Thread 33567732

>bumble
>we hit it off quick
>near immediately set up a date for tomorrow (3 day’s time from when we matched)
>chatted a lot yesterday
>wake up to this today, sent at a surprisingly early hour
Honestly, what am I supposed to do anymore? It’s beyond rigged. Maintaining a relationship with a women for any length of time sounds like building a house of cards in a hurricane. Simply not possible.
I can’t move it any fucking faster to even get a first meet,
I’m so tired of women not having to play any ‘games’ or abide by any ‘rules’ with this dating shit.
And yeah, I get that’s effective code for ‘I got a better offer’. And ‘youre taking it personal’ as if I shouldn’t?
I hate women.

>>33567732 (OP)
I won't read app-addled threads. They're completely delusional.

>>33567732 (OP)
>we hit it off quick
>that seems like a quick change of heart
Are you surprised?

>>33567732 (OP)
>I hate women.
I used apps regularly for 6 months and this was also my opinion at the end of it.

There are 100 men to every one woman on those apps. I don't get why guys who struggle with dating don't meet women through nerd interests or subcultures or something. If you're a male furry girls will be all over your dick, t boys too if you're into that, especially when people without a dick aren't preferred in that fandom. Ditch the apps and live in the real world.

>>33567732 (OP)
>That seems like a pretty quick turn of heart

It's a woman. What do you expect?

>>33567732 (OP)
Get used to this nigga. You'll do the same too after some time. Learn to do not care. You can get ghosted even after a few dates in real life. That sure hurts when it happens for the first time.

She got a better offer or matched with you while tipsy/tired and decided she just didn't want to after all. You are taking it way too hard

>>33567819
>If you're a male furry girls will be all over your dick
LMAO no

>>33567935
No, he knows what he is talking about. I know a very ugly fat furry guy that regularly has threesomes with women

>>33567819
> meet women through nerd interests or subcultures
Women get the "ick" whenever they see a man having any introverted hobby, even if it's literally theirs

>>33568038
What are you talking about women don't have hobbies

>>33567732 (OP)
I got a message like this verbatim from a guy the day of the date. Was that you?

>>33567732 (OP)
>dating apps
while she was talking to you she matched with 20 other guys and at least one of them was more attractive and looked richer than you

>>33568038
You're not going to meet anyone with an introverted hobby, you have to make it an extroverted one. No one's going to get the "ick" meeting you in a common space. Make your hobbies social.

>>33567819
>If you're a male furry girls will be all over your dick
There are 100 male furries to every one woman.

>>33568038
t. Virgin extraordinaire. Advice giver on all things female. Experience, none.

You don’t reply to messages like that. If you get another just read it then block don’t waste time messaging back just makes you look desperate she’s already made up her mind

>>33567819
all my hobby’s are full of brown “people” that think they are entitled to date me. I only find my own race attractive. So what hobby should I be involved with to get a young pale white gf without tattoos and piercings ?

>>33567732 (OP)
She found another guy on the app who was hotter, probably met him sooner and/or already hooked up. Nothing you did wrong, just shit luck.

Unless you are Chad you are basically just fucked with online dating (or hookup culture in general) it sucks but it's true. You options are to go for the uggos that Chad doesn't want to touch or meet girls IRL.

On the bright side, she probably saved you a decent bit of money by cancelling before the date instead of letting you buy her dinner/drinks and then hooking up with Chad anyway.

>>33567732 (OP)
Part and parcel of dating apps. Next girl please. It's like looking for a job, really. Persistence wins the day if your profile is halfway decent

>>33567732 (OP)
Well I imagine if there are 10 chads on the app in your area they will always be the better option for any new girl joining the app. They will eventually get jaded by the chad and leave the app for good. The other 99% of men in the area are the fluffers for their ego. Even if the women come back to the app a year later they will just cycle through a new set of 10 chads. Idk how you can get past this on the app since the 10 chads will always scoop the new girls. Real life is the only option to get around this in my experience.

