Thread 33630278

Hello

i made friends with a girl and we really clicked, and i started to fall for her. this relationship lasted a few months, then i visited her in person in her country.

i enjoyed my time with her but i was still unsure of the situation, handling a LDR, moving to a different country, etc... i wasnt sure if i should persue her, but she still seemed interested in me.

a couple of months later, she found someone, and is dating him now. someone local to her. as soon as she told me this i stopped talking to her completely, and every single day my heart aches thinking about her and i have dreams of talking to her almost every week. i know she's completely moved on and has no interest in talking to me, and she's too proud to talk to me anyways.

if i talk to her i know my heart will ache because she has a boyfriend and i'll never be her boyfriend. i want to be her boyfriend. i wanted to marry her. if i contact her it'll only lead to me feeling bad but at least i'll be her friend. i dont think she'll have any benefits to being my friend. should i contact her?

>>33630278 (OP)
You shouldn't contact her

>>33630359
why not

its hard for me to move on and i feel like i've missed out on the best opportunity of my life

>>33630387
You already missed out on that opportunity. She is already dating someone else. You should move on

>>33630399
you're right. i'll move on then. how do i deal with the fact that i've lost on this oppurtunity? do i just try and force myself to stop thinking about her?

It didn't work out because it wasn't meant to be, man. Move on, theres nothing else you can do, and shes wasn't special. I've wasted a year of my life now hung up on some chick with a boyfriend, and it's like having a brain parasite. Don't do it

Get closure and move on. Trying to carry on a friendship will just make you miserable.

>>33630516
I believe she’s special. After all of the women I’ve talked to in my life I don’t think there’s anyone like her.
>>33630860
How can I get closure? I unadded her on everything. I don’t want to talk to her and she doesn’t want to talk to me (I’m sure)

>>33630952
If you genuinely want to know, ask what made her move on or if there was something lacking in the relationship. It’s good to get feedback instead of continuing a negative cycle in future relationships. Then let her know that you appreciate the time you had together but you need to distance yourself because friendship is stopping you from moving on and then stop texting her.