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to people who recently got into relationships / people who are satisfied in their relationships.. I want to feel a bit of that warm glow when you get a gf... it helps me to hopemaxx.
can you please write how you felt, preferably positive feelings, when you got your gf and it all just went perfect? I'm really longing for that, write the full story in as much detail as you want fren

>>33833624 (OP)
It's cool. They let you put stuff inside them.

>>33833683
The joy really isn’t in having them RIGHT THERE with you or next to you; that actually does get old and annoying. One of the great joys is whenever you see her from a bit of a distance, and knowing: that’s my girl.

>>33833701
Was meant for op >>33833624 (OP)

>>33833701
>One of the great joys is whenever you see her from a bit of a distance, and knowing: that’s my girl.
Even better iswhen she also sees you from a bit of distance and also lights up with a smile and a bit of a skip.

>>33833701
>>33833954
Can't wait to have someone feel this way about me. It will never happen for me, bros.

>>33833624 (OP)
moids admit that they hate their gfs even more than other women, and say they just want sex even though much of what they do can only be explained by malice. hope this helps!

What do you feel when seeing pic related? Well it's the inverse of those feelings.

>>33833624 (OP)
Hey dude I just gotta let this one out: I fucking hate you bro. I hope you get the worst out of this life. That goes for every one of you bitching about not having a woman. I hope you grow a pair someday and become a fucking man for this world, cause we need you to stop being a hedonist. We need your ass to stop being a piss baby gooner fuckin "nobody loves me man I need to hopemaxx," and fucking grow up brotha. GROW SOME NUTS. BEING A MAN IS A LOVELESS THANKLESS EXISTENCE, GET USED TO IT.

Thanks for your time.

>>33834337
>we should stab and rape women for rejecting us
>women totally all want to be victims of violence bro
>it's a loveless, thankless existence

>>33834415
Yeah that's totally what I said lol. Can I pull something else out of your ass for you, sir?

>>33834462
Don’t worry, they have a serious fetish about simultaneously hating men and wanting to be victimized by them. They shit up nearly every single thread with their horseshit.

>>33834468
Real, lol I didn't even see the "sufemacist" handle that's so dumb. I'm over these fuck ass women.

In fact we should all stab and rape them for rejecting us, they totally want to be victims of violence bro.

>>33834462
he conveniently said on an anonymous website.
>>33834468
moids are the ones who want to assault women. you just claim, as an excuse, that you can read minds.
>>33834496
moids are the ones who demand sex slaves. you are clearly not over women.
>In fact we should all stab and rape them for rejecting us, they totally want to be victims of violence bro.
>Why does she hate moid so much? Why do so many women refuse to have sex? Surely it can't be our fault

>>33834468
moids hate women and have a victim complex about getting rejected

>>33834504
>In fact we should all stab and rape them for rejecting us, they totally want to be victims of violence bro.

See this is what you said earlier and I sarcastically said it again in reply to the other guy. You're the butt of the joke, get it?

Why would I want a sex slave, I can just buy a silicone object to fuck if I wanted to, or I can go to a bar and get snizz from some ditzy drunk ass chick our age and be perfectly happy, and go to work and make my money the next day. I don't even have to text her back.

Sorry you hate me so much, I hope you heal your fuckin damage or whatever someday, until then I'll just keep doing the same ol shit. I'm the one from the other thread btw.

Wait this got deleted ? In the touhou containment board ? the fuck ?

>>33833624 (OP)
being with somebody is never really perfect for most people, life isnt an anime. its about finding someone you like spending time with and supporting eachother through life.

having someone better than you show you real care is a great feeling though.

>>33834679
>You're the butt of the joke, get it?
covering your ass. you moids have already admitted that that is what you want to do. as always, you only get triggered when a woman points it out.
>Why would I want a sex slave
the only two reasons why moids make any choice. horniness and sadism.
>I hope you heal your fuckin damage
i'm a virgin. i hate moids because i believe the things that you say about yourselves

>>33834758
moids dont want real care. it's a trap.

