Thread 33620979

Currently im 18 and a senior in high school, and this is the time where im supposedly the most beautiful. Sure, I make friends, but most of them are male, and while we can have nice conversations, theres always an underlying message.. I need to make women friends, but I have always been shunned by women and outcasted. My Asperger’s doesnt make it any better. Thoughts?

>>33620979 (OP)
Prove your female by posting timestamp

Do you call it how you see it and speak your mind? Those kinda girls are always pushed out. You’re also very cute so many girls are probably jealous of you. You should look into some adult hobbies where you can compete with people who are better than you like local sports, martial arts, maybe even something like fencing if it interests you. Then you’ll make friends with people based on your interests and passions which transcends the fickle whims of high school friendship. I’d also love to see your pussy if you don’t mind sharing.

>>33620979 (OP)
Your type is quite common. Attractive girls who can only attract guys. Dunno how girls see people like this, but this is the kind of girl full of insecurities who does nothing but try to escape her life by going out with guys and getting male attention. All guys want to fuck her, she's in the liberty of choosing anyone (specially tall guys), she's best entertained by goofy men because they make her waste time. Meanwhile she pushes away men who want to talk about feelings or passions, so she ends up asking why she only dates dickheads and can't tell why her life is in shambles (running away from responsibilities too).

I always fall for this type of girl, they always make me want to kms.

You keep posting yourself on /soc/, why? Also this >>33621109

Here’s my timestamp. And I posted myself on /soc/ because I really wanted to meet someone. It’s a different time of day but here

Anyone who falls for this larp is legit retarded. This is a photo of some only fans girl that some fag is using to bait you for content.

>>33621507
Hilarious, tell me a facial expression to make and I’ll do it right now. And I don’t have only fans

>>33621166
JFL, man maybe I’ll join the clubs, and I’ll politely decline

>>33621310
Yeah I feel bad for rejecting guys. I mean the attention is nice I guess, but I wish I was treated like another friend and not differently because I’m a girl. And I’m not even dating anyone rn cuz I’m too depressed

>>33621541
twist your tongue

>>33621567
with a time stamp

>>33620979 (OP)
Maybe develop some hobbies and interests where you can find female friends.
I'd cut off your male friends, it just isn't healthy if you aren't interested in any of them long term.
The worst thing about people in general is they can't define who they are in any meaningful sense.
You're young, rather than going out and drinking or being a degenerate as most of your peers often will, you ought to take this time to develop skills, educate yourself, and define what you want your life to be. If you can do this you will be ahead of the curve.
Invest your time where it counts the most, and if you don't have an idea of what you want or what your principles are, then experiment with things that are productive, basically anything that isn't drugs or alcohol.
Start improving your fitness, educate yourself on how your body works, and find hobbies that interest you. Save as much money as you can, set aside whatever you can for a rainy day or for your future investments, and just try to see what you're made of.
Good luck.

>>33620979 (OP)
Get into baking. Go to baking classes. You need something to talk with women about.

>>33620979 (OP)
I don't have advice, but you are very cute. Please be my gf :3

>>33620979 (OP)
I think female-female relationships are always toxic

>>33620979 (OP)
ywnbaw

>>33620979 (OP)
>>33621496
>>33621567
M26 here,You look like a child with makeup. Not sure why you think anyone peaks at 18.
The way you are dressed communicated someone who wants to be seen as mature and attractive and literally nothing else. I do not think that makes for any approach other than someone interested in what you are putting down.
Also, I know tism makes smiling hard, but, you are actively putting on a disapproving face. It is better to be in what looks like a frown rather than a half smile with the mouth and nothing with the eyes.

>>33620979 (OP)
>>33621496
Literally just approach a guy you lazy cunt

>>33620979 (OP)
You should start trying to smell better. Brush your teeth. Your breath smells. Ew.

>>33621496
>>33621567
Huh, a real life actual woman on 4chan. Been coming here since 2008 and I can genuinely say you don't see this very often.

Aren't women supposed to just start talking about random shit with eachother and instantly make friends? Join a book club or a dancing class or something and just don't talk to any of the men there.

