Thread 33656385

I have dumb friendship advice to ask and you'd be the best guys to ask.

>be me
>at this school
>bother this random girl
>straight up tell her i fumbled xyz girl shit my pants got drunk when i wasnt supposed to other crazy shit
>we start talking over chat
>we exchange like easily 4000 messages over two months
>she leaves the school before i do
>welp, she's gone, can't date her. but she'll be my friend!
>she continues to reply all the time. sends more messages than i do (i checked the count on discord)
>she talks talking about her exes, she says she encountered him xyz i try to give advice
>well shes just a friend, so imma ask her
>"should i make a tinder, also i should probably go to the college town nearby to hangout around the club to find a gf because im getting >tfwnogf feels"
>she replies a bit more, tells me she didn't like tinder, though probably just a girl problem since the guys there are gross and weird
>replies a bit more
>ghosted now
can i still recoup this? like i dont mind having a diverse set of friends. also i would date her but i decided to no longer consider it since she's 2000 miles away now.

taking any and all advice. i dont even know what i want in this scenario.

basically my assumption is i friendzoned her and she probably really really really liked me romantically lol.

also she left the school a week and a half after i met. her, so works i did ditch the idea pretty quickly. mostly as soon as she left. lol

>>33656385 (OP)
Most of the time you gotta move pretty quick with these things.
Like she'll show interest and you've got days to weeks to capitalize before she assumes you're not interested and moves on, or you overexpose yourself and give her reasons not to like you (known as 'the ick') before shes made any kind of investment its hard to come back from.

I figured you were done when you said "months". And even if she was holding on, yoh telling her you wanna go on tinder screamed "im not interested in you".

>>33656407
any way to recoup? how dumb would dumping random thoughts into her discord messages be?

i mean i cant even ask her out since shes 2000 miles away lmao. am i being stupid here? should i just leave things as is? i do really like her but i did bail on the idea because of the great distance thing.

fuck, i cant believe its even possible for a single guy to friendzone a single girl. sounds insane to me, a guy who didnt have any sort of life prior to now.

>>33656418
No. With women when ya done ya done. Move on.
I swear half the incels here are perfectly good dudes who actually wouldnt struggle but they get oneitis.

>>33656385 (OP)
She's either busy or she stopped responding because the conversation stopped being interesting or about her. It's most likely the latter. People just want attention and when you made it about yourself or potentially about other people you'll meet then she realized that she was only interested in the attention she was getting from you and not you as an actual person. This is the same reason people love ai chat bots. Also you never had a chance with her, you started off by telling her you shit your pants while drunk? And then she moved across the planet lol. No way in the world would she date you.

>>33656441
>>33656418
Sorry I will say
>dump thoughts to her
It wouldn't hurt to tell her how you feel l. You just gotta understand its a hail Mary at this point.

>>33656441
yeah. shit.

i do agree. okay things ive learned from this:
- women can get fucking rejected too
- pick up a hint to tell if she likes you
- same thing with guys, try to refrain from talking about stuff like 'should i use tinder' or 'find a gf at a college club' or something akin to that effect

and yeah, i do get oneitis. like strong. im the hopeless romantic type. like something like casual sex makes no sense to me if you can just find a hooker. funny, i thought guys were supposed to be into fucking without any sort of emotional connection. ive actually noticed that most men aren't, it's just a movie/internet(?) thing.

>>33656443
id often blog and tell her shit about myself and she'd dig into it and shit lol

>>33656449
i just sent her a funny thought about bite alignment and freeway space and being aware of it thats been concerning me. its friday. lets see if she replies over the weekend, but yeah youre right, its dead. dead is dead when it comes to talking to women.

>>33656463
I used to as well. I empathize. With you. I did well with women when I stopped, and also in hindsight to my "bad with women" days I can actually pick out several really good women who were practically rolling in my lap I didnt Notice cause I was tunnel visioned on some bitch who didn't give a fuck about me.
Its harmful. You sound like youre getting it. Try not to over invest, thats all.

>>33656469
>id often blog and tell her shit about myself and she'd dig into it and shit lol
Still in the overarching context of attention being given to her. She was most likely just lonely and now her social life in the new place is picking up. I highly doubt she was interested in dating you, anon. Just realize that people, even if you call them friends and share thousands of messages, come and go and that's okay, I've had that happen many times. Make new friends, and keeping working on your love life, and stop pooping your pants.