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Anonymous No.33815651 [Report] >>33817171 >>33817237 >>33817241 >>33817257 >>33817259 >>33817370 >>33818928
How do you make a guy you like approach you without making the first move?
There is this guy that i like and i have no clue how he feels about me. I have no social skills and am very much introverted and autistic which makes talking to him very awkward. So how do i make him notice me more or how can i be more interresting for a guy? What would make me gf material?
Anonymous No.33815731 [Report]
Interact with him online idk
Anonymous No.33817171 [Report]
>>33815651 (OP)
When you see him just look at him for a split second and then look away, we guy have telepathy and we will read your mind, that's right we know what you like. If you have some difficulty believing what I just wrote then you are a dumb- dumb just approach him and ask him to hang out at the park or go get some coffee, you don't want to come off as a gold digger who wants free food. What makes you a girlfriend material, imo there are two things good looks and good personality, now you don't need to be a super model just be average girl next door, make sure that you aren't very fat and you are prettier then most of woman, and have a nice and pleasant personality, don't be argumentative and don't be crazy.
Anonymous No.33817237 [Report]
>>33815651 (OP)
The answer is: you can't. You have no choice but to make the first move yourself. It's not difficult: literally all you have to do is say "Do you fancy going for a drink some time?"
Anonymous No.33817241 [Report]
>>33815651 (OP)
You need to give him "the look." Just look at his eyes for a second or two and then look away. He should get the hint. Wait a few weeks and do it again, and if he still doesn't take the hint, he probably isn't interested in you.
Anonymous No.33817257 [Report] >>33818415
>>33815651 (OP)
>So how do i make him notice me more or how can i be more interresting for a guy? What would make me gf material?
That's a more complicated question, and it will depend to a considerable extent on him. Different men want different things. But some basic stuff:

Make sure you're reasonably healthy. Don't be obese. Consider going to the gym if you don't already.

Have your hair cut and styled in a way that suits your face. Dress in a way that looks like you've put some thought into what to wear. Make sure you don't look dirty or scruffy. If you're feeling ambitious, try learning the basics of how makeup works.

Beyond that most guys want someone who is reasonably fun to spend time with, kind, and low-effort - meaning, you aren't constantly freaking out over nothing, or making weird accusations.

So, all of that is fairly basic "making an effort" stuff. But it's important to understand that the purpose of dating is NOT to make yourself into the person that he wants. The purpose of dating is to find someone who likes you the way you already are (and that you like too!) So, if this particular guy has problems with you being autistic or awkward, the solution is not to try to force yourself to behave differently, the solution is to find a different guy who *doesn't* have a problem with that, and data him instead.
Anonymous No.33817259 [Report]
>>33815651 (OP)
1. don't be fat
2. ask him anything. subject is of little importance, just start a conversation about his shoes, the weather, your local sports team, his hobby... just get a conversation going

if he's not a retard and if you're attractive enough, he'll do the rest
Anonymous No.33817370 [Report]
>>33815651 (OP)
stop being a fearful little bitch and go talk to him

chances are if you're a female, the men around you will cut you some slack because men are far nicer than women

>i have no social skills
you literally will never have social skills if you don't talk to people. no matter what you think, men will always have it more difficult than you
Anonymous No.33818415 [Report] >>33818502
>>33817257
I would actually say that im way out of his league but the problem is i havent seen him since highschool and only have his social media.
Anonymous No.33818502 [Report] >>33818536
>>33818415
>i havent seen him since highschool
Then how were you expecting him to notice you?
Anonymous No.33818536 [Report] >>33818549 >>33818935
>>33818502
I guess online? But i feel like he doesnt even have a interest in real woman I think its better to just give up on him and leave the house after 3 months of isolating myself.
Anonymous No.33818549 [Report]
>>33818536
I had a high scbool crush text me ijt of the blue like that once.
Saw she was engaged, called her a whore for wanting to meet up, got blocked immediately after she read it.
Don't be a fucking weirdo.
Anonymous No.33818928 [Report]
>>33815651 (OP)
Shy men would confirm that this is impossible, you either change or nothing happens.
Anonymous No.33818935 [Report]
>>33818536
Leaving the house is probably a good idea. Chasing after someone you haven't seen in years probably isn't.