Thread 33884906

Seeing as how we get multiple threads a day on this same topic, let's try and condense it all here for the month of November.

It’s November again, which means a lot of people are taking on No Fap November — trying to go the entire month without porn or masturbation.
This thread’s for anyone on /adv/ who’s participating or just curious about the idea. Whether you’re doing it for mental clarity, discipline, relationship reasons, or just to challenge yourself — post here.
Let’s talk about:
Why you’re doing it this year
What’s helped you stay consistent
How to deal with urges and setbacks
Any benefits or changes you’ve noticed
Whether you think it’s actually worth it or just a meme
No need for “purity crusade” talk or shaming anyone who slips up. Just honest discussion and advice.
We’re one day in — how are you holding up?

>>33884906 (OP)
I forgot it was November and already lost.

Last year I lasted about two weeks before I gave in

This year I plan to go all month just for the hell of it
I remember the first few days being hard but I think I’ll be able to get through this month

>>33884906 (OP)
>Stopped doing it in summer last year
>Haven't done once it since like january.
It's not that hard, y'all coomers just need discipline. (I still get horny often.)

>>33884906 (OP)
>Why you’re doing it this year
my sex/porn habits are getting out of control
>Whether you think it’s actually worth it or just a meme
depends on the individual, for me it's necessary

>>33884992
could you elaborate on why those habits are getting out of control?

>>33885011
>why
regular porn addiction: what i used to masturbate to didn't hit hard enough after a while so i had to watch more porn and more intense porn to get off, it got so bad that i ended up paying prostitutes for sex

>>33884992
I'm just trying to quit porn. Staring at a screen for so long has killed my sleep schedule and while my thoughts are mostly just being desired and prayed upon by a moderately attractive women the shit I look up is way worse.

i went a little too far this year, i started watching BNWO ironically because the music was good in the spring, but i just kept watching. eventually i was reading r/cuckpsychology and getting really into erotic JOI audios that start with you just hearing "your crush" getting fucked through the wall but then the black bull catches you and your gf forces you to do bi stuff. i got an 8"x6" black dildo that really hurt at first, every time i had to tense and breathe through getting the big cock head to go in and just sit there for 5 minutes until i gradually started wiggling it. the last 6 months have been the best cums of my life as i just got used to slamming it in. i can have full seeing stars prostate orgasms within 60 seconds of insertion.

this week though i was cleaning my asshole in the shower and immediately felt guilty and hopeless. it's so loosey goosey now, it's not a struggle to get my dildo in at all any more. I'm 100% straight, but now even when I'm turned on by girls being pretty my immediate physiological response is my asshole starts winking and wants penetration.

I'm deeply, deeply ashamed of how far out of control