>>33834941
>moids dont want real care. it's a trap.

you had some bad experiences, huh?
to be fair, a lot of men who want care want to be looked after like a child, which is gross.
shit, my partner makes good money and keeps trying to buy me things, and it does feel bad to accept it, but at some point we just kind of offer eachother what we can

>>33834941
Well this moid has to go to work at the ripe hour of 5am but it's been terrible talking to you. Hope you sort out that damage.

>>33833683
>>33833701
>>33833954
OP here, I love that
I was on the train the other week, and I saw this guy leave the train, young kid maybe early 20's, this smokeshow of an absolute cutie angel Dutch girl comes up to him, with the biggest smile I've seen. He is happy and hugs her too, but also seems tired like he wants to rest, and she just keeps sniffing him, trying to look him in the eyes, kissing his neck, hugging him multiple times, and smiling a lot. She was so excited, like so so excited it was adorable. I watched that for the 2 minutes that the train was at the station until we left and I got a glimpse of hope. It truly is the nicest thing and thanks for reminding me of that experience.

>>33833963
It will happen bro, I also felt that way sometimes but now I feel like a gf is just around the corner. I have a lot of girl friends and women are really normalized in my eyes way more than they used to be. Take the /fit/ pill brother, its helping me and it'll help you too

>>33834308
Man, I can never figure out how to sleep next to someone. What do you do with the arm that's not wrapped around her? It just gets crushed in some awkward position and I'm awake the whole night.

>>33835590
Bottom arm under her neck when starting like that.

>>33835590
In my personal experience, either my arm goes up towards my face and behind her back (so the only arm holding her is the one on top) OR I have the bottom arm under her neck. There's much less pressure on my arm under her neck and she gets a nice sorta support for her pretty & adorable neck

>>33835602
Omg someone actually said it!! xDDDD
I'm happy to know I'm not alone.

>>33835616
>>33835602
Interesting... I'll have to try that if I ever get laid again

>>33835590
You can also sleep with your backs to each other. Depending on her height, her ass will nestle in the small of your back; put your upper arm slightly behind you so you can cup her ass.

>>33833624 (OP)
it's great until she drags you half a continent away from your family, then you find out she cheated on you repeatedly and gaslit you into thinking you're crazy for suspecting as much.

>>33836165
This is why you avoid BPD chicks. Don't stick your dick in crazy, guys.

>>33836165
I pray for you sir

>>33836165
Break up

>>33833624 (OP)
>I want to feel a bit of that warm glow when you get a gf.
I feel a warm glow now that I just broke up with an awful girlfriend. Everyone is telling me how much happier I seem now and they're not wrong.
>when you got your gf and it all just went perfect?
Lmao.
If you think a gf magically means your life is happy and perfect forever after you may be in for a rude awakening one day.

>>33836767
This. Being in a relationship doesn't always mean the grass is always greener, yet also works with not being in a relationship.

>>33836767
>>33836786
I believe you bros, but I'm still hoping to get my shot, and hopefully she's a good one

>>33833624 (OP)
>I want to feel a bit of that warm glow when you get a
If thats the only feel you want, just get a pet dog.
If you want a family and a relationship and all that, thats a different feel, somewhat.

>>33834988
>you had some bad experiences, huh?
i'm a virgin. i just see you moids admitting that you all hate women and just want to commit rape and torture. i wonder if you have little girls too.
looking after a moid like a child sounds cute, but maybe itd get exhausting, idk
>>33835168
moids will have sex at any opportunity and then call female virgins "damaged"
>>33836165
choose better women

>>33833624 (OP)
My wife is my best friend and confident. She's the stars in my sky, the fruit in my trees and the love in my life.

She's every bit as fucked up as I am in all the best ways, I'm greatful for her. She makes me laugh, holds me when I'm sad, inspires me to be a better man and knows me to my core; no bullshit, no acts, and loves me all the way through.

It's pretty cool.

>>33833624 (OP)
>>33833963
You know whats worse than not having this feeling? Finally getting it and then she dumps you. I remember our last date, 2 days before it happened, coming down the block talking on the phone and seeing her face when i said turn around. Her smile was so bright. Then 2 days later shes at my house ending it. I used to hate and envy anons who had gfs because they were no longer in the club of hurt and pain but, boy was I wrong. It can get waaaaay worse. Just like everyone rlse told me before i had my first gf, be careful what you wish for.

