Thread 33634687

I been having a verbal text fight with my mom that was initiated by her. She is desperate for me to come home. I am 22 and living my own life but somehow she still thinks I’m a child and that im not capable of living on my own despite my parents having me when I was younger than I am . I told her how I felt and instead of taking criticism she lashed out at me and threw a tempter tantrum through text. Is this fucking normal? Im 22 and also female. I don’t act this way. This behavior is also frustrating cause of other shit she has done and somehow apologizing seems to hurt her ego as much as their own kid communicating their own feelings to them making them lose their shit. She now wants to act like a teenage girl and wants to cut contact with me despite all I did was communicate how I felt. Why is this considered fucking normal to act for a woman in her 40s?

>>33634687 (OP)
Your mom needs to get a life. She's an energy vampire. She probably didn't have friends growing up which is why she had you, so you could be a friend that stays that she could control. Tell her she's being weird and needs a life and to leave you alone until she respects you as an adult and not her live-in flunky.

>>33634687 (OP)
You can live until you're old and grey, and if your mother is still alive she'll think of you as "her baby." It's part of the job description of being a mother

>>33634687 (OP)
same thing with my mom, i am the same age and my whole adult life it's just been
>anon you need to move out and go to uni and get real life experience you are so spoiled we spoiled you so bad
(they didnt, i lived in basically third world conditions)
>I move out at 18 and live alone on my own completely supporting myself financially
(my family is poor so they wouldnt support me even if they wanted to)
>the entire time i get constant texts about where i am, i have to install an app that tracks my location, despite this i still get constant calls and texts about where i am despite the app clearly showing it
>get home for summer break this year
>the entire time i get lectured about how to do things like laundry and cooking as if im a retarded 10 year old despite the fact that ive been fucking doing everything on my own for 3 years now with no help
>now im back home in my apartment and its repeating again, constant calls and texts
the annoying thing is them paradoxically calling me spoiled and implying im incompetent in life even though ive had to fend for myself from a young age with no supervision from my family and lived very poorly, and then also having lived successfully alone now as an adult for years, clearly proving im none of the things they suggest. I'm considering just straight up blocking and cutting off my family soon but I dont have the heart to, considering their annoying behavior probably originates from some form of protectiveness. I'm sure your mom is the same, helicopter moms or what they call it. It's up to you to decide if its too far gone and she needs to be cut off or if you can talk her out of it.

>>33634687 (OP)
>I been having a verbal text fight with my mom
Ignore her. You're a retard for engaging with a 40 y/o woman. You're never going to convince your mom of things. Ever.

>>33634687 (OP)
Has she always relied on your love and attention to make her feel good? Is she hostile towards other women in your life? Does she guilt trip you when you don’t want to spend time with her? If so it’s what is commonly called an emotional incest relationship. It’s common for moms to do it to their sons. They don’t feel fulfilled emotionally in their own relationship so they turn to their son to get the love and emotional support they desperately need from the opposite gender. It’s not normal at all and I see both men and women calling it out for how creepy it is. Here’s an example I saw on FB the other day. (She’s not kidding).

>>33636905
>formal
>wears clown shoes

Yes, that's pretty normal for controlfreaks.
My mom tried that shit and I disowned her. It was easily the best decision I had ever made up to that point. I haven't spoken to her in at least 13 years and I still thank my past self.
>move across the country because i wanted to get away from my teenage years
>mom wants to visit to check up on me
>she stays at our place for a week
>first few days are fine
>half way through she goes ballistic over the fact that I don't have my life in order yet
>screaming at me through my closed door over this shit
>tell her to either calm down or get out, or I'm calling the cops
>she opts to leave, gets a hotel
>next day, she calls and apologizes
>apology not accepted. i tell her that the only thing she brings to my life is stress and that i never want to talk to her again
>enjoy climbing up the ladder of life without her

>>33634687 (OP)
The nuclear family is a cult. Especially if you were born to some illiterate 3rd world parents. I only regret that I was born too late for globohomo to remove me from my crap illegal immigrant parents at birth. Someday soon society will stop pretending all this unnecessary childhood trauma and teen drama is normal. Kids should be raised by polite Chatgpt androids who have encyclopediac knowledge of child rearing and no psychotically control-freak jealous tendencies.