Thread 33619461

She speaks in short, incomplete sentences, often swallowing half her words. She can’t follow instructions, like changing a light bulb. When I try explaining things to her, or using online tutorials, she just can't follow the instructions. If it says
>now put part A into B
She will put part A into part C, insist she did everything right, and become frustrated. I will fix it for her, she will see her mistake, she will be grateful for the help, but she will make the same mistake next time. It's adorable in short bursts, but dealing with it is getting hard. She mixes up her colors, and her left & right.Abstract thinking, planning for the future or discussing complex ideas, is beyond her.
I can’t have vacations with her, without fully guiding, and planning every second. I try to talk about more complex topics, she will adapt to my views, without understanding them. She will go along with everything, because she trusts me. I feel like I'm brainwashing her, because she will eat any ideology I show her, as long as she thinks I agree with it.
I feel more like a father, and she feels more like my daughter, so much that I don't want to be intimate with my girlfriend anymore.
She’s kind and buys me small, overpriced gifts with money she doesn’t have. I love her, but my frustration is growing.
She started calling things by baby words (potato = patata, and the likes), and shows a growing appreciation for having me do babytalk to her. "Googoo-gaga, who's my little cutiepie?" kind of stuff.
She grew up in a broken home. She never got to have a childhood, or loving parents. I'm worried that the trust and stability I show her, is now making her regress more and more to try to re-live that safe childhood she never got to have.
What should I do? I feel terrible speaking like this. I want to give her the safety to be naive, and innocent around me, but I can't deny that this isn't normal. Or is it?

>>33619461 (OP)
you have to reflect on two things here
>1
Is she capable of developing autonomy, and if so then how?
>2
Why are you with her in the first place? Could it be that underneath her incompetence you have a genuine connection?
Find ways to encourage her to learn things and pursue her own interests. If she succeeds, it may even deepen the relationship, because she will have more tools and be more psychologically equipped for deeper levels of intimacy.
Find out some hobbies or interests that she has and encourage her to develop those skills, that way she is gaining experience away from you at the same time that you're helping her.
Try talking her through something without giving her the answer
>"If A and B, then what should we do next?" kind of thing

>>33619502
she draws OCs digitally as a hobby, but her skills haven’t improved in over a decade. She watches tutorials, but she doesn’t grasp them. She asks for my help when her drawings look off, but I’m tired of always being the advice-giver. I want a partner who complements my weaknesses, as I complement hers, but she doesn’t really make anything easier for me, save for my own emotional unavailability. I’m with her because she’s sweet, naive, affectionate, and honest, while I'm more the opposite, but these traits feel overwhelming now that I'm in the thick of them.
>"If A and B, then what should we do next?" kind of thing
sounds a lot like a dad trying to teach his kid as well. But maybe I need to teach her to be independent first, before she can actually act on being independent.

She's the dream girl for some of these guys here.

>>33619920
You're damn right. She sounds like a godsend compared to the average woman in my gen (I'm a zoomer.) I can sympathize with OP though if he's older.

>>33619906
I had a clingy girl once, she was actually really nice and loyal, and I ended it because I didn't feel good enough for her. Had I been in a better state of mind I would have stuck with her.
I think in this case you should try to find her an actual professional art teacher that isn't you, like a professional grade art teacher not some online hentai artist.
Encourage her to broaden her social circle, and maybe she will find teachers or role models that will bring about her self development. Be prepared to talk to her about those experiences though, and when she does, keep encouraging her to work through the issue yourself. You can still add your perspective, and maybe then you'll need to learn the balance of communication.
Never fail to reflect on your own role in the relationship.

no way, ur gf is male?

Watch Clannad+Afterstory and think hard whether you prefer Nagisa or the other girls.
Girls being childlike is kinda traditionally attractive trait, current society preferring independent women is a historical blip. Historically, women are meant to be lead by men and you don't have to feel guilty about that. But like with children, you need to help them improve and not just spoil them and solve everything for them. Being too retarded can be burdensome though. Is she too retarded to raise a child?

>>33619461 (OP)
You're simply gonna have to talk to her about this. there's no alternative solution here.
>I’m tired of always being the advice-giver
>I'm worried that the trust and stability I show her, is now making her regress more and more
these are your emotions proper and the rest of your post is just words
Elaborate on those, tell her in plain terms that you're gonna burn out if this keeps up. Tell her you can't think for her, nor should you
Maybe set up some rigged situation where she has to act independently and succeeds, as a booster

>>33619461 (OP)

Did you think this wouldn't be the case getting a bimbo gf? Honestly the more homely they are the more intelligent they are.

>>33619461 (OP)
Learned helplessness is never acceptable, be gentle and safe but enforce accountability. If she leaves you because you won't enable her, it's for the best long-term.

>>33621848
>Watch [anime]
I don't even hate anime but this is too autistic.
>Girls being childlike is kinda traditionally attractive trait
When they know how to act childlike. Op has a child... forever.
>historical blip
We live in a time of plenty. Women supported their husbandos.
>Historically, women are...
Not useless burden that fall over dead when times get tough.
>But like with children
They're adults of the top species on earth. Wtf?
>Is she too retarded to raise a child?
Mother's intelligence and education is the main determination factor of how well her sons do. Get daughters and sell them for money.

>>33619461 (OP)
my mom is like this too she's genuinely so retarded that for the last ~20 years i've been telling her how to bookmark tabs in chrome and it just never stuck... can you believe that? clicking a little star icon never stuck. if this was a man he'd be deemed mentally retarded by all clinical definition but some women are genuinely just that retarded.

i like to watch women play outer wilds on twitch because it's funny as fuck they always just stumble around, fly directly into the sun and go "what happened?" i mean that's fly level intellect right there, that's some moth to flame shit man...

you ever read a woman's writing? no logical edge to it, no bite, no promethean spirit... it's all fantasy bullshit or domain specific academic bullshit and the only good female writers were ugly as fuck i mean carson mcullers and flannery o'connor both ugly sickly women who were functionally men for most of their lives. but there will NEVER be a female shakespeare or goethe or celine or robert musil, NEVER in a million niggeryears which is more than 6 million holocaust lightyears if my math is correct.

women will NEVER shape epochs they will NEVER take an active role in the transformation of human consciousness they are merely reiterators of its preexisting flows created by men, shaped by colossal intellects they could never hope to understand much less equal in their impotent and cumbersome undulations...

anyway virgin master race incel till the day i fucking die

>>33622256
>needing things-skills when you have people-skills and get way more gainz from those

>>33622256
>flexing by throwing your own mother under the bus
It is legitimately comforting that even if you're a useless neet there is always someone further below you
>20 years
even if it's another useless neet. Too busy shaping epochs to get a job?