Thread 33861301

i am an 18yo biofemale and i had sex with my boyfriend (23yo male) after 2 months of being together as boyfriend/girlfriend.

That was my first time having sex and he has had one sexual partner prior to me. I love him so i don't regret it but i'm worried this makes me a whore or could be bad for our relationship long term as i've seen alot of women say that after you have sex with men they will no longer like you/men are not to be trusted in this regard.

I really want things to workout between us as this is my first serious relationship and i've never felt this way for someone before. If what i did was retarded is there any way for me to rectify it?

>>33861301 (OP)
>I really want things to workout between us
>workout

>>33861301 (OP)
2 months is pretty tame in modern society. I wouldnt worry about it too much and i dont think many people would consider you a whore just for that.

>>33861301 (OP)
>is there any way for me to rectify it?
It’s not like you can regrow your hymen.

>>33861301 (OP)
You really just to hope he isn't one of those people that treats women worse after sex. There isn't really anything to be done. What type of person he is will be apparent from his actions. In the meantime don't worry about it

>>33861301 (OP)
>have a normal relationship experience
>have to question your sanity because other women beat you over the head with endless propaganda

Maybe foids do have it bad

>>33861301 (OP)
Sounds pretty normal to me.
What were you going to do, wait years to have sex with a guy you liked?

>>33861301 (OP)
2 months is respectable, don't worry about it. The only reason a girl who isn't a whore (you aren't, don't worry) would wait longer is if she's waiting for marriage.
Also if you ever do break up with him, body count only truly counts if they were hookups or short term flings. A guy learning you had a bf before and had sex inside of a committed monogamous relationship with him isn't going to be mad about it unless he's way off the deep end himself.

>>33861301 (OP)
if you try to rectify it that's how you destroy it. Just enjoy your bf

>>33861301 (OP)
>If what i did was retarded is there any way for me to rectify it?
What you did was unwise, though hardly uncommon. You surrendered what should have been a pledge of lifelong fidelity to a man who has offered you no such pledge in return. Once desire is satisfied, the veil of illusion it casts is lifted, and the man who appeared enamoured may find his ardor spent.

Passion is the bait by which nature ensnares us into propagation; it burns fiercely, but briefly. When it fades, only character and will remain; and these are the true foundations of love, not the fever of attraction.

Marriage, though a poor institution in many respects, serves at least as a covenant of will: a man binds himself not merely to his momentary feeling, but to a promise that endures when feeling dies. In this sense, it is the only safeguard love possesses against the fickleness of passion.

Of course, the way things work nowadays is different. The modern world, having traded duty for liberty, has made fidelity almost obsolete. Anyone may dissolve their vows at a whim, and promises, once sacred, have become mere words, easily revoked when convenience demands it. Thus, even the institution that once restrained human selfishness now bends before it.

You cannot restore what is given once; but you can resolve henceforth to treat affection not as a matter of sensation, but as a matter of character.

18yo, 23yo
first serious relationship
im so sorry for you

>>33861301 (OP)
Your boyfriend is a pedophile
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>>33861301 (OP)
I would dump any girl who didnt fuck by like the third date

>>33864010
This

>>33864010
>Your boyfriend is a pedophile
>>33864024
>This
He is not, she is 18 and he is 23. You are jealous and bitter.

>>33864024
>>33864010
nah, i don't look childish or anything and all his prior romantic interests were older than him
>>33863957
I don't think he is trying to take advantage of me, he is always very sweet and puts a lot of effort into our relationship
>>33861458
>>33863611
thank you for all the advice anons <3 i'll try not to stress it and just focus on the present

>>33864010
What in the actual fuck are you smoking?

>>33864010
You are the stereotype LGBT woke fatass American fag male karen with a penis and boobs I've been hearing about.

Go have sex with yourself because no one else will you disgusting creature.

>>33861301 (OP)
>i don't regret it but i'm worried this makes me a whore or could be bad for our relationship long term as i've seen alot of women

If he doesn't bring up sexual topics of fetish/kinks then yeah you should be concerned he'll see you as a slut but every sexual needs in a relationship are different. You'll just have to go with your sex toys or play with your clit.

If you're really wanting him and desperate open up that you're interested having sex with him and feel horny about him. The topic has to revolve straight up about him so it will never appear you being a slut.

There is nothing wrong with what you do it's just that how the person you do will see perceive the way you do and act. You need a lot of empathy and understanding to sugar coat your words without causing misunderstanding in the process. In all honesty he's probably gay at this point. If he calls you a slut/whore be prepared to call him out being a gay ass faggot who doesn't wanna have sex.

>>33861301 (OP)
Don't trust what every woman says, they say shit like that out of spite and jealousy because they'd rather see you sad and alone than happy with someone because it makes THEM feel bad

>>33861301 (OP)
been in a relationship at all prior to this?

>>33868073
i had an e-bf for two months when i was 15 but im not sure if that counts

>>33864659
That is not a needle. That is a thermal paste syringe.