Thread 33642013

That's why she never has fucking money and is always asking people to lend her some or to give her food. My grandfather said I'm ungrateful because I'm not doing anything for her, what the fuck can I even do? I'm a NEET, I have no money and she doesn't want to stop doing meth, she doesn't want any help, what the fuck am I supposed to do exactly? My rich aunt is the one supporting all of us and she doesn't even know anything. I'm just tired of this family, man, holy shit it's a new stress each day…

>>33642013 (OP)
Have a conversation with your mum when she's sober and tell her what her addiction is doing to the family. Ultimately, you're limited in what you can do. You can't force an addict to overcome their addiction, they will need to do that themselves. Your best course of action is to look after yourself and your non-addict family. Get a job. Maybe connect with your siblings/aunt and make sure you look out for each other. Most importantly, don't blame yourself and make sure you don't make the same mistake she did when you have kids of your own. Rooting for you, mate.

t. Son of addict

>>33642013 (OP)
Hide anything of value from her because she’ll go pawn it off for money when she needs dope. I’d also be weary of being around her when she’s high. They’re not always in control of themselves. You can try an intervention but those don’t always work. I found out my best friend relapsed on Meth recently and she lied about for quite awhile and told me her husband was starving her to make up an excuse for why she went from 250lbs to 120lbs in the span of about 6 months.

>>33642013 (OP)
Mummy shaped you into a neet. You never chose that, but it is your responsibility to get out of that hole.

Talk to the aunt, bring evidence so she knows to take you at your word. Your mother lies, so she needs proof that you didn't take after her.

Do what you can do.
You can try the hail marry approach like >>33642035
But imma save you stress, it won't do shit. You can't speak a full blown meth addict out of addiction. You aren't a professional nor experienced enough to be remotely influential. Son or daughter be damned, meth is fucking METH. IT REWIRES YOUR BRAIN.

Don't say a word to mummy, let her do what she is doing because now that you know what's going on you can predict what she's going to do. Makes it easier to navigate because there aren't a new variable (You)

You need to be machiavilion if you want any hope of a clean break out of your fucked up situation. You can't stay there unless you want a fate worse than death

Speak in private with the aunt, demand privacy and trust, and coordinate an escape plan. We don't have institutions anymore so nobody is coming for your mother, all you can do is save yourself and hope she chooses to get her shit cleaned up by her own volition.

Control from the bottom is the play, you don't reveal what you know or tip off the addict, it won't work. It will hurt. Sorry you got delt this hand anon.

>>33642035
Honestly, I don't care, what really pisses me off is that my grandfather yells at me like I have to do something for her but there is literally nothing I can do. I guess this thread should be titled "how can tell me grandfather to stfu"

>>33642074
Zoom out anon. Your grandfather is watching his little girl slowly kill herself. Hurt people hurt people, he's desperately trying to change the course of her ruination. You are simply an extension as a vain last ditch effort to save his daughter (your mother)

You could try and hide all the tin foil and lighters without saying a word, assuming she didn't stache any away in secret.

You have options, you just need to get out of your own head and look at the fucked up predicament you're in objectively. Your enviornment has very little realilty testing, you must champion on.

>>33642074
Tell him that you’re her child not vice versa. It’s not your responsibility. If he’s that concerned he can do something about it himself.

>>33642035
Talking to a junkie... how autistic are you?

>>33642074
Yes you can. You go talk to your gramps. Don't blame your mom like you're doing now. Say something like "bad people (the dealer) are hanging around your daughter and telling her to do drugs. We must protect your precious girl by sticking her in rehab."
Your grandfather already knows something is going on. Might as well win points by taking his side.

>>33642068
Also, talk to the aunt like this guy says and maybe you'll earn your neet retirement.

>>33642013 (OP)
If your mom's choosing meth over stability, that's her problem, not yours. Your grandfather is guilt-tripping you because it's easier than facing the reality that she's destroying herself.

You being a NEET doesn't change the fact that you don't have resources to help. You can't lend her money, you can't fix her addiction, and you shouldn't fuck up your own sanity trying. All you really can do is just set boundaries, stop giving her whatever scraps you do have, stop letting her drag you into her mess.

>My rich aunt is the one supporting all of us and she doesn't even know anything.
Well you got two choices, you can tell her what's actually going on, or keep quiet and let her keep being an ATM for your family. Depends on how much drama you're willing to unleash.

The bottom line is your job isn’t to play savior. You need to protect yourself from burning out over shit you didn't cause and can't control.

>>33642859
Not saying it'll work! Just that if you never have the conversation at least once, you'll regret it.