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How do you build self-confidence and cultivate a strong sense of self?

For me at least, the more I focused on "building confidence" the harder it got

It builds as you go through life, as you put yourself into more situations, and as you become more and more competent

You can't linger on it mentally. The more you ruminate about it, the further out of your reach it is. That's my experience anyway.

>>33630118 (OP)
honestly? I don't know
but my best guess?
is to go out there to socialize and perform
and that's why I personally joined, over the past month: a Bachata and Salsa dance class, a choir for singing folk music and songs in other languages, and now I've joined an amateur theater group and I'm going for the first time this week.

Do I know what I'm fucking doing? hell no!
so why am I doing it?
because I think, if I go to these events, and I'm consistent, and I go for several months, I must notice differences.
I must
I can't be at home anymore, I must stop hiding and avoiding and being scared and anxious. So yeah this is my version of mini exposure therapy.

OP is probably just a farming poster who likes to make random one-sentence threads because it gets their micro pp hard, but I'm happy to share this just for the chance that this helps anyone else. You're welcome, and good luck!

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I never see good answers to this question

>>33633794
Just be urself bro

>>33630118 (OP)
1. Learn how to connect with others
2. Become proficient at a skill
3. Accept responsibilities
4. Fulfill responsibilities

That's the basics.

>>33630118 (OP)
Copious amounts of psychedelics

>>33630118 (OP)
Doing shitloads of coaine helped me a lot tbqh. At some point I noticed I could just not snort any and still be confident after getting a boost from it for some time. Just be very careful to no make it into a habit.

>>33630118 (OP)
>How do you build self-confidence and cultivate a strong sense of self?
Get good at things, preferably things that make you money, are enjoyable, and make you attractive.

>>33633794
What were some of the not good answers and did you actually try them?

>>33630118 (OP)
I have no fucking idea. I have spent years trying to get some semblance of self-confidence, self-improving, learning new things, getting new hobbies and getting good at them, socialising, etc. but i still have 0 confidence despite achieving more than the vast majority of people. And then i look at the normies who are obese/have no hobbies/no talents or interests and they are confident as shit, literally to the point of having delusions of grandeur. And from what i've learned, ironically people like the arrogant fags with 0 accomplishments waay more than accomplished people with no confidence.

>>33636815
>. And then i look at the normies who are obese/have no hobbies/no talents or interests and they are confident as shit, literally to the point of having delusions of grandeur.
Can you give a few examples of this?

>>33636815
What'd you try homie?