Thread 33778338

How did you achieve the state of no longer needing sex/relationships to be happy?

>>33778338 (OP)
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>>33778338 (OP)
got cheated on, had a giant std scare, and 1 seriously stressful relationship. one day they said they cant wait to come over and have some fun. i just decided to jack off instead and then broke up with them a few weeks later. the cost for the benefit of sex and relationships isnt worth it in the end

>>33778338 (OP)
have a really bad breakup and get burned (emotionally damaged) badly by them

>>33778392
>>33778439
But doesn't this just make you spiteful and make you have relationships on your mind even more?

>>33778338 (OP)
Lived around females for years and seen their real nature there are no exemptions. If you ask for a relationship you might as well hurt yourself

>>33779946
fuck no. looking back all my stress can be traced to letting people in my life specifically women. my happiest periods of my life were all when i was alone and had a surplus of free time to game

>>33779971
Oh no, I agree with you. This is my situation too after being social has burned me again and again. And yet I'm still daydreaming about having a loving romantic relationship 24/7 and it's killing me anyway, even though I know and have experienced that it's not worth it and only makes me miserable. Getting burned made my body give up on getting off my ass and pursuing relationships, I would never ask a girl out again. But not my brain, that retard's still obsessed with a fantasy that doesn't exist and is torturing himself with it.

What do?

>>33779979
>being social has burned me again and again
this. literally this. i am so socially retarded i have been in massive shitstorms and barely made it out alive. i refuse to connect ever since. the problem is work requires social interaction and all these retards are running circles around me with their skills. its made me give up on my career because i cant deal with all this bullshit and secret alliances.

honestly i dont think i have this issue i usually just play video games. i never seem to think about anything during that. essentially you distract yourself. its like the idea of living in a mountain alone in some million dollar home. it sounds awesome, right? but cleaning that big ass house, taking the 3 hour drive to get groceries. not worth it in the long haul.

is a friendship or relationship worth dealing with all the group chat drama and constantly woman mental gymnastics? fucking no. when your brain longs for it remember it's not considering the whole picture

>>33778338 (OP)
I was just born this way
idk
I think far too many people feel emotions based on social status or comparing themselves to social norms. If you stop doing that, it'll remove a stressor.
And in my case I just never cared to begin with. I don't get that whole "need other people agreeing with me before I like and trust myself" thing, I just like and trust myself.

>>33780072
I find that being honest about what you offer and demand is a great equaliser in these situations, but remember that you need to actually do something about people screwing you, don't just sit there and cry.

>>33778338 (OP)
But why would you want this? Sex in a relationship is a good thing. If youre in a relationship, it's okay to have sex

>>33778338 (OP)
Stop nutting. Simple as.

>>33780676
>But why would you want this?
You might be incel tier and don't have a hope in hell of getting a gf.

>>33778338 (OP)
I don't think you can. You can exist and just do your own thing, have hobbies or laze around every day and nobody will tell you not to or to do it. Its not really happiness, though. It's just existing.

>>33778338 (OP)
You can't, it's programmed into you as a human.