>>33620979 (OP)
If you do retail it's really easy to make friends you probably just have walls or something. Just interact and memorize when shit goes bad. You can experiment socially but it comes with risk, but also possible reward.

>>33621663
Ye i like baking i make some pretty good cookies

>>33621743
I don’t know how to make facial expressions without seeming dead kek

>>33621774
R u retarded? My whole thread was about not having any women friends.

>>33621827
I domt shower my period blood is soaked in my month old panties

>>33621859
Lol yeah Ive been lurking on 4chan for a while. Why, women domt go on here? And no, I don’t get along with women, especially with groups like that. I’m always the odd one out.

>>33621496
resting bitch face, granny mouth lines, titcow, dated 2010s haircut, bovine eyes, granny clothes, not a virgin, not based, not anime girl coded, mcdonalds employee phenotype, gen z stare, bad handwriting, L manicure, multiple attempts to write the date on a piece of paper (?), not breedable or demure, AI generated etc

>>33622213
femanon envying a femanon?

>>33620979 (OP)
wtf, a cute spergette, on 4chan? Are you ok with dating ugly or average guys?

>>33622213
stupid zoomer bitch trying her best to make the competition upset, sad, and many such cases.

You remind me of an old friend of mine to where she only had male friends because she hated women and was kind of an alpha bitch. You're adorable OP, I want to pinch your cheeks and have you sit on my knee. :)

>>33622213
>not anime girl coded

code word for prepubescent

>>33622333
and?

>>33620979 (OP)
If you want my real fucking advice record a short video of you talking about something. A picture of you doesn't fucking put you in actual motion, capture your mannerisms, or the way in which you speak. You probably have some annoying aspie monotone voice, or say shit that offends people w/o realizing it. idk why faggots ask for advice on stuff like this with just a selfie.

>>33620979 (OP)
I am just going to come out and say it, I want you to ruin my life. I want you to throw pots and pans, and me and screech at me. I want you to contort my cock like a balloon animal in the hands of a clown. I am sorry, that is all.

>>33620979 (OP)
>my aspergers doesn't make it any better

literally has nothing to do with it. realize you have low to no testosterone therefore you don't take initiative, and as a woman you're not seeing the simplest solution is that you don't need women friends. why the fuck would you want capricious humans that don't see you as a human being?

>there's always an underlying message
and what is that? they want to fuck you? well you just said you are at your most beautiful. what's the problem?

P.S. it is very possible you will be even hotter when you're older. why not be appreciated? why the fuck are you making it a problem to not be associated with useless people who don't appreciate you already?

>>33621496
hey youre hella cute, im also a sperg woman but im 29 so we wont be friends. dont worry ull find your ppl, til then i just advise you to watch every good movie ever made so you can talk about them with your future friends.
>>33621859
we are here but most of us are smart enough not to post face lmao (or mention we are female)
but im sure a girl must be at least a bit on the spectrum to post here

>>33622569
>we can't even be platonic friends because of age gap

holy shit you're insufferable

>>33620979 (OP)
do you like alt ppl

>>33622578
nah man id feel creepy bc im bi, and like idk
besides, i know what i was like at 18, i dont wanna deal with it desu. she might be the wisest 18 yo in the world, but i doubt it

>>33622720
i mean if it happened organically, like if i went back to college and made friends there it would be alright, but im not gonna SEEK OUT kids to be friends with

>>33622347
based

>>33621496
LONDON
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>>33620979 (OP)
>>33621496
>>33621567
>>33622139
Listen here little baby gurl. You're gonna get a lot of hurtful and degrading comments, but that ain't what I'm about. Let me just say, you are perfect the way you are. You hear me sugar? PERFECT. Don't ever change. You deserve anything and everything you want. Stay safe for me, baby girl.

>mfw thinking about you hurting

>>33622152
pretty based honestly

>>33621496
Damn you're hitting the wall here.