>>33837825
>i'm a virgin. i just see you moids admitting that you all hate women and just want to commit rape and torture. i wonder if you have little girls too.
>looking after a moid like a child sounds cute, but maybe itd get exhausting, idk

well, that is incels, and there are a lot of them
what does have little girls mean, like children? i dont want kids.

OP don't listen to all the normies here - having a girlfriend is AMAZING.
All self-confidence issues - instantly fixed.
All anxiety issues - instantly gone.
Ability to have sex almost everyday - feels like heaven.

I am almost 30 years old now and having a girlfriend for 2 years and we even lived together for a while was the best time of my life and I can never ever replicate that shit as I look older with each passing year and nobody wants a moutbreather looking financially well-off man.

>hurrr durrr you will never find happyness if it depends on another person!
fuck off, why can't my happiness depend on another person? Why am I supposed to be a cold robot that barely shows emotions and is non-chalant and is ready to be alone all my life?

Maybe OP is the same - getting a girlfriend is great and psychologically amazing feeling.
Don't let these normies fool you because they probably look good and can get a new boyfriend/girlfriend within a week or two.

A lot of relationships are two fucked up people coping about the best they can do.

But sometimes, as if like magic, two people who were meant for eachother get together, and they might as well be living on a cloud.

>>33838331
I love that dude, thank you for sharing it

>>33838710
I'm sorry that happened to you man, but that just means she ain't the one, never give up!

>>33840549
OP here. Oh brother I really appreciate it haha
I think it's a giant cope when people say "don't rely on another for happiness" when in fact, our life, literally, depends on us fulfilling our need for socialization. We quite literally need each other to survive. We rely on others for happiness whether we acknowledge it or not, but the key difference is that we diversify who we depend on - we have family, we have partner, we have friends, we have communities, all these put together make you happy and resilient - and you're relying on others for your happiness. There's no shame in it and nothing wrong with it, I fully agree with you.

And thank you so much for saying that dude. I also feel like I'm put together in other parts of my life, but still a piece of the puzzle is missing and a gf can make life SO MUCH more amazing. So thanks for sharing that and I hope it comes to me too.

And before people come at me for this - I work on my issues on my own, I'm aware that a gf wouldn't fix them - but she sure as hell would be an incredible accelerant for getting over them

Thank you for your attention to this matter and keep sharing the great anecdotes anons! <3

>>33836757
Did, 2 years ago.
I still feel it every day.

>>33838710
>Her smile was so bright. Then 2 days later shes at my house ending it
I can never understand how people can go from such extremes so fast. Saying I love you one day, the next wanting to leave, I just don't get it.

>>33840706
>sticks dick in crazy
>reee why did this happen to me
a tale as old as time itself

>>33838927
typo. i meant "i wonder if you hate little girls too"

Hey anon, I know you wanted some feedback from guys about how they feel getting a girlfriend, I can’t provide that perspective but I see a lot of real fucking faggots in this thread having melt downs because they can’t handle the pain that comes with loving.

Relationships are a two way street of actions and words. Many of these anons have experienced hurt, that could be an inevitability when you begin navigating the world of romance, it happens to men and to women as the one sperg female has shown.

When you find that person that you click with, that is truly the love of your life, the world fades away when you’re together. There is an unmistakable and soul moving comfort that makes you want to do everything you can to make the relationship work. The warmth of their hand, the sound of their laugh, the small habits and quirks that you begin to notice and point out that make them shy and happy to be noticed. With different genders we expect different roles to be filled on a subconscious level. Women want to know that they can be safe and provided for, men want to know they can feel the same, but in different ways than women.

To me I feel a deep pride when I can hold my man in my arms and let him know he is completely and totally safe to be himself there. Does he need to complain? Does he need to cry? Does he need to fuck away his frustrations? I’m here for those things and being able to provide that and see him regain the strength to continue through the tides of life is important to me. I want to have his children and see myself and him in them, knowing we will pass on our genetics and ideals into the world for hopes of a better future.

