Thread 33563004

I started working out recently and for the first time in my life i made progress and now i have some muscle, things can only go up from here(healthwise).
I'm finally free of my family burdens for the first time in my life and college is hopefully gonna go well and I'll leave in like a year.
The problem with all of that is i feel depressed constantly, i got /fit/ too late so i don't enjoy my progress much, neither do i care about my college progress and even though I'm finally free of my familial burdens it's too late, they already took years of my life that I'll never get back and they have left me financially and emotionally scarred. What I'm asking i guess is why should i bother trying? I'm already too worn out and even if i succeed i won't come home to an attractive partner or people who love me, i have no friends or anyone or anything to work for, what's the point if I'm still lonely sad and depressed? People occasionally talk to me but only when they need something from me so it doesn't amount to any actual human interaction.

>>33563061
>MeMeMe Generator

>>33563004 (OP)
If you try, you might have friends and a partner in a few years, but if you don't try then you definitely won't.

>>33563338
How? I don't mind sticking to exercise and studying but hoe is that gonna give me friends? I'll simply be a lean depressed lonely loser with a job instead of being a fat depressed loser without a job which sounds good on paper but i desire friends from the bottom of my heart, just thinking about it makes me sad.
I guess what I'm trying to say is "i need a plausible believable connection between my effort and the goal of having friends and a partner", because so far i feel like I'm lying to myself

>>33563004 (OP)
How old are you OP?

>>33570864
23

>>33572017
You're a fucking infant, stop bitching. Come back and complain about this when you're 43.

>>33572422
>complain about this when you're 43.
I'm here specifically because i don't want to still be here at 43 complaining about loneliness

well done OP, you're on the right path
start cardio if you haven't, does wonders vs depression. and join a sports class/team (or any group physical activity)
ever wanted to try soccer, dancing, fencing or BJJ or whatever? now is the time
> /fit/ too late
no such thing. you acquired the single most important habit of your life through hard work and discipline. be proud of yourself. people will notice.

>>33572638
>well done OP, you're on the right path
Thanks
>start cardio if you haven't, does wonders vs depression.
I'll stick with Wight lifting only right for now and the muscles will burn the fat for me(i think), cardio is too much of an investment for my current level, i don't have the time/energy/etc to go to a park and run or do some exercises in my room that take 30~60 and make me sweat, worst thing i can imagine happening is if it gets too hard or annoying and i quit, "slow and steady wins the race" and all of that
>and join a sports class/team (or any group physical activity)
I’m willing to try once I make more fitness progress if it’s helpful, but I’m autistic and usually say the wrong thing or don’t respond the “right” way, which weirds people out. I’m terrified of joining group activities and getting humiliated or left behind. Is there a solution, or should I just bite the bullet when I’m in a better place?
>ever wanted to try soccer, dancing, fencing or BJJ or whatever?
I "want" to quit but i know that's wrong so i won't, besides that i think deep down maybe i gave up on physical hobbies & people, i feel like any social thing i try will end in my humiliation especially since people aren't forced to choose me, if i join a club everyone will be friends except for me because who in their right mind would befriend me when there are other options. With all of that being said i still feel lonely and wish i had friends i just feel like that's impossible for me
>now is the time
I'm not confident, i need more muscles before i do that which will hopefully happen in like a couple of weeks or months
>no such thing. you acquired the single most important habit of your life through hard work and discipline. be proud of yourself.
Thanks i just wish i succeeded earlier, then maybe i would've been confident and "popular" and gained more friends and social experience, wouldve created a positive feedback loop i think
>people will notice
I hope you're right