>>33568342
>There are 100 male furries to every one woman.
Yeah, but 90 of them are into each other...

>>33568911
>They will eventually get jaded by the chad and leave the app for good.
what if you only meet these type of girls irl

>>33567819
>100 men to every one woman
Correct

>>33568746
tennis, golf, anything related to boats, equestrian activities

basically you have to be rich

>>33568964
but all the pretty white women I see are dating black dudes that drive a car from 2003 with the rear bumper missing. (Why is this common in blacks?)
How are they rich?

>>33568978
women in general follow mainstream social trends and have a biological desire to fit in. all pop culture is glazing blacks artists, using black language or slang, BLM, etc. as such, dating a black guy is seen as trendy and in the now.

>>33568978
really bro, what are you? 12?? All niggers are criminals, that's what white bitches like, the danger.

>>33568763
This guy knows.Also, when Chad fucks her and dumps her, she will prooobably look for you OP, as her last choice.

>>33567777
>>33567811
>>33567819
>>33567918
>>33568158
>>33568763
>>33568901
>>33568911
Women you meet IRL do the same fucking things guys

Literally happened to me just this weekend
>On my way to an anime con with my cosplay, which has a big clunky headpiece I had to maneuver through subway
>Girl in cosplay on her way to con offers to help me
>great convo the whole ride, learn about each other
>she has to wait for her friends to give her a pass outside the con, without getting into it I helped her out and defended her from scalper niggers
>Traded IGs
>Asked me if we could meet for drinks the next day, I accept
>We have a great night together, have fun and make jokes, but her mom calls her home (she's 22 but still lives with her parents)
>Literally tells me "I'll see you tomorrow"
>Next day makes up an excuse about chores she had to do, when I ask her about the next day she waffles and says she has to ask her parents
>I delete and block her number

This is how it is in 2025. All women are collectively brain damaged. We were never supposed to have our society work this way.
Unironically, billions must die, starting with billionaire techno-Pharisees first and foremost

You guys messaged on bumble lol.
1. She didn't owe you anything, she should've just stopped replying
2. You shouldn't have responded

>>33569404
This story is embarrassing you just sperged out and blocked her for being a mama's girl. I was fucking a zoomer for a while that was under his parents thumb similarly, he would leave his phone at home and just knock on my door because they tracked his location. Her family might just be super religious or something that happens a lot with zoomers their parents don't wanna cut the cord. 22 is still really young you were too harsh on her

>>33569514
I blocked her for being a game player when I have other options to pursue, or better yet prefer being alone
And 22 is a grown ass adult last I checked. She can go waste some other guy's time just like you waste your time chasing a crumb of anus (if you're talking about fucking dudes, you're a gay man, there are no women on 4chan). She lives in NY and I live in WA so I was just visiting and hoping for quick action anyway.

>>33567732 (OP)
>>33569404
>WTF why easy come easy go, it's illogical
>she literally told me "hello" yesterday but we aren't married
>i should try this several times
Thank fuck sprayers and prayers exist to make dating easier for everyone above 80 IQ

>>33569583
First of all it's clear I'm a woman no need to get pissy. You admitted you were just mad she wasn't an easy lay

>>33567732 (OP)
Keep trying. It's actually better to be rejected early than late.

>>33567732 (OP)
It happens.
If you got that far, youre definitely not doomed.
Sometimes youre the better offer.

>>33567732 (OP)
>And ‘youre taking it personal’ as if I shouldn’t?

No, you shouldn't. Why would you? You two had a pleasant conversation. This doesn't mean you two are soul mates destined to be together. Every dude on 4chan and a lot of them irl start overly fantasizing about how every girl they "hit it off" one time with could be the one they settle down and marry or at least fuck a few times. This is literally a self-inflicted problem you end up creating in your own head.

>>33569014
then why do they shame white men for defending themselves from blacks attacking ? And most white men I know legally have a firearm and know how to use it.