Fuck. I'd love to be your friend, but I'm 30 and I feel like my life is over and is a fucking mess. I don't know if you can connect with depressed repressed people, but I sure would not be able to talk to you without the desire of connecting+having a partner+feeling life fulfilled without spilling over and mixing.

Are there mixed signals? Fuck yes, all men are horndogs. I want to fix you and I want you to focus your attention to me in exchange.

God I'm so fucked, I guess I'm destined to end up in a codependent dysfunctional relationship.

>>33621567
Why the fuck are you here on 4chan? This place makes you wall faster than Jocelyn Widenstien.

>>33622213
You're a seething troon

>>33621859
>Been coming here since 2008
BS. I've been here since 2019 and I've seen plenty of women on various boards

>>33620979 (OP)
I'm a guy (shocking , I know) and I could legitimately be platonic pen pals but I'm old enough that it'd be an inappropriate look no matter what. 2.5y<m

>I need to make women friends, but I have always been shunned by women and outcasted. My Asperger’s doesnt make it any better. Thoughts?
Many women, (and I say "many" because it seems like most but that's subjective and possibly wrong), speak a second language of social nuance.

There's a story I tell about my aunt who was objectively beautiful in high school. She never spoke to others, simply went to class, studied, did well in grades, that was it. She graduated high school with everyone always thinking that she was beautiful but incredibly incredibly stuck up and felt superior to everyone.
The truth was that she was cripplingly shy and had absolutely no idea she was even pretty.

People observe behavior and and then write their own narrative as to why you behave that way. And what makes it worse is that half of them are below average intelligence.

What this means for you is that women see you behave in atypical ways and ascribe their own reasons and motivations to it. They have unspoken expectations and when you don't meet them, they try understand *why*.
And some are stupid enough that if you literally explicitly explain that you have Asperger's and what your thinking and motivation for your behavior is, they'll accuse you of just saying it to seek attention.
And more often than not, they'll talk to each other to conclude what your deal is rather than have a conversation with you.

1/2

>>33620979 (OP)
>>33623175
That said, that's just many women.
You aren't being ostracized and shunned for who you are as a person and, I can't be too clear on this point, high school is NOT real life.

The obstacle is that you need to find a woman who is somewhat kind, tolerant, and someone you enjoy engaging with. The kind of person that excels at customer service or working (or wants to work) in a care industry like teaching or healthcare.
And hopefully join her friend group. Once you're in a circle that understand you, you'll be in a much better place.

It would definitely help for you to cultivate a few normie interests so you can engage in chats about something you and an average woman enjoy. Like make up or whatever is the current popular tv show or I don't know what. But you need chit chat material to get to know people and it helps if you actually like the subject.

I don't really have too much advice outside of telling you that finding and maintaining quality friendships is a big challenge in life. Most relationships are born from proximity and bonding through shared experiences. So that's what you need. And a bit of luck finding decently matched people.

>this is the time where im supposedly the most beautiful.
Meh. It varies. I know what you mean but for many people high school sucked and they only blossomed afterwards. I was an outcast among outcasts and mocked until 11th grade when anyone older than me was too busy graduating to care. I'm just weird but I found my groove later on and might be more appealing now than I've ever been.
Anyways you're attractive (no homo), you did a lovely job with your lashes, and your choice of nails was cute. Not the point of the thread but worth saying to counterpoint other posts I skimmed.

>>33622139
>I don’t know how to make facial expressions without seeming dead
I literally practiced facial expressions and stuff in the mirror. I essentially stared in the mirror as a kid and put on comedy routines like Andy Kaufman.
I would try to mimic expressions I found enjoyable. Like Bobby Hill, I was too naive to realize that some were decidedly effeminate, but oh well.
I did it for fun but it helped me be very expressive.
Even if you get just a few expressions locked down that'd help.
One vital such one is the slight downward head nod and immediately looking away when you accidentally make eye contact with a stranger. I incorporate a slight lower lip twitch of an almost smile. It signals "I acknowledge your existence but didn't mean to catch your eye, heh"
Most people don't bother smiling but I smile a lot. I believe in the philosophy that if you see someone without a smile, give them yours. Also, I'm pretty happy. In most public places, I'm the only one walking around smiling. (Not sure if that sounds like a flex. If so it's not intentional)

I also trained myself to laugh pleasantly instead of really annoyingly. That wasn't enjoyable. It was like catching a sneeze. Every time I started to laugh, I stopped and affected a light chuckle. After a year or so I was just laughing normally.

