Thread 33874498

Hey anons, I think I'm fucked. I used to grandstand daily on r9k about how I'd "only date le virgin" because I'm pure and my wife should be pure too to match me, swore I'd die before settling, yada yada and then i recently met a girl. I'm pretty young, and there's an age gap of about 9 years between us. She treats me respectfully and is considerate of me in a way I hadn't experienced before. I just click with her a lot. It's pretty clear from both sides that we're looking for a spouse. I made it clear I'm interested in her and somehow she hasn't run for the mountains yet. We've even talked about having kids and stuff a few times already just feeling each other out for now i guess.But here's the thing: she's had a long term ex before and isn't a virgin. And like... I'm not really bothered by it that much, strangely, but I also am? I wanted to be my wife's first badly, but I don't know if that's worth throwing whatever is going on right now in the trash. It's like I'm having an internal conflict about it.I'm honestly not sure what to do. Do I ghost her and double down? Do I just keep going to see where it goes? I'm fucking lost, any advice is welcome

>>33874498 (OP)
Well the trick to it is that you don't think about it. That's if you just want to enjoy the fruits of a long lasting relationship, which, if you really love her for her, you won't end up regretting it. Virginity is a forgivable offense, especially so if you find that she's a person worth giving yours too, which, ultimately, is your decision.

On the other hand you can judge her on the fact that you aren't and never will be her first and last. Just potentially her last. Don't get me wrong, one of my best friends was a virgin and wife up a girl who had a bf before him. They're inseparable. He was addicted to porn for a while but they're married now, have a house and are expecting a child soon. I even went to their wedding.

Like I said anon it's a forgivable offense, at the end of the day though it's up to you.
I'm a virgin at 27 on purpose (pretty much the same guy as you I've had gfs but didn't have anything beyond E Sex with any of them out of fear they would taint my body forever and that they would just leave me after the fact). Let's say that you do date her and it tanks. Now you have to deal with the fact your future virgin wife would have to forgive you, which, honestly is easy as fuck. But on the other hand if you skip out on this you're also missing out on dating experience while also never finding out if she was your one this whole time.

>>33874589
Those are some really good points anon thanks, Think i'll just see how it ends, she's nice, she's responsible and she doesn't treat me like a kid even though i'm way younger than her, hope you have a good one and hope you find someone soon

>>33874498 (OP)
>le purity
It's fake and gay. Just a made-up concept in your mind that you're allowing to control you. Just look at what's in front of you instead of the fake and gay concepts.

You are a young man who respects her and if she had a long-term ex she's probably not experienced much else besides that. She lost out all those years with someone she thought she would marry. Now she's running out of time and met you.

There's not a problem with this but just be mindful that the age gap has certain discrepancies in expectations. Don't take on a full grown woman as your child. Make sure she's independent enough not to lean on you as a provider.

If she's honest with the amount of men she's been with (that being 1 if I'm getting that right), that's a one up on the people coping about their ran through wives/GFs

>>33874498 (OP)
It would be one thing if she did hookups and ONS before, but if her only sexual experience with other men is through long term relationships (especially since it's one guy) then honestly who cares

See that's the thing about purity, it has you counting dicks. And even one is too many. But you'll be like is five dicks too many? Obviously 50 is a different ballpark. If you're trying to get a unicorn you got pretty close. At least she doesn't have kids. Might want to take your best bet

>>33875127
>9 year age gap between them
I'm gonna assume she's like 18-19
>only dated one guy before
>OP doesn't mention any mental illnesses or breakdowns
She's basically a unicorn

>>33874498 (OP)
She will never forget her first time with that other guy but feel free to be a good cuck who isn't bothered by that

>>33874498 (OP)
OP
Will you be happier settling or staying forever alone?
The only way for you to find a virgin wife is if you become a Jehova’s witness or something, and let’s be honest c’mon you post Moe girls on 4chan, that’s not gonna happen

>>33874498 (OP)
dude get real. you take the opportunities at love that you can get. From what i'm reading, you're golden.

So unless you live in middle east (like germany or sweden) where you can source guaranteed purity from your friend Ahmed, who will promise you his daughter and marry her to you as soon as she turns 13 - I would not delay here.

>>33874498 (OP)
You appear to be growing up. Scary, isn't it?

her ex will show up one day since they're still "friends" and btfo you so hard KEK