Thread 33563661

Well
My girlfriend is pregnant again.

Is it REALLY that bad for us to have a kid?
Im 27, she's 28

She's super antsy about if its right or not and today she's going to an appointment where she may get abortion pills

What should we do?
What sjoukd i do?

Am I really wrong for wanting to keep it and devote all I can to it even though im not rich???

It's funny thry tell us to reproduce yet then tell us how nearly impossible habing a kid is because of muh money (even though there are broke people with no major "career qualifications" that raise happy families)


I gotta go there with her at 4, im admittedly frustrated

>>33563661 (OP)
Stop being a coward and a half-man, you are supposed to lead her towards the future you want, she is super antsy about if its right or not because she is waiting for her man (you) to tell her what’s right and what’s not. You tell her firmly and assertively what’s gonna happen, why it has to happen, and how you will help her when it happens.
If you dont do this for women they just wander straight to the psychopathic abortionist who will take their money to dissect your child like a frog

>>33563661 (OP)
Sit her down and talk to her seriously about this instead of procrastinating on 4chan. Just be honest and tell her how you feel and what you want. Respect her ultimatum, though.

>>33563670
Fuck

She did it before

I'll tell her harder (yet nicely)

>>33563661 (OP)
yes, it's the NORMAL age to do it. After 30 problems start. Male sperm tends to have higher risk of autism, bipolar, and schizophrenia. Women have more difficulties with pregnancy and child birth.

Westerners are so angsty and think it's a big deal and put it off until after their "career" so they're now 38-41 and having maybe 1 child.

Biologically we should be having children at like 17-24. We may have to do something like putting our eggs and sperm on ice at 18 so that we can reduce the amount of messed up kids.

>>33563661 (OP)
Women are retarded and being programmed that pregnancy is the worst thing to happen to them so they put it off as much as they can. Then around 35-38 they go baby crazy if they don't have one.

Women are just big children. They can be "smart", but they can't make decisions for themselves. You really need to guide them to not being self-harming.

Would you rather a baby at 27 that most likely goes well, or a difficult sketchy pregnancy at 38?

>>33563686
No not nicely, not abusive either, but strongly, firmly. Tell her it as assuredly as telling her the sun will set tonight or how the sky is fucking blue, that you are both having that kid and she will be cared for as will your child. Use these words often: "us" and "our" and "we". If she still goes and aborts your kid, dump her.

>Is it REALLY that bad for us to have a kid?
No. You two will probably be fine

>>33563670
A man doesn’t have much to say when it comes to woman’s body. You can’t demand, all you can do is trying to convince a woman that you’ll be ok.

>>33563661 (OP)
Did you try that amazing thing called “communication”? It’s a type of conversation between people when you are able to verbalise your wants and hopes, family planning included. Financial situation is important, yeah, but people who have little are still able to raise kids beautifully. And if they are not junkies, usually the kids are raised better than those in rich families.

>>33563789
>A man doesn’t have much to say when it comes to woman’s body. You can’t demand, all you can do is trying to convince a woman that you’ll be ok.

Yes we do because if the woman respects the man she will ask and beg for his say on her body. "Baby does my butt look big? Have I gotten fat? Should I wear this dress? Does this look good on me?" If she doesn't respect her man she won't ask and will go into the fake boss girl mode. (She feels like she can't depend on the man and has to depend on her own).

The man has a say. And she has ears to listen. If she doesn't listen and goes for the 'my body my choice' route then what the man should always do is adopt the same attitude 'my body my choice' and take his whole body as far the fuck away from her as possible by dumping her. No man can make a future with a woman who destroys their own offspring

>>33563809
I can guarantee you that every woman will consider an abortion if something is wrong with the baby or her life is in danger. What then? Do you dump a woman you supposedly love only because she wanted to live?

>>33563840
The likelihood of these are unlikely possible but unlikely, but supposed it does happen:
>Something is wrong with the baby
Yes I'd dump her for playing God and presuming she has the right to say who is worthy of life and who isn't.

>Saving her own life
Wouldn't dump her.

>>33563852
I feel sorry for your future wife but hopefully every woman will see you for what you are and won’t even consider dating you. And if you’re already married, I hope she will figure it out too and dump you first.

>>33563867
Actually I I've never had problem with women at all because I have something called a spine, I don't lose my testicles when dealing with women. I don't want you to feel sorry for anyone, because no one I have known or myself have suffered. You somehow presume there is suffering because you've got some strange neuroticism floating around in your skull that tells you "I need to always do what women say" or something.

>>33563874
If you would cut off a whole relationship just because your woman wouldn’t want to suffer, you’re ugly soul and you simply don’t deserve her. What’s more, you have ugly ego and I wonder if you show that in real life or only boast about it on 4chan where you can be all “manly”.

>>33563661 (OP)
Weomen are emotional and have anxieties, and your job is to lead and show support.

>>33563894
>If you would cut off a whole relationship just because your woman wouldn’t want to suffer
Tough shit. I hate suffering as much as the next person but I understand that if we all run away from it every chance we get, none of us would exist. Because pregnancy is suffering for 9 months and a final big suffering on delivery. I expected and intended to find a woman who has a strong pair of ovaries and doesn’t fold either.

>you simply don’t deserve her
You’re a simp, plain and simple. There is no ‘deserve’ in relationships. She doesn’t deserve me I dont deserve her its not about deserving its about choosing. And I chose good women, not harpies who destroy their own young.

>ugly ego
Those belong to people who kill the young to protect their own life from encountering inconvenience
>I wonder if you show that in real life or only boast about it on 4chan where you can be all “manly”.
This isn’t being manly this is being normal. Also I like how you try to snipe at my masculinity like a woman would do when having a hissy fit. You’re a grown man trying to pussywhip other men in their behalf, you realise this right?

Anyway wise up and stop bending over backwards for women just out of fear of losing their attention because if you don’t you will never have a woman’s love or respect. If you dont believe me, take it from your precious goddesses whose feet you lick like a dog:

https://www.drpsychmom.com/stop-caring-so-much-about-what-your-wife-thinks/

woman psychologist interviews dozens and dozens of women who all complain their men care about what they think. Never do this because women are disgusted by it.

>>33563661 (OP)
You're literally at the perfect age to have kids. Just go ahead and have it. Otherwise you're going to be in your 30s and still childless, and this is where women especially start getting depressed if they're childless.

>>33563789
>A man doesn’t have much to say when it comes to woman’s body.
A fetus is not "her body" you disingenuous sack of shit. It's inside her body, but it is NOT her body, it's his/her own body.

>>33563661 (OP)
>What sjoukd i do?
Grant her autonomy over her own body. You're allowed to express an opinion, obviously, but ultimately it's her choice, not yours, and you just have to face that fact.