In order for me to provide that to him, he has to provide the sense of stability and safety. In his arms I have to feel like my family will survive if I choose to let him copulate with me. If I’ve given a man the chance to prove he can do that, but he fails at every turn, I have no choice but to leave.

1/2

>>33841488
>1488
>I fucking did it Uncle Addie
2/2

Sometimes people can give you what you need emotionally, sometimes they can give you what you need physically, sometimes they can give you everything and stop because you’re not giving them what they need. That’s going to hurt, it’s why you need to pay attention to not just them but yourself, you don’t want to waste anyone’s time.

But? When it does l work out, that feeling of finding the one is borderline terrifying. Like a rollercoaster or a plane ride to somewhere completely new. It’s full of joy, excitement, adrenaline, and the most horrific fear. Eventually when everything is more settled and the years have passed it becomes a perfect sort of comfort, where you know the future is bright and no matter how hard the world gets you’ll figure out how to survive it together. You’ll know their worst and they’ll know yours and you’ll know that you both are going to be okay in spite of that. You’ll entwine your hands with theirs on a perfectly mundane day, and have that memory with you into the dusk of your life. You’ll memorize everything from their smell to their faces small little quirks and imperfections. And in spite of the imperfections you will find yourself loving what you might’ve hated before because it’s a part of them. It has a way of making you a better person when you know that person is worth everything. They’ll look at you and feel or know the same. It’ll be heartaching to get there and it’ll be painful to be there because life has a way of making you experience that most exquisite pain for them, for yourself, for your family. You’ll want to show them everything that excites you, you’ll want to experience new things with them, you’ll want to show them things you know they’ll love! It’s so fun and exhilarating!

Don’t give up, anon. You’ll get there! Hope is cradled in the reality of what you make of your life.

>>33841507
women are so mentally ill it's crazy.
>le excitement, muh joy, the adrenaline of 100 unknown dicks flowing through me
fucking ew. For men, this stage is full of dread, fear, sadness, uncertainty, and solitude.
Kill yourself you ugly whore.

>>33833624 (OP)
like death by a thousand cuts

>>33841533
Sorry you’re incapable of reading. I’ve only had two sexual partners. But, keep projecting your oneitis onto everyone.

>>33833624 (OP)
pretty good if you both love and respect each other, if you both feel comfortable with each other and you both make each other happy. Especially if you feel like you are very good friends too. There are stressful parts and sometimes you may feel lonely without them, as I am now.

>>33841488
>>33841507
This was lovely, especially the second post with al the descriptions of being there for eachother. Thank you!

>>33841533
>mental illness is when someone says something i dont like
>why don't women take me seriously

>>33841533
moids will say this after admitting that all that moids want to do is commit rape and torture

>>33834308
That is a gay ass arm dude

>>33835572
>I watched that for the 2 minutes that the train was at the station until we left

>>33845055
LOOOL

>>33841379
i dont hate adult women, why would i hate little girls?

i aint an incel, i just use an incel website while i work

It depends. It can be great or it can be constant anxiety and emotional torture

>>33833624 (OP)
I truly don't know how I feel about love, anons. Is it even real? You will see so many people say how they are in love and that they are happy and have a soulmate, and maybe they do, but rarely is either person tempted with something better. That makes it easy to say "I've found the right one".

Would a woman be loyal to her love if a charming billionaire arrived in her life and offered to upgrade her life materially and with freedom as long as she abandoned the other man? Would a man be loyal if a young beautiful woman showed up and said he could sleep with her, no strings attached? Even throughout history, marriage was mostly in tact for only economic reasons. It seems love is a passion born of novelty. When the novelty wears off, people leave their partners for the next best thing.

I'm a bit of a cynic, I guess. The Gulag Archipelago even discussed this: Love goes out the window when things go to shit. I want to believe...

>>33834462
it's an insane person he/she/they has been spamming lately with the same topics incessantly

>>33833624 (OP)
i'm late twenties so i've given up all hope of getting a gf since it wont even be cute youthful love anymore. what's the point. if there's anything i've learned in life it's that nothing ever happens, always bet on nothing. if something does happen, it's always bad. and no, you can't 'make' things happen. everything in the world follows deterministic laws including your own psychology and material conditions. if you don't have the material conditions necessary to develop a good psychological profile you won't get a gf ever, period, end of story. that's me, and that's the ironclad law my life has taught me. if you're not outgoing you won't put yourself out there and the only way to become outgoing is by being born and raised without trauma. if that's you, congrats, i'm happy for you. but don't come to me and say anyone can do anything as if you know what the FUCK people can and can't do.

