to deal with your own problems.
What are YOU missing, and what will YOU do about it?
Anonymous No.33542477 >>33542719 >>33550149
>>33542359
Let's go a little deeper.
This guy lives in LA, which is basically half mexican, yet named white countries as alternative places to find wives, as opposed to, oh I don't know, every other country that's closer and full of brown people. He wants a white wife, okay great that's your preference, yet somehow that seems to have been left out of this page of rambling. He lives in LA, a shithole where it is naughty to say you prefer one race over another, or the same race as yourself rather than another. He cares more about the perception of himself than the reality of himself, even when posting online. It has soaked into his habits and probably his thoughts.
He brags about the money spent on things rather than even the things themselves. Look at all the money he spends on organics! Does he know what organic means? Has he read any publications on synthetic pesticide effects? Would a normal person even think it's a good idea to spend 70 grand/year on a pussy wagon? Would he still drive it if he didn't have such conclusive data about its correlation to cunt moisture?
It begs the question as to whether marriage is another matter of perception, rather than the genuine longing that even r9k posters have. Does he know what he wants?
Now note that he has a projected income for 2012. That was 13 years ago, he is in his 40s.
Time passes whether you use it to do anything to make yourself happier or not. Whether he turned his life around or continued to be single to this day because he was too attached to his own image to be a sugar daddy for the 21 year old white pussy he craved because he lost faith in all women, he has aged nevertheless.
What about you, anon?
Whatever time has passed since the age you thought everything should be perfect forever, it's over. Fight for the next 13 years, fight as hard as you can against feeling a new magnitude of pain looking back 13 years from now, fight like it could jump out from the future and eat you tomorrow, because it can.
Anonymous No.33542580
>>33540827 (OP)
>missed
missed what?
Anonymous No.33542719
>>33542477
>in 13 years ill be 40
>never went ATV riding in the woods
>never went skydiving
>never went jetskiing
>never got into boxing
>have literally nothing to flex and damn near make people uncomfortable when I talk to them
Anonymous No.33543503
>>33540827 (OP)
Look forward and make the best of tomorrow. I've been together with my now fiance for 6 years and started dating when we were 26. Prior to her I've kissed 3 other women and had sex one time with 1 of them during a one night stand. I look back and wonder why the fuck I was so uptight, so stubborn, so allergic to having fun and not being a judgemental prick always worried about what was proper and respectable. All my friends were heaving steady sex during the prime of their lives and I was third wheeling.

I have a large scar on my leg and stomach from a rare skin condition that I let prevent me from ever taking chances with girls. Anytime a girl was interested I always did something to fuck it up before the clothes came off. Not once did anyone make fun of me when they saw it or say anything and yet I let it ruin every chance I ever had because in the back of my mind it was always "oh shit what if she finds it disgusting and runs away." The moment my fiance saw it she didn't care at all. I let it destroy my confidence and I look back now and think who fucking cares if they couldn't handle it?

I feel like I'm going through a third life crisis or something. What a waste my early 20s were. I wish I took my chances and actually tried getting laid. I was so obsessed with trying to get a girlfriend I never just lived in the moment and enjoyed then and there. Of course I spent most of my time on 4chan crying about my problems.

I guess my point is to OP and anyone else. Just have fun and stop taking everything so fucking seriously. Do you want to live the life you think you should because it's proper or do you want to be happy? Make peace with the fact you fucked up an wasted time, it takes some of us a lot longer to learn than others.
Anonymous No.33545961
>>33540827 (OP)
cope
Anonymous No.33546395
>wordswordswrods
"oohnooo I had meaningless sex in college :-("
even if this was believable he's still a normalfag
>>33540939
You missed "2012"
Anonymous No.33546408 >>33550076
>>33540933
>You can date 18 year olds too
that's what he said. Also 18 year olds are fucking retarded.
Anonymous No.33550051
>>33540827 (OP)
have sex with 18 year olds. I'm 33 and my gf is 18
Anonymous No.33550076
>>33546408
women are never not retarded, with age they get better at hiding it
Anonymous No.33550081
>>33540827 (OP)
Just go for a woman in her late teens or early 20s and stop giving a fuck what bitter post-wall roasties say.
Anonymous No.33550149 >>33550198
>>33542477
>he was too attached to his own image to be a sugar daddy for the 21 year old
lol at this new age gap shaming tactic. calling all age gap relationships "sugar daddying". get over it zoomercel
Zach No.33550172
I've seen guys like this on an autistic forum when I was 18-22 and I made a vow to not be lime them. To be honest, being around someone negative like that gives you a headache. Now true you will not find love and all of that, but I'll tell you this again, be happy being alone first before you date someone. Look at the guy from the ghetto you don't see him needing love from his mother, he didn't have it and she was a prostitute while he had to work his ass for her and where he lived was not anywhere good either. Meanwhile like pic related is the entitled type who will go nowhere. And I can handle entitlement unlike a lot of people, but a lot of people don't want to deal with it. So yeah you lived your life drug free, but you didn't live it asshole free. You go in acting entitled. You argue for no reason. You don't go in thinking what is the most I can do, but instead what can I get away with the most. And OP here thinks girls hate him for his degree. Motherfucker I am majoring in Business Analytics at age 30, you wanna talk about what sounds lame and dorky listen to how my degree sounds in social settings, AND I STILL AM ABLE TO TALK TO WOMEN! You want to avoid pic related stop being entitled for being drug free. THAT DOESN'T MEAN DO DRUGS. It mean stop being entitled.
Anonymous No.33550198
>>33550149
Yeah I'm sure a guy who brags about his income and panty moistening luxury car, only wants young women who didn't sleep around at uni, has had little success in any relationship, is more concerned with behaviors he doesn't like than he is with seeking desirable traits, and is not even dating will have a variety of organic ways to form a relationship with such women without being a walking ATM.
Anonymous No.33550309
The good news is that it''s rapidly becoming the new normal so you have lots of other men to relate to.
With age comes acceptance. Some might say it's giving up, but really it's just the human mind accepting things as they are. You'd adapt if you were missing an arm, and you'll adapt to being alone your life.
Get hobbies, make online friends, occupy your time with other stuff.
Zach No.33550611
Apart from that, entitled ass in pic related has no idea how good his life got and is now bitching about getting a girlfriend. "Oooo woo is me I can't get a girlfriend." yet he has a career now and is making decent money. He no longer has to live the horrorifying life of being a trailer park dad with a ton of physical ailments from street fights with a redneck wife and 10 kids. Fuck that shit. Pic related has no idea his life is good. He can someday find the young woman he wants, but she'll only come if he stops bitching about the closeted faggots calling him a faggot.
Anonymous No.33550750
Money is an external attractor, women rarely get into a relationship with a man for it alone but they damn well will leave you over it if you lack it. In general women aren't much rational trying to present oneself as the best option is lame and doesn't work. I am dating a woman 10 years younger and it was fairly easy, I just approached a bunch of women until I got to her. My reason for going for a younger woman isn't prolonged sexlessness but simply women over 30 starting to accumulate wide array of annoying issues I don't want to deal with. Dating younger women is mainly about confidence, less about material wealth. In fact a lot of the people who have some money, who are considered moderately wealthy, are really optics cucked and don't go for younger women purely because of their image while secretly cheating on their wives all the time. Talking mainly about urban professionals here. Meanwhile there are men who look rather unsuspecting who have much younger women because they don't give a damn.