Thread 33553546

>22 years old. Just graduated college.
>Guys never showed much interest in me until maybe senior year
>Went out with one dude who tried to touch me up on the first date when I wasn't comfortable, told me he liked me, then treated me like trash.
>He lived in my apartment building and would run around with his frat brothers. Would smack each others' bare asses and call each other gay.
>Treated me poorly even after things ended.
>Crashed out over this. Taught myself guitar and applied to so many jobs I landed a legal assistant role right after graduation.
>Had a situationship who refused to commit to me but tried to pursue physical things with me.
>College friends never prioritized me. Never fit in much at parties. Spent most of college alone.
>HS friend group fell apart. My best friend moved away.
>Had to move back in with parents because my job only pays $20 an hour and is technically temporary (but keeps getting renewed). Have been trying very hard to keep me but may not be able to keep me forever due to technicalities with personnel.
>Hate being trapped in a 9 to 5 with little payoff in improving my life.
>Tried Hinge. Mainly dealt with crazy people.
>Father is crazy.
>Hear him jerking off at night through our shared wall.
>Is drunk all the time and keeps me up on work nights.
>Makes weird comments about my body and the way I dress.
>Starts arguments/screams all the time. Calls me retarded, bitch, etc.
>Used to bang on my walls/door and would pull my pants down and spank me when I was young.
>Screams at me and tells me I can't move out.
>Mother is anxious and enables him. Would not let me drive anywhere (despite the fact I have a license) until this summer.
>I want a boyfriend, friends, and independence. How do I get that?
>Have $20,000 in savings along with the income from my job. Should I just get an apartment? Or maybe travel away for a few months while I look for a new job? I feel like it would be difficult to move back to my house if I fail.

>>33553546 (OP)
Yes move out. You know what's right to do, you just need the motivation to do it.

>>33553570
Like, just do it even though I could lose my job just like that? And it would be difficult to find anywhere to live in my area that doesn't eat into my savings, too... I'd be cooked if I failed, especially since my parents don't want me moving out like that. I might even have to get a new car because I'm not sure if they'd let me take the one my grandma left me. I don't have any friends around me to support me through this either

>>33553602
Then don't do anything. If you fear your actions then stay and accept the way it is. It's a lifestyle, that I wouldn't want.0pp4m

when you move out it'll be a good time to reinvent yourself as a slightly more sociable person

>>33553546 (OP)
off topic but i am very curious about your crazy Hinge stories

>>33553741
Stop being a coomer.

>>33553745
hearing about crazy people on Hinge has nothing to do with being a "coomer" lmao

>>33553764
Wrong board

>>33553741
Idk. I'd say the worst one was a guy who was a letterboxd user and recommended me his "top 10 horny movies" in the middle of a restaurant and then kept repeating something to the extent of "the truth is always the best policy!" over and over when I told him that my parents didn't really know I went out on hinge dates because they'd freak. He started playing on a public playground by himself and then got really heated/angry at me when we were in a public library because I said I didn't like Jojo's Bizarre Adventure (he kept saying it was "highly representative of the human condition") and then got mad because I said I liked Twilight. After the date, I made sure he had gotten home okay since he had, had some wine and he started making fun of me, then sent me the attached meme. The next day he asked me if I wanted another date, and when I very nicely said I didn't think it was a match, he said "yeah, I thought the same thing"

>>33553546 (OP)
If you are a woman you have literally zero fucking excuse. You can go find any guy with money and be free from your situation.

>>33553939
Bro don't be mean. People aren't as simple as you may think they are.

>>33553949
How is that mean? What I said is true. If OP is a woman she can find a guy and escape her situation.

>>33553546 (OP)
If you don't have much money, then see if you can rent a single room in a shared house/apartment.

>>33553973
Well you claim that it's so easy thus she can't complain about her condition. Well for some it's more complicated. You paint it as if were self evident, which doesn't seem so in my view.

>>33553982
what the hell are you on about?

>22f and employable
is welcome to stay at my place, any time

>>33554007
Exactly, me too.
There's 2 people that will save OP from her situation but she won't act on it and will just continue suffering. Women can not have problems in 2025

>>33554007
Can't help you with inability to comprehend written text.

>>33554013
>iTs mOrE cOmPLicAtEd
fuck off
dumbasses that can't get over themselves while surrounded by opportunity, deserve a beating

>>33554095
No raging. Raging is uncouth.

>>33553825
See this is a whitepill in a way, if this fucking weirdo can get dates maybe there's some hope for anons.

>>33554107
>nothing to say
>again

>>33553973
I would like to do this with a man who is good, patient with me in the physical department, and who I am at least somewhat attracted to, but men don't want to commit to me or lose interest quickly. I don't like being used for my body, and I don't want to be in the same situation as my mother. On top of this, I am not tolerant whatsoever of men who mistreat me or try to take advantage of me especially after my past romantic experiences and my experiences with my father, so a transactional relationship like that, where I'm basically at someone's disposal in exchange for housing would not work.

>>33554139
Yasna 31, from the Gathas of the Avesta, really focuses on the battle between Asha (truth, order) and Angra Mainyu (chaos, deceit). Zoroaster calls on Ahura Mazda, the supreme god, praising Him for creating the world based on Asha, a divine order meant to keep everything in balance. But then there's the constant threat of Angra Mainyu, who's all about disrupting that balance. Zoroaster urges people to live by good thoughts, words, and deeds, aligning themselves with Asha to fight against this evil force. It's like a call to action, reminding us that each of us plays a part in maintaining order in the world.

The chapter also touches on the idea that the spiritual and material worlds are connected—the fight between good and evil happens not just in the heavens, but right here on Earth. Zoroaster emphasizes that through rituals, prayers, and choosing righteousness, humans can help tip the scale in favor of good. In the end, those who stick to the path of Asha are promised eternal life, while those who follow Angra Mainyu’s ways will face destruction. It’s all about personal responsibility, making conscious choices, and living a life that supports truth and goodness.