Given that during covid normalshits lost their absolute fucking minds when they were away from their gfs for like a month i imagine it severely helps every single one of your mental issues and is a major block in not just feeling good but feeling normal. 99% of normalshits will try to tell you that it isnt that good and that their life was 100% good tell they met their girlfriend but then when shes gone have a fucking meltdown worse than any incel. It is the key to being considered not just succeeding in life, but as a normal healthy adult. If you have never had a girlfriend and you tried you are instantly put on a level BELOW rapists,abusers, pedophiles and even chris chan now. You are on the fucking BOTTOM. People treat you nicer when they hear you have one, every single study on longevity and health says it has a direct positive correlation with health and living long. If you felt like your life was missing something, its probably love. And if you dont ever get it and instead you just get brutally rejected your entire life you end up like me at 30 who cant even be fixed by the BAREST FUCKING MINIMUM that all guys were offered before 21. You just end up angry, bitter, and distrustful of any woman. The government could offer me one right now and i would reject it.

I got the message long ago. I am subhuman, and i will NEVER EVER have what is described in the screenshot i posted. I wish my parents fucking aborted me.

I'm in my 30s so I'm an old fart by now with no chance of getting a gf anytime soon. I was never in a relationship so I have some stupid questions. What do you even do with a gf? For example how does an average weekend with your gf look like? How do you decide when to go to bed together? How does sex happen?

OP here, thank you so much for the replies, going to reply to everything

>>33847773
It's a good thought. My immediate reaction is - does it matter? if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck and when you ask it if It's a duck it proverbially says "I'm a duck", isn't it a duck?

I don't think a dude has ever argued with a chick who wanted him and was actually normal and kind and loving. So... Love your gf, and hope that it isn't just your turn on the carousel!

>>33848599
Betting on things not happening aka not having expectations is a good thing, I'm learning that too.
But yeah I do think that you can influence things, I'm evidence. I was a complete hermit until March of this year, then I lost 40 pounds, started going to events, and now I have hobbies that I enjoy and I literally developed, from complete autism in March till right now - the ability to make friends.
But I won't tell you that you can do it cuz idk your situation. I do hope it gets better someday for you though.

>>33849540
That surprisingly did cheer me up, thank u for the picture and sharing your experiences. I think It's horrible that not having a gf is just a continuous downward spiral, I do feel like something's missing and that something, imo, surely is love. If the government offered me a GF I'd take it tho. I'm also near 30 (29 now), you're not alone brother.I think we can make it. that's why I'm hopemaxxing right now.

>>33849847
I think you asking these questions tells something about you - how do you spend your weekends? how do you decide to go to bed? when do you decide to fap? answer these questions&then apply them to your gf, does it look like a normal lifestyle? if no, then you have to change it to normal and then that's your answer on how It'll be done with a gf


thanks again to everyone for sharing, please keep it up, I'm hopemaxxing so hard right now and I somehow someway am getting less desperate with every day I go out and meet nice girls, even though nothing happened so far.

bump for extra stories because Its really good so far

>>33854928
One more from me.

>>33833624 (OP)
Youre not depressive anymore. Thats how it feels.

>>33833624 (OP)
Fuck it, if you want stories (or just boasting?)

I'm seeing a famous person now, and she's very sweet. At first we just tried to keep things relaxed because neither of us were really into being in a dedicated relationship, and she doesn't want paparazzi spewing out bullshit.

Over the last year we keep getting closer, to the point where I spend half of my time with her, we go out all the time, and she's patting my butt and hugging me in public. To know that someone who is so much more accomplished and better than you can care about a nobody like me is a mixed bag. I'm not worth it, but it also feels good.

We often make plans, but just end up talking all night and falling asleep in each other's arms.

The only really bad thing I can talk about is that she wants me to be bigger, so I keep having to turn down her feeding me.