Thread 33563980

I'm stuck in a time warp and I'm terrified. Things have been downhill for a while. But when I finished university, life officially stopped moving. That was one year ago and now I'm soon to be turning 23. I'm moving into my mid 20s now, I need to get a grip ASAP. I just can't seem to. I sit in my room, I watch the hours tick past. I wake up, and before I know it, it's midnight. I sleep at odd hours. I'm addicted to vapes and scrolling mindless bullshit that I hate looking at. There are so many problems in my life, and I feel utterly incapable of solving them. I numb myself to escape the pain. I am scared of just how much time I've wasted, and just how much more I might waste. It has been a year and I haven't fixed it. I can still fix it now. But if I wait another year or two, it might be too late. I must fix it now. I don't know how. I am so lonely. I see friends a few times a year. What the fuck do I do? How do I claw my way backj from this?

>>33563980 (OP)
Find a job, ASAP!

What is your major?

>There are so many problems in my life
write down on list and think in terms of solutions
>I sit in my room
is it clean
>What the fuck do I do?
find a way or make one

>>33564212
physics
its hard to get a job because i have severe OCD
>>33564221
>write down on list and think in terms of solutions
I do, but i find it hard to actually put my plans into action because i get overwhelmed and end up curled in a ball in bed crying. When I try to take action, I break down.
>is it clean
no
>find a way or make one
something in the way

>>33563980 (OP)
God I would straight up kill a baby to be 23 again you useless toolbag

>>33564228
Clean your room anon, drink clean water, and take a nibble of food.
You can't think straight because your environment isn't straight. You know this deep down in the OCD mind.

How can a ship possibly set sail if there's tears in the sails and the captain is boozing (doomscrolling and nicotine for you) his brains out?

>>33564348
If only I knew then what I know now. How different things could have been. Youth really is wasted on the young. Well, it was wasted on my dumb ass anyways.

>>33564348
>>33564490
See, this is the weird thing. I fantasize about how much better it would be if I could be 18 again and do things over. I know I'll feel the same way about 23 when I'm 28. I know this should motivate me, but it isn't enough for me to break through. It's so frustrating and I hate myself for it. 23 is young, right? But I already feel so old. And my skin is showing signs of ageing.
>>33564421
I will try to do one little thing each day. I just hope it compounds.

>>33565454
Watch videos on domino's falling.

Every single piece was individually placed bit by bit. One by one. Brick by brick. The payoff is when you have enough placed you can see it go before doing it once again.

Gamify stacking those small wins.

>>33565454
23 is very young. Youve already graduated so that ship has sailed but you still have tons of options when it comes to what you can do and what women are available. You aren't old enough that it's weird for you to be at a nightclub, I wouldn't go very often but you still won't look like a loser, or you can go to bars on the weekend. Go with people you know, strangers won't want to talk to someone who came alone. You can pick any kind of club or activity you want as well without it being weird. At your age every option is open.

Don't let fear or uncertainty immobilize you like it did me and so many others. I always looked at my friends and wondered what they had that I didn't. The answer wasn't something like better looks or a better family/background. They weren't funnier than I was or smarter. They tried. That was the difference. They put themselves out there, didn't wonder what if, they simply did.

It's never too late to change but if you keep waiting you will look back and wonder what took so long. You seem like a man who wants to change and who is asking questions on how. All the advice in the world doesn't mean anything without action. It isn't about practicing what to say or what to do, it's about doing, doing anything. Simple as. And don't be like me who would have looked at my advice and thought yeah sure it's all so easy right, ill just go outside and suddenly fuck every girl I meat if I just spoke to them. Wow it's so easy.

It isn't easy and you will be uncomfortable. Trust me when I say that discomfort will pale in comparison to the regret you will feel if you do nothing.

>>33566186
Thank you. This hits hard.

I'm in the same boat as anon but I'm not a failed normalfag that just needs to nut up and go act normal outside. I don't act normal anywhere. I have my group of old dudes I'm half friends with, I have my solitary male-dominated activities, and I work around old dudes exclusively. I haven't been in a place to interact with women since college and even when I do my interactions are straightforward and short. Maybe I make a joke, but that's it. OP should be glad he has a job and the sense to act normal in the first place. You might be a phystard but you're far from hopeless.
>>33565454
>I could be 18 again and do things over.
If I could give advice to my 18 year old self, it would be "identifying as an internet loser/netizen past college graduation is really fucking lame. Men "hit the wall" too, it's just called "peaking in highschool/college"
>>33566186
>Youve already graduated so that ship has sailed but you still have tons of options when it comes to what you can do and what women are available.
I will swim after that ship until I catch up or I drown. Either way I'll be swimming.