>>33567819
I agree with you in general about “live in the real world” but you are specifically wrong about furries. I have experience in that fandom. Most furries are gay males, half of the “girls” are actually men, and the few remaining real bio-girls are astonishingly mentally unsound. Dating in the real world is great but you gotta pick a good field to play. And unless you’re into one night stands with alcoholic gay men or 22yo bpd chicks on the verge of turning trans, the furry fandom ain’t it.

>>33567732 (OP)
At least she told you got a response that she wasn’t interested. Sometimes they just don’t respond for weeks and to me at least that hurts more

>>33567732 (OP)
the way you replied makes it seem like youre a little bitch boy. grow a pair, sheesh

>>33567732 (OP)
Just keep trying bro. You should be setting up like 10 dates a day that one little mishap like that means literally nothing at all. I hate to say this but women say it about men all the time, most women are pretty much the same. So quanity over quality makes more sense. Increase the amount of women you're reaching out to and talking to and your luck will increase.

>>33570312
Unless he’s at least an 8/10 Chad or is paying money for the app I don’t see how he’d be getting 10 dates a day

>>33568746
>>33568978
>Thread about how terrible dating apps are and how women treat men like disposable attention dispensers
>Starts to complain about brown people
I legitimately want to skin retards like you alive. Your so stupid and annoying and need to shit up every space your in with your neurosis.

you guys are being way too nice. be selectively unavailable. act like there are other women you're talking to. cancel on HER first. make her obsess over you. i'll bet you were being all polite and shit. disgusting

>>33569404
>anime con
found your problem

>>33569404
>2025
Dude it was always like this. I swear the Bible has prose about how fickle women are. Stop acting like this is some unique today problem. Sometimes it works out, most of the time it doesn't, sometimes you get blindsided, keep trying. Thats it.
Dont have a goddamn tantrum over it. Thats whats gonna sink you.

>>33569404
>defended her from scalper niggers
she realized who she was talking to after you guys had some drinks. i'm not going to say you shouldn't be racist, because everyone should, but posting about it like this sends a lot of info about the person posting.

>>33568428
The first actual advice post ITT

>>33571225
men who complain about failing with women are exposing their bad attitude to begin with. they had high hopes when really they should have regarded it as fun time, playing conversation with women. women sense when a guy "needs this" and it turns them off

>>33571247
all that can be salvaged at this point is leaving a good text behind for the screenshot

Online "dating" is either an ego boost for women or an all you can eat buffet for women looking to hook up with Chad.
Go out and meet women in person.

>>33571249
Basically, yeah.
Im a bit older but when I was in my teens - early 20s (like 20 years ago now) I wasn't great with women and faced a lot of the same problems dudes are now blaming on tinder. Its not new. None of it. Women change on a dime sometimes.

And I didnt get better until I learned exactly what you said. Just relax, have fun, treat women like people, and it comes to you.

>>33571249
what’s fun about conversing with women?

When I lived in multi million city I could have a date per every 30 approaches, if I let my standards down to 6/10.

I could not get beyond 7.5/10 but I think I could with proper game.

I just think proper game is basically dark triad shit Im not willing to do. If I could force myself to cancel on girls and treat them like shit I could maybe get hotter girls.

Girls I did get were good people tho. Had fun. Id like to think I was a positive influence on them.

That was 2024. A year I dedicated to pickup.
Now in 2025 I asked one coworker out.

>>33572338
Its tough and most women dont know how it is or actively refuse to look at how dating is for guys.

Thankfully Im out of my 20s ans no longer obsessing about love or sex.

I do it for the basic enjoyment in connecting but I dont expect to be saved or completed.

Life is mostly solitary activity for me and I know what I like and dislike. Need little more.
In fact I dislike most people and find them primitive vulgar mean and boring.

Finding a girl I really want (ideal personal) has been my dream since birth, but I can live without it and enjoy life.

As long as I can be proud of myself and avoid falling for validation chasers at work, Im Golden.

Currently thats the only thing Im angry about. Asked this girl out she Rejected me. Came to work next day shes all giggly and trying to be close to me physically.

