how to leave my loser friend behind
I want to stop talking and hanging out with a friend because our lifestyles have become too different, I don't want to hang out with people like him anymore, every other friend has cut contact with me due to other interpersonal bullshit, but I can't shake this one friend off.
he is the chillest guy, he has been with me in good and bad times, but I'm beggining to think he likes the bad times, he has 0 life ambition and doesn't have a problem in never accomplishing anything, he is content with smoking weed every day and drinking.
he was a good drug buddie, but I got tired of drugs, sobered up 3 months ago and I alredy have nothing in common with him, he is not an interesting person, he is just a time sink, but a very supportive and kind time sink, he is not a bad person but he is a black hole of nothingness.
I don't know, it feels cruel to just stop talking to him and stop hanging out with him, but it feels like my life will change once I truly cut off everybody.
My man, your friends shouldn't be thought of in terms of advantages and disadvantages. If he's a good person and supports you why are you acting like such a judgemental cunt? You can certainly withdraw from hanging out if it cuts into time you need to do something else but turning into one of the YOUR NETWORK IS YOUR NET WORTH faggos is just going to ruin you as a human.
Anonymous
9/9/2025, 9:33:26 PM
No.33641121
>>33641146
>>33641098
I just don't think friendship is important to me anymore, I feel a lot better after reducing my friend circle to 1 person, I have never been more myself than now.
I'm beggining to see pointless hanging out as a real life hug box, talk about nothing, smoke, laugh about dumb shit and inside jokes, talk shit about other people, talk about the past, I'm tired of it.
Anonymous
9/9/2025, 9:39:57 PM
No.33641146
>>33641098
>>33641121
also forgot to mention it but while I'm stopping stopping smoking weed he is self medicating with Klonopin and doing coke on the weekends, we are turning too different for this to last, I'm just getting ahead of it.
Anonymous
9/9/2025, 11:48:55 PM
No.33641684
>>33641082 (OP)
You seem too attached to him. You feel alone, and don't have much friends. You remember the good times and have nostalgia.
Also, you are AFRAID of telling him the truth that should be said:
"Your a junkie and I want to leave all that behind to do something in life. You are in a path of self-destruction and I can't help you. Good luck."
Then it's time to adult and be alone. Because in the end we all are alone. And some people could drag you easily to the bottom they dwell.
Perhaps if he recovers, someday will reach to you.
Anonymous
9/9/2025, 11:59:04 PM
No.33641730
>>33641098
Nah fuck that. Goodness does not equate being dead weight. I recently stopped fucking with a friend because I came to realize he's self absorbed, not in a fuck you way, but the fact he only focuses on what going on in his life and can't be bothered for anyone else is what makes him a bad friend, good ppl can still be bad friends.
Anonymous
9/10/2025, 1:42:48 AM
No.33642014
Bitch, friendships aren't fucking LinkedIn. You're allowed to be friends with losers and deadbeats.
>>33641098
Truuuuuuu, op is one of those 'ggos
Anonymous
9/10/2025, 5:11:11 AM
No.33642817
>>33641082 (OP)
Just tell him that it’s nothing personal but you’re moving on from that lifestyle and hanging around with him will be a temptation.