>>33554145
I used to want a guy to save me, but the truth is that the majority of men are unpredictable, selfish, and want to take advantage of the women they're with. They want to take more than they give. Not an equal exchange. I could never be reliant on one, and it would take a lot for me to fully trust one.

>>33554145
>but men don't want to commit to me or lose interest quickly.
Then you have shit taste in men.
I suggest getting good female friends who have their shit together and who are in stable LTRs/ married and have them hook you up.

>>33554145
I used to want a girl to save me, but the truth is that the majority of women are unpredictable, selfish, and want to take advantage of the men they're with. They want to take more than they give. Not an equal exchange. I could never be reliant on one, and it would take a lot for me to fully trust one.

>>33554223
I used to want a God to save me, but the truth is that the majority of Gods are unpredictable, selfish, and want to take advantage of the followers they're with. They want to take more than they give. Not an equal exchange. I could never be reliant on one, and it would take a lot for me to fully trust one.

>>33554229
I used to want the flesh to save me, but from the moment I understood the weakness of my flesh, it disgusted me. I craved the strength and certainty of steel. I aspired to the purity of the Blessed Machine. Your kind cling to your flesh, as though it will not decay and fail you. One day the crude biomass you call a temple will wither, and you will beg my kind to save you. But I am already saved, for the Machine is immortal… Even in death I serve the Omnissiah.

>>33554236
I used to want the toilet to save me, but from the moment I understood the weakness of my plumbing, it disgusted me. I craved the cleanliness and certainty of the Skibidi Toilet. I aspired to the purity of the Blessed Bowl. Your kind cling to your outdated toilets, as though they will not clog and fail you. One day the filthy ceramic you call a throne will crack, and you will beg my kind to cleanse you. But I am already cleansed, for the Skibidi Toilet is eternal… Even in the deepest flush, I serve the Omnitoilet.

>>33554145
>>33554163
I am literally a 23 yo decent looking young man with my own home and I am well off and I'm looking for a woman to marry, you can find any number of men like me or you can leave a contact and I'll possibly reach out.
It's a you problem if you're still having trouble because I know for a fact there are plenty men like me and if you keep picking the wrong ones that's on you

>>33553949
as a fat old guy with money who would do just about anything to get my dick touched again, yeah, I mean it is pretty simple.

>>33554215
I fr just go out with whoever shows enough interest and isn't completely unacceptable. Only guy I've rejected was in an institution

>>33554956
oh, and also that hinge dude and a bunch of other similar guys off there that I hadn't met irl

>>33554956
Maybe you need to be more proactive. Learn what indicators of interest are and give them to interesting bachelors and hopefully they'll ask you out

>>33555085
Idk I just act normal LMAO What am I supposed to be doing?

>>33555101
https://incels.wiki/w/Indicator_of_interest#Examples
the most obvious one for me as a man is probably a woman laughing at my shitty jokes

>>33555118
I do this already for EVERYONE lollll

>>33555101
Do you seek out men you're attracted to for short conversations? It can be about something completely stupid but most dudes will still take the hint if you're going out of your way to talk to him.

Also, don't be afraid to tell a dude that you think he's hot and offer your number. Even if it doesn't work out or he's already got a gf, that man will remember the compliment you gave him FOREVER.

>>33553546 (OP)
Just move out, girl. $20k will be a great safety net to ensure you don't have to come back to this house. If you burn up your money travelling then your safety net will be gone and you may end up in a situation where you are forced to move back in

>>33555214
>Also, don't be afraid to tell a dude that you think he's hot and offer your number.
I'd think she's a slut and make a mental note to never wife her up

>>33555214
Ermmm yeah, but only my 40 year-old autistic coworker LMAO

And I could never do that again because I asked a guy to a dance once in High School and he yelled at me and I'm traumatized now

>>33553546 (OP)
I'd help you personally OP but I really only date virgins and don't place a huge emphasis on sex aside from abstaining from it until in sure I've found the right person. Like you, however, I'm used to people especially family members and coworkers and especially clients treating me like shit but that's because I have like a decades worth of customers service. I only escaped it a week ago but I live with my friends who I love very much and throughout so many years of struggles I'm saving up for a car. I dunno, if you want to reach out we could talk and try to get to know each other better online before meeting up in person. I will tell you 20k is a small fortune and if you're willing to live humbly you can start a new life anywhere

>27m MA
>discord: riderwaite

>>33554762
of course OP didnt reply
lmfao
>>33555335
dont bother dude

so funny.
>woman complains about her problems and how she just wants a good guy
>3 good guys come to help her
>UM BUT NOT THOSE GOOD GUYS

>>33555655
yeah to be honest I noticed it wasn't gonna go anywhere after the first guy got completely ignored, but even when it seems hopeless I'm still one for trying. It's kind of a fucking shame that the world operates like this

>>33555655
People on 4chan are scary, dawg and what proof do you have that they are good guys? You know ya'll have a reputation, right?

>>33555655
Like, you don't seem like such a "good guy" yourself to me LMAO

>>33556793
Femanon thread = do not read

They have it so easy that if they fail it's always from self-sabotaging or absurd expectations. All their problems are solely in their heads, and all good advice will be ignored.
Femanons could make good use of therapy, not incels; it actually works with them because their problems are not real and that's the kind of problems talk therapy is meant to deal with.

>>33557392
>>33557365
Excuses. Three people offered to help ITT. You didn't give a single one of them a chance and assumed they're all bad because we're on 4chan.
Guess what, cunt, you're here too.
good luck

>>33558623
You don't sound like such a good guy to me yourself LMAO