Thoughts on lowering my standards
Is it realistic to try lowering my standards when it comes to a man's face as long as I like his personality (need someone non normie because I prefer the communication style, need someone who is somewhat not stupid) he is from a country I like (UK/Ireland/Switzerland/Norway/Sweden/Finland/Lithuania/he has some features I need ( clean shaven, not fat not bald, don't have brown eyes). Like idk I am weird with people's faces but I will try, I mean idk how much of an issue being a chilet for example will be but idk like I found that I have caught feelings for men who had those standards before without even seeing them. But idk if I am delusional because what if when I do see his face I really can't do it.
No misogyny derailing please. I understand standards are a touchy subject but be mature enough to understand that at some point people need some
Anonymous
8/22/2025, 6:10:51 PM
No.33546320
>>33547740
>>33551112
Don't settle for someone you aren't attracted to. It isn't fair to you, or to him. This is the #1 cause of dead bedroom situations, a year in and you will despise having sex with him and he will be a sex pest because you aren't "fulfilling his needs" because you literally aren't attracted to him.
Have you not seen his face yet though? From your post it seems like you may have not... I've actually been in this situation before. My first ever boyfriend I never saw until we had edated for 3 years... I was not attracted to him AT ALL, and we broke up shortly after meeting. My current bf I was very attracted to and I fell in love at first sight.
You never really know until you see them in person so if I were you I would try to plan a meetup without getting too emotionally attached.
Anonymous
8/22/2025, 10:34:16 PM
No.33547740
>>33546320
I agreeeee but idk I feel weirdly detached in phonecalls
Anonymous
8/23/2025, 1:59:52 PM
No.33550885
>>33550890
>>33544774 (OP)
I mean, that's okay in theory, but women really seem to struggle with dating down.
Anonymous
8/23/2025, 2:04:12 PM
No.33550890
>>33550885
>seem to struggle
Nice softball for "Thry Don't"
Anonymous
8/23/2025, 2:29:05 PM
No.33550953
>>33544774 (OP)
>he is from a country I like (UK/Ireland/Switzerland/Norway/Sweden/Finland/Lithuania/he has some features I need ( clean shaven, not fat not bald, don't have brown eyes). Like idk I am weird with people's faces but I will try, I mean idk how much of an issue being a chilet
A lot of requirements, what do you have to offer besides your roasted beef? What country are you from? Are you white? what is your eye color? Are you virgin?
Anonymous
8/23/2025, 2:42:37 PM
No.33550988
>>33551112
>>33544774 (OP)
I think you should just get what you want instead of getting stuck with something you don't.
Anonymous
8/23/2025, 3:23:35 PM
No.33551112
>>33551154
>>33544774 (OP)
>>33546320
>>33550988
Women are biologically wired to become attracted to the guy that takes their virginity, whatever he looks like. Women are literally not supposed to care about looks in a man.
Anonymous
8/23/2025, 8:57:24 PM
No.33552553
>>33544774 (OP)
>Thoughts on lowering my standards?
Don't. You'll feel gross and like you've betrayed yourself. Be patient, mindful, reserved, and don't let too many cognitive biases keep you from knowing when to GTFO.
