Thread 33546487

A girl who I talked to in 2023-4 who I liked and liked me back now has a boyfriend and unadded me and left my server. The pain I feel is so strong and I can't imagine how bad it must be for people who know their girlfriends in real life and had to suffer heartbreak after knowing said girls for multiple years. How does one cope with this?

You are joking right? I can understand a "well that sucks" but any sadness is overblown for a literally nothing.

>>33546584
Well maybe I'm just a bitch but I thought her and I really had something.

>>33546594
You're never going to have anything with someone you have never met in person. I'm not going to go as far as say that an online flirtation can't turn into something, but that's only after you've seen each other in real life. There is a massive disconnect until that happen, and it can very easily be severed since you're just words on a screen until then. Much like how you can easily forget this the moment you look away.
What I am trying to say is, don't invest emotionally into someone that you can't touch.

My man, what were you waiting for...
You liked her, she liked you back. Why didn't you close the deal and put her in your pocket?

I think she needs someone to comfort her in real life. That may be the reason. "Distance kills fake love and shows you what's real" - A line from Tate's poem.

>>33546487 (OP)
"I love my boyfriend so much and I'm going to delete all online people because they don't matter" is probably what she thought as soon as she got her bf
I certainly thought that when I got my IRL gf, and I don't regret letting those people go at all, online people don't matter. You don't matter

>>33547022
>You don't matter
That's nasty, and it hurts

>>33546487 (OP)
>A girl who I talked to in 2023-4 who I liked and liked me back
>now has a boyfriend and unadded me and left my server.
>The pain I feel is so strong and I can't imagine how bad it must be
>How does one cope with this?
I understand you, OP, but let’s be honest. It sounds like you don’t really have anyone outside your family that you hold truly dear, and that’s why you feel this way. That isn’t healthy. Humans are not meant to live without close, real-world bonds.

It’s fine to meet people online, and in many cases those friendships can even transition into real life, but if they don’t, then you’re only postponing the inevitable. At some point, the people you talk to online will find genuine connections in the real world—connections where they can hold hands, share meals, watch movies side by side. No matter how much you try, an online bond will never fully replace that.

You shouldn’t just cope with the situation; you should address the root problem. What you’re missing is real human connection, and trying to substitute it with online friendships will always leave you feeling incomplete.

>>33546487 (OP)
>You don't matter
That's nasty, and it hurts

>>33546487 (OP)
>A girl who I talked to in 2023-4 who I liked and liked me back
>now has a boyfriend and unadded me and left my server.
>The pain I feel is so strong and I can't imagine how bad it must be
>How does one cope with this?
I understand you, OP, but let’s be honest. It sounds like you don’t really have anyone outside your family that you hold truly dear, and that’s why you feel this way. That isn’t healthy. Humans are not meant to live without close, real-world bonds.

It’s fine to meet people online, and in many cases those friendships can even transition into real life, but if they don’t, then you’re only postponing the inevitable. At some point, the people you talk to online will find genuine connections in the real world, connections where they can hold hands, share meals, watch movies side by side. No matter how much you try, an online bond will never fully replace that.

You shouldn’t just cope with the situation; you should address the root problem. What you’re missing is real human connection, and trying to substitute it with online friendships will always leave you feeling incomplete.

>>33546487 (OP)
>LDR
I don't believe this. It's some silly creative writing.

>I liked her
>She liked me too
>we weren't going out

She didn't like you.

>2023-4
What have you been doing for the last eight months of 2025?

>>33546711
>>33546770
>>33547022
>>33547242
>>33548191
Yeah you guys are right. I'm not even going to try to argue it's pretty useless to be feeling the way I do about her. I was 5 beers in wen I typed this, mind you.
>>33548207
Well thankfully I've been talking to this girl who's moving to my CITY not even just my country around this time next year and we really dig each other. All I have to do is hold out for that period of time. Tips?

>>33549082
My tip is to not wait around for any one girl and continue to meet new people through meetups such as the ones you can find on meetup.com
That's not to say you can't wait for her. But putting all of your eggs into one basket puts you at risk at all levels - single, dating, committed relationship, marriage, it's always better to have friends and more safety nets

And sorry that it was harsh (I'm this guy >>33547022) but I'm just trying to be real. There's ONE person I met online who ended up being my best friend, in 29 years of being mostly a shut in and terminally online. At least IRL you look someone in the eyes. There's no delay in speech. There's a chance of fucking.

>>33549131
Trust me, as far away as that girl lived I wouldn't have chanced a relationship that didn't eventually end up being in person. But I now know it's unrealistic to drop everything and go to the other side of the planet as a near-friendless NEET.
>friends and more safety nets
Maybe. I can't stand talking to people and have an extreme fear of doing social things but I know I'll have to bite the bullet eventually. I know how to be easy going but wow, normals can be so annoying and draining that finding a girl like myself in those kinds of circles would be like the fishing in Cruelty Squad. I suppose it's better than loneliness, though...
Ultimately it's a step I'll have to take without anyone holding my hand as much as I hate to admit it.

>>33549370
>have an extreme fear of doing social things but I know I'll have to bite the bullet eventually.
I'm 29 and I started this March. Now I dance bachata and joined a student choir
I'm deathly afraid of social interactions brother, and I'm here, you can do it man.
And yeah exactly. No one will hold your hand. No one held mine. I literally had to talk to myself for 1.5 hours the other day when I went to my first dancing lessons. And next lesson I'm gonna need another half hour talking just to go. But I'm gonna do it. We can do this brother. This fear is fucking aids it's killing me. But it's the only way to live, man. To do it. People outside don't give a fuck about us, they are too preoccupied with their own fears to care about ours. Keep it up brother