Thread 33542455

Is it normal to feel more scared and worried about how a guy is going to act on a date than enjoying the time out? I feel like I'm going to get hurt if I'm not always on guard, and it makes me just want to give up dating guys altogether to avoid the stress.

>>33542455 (OP)
What the fuck kind of guys are you agreeing on dates with? Why are you going on dates with guys you're scared of?

>>33542455 (OP)
Buy a gun or make a tazer.

>>33542455 (OP)
I won't read is it normal threads. They are invariably posted by formulaic, autistic, subhuman morons who need a guidebook to put their trousers on the right way around.

>>33542531
Idk it's just everyone's always like "remember guys only think about one thing" and it's like every time I go online I'm hearing about another guy assaulting a woman and it just feels too intimidating sometimes to date guys when I've got all that worry rattling around in my head. Like even if they seem fine, what if they're not? What happens when I trust them and they use that trust to hurt me?
>>33542577
I have a taser and pepper spray. I'm scared of a gun going off accidentally in my bag. I still feel nervous because I need to be ready to react to really use those if a guy ends up being bad news.
>>33542593
I am probably on the spectrum, I'm sorry about dumb questions. I just don't understand how dating is supposed to work in all this. It's like it's impossible to trust anyone bc they could just be waiting for me to relax.

>>33542455 (OP)
>Is it normal to feel more scared and worried about how a guy is going to act on a date than enjoying the time out?
Yes.
It's not productive, and it's not smart, but it is normal.

>>33543846
What's your motive, what task or goal is the guy meant to help you with?
Whatever it is, figure out the least risky way to get it done

There are shit people in the world and you're going to have to cross paths with them before you meet the good ones. They will scratch your ego and stomp on your heart.That's just life. You walk past and interact with men everyday, I'm going to assume that most if not all of them didn't rape you or try to.

There's being careful and there's being paranoid. The only way you're going to break this phobia is by dating guys and dispelling the paranoia.

Have multiple daytime coffee dates, don't hang out alone. Start small, and work to dispel the fear.

>>33543846
There are gun holsters made for females, keeps them within reach and easily accessible to you. Nothing deters a scumbag like getting shot.

>>33542455 (OP)
Only have dates in public places with new people and social media stalk them.

>>33542455 (OP)
>amphibia

based

>>33542455 (OP)
How is that a problem if you are a guy also.