The point is that you can work on things and change them if you choose to. It's totally a personal effort/reward decision.
There are a bunch of things that I never bothered to change. Like my faggy mannerisms.

>>33620979 (OP)
>Posting your face constantly
>I have a bunch of male friends but can't seem to befriend women, I'm such an outcast teehee
Yeah I've met your exact archetype probably a dozen times, it's called being an attention whore and people of your own gender can tell. Fuck everyone in this thread posting their essays, you're a mark and born to be an orbiter.

>>33621567
>>33621496
>>33620979 (OP)
Please post more faces, I think you're super cute and can't get enough of looking at you :3

>>33623209
>Fuck everyone in this thread posting their essays, you're a mark and born to be an orbiter.
I was just thinking how it's absolutely hilarious that I am talking to an attractive 18 year old girl on the internet and I am genuinely far more excited about the fact that she's a poster on /adv/ who *might* actually be interested in receiving some advice.

And everyone wants positive attention and to be told they're attractive and nobody would believe she's a girl if she didn't post pics.
I'm not saying there's not a Saturn's ring worth of orbiters here. But sometimes an essay writer just wants positive attention too. Ya know?

>>33623240
Personally, I want to fool around with her. I can't do it with people in real life and I don't care anymore so I want her to post pics puckering up for kisses!

>>33620979 (OP)
I lift, do mma, and play video games. I have an engineering degree, write stock options and own 2 paid off houses in CA I rent out.

Discord svenkuong

>>33620979 (OP)
Why the fuck do you want women "friends"?

>>33623341
She explained this. She seems interested in having friends that aren't interested in the "underlying message" that they want to fuck her.

Unrelated but looking at these posts... Sweet Christmas I want to hijack this thread to illustrate how *not* to interact with women online.

>>33620979 (OP)
find some aspie female friends among the nerds/alt people.

you already look pretty dark just slap on some black nail polish and you good to go

>>33623353
Nigga go interact with sexless nerds

>>33623353
Why the fuck would I need to "behave" myself around random women online whom I will never see in real life, whom probably won't even give me the time of day because in their minds having attraction for them is equivalent to sin?

What happened to "be yourself bro"? I'm being myself right now. I can only look at attractive girls and lust for them because I know they can't handle a guy full of trauma trying to figure how to fix himself. I know they only hold emotional space for themselves and no matter what I do I'll never register in their frequency unless I'm a stupide dudebro.

I honestly wish the best for this femanon, and I wish things could work differently. I wish I could meet her in person and talk to her and I know that's going to be poison one way or another, but I feel the need to connect with another retarded wreck of a woman and most of it I know that's never going to be reality, so all I can do is talk shit and give her attention. Is that so wrong?

>>33623372
Hell, I call these type of women black unicorns. They're not pure, they are cursed, and most importantly, they will never come to you. You can only wish for them and whatever you do, pursue them or not, it will only end in misery.

All of this hype and hoopla for a /soc/-tier girl fishing for easy attention.

>>33623382
This goes beyond the /soc/ girl. This is about Man vs Fate. How can a man look at a beautiful woman and think he's not deserving of her? How can a man feel fine with a life of sacrifice and misery? Even Christ offered some kind of redemption in another world. The idea that a beautiful girl can have male friends without attraction is a daydream, rebelling against the fact that there are women to look at but never reach is rebelling against fate.

And for OP she should know beauty will only last a blink. She has to work on her own self before choosing to belong, or she will likely chose wrong and keep it for the rest of her life.

