Thread 33625848

Is giving up on dating / finding a wife at 28 acceptable if I’ve never had women chase me / show interest?

My parents are delusional, my dad thinks I’m a “late bloomer” but people are married with fucking kids at my age
People irl tell me “it’s never too late!”, but IMO 28 is not young, and if a girl hasn’t shown interest now I just assume it’s never gonna happen
When I was 18 I thought I’d be married by now kek

>never had women chase me / show interest?
Are they supposed to do that?

>>33625848 (OP)
>Is exiting the dating scene at 28 too soon?
men really have no "wall" like women do- don't fall for the feminist retard shit. You can still date at later ages as a single man- but for obvious reasons you probably shouldn't be dating 18 year olds fresh out of highschool. The rule was always "half your age + 7" when it comes to age differences and what the youngest you can date is.
>My parents are delusional, my dad thinks
fuck what your parents and what other people think. Honor them and give them respect- but live your life how you see fit with their advice taken.
>people are married with fucking kids at my age
yes, internationally, age of marriage and family is <25. But that doesn't mean it still doesn't happen past that.
>if a girl hasn’t shown interest now I just assume it’s never gonna happen
you just haven't made the right moves to expose yourself to the most women as possible. Either because you are geographically hindered, financially, physically or what have you. How do you think other people got their partner? They weren't just sitting around at home crying. You have to make moves to get your girl and to show other potential suitors you are worth it. Why do you think guys our age are doing their best to go viral on social media today? Maximizing exposure and wealth.
>Is giving up on dating / finding a wife at 28 acceptable
no, you are just being a little bitch. I know many around that age who date many women. It's all a mindset, experience and circumstance thing.

>>33625848 (OP)
"Giving up" is the best thing you can do with dating. It allows you to put your energy where it will actually matter, and stop stressing about something that you have little to no control over, or from placing "having a partner" on a pedestal. The more you stress about it, the more energy you put into actively trying to date, almost always the worse your results will be. The best time to find love is when you're not looking for it and you don't need it. Build skills, create experiences, develop a life that's satisfying in and of itself, because ultimately that is what's going to make you a desirable partner anyway, and the more developed you are, the less desparate you'll be. It's nothing to stress about, don't make it a centerpiece of your life or a reason to feel like you're "behind". At best, a relationship should be complimentary to your life, not the focus of it, so build your life and let it come in its own due time. Your peace is more valuable than pussy.

>>33625848 (OP)
Don't phrase it negatively as "giving up on dating". Phrase it positively as "choosing to be single". That way you can walk down Main Street with your head held high, making eye contact with everyone you pass by, and thinking "This is the life I have chosen for myself. This is how I want to live." Versus the negative mindset, you walk around mopey and depressed like the average 4chan retard, avoiding eye contact with everyone, never saying good morning, getting all frustrated and restless inside every time you see a pretty girl instead of giving her a smug little smirk that says "I'm gonna look at the merchandise, but I'm not gonna buy it".

>>33625848 (OP)
>I’ve never had women chase me / show interest
Why would women chase after you? You're not 1998 Leonardo DiCaprio

>if a girl hasn’t shown interest
Are you the mongol who's actually made out with like 5 different women at parties and came close to having sex with others

>>33625885
>peddling nonsense about how men don't hit a wall
>peddling nonsense about the magical formula to decide if two adults should date

>>3362609
>about the magical formula to decide if two adults should date
ah, a pedophile. Makes sense now- kys tranny freak. Opinion instantly invalidated.

>>33626094
Some men don't hit the wall.
>nonsense about the magical formula
The magical formula's socially accepted, which isn't necessary if your relationships don't go anywhere public.

>>33625848 (OP)
i gave up dating after a bad date i had when i was 16 and just going back into it again at 28. honestly i think that 28 is the perfect age to start dating as a man. you're probably more well-made then you were at any other point in time, making more money or at least set on a career path or going for a master's degree, know who you are as a person and still have the energy left to go out on dates. there's really no better time to date as a man.

how many different places have you tried dating in without success

>>33625848 (OP)
"is it acceptable"
it's your life
this isn't something there's a right answer for, just trust your judgment

>>33627080
>online
>over 70 cold approaches from 2020-2023
>mutual friends

>>33627175
There is this saying that 1 of 100 women on the street will sleep with you tight away. You are at 60.
But to be real, 60 cold approaches is a good number! How did you not find an interested person after 60 cold approaches? (interactions with the cashier don't count) Are you trying at an unsuitable place/time or with people that are busy?

>>33627199
*70 pardon

>>33627175
so one city total?

>>33627464
So much this, mean are supposed to try 70 cold approaches per year in a different city every year for 20 years, minimum.

>>33625900
>"Giving up" is the best thing you can do with dating. It allows you to put your energy where it will actually matter, and stop stressing about something that you have little to no control over, or from placing "having a partner" on a pedestal. The more you stress about it, the more energy you put into actively trying to date, almost always the worse your results will be. The best time to find love is when you're not looking for it and you don't need it. Build skills, create experiences, develop a life that's satisfying in and of itself, because ultimately that is what's going to make you a desirable partner anyway, and the more developed you are, the less desparate you'll be. It's nothing to stress about, don't make it a centerpiece of your life or a reason to feel like you're "behind". At best, a relationship should be complimentary to your life, not the focus of it, so build your life and let it come in its own due time. Your peace is more valuable than pussy.

I'm quite accomplished as I'm told by my peers and my lack of intimacy or fulfilling my sexual needs is keeping me in a bad place mentally.

>>33625848 (OP)
All the good looking women who would make great wives and mothers are taken in high school and college the latest. Whatever remains is taken shortly after they enter the workforce. There exist very few good looking (7 and above) women that are single and have a good heart, are modest, raised in a decent family, soft spoken and pretty. The window of opportunity when they are single is very very narrow. These are the 2% of women, the highest stock of females this wonderful creation can offer. If you don't frequent their circles or the events they attend you have no chance of meeting them. Women also don't go anywhere alone, so whatever hobbies women have or events they attend it is done with their husband or boyfriend and if they are single with their groups of friends.

tldr; there simply aren't enough single good looking young white women to go around for everybody, they are rare and exist mostly in very niche places where men without social circles (loners) can't get in to

>>33625848 (OP)
I am a successful man. God has made a life for me. One of my nagging worries is that if my wife dies (prey-hope she does not) and I am drawn to find a suitable mother to my children. Even though I'm drawn to suite younger women, I fear they are so treacherous I must seek mature women, with wounds and baggage because our current culture is so damaged.

I mean to say, are there at least some good women out there?

>28 is not young
Lolwut.

>>33625848 (OP)
"The dating scene" maybe, but not finding a woman. At your age the teenage-style dating scene dies out but something else takes its place - friendships that evolve sideways into romances

Chances are that you already know the next woman you will be involved with. She's a friend, a co-worker, a neighbor, a friend-of-friend. You will have known each other for a while without romance or sex being any part of the equation. And then you'll begin to notice that you've been gravitating toward each other for a while, just naturally enjoying each other's company more than others in your circle.