Thread 33641696

The title pretty much says it all. My libido is so insanely high that focusing on my studies for periods of longer than maybe 10-15 minutes is impossible for me.

I take ADHD medicine and while this helps a little bit it generally seems to make my libido worse, which cancels out the effect in the long run. I have tried several other substances to help curb the "libido induced ADHD" and nothing has worked, and in some cases, like with 9-ME-BC it has made my libido far far worse.

> get a gf
> jerk off to porn

I have a gf and I sometimes watch porn. My gf isnt always in the mood of course, and I am sometimes just not attracted to her sexually, despite the fact that she is an above average girl in almost every respect. Jerking off to porn, even once, gives me headaches which can last for hours if not the rest of the day. OTC medication does fuck all to stop them from happening, so if I jerk off I made sure its in the afternoon or night which does not help with study during the day.

I am currently an honor roll student however that may not be the case for much longer. The only way I coped through high-school and the first 2 years of university was essentially chronic masturbation, which made me feel like shit.

your brain is burned from over-sex habits.

you've got alot of work to correct for this.

>>33641696 (OP)
Don't fuck yourself with porn if it gives you headaches, just accept it's not an option. you need outlets that aren't just jerking off, lifting weights, running, boxing, whatever burns you out physically. if your body's physically tired your sex drive should decrease.

also stop treating your gf like she’s supposed to be your pressure release valve. if you're not always attracted to her that’s fine, just don't push it. you need to figure out how to manage this shit yourself because even if you had 10 girls around you would still have the same brain.

worst case, just talk to a real doctor about meds that lower libido (SSRIs, finasteride, whatever) but obviously that comes with tradeoffs. otherwise you are just gonna have to build structure around it, study in sprints, reward yourself with a walk or some pushups instead of jerking off.

>>33641696 (OP)
Chances are your masturbation headache is a result of you hitting the nofap cool aid too hard, which sounds like the root of your problem.
Since it's a physical reaction, you might want to consult a doctor about it, but if you don't get the same kind of headache during exercise or other straining activity, it's 99% a psychological thing and an acquired illness. Thank the internet for that.

>>33641696 (OP)
>Jerking off to porn, even once, gives me headaches which can last for hours
What the heck, my friend

>>33641696 (OP)
yeah adhd medication is a bitch like that. Only things I found that helped:
1. Make it a part of your routine to study in a public place like the campus library where you don't have the freedom to watch porn
2. Ask your doctor to lower you dose and switch to instant release so you have less intense stimulant effects and more control

I also ended up starting to take a medication that lowers libido directly, but this was related to something completely different, and that helped a lot too.
Porn addiction is a serious and difficult monster to conquer, good luck and take it very seriously

>>33641696 (OP)
You're cooked
Simple as

>>33641696 (OP)
>I have a gf and I sometimes watch porn. My gf isnt always in the mood of course, and I am sometimes just not attracted to her sexually, despite the fact that she is an above average girl in almost every respect.

You are homosexual imagine having a hot gf, and still having too high a libido as your problem. you chuds dont deserve to have girlfriends

>>33644645
Maybe she's ugly
Usually normies have very ugly and fat gfs and they would rather fap to porn
I'm not even kidding anon
Literally saw in real life my eyes multiple times
And not only ugly but also far too
Imagine that
So I can understand why op wanta to relieve himself to porn
How mistake is that he doesn't relieve himself to hentai

>>33643720
I can very easily quit watching porn or masturbating for days on end as I have a negative response to doing so. Turns out its very easy to quit something that hurts you more than makes you feel good.

>>33643834
>you need outlets that aren't just jerking off, lifting weights, running, boxing, whatever burns you out physically.

I work out constantly and have a very very physically demanding job on top of attending college. Exercise only increases my libido as well, which again does not help.

>also stop treating your gf like she’s supposed to be your pressure release valve.

I dont. She has a higher libido than me surprisingly and enjoys being "used". I dont like using her as a sex object as this makes me feel extremely guilty. If she was just a FWB it would be different.

>>33643839 >>33643902
It has nothing to do with nofap and has been happening since before I understood the physiological reason for it happening. Its supposedly not uncommon, just not nearly as bad in my case, as clearly my brain is telling me its something I should not be doing

>>33643931
1. I am only able to study in public places 2 days a week excluding the weekend due to work and other reasons. I could spend extremely small amounts of time in between classes and work at the library however this would probably be counterproductive. Also being in public places does not help with the sexual fantasies (often makes them worse) which are a significantly bigger problem than the porn.

2. This would be a bad idea for several reasons, and although I understand your reasoning I think it would be more of a negative in the long run.

>>33644645 >>33644654
She has extremely bad chronic anxiety, including performance anxiety in bed. Also yes, I am somewhat of a fag and probably have some hyper-sexuality disorder, kill me ig. Sometimes it feels as if I am more so her caretaker and not her lover and that can be an insane turn off.