>>33623329
I'm a cute femboy and sent you a request :3

>>33623398
Anon who cares, it's just an 18 year old attention starved female doing attention starved female things. She knows for a fact she can pick any dweeb to be her simp orbiter as easy as grabbing a cold drink. But what she wants is an audience that's why she made this thread and every single autist replying to her does her bidding

>>33623357
>Nigga go interact with sexless nerds
....but I am?

>>33623357
>Nigga go interact with sexless nerds
....but I am?

>>33622148
Tired from the gym and work and I didn't read properly
Literally just touch grass and fucking chat with people you dipahit

>>33623372
>all I can do is talk shit and give her attention. Is that so wrong?
Everything breaks down to intended outcome.

>I feel the need to connect with another retarded wreck of a woman
Then you should post, as yourself, in a way that's most likely to lead to lead to a connection of some kind.
If you want to give her attention, consider what kind of attention you want to give and how she'll receive it.

>Why the fuck would I need to "behave" myself around random women online whom I will never see in real life
How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice.

>whom probably won't even give me the time of day because in their minds having attraction for them is equivalent to sin?
That's happening entirely within your head.

>What happened to "be yourself bro"?
There's an element of being aware of how you might be perceived by others.
Here's an example: If a girl on a social site has on her profile her likes and dislikes but asks that guys not directly dm her and get to know her in regular chat first, a guy might try to respect that by seeing her having a conversation about gardening and interjecting himself to tell her that he shares her sexual kinks. This signals that he has no interest in actual conversation or anything other than what he wants as well as that he lacks the awareness that he's doing that.

>I can only look at attractive girls and lust for them because I know they can't handle a guy full of trauma trying to figure how to fix himself.
Somewhat self aware

>I know they only hold emotional space for themselves
Aside from the extent that everyone is preoccupied with their own issues, that's not true.

>no matter what I do I'll never register in their frequency unless I'm a stupide dudebro.
That's just in your head

>that's never going to be reality
Life will surprise you if you actively engage with it.

>>33623582
Lmao that's ...
quite sound advice actually anon. I admit I'm kinda in a dark place so I have a lot of negativity regarding women.

Wishing the best of luck to OP, I hope she can get female friends and a fulfilling happy life. She's still young, she shouldn't care so much about connecting with people as much as trying to express herself.

>>33620979 (OP)
Do you mind if I use your profile picture as my phone wallpaper?

>>33620979 (OP)
Aspergers/autism/etc means people struggle to make friends or fit into a large friend circle. But usually the friends they do make end up being closer friends.
Put some real effort in to make female friends. Be yourself, because friendships where you're totally faking your personality or interests won't last. You do need female friends though, otherwise you'll be regarded as a whore later in life.
Women with all guy friends are a massive relationship red flag to men. Usually the reason is exactly how you described, but over time they end up sleeping with half their friend circle and nobody wants to date someone who's actively connected with people they used to or sometimes sleep with. Also, most of the "guy friends" are usually crushing on the girl. You're pretty enough I would say 90% of your male friends have a crush on you.

Just keep at it. Use discord/internet for whatever hobbies or interest you have, try to find other girls in your area with similar interests/personalities to meet up and make friends with. The point I'm trying to make is not to just give up and declare yourself an "only friends with guys" girl, because they have serious problems dating later in life.

>>33621715
True, it's a different dynamic, and a little more like social allies than guy's version of friendship. Still, she should try to make at least a couple of decent female friends.

>>33620979 (OP)
genuine foid behavior
>"Oh god, there's a place on the Internet that doesn't have a picture of my face on it yet!"

Where's the daily goofy selfie?

You're very pretty. I wish I was too. I guess it can be hard for cute girls but in different ways than for ugly girls. Sometimes Im glad Im just okay looking or below average because its protective in some ways. More men more problems.

>>33623617
>quite sound advice actually anon.
Thank you.

>I admit I'm kinda in a dark place so I have a lot of negativity regarding women.
If it helps, you seem far less lost than others here.

When life brings you to a dark place, it can be all too easy for the darkness to seep inside you and blind you to the light of all good things. However, just as hatred cannot defeat hate, darkness cannot defeat the dark. If someone focuses and cultivates their own light and brings a glimmer of light to their own life, they might find their path forward easier and become a small light that defies the darkness even as it defines it.