Absolutely abhorrent behaviour if you ask me.
I dont mind being rejected its the double signaliing that gets me angry.
Like Im just trying to be a normal person, have a simple coffee see if we vibe or not outside of work.

Bitches dont know what the hell they want man.

>>33569404
You blocked her because she didn't want to see you again two days later? Holy fuck.

>>33567732 (OP)
>Woman goes on dating app to set up a profile so she can get her ego stroked and feel like men want her
>Receives hundreds of potential matches and easy attention from men. She'll pick a few to talk about making plans with.
>Your ass comes along and strokes said ego
>Her narcissism now satisfied, she is happy to unmatch you, basking in the glow of her hoeflation.
That what dating apps are now anon. It's like soma for mid and lower tier women so they can get off on the temporary confidence boost.
Go meet a girl in real life instead.

>>33567732 (OP)
>Be me
>3 girls per mo., in NJ. Rookie numbers really if ur attractive.
>Go to Philippines
>Virgin pinay with big ass and is trad
Must suck bros.

>>33572031
this
i'm approaching 30 and in all my dating life i met one (1) girl who was actually fun to be around
i don't even give a fuck about sex, i'm dating to find someone to spend my life with and yes, i need this, as do all human beings

>>33573161
sadly women don’t want to spend their life with any man however they are biased on having white children

>>33568746
>to get a young pale white gf without tattoos and piercings ?
Since you effectively cancelled out over 50% of your potential datingpool, I think you should try to be a lot above average in your lifestyle and appearance. And I mean a LOT.

>>33570224
>astonishingly mentally unsound
>astonishingly
you find that astonishing that people who play dress up as animals are mentally unsound?

I've experienced a similar thing, the modern dating sphere just calls for this kind of thing. Dating apps number one appeal is comfort in a vast "selection", and I'd say many many people will drop you if you don't meet their expectations (which tend to be very high), which is really fucking stupid... but it's just what happens on these apps. I know this may have felt like they are treating you like you aren't human, but please don't worry, I believe you will find the person for you if you keep searching dating app or not. Life happens, moving on and not holding internal hate is important.

>>33571225
>Dont have a goddamn tantrum over it.
I'm not, I'm literally walking away without looking back and rolling on
>>33571242
It was literally a pair of niggers shaking us down to buy their music, as happens often in NYC around big events

>>33567732 (OP)
Yeah it happens to all of us. You just gotta accept that for women, non-hot men are disposable worthless entities who are meant to provide and entertain. Most men have accepted this fact throughout history and in return treated women as the illogical sex-object creatures that they are, which worked out for the most part. It is only our recent generations that believed the lie we are equal, which resulted in a lot of pain for both sides involved.

Just accept that until you stick your dick in a woman, she views you as a subhuman who is at best a clown to pass time with. Once you dick her, dynamics shift.

>>33573514
lol, you just implied that being nonwhite or having piercings/tattoos means you're below average

>>33569514
>>33569616
I wanted to follow up on this, "woman"
I know, from fucking many biological women, that for guys they really like, they will make all of the time in the world. A woman would find a way to fuck a guy she likes on the day of her mother's funeral if that were the only option.
If they make excuses, if they wishy washy, if they cancel, they ain't actually interested. Again, the key fact you have to see here is she said "I'll see you tomorrow" to my face then the next day when I hit her up canceled. Bitch you can clean your room and record youtube fan VAs another time. I get you ain't interested, now I'm not interested either cuz I will eventually find greener pastures. BLOCKED. For my good and her good. This is just standard practice now.

>>33572362
Same thing to you. A woman will move mountains, a woman will move heaven and earth to be with a guy she really likes and give him what he wants. I've experienced that many many times. If they don't come to you hot and ready like little Caesar's, they aren't worth another second of your time.

>>33572961
Pinays are ugly, this isn't a flex

>>33577082
You're a needy lil bitch boy no matter how you rationalize it, simp

>>33577082
>Expects her to move mountains and really like him after meeting him once ever
You're so fucking stupid it's unreal