Even if nothing good remains in life, you can still become the good in your own life.

>>33620979 (OP)
>Foidlet
I won't read no-one speaks of themselves that way threads.

>>33624370
Hot. I'll be back tomorrow

>>33623425
Disgusting

Chat is OP a real woman?
Asking for my dick

>>33621496
@grok real?

>>33623100
My discord is k7mikaze lol

>>33622468
Chad doesnt even get to see me because I domt go outside

>>33623175
I’m not sure what to reply, but I did read it, thank you for putting so much effort and time for me anon!

>>33624352
Damn anon. I wish more people were this cheery, my whole life has been riddled by dicks and manipulating shits. My parents were introverts and projected their fears into me, I went to school in a poorshit place with absolute psycho garbage. It's hard to connect with people when you have doubted your whole life if being your self is wrong, to the point you shit on yourself for existing and you forgot how having fun was like. I still can't go out without my mom pestering where I'm going and I'm 30.

>>33624827
I'll add you later. You better not be the goofy poster.

>>33624827
I'll add you later. You better be the goofy poster.

>>33624370
Discord?

>>33624841
>I wish more people were this cheery,
I'm actually quite dark. I have a lifetime of pain and a constant awareness of how black the darkness can be.
I simply have offset my acknowledgement of the horrors of existence with an equal appreciation for it's wonder and beauty.
For me it's about appreciating the humor of the joke even if it's on me.

And when depression whispers lies to me, I can tell the absolutes like "It'll always be like this" or "I'll never feel better" are bullshit. The wheel turns, things change, and sunlight and wind feels good on my face regardless of life's troubles. So I wait out the storm of misery until I can put energy into good things.

That's how life gets better: putting energy into good things and incrementally building on things until time is working for you and life is better than it was before. A person does good healthy things and life improves. Then new shit happens. And we...just keep swimming.

If there are negative forces and people in your life, work to divorce yourself from as much as you can.
In my experience, the majority of people are far too interested in their own issues to bother manipulating me or be a dick to me. But I am also strange and mostly isolated and often the carrot of inclusion and stick of exclusion that are used by manipulators and dicks have no effect on me as I'm used to isolation and don't value inclusion offered with strings. I can't speak to how difficult it is to divorce yourself from them.

Always look on the Bright Side of Life, anon.

>>33624839
>thank you for putting so much effort and time for me anon!
You're perfectly welcome. I wish you the best.
Party on

>>33622213
based

>>33621320
Cause it's not worth typing out proper advice to some shut in man larping as a girl.
>>33620979 (OP)
I also have always felt like I'm a bit of an odd one out or between groups sort of - funnily enough the time where I felt I fit in the least was in the army I hated all those guys but then they put me with some other people and I felt like I was really a part of the circle there and got along with them even though they weren't the type of people I'dve hung out with outside. The difference was that the first time my goals were different from the group but the second time we all wanted the same thing which was to leave the army. Anyway what I'm getting at is do something social with a shared goal like a creative project or something as opposed to groups where the only objective is to socialise and I think it will be a bit easier to assimilate. Also it is possible for men and women to be friends but I'm only really friends with one girl and I'm also friends with her long time boyfriend so yk make sure these guys aren't just orbiting you hoping you'll let one of them date you eventually but there's a high likelihood that's what's happening based on what you're saying desu.
Picrel is what I look like just for transparency's sake

>>33624827
Sent.

>>33622593
>Manipulator and Downtown Battle Mountain

hell yeah, friend. based as hell taste on those two alone.

>>33626389
Word.

>>33620979 (OP)
can I attempt to groom you on discord?

>I need to make women friends
You're a senior, doesn't matter much right now to be honest everyone goes separate ways after HS. Wait until college, go into a dorm, maybe join a sorority. For sure a dorm at least, get involved on campus. You will for sure make female friends.

>>33621567
Post a pic from above with more of your tongue out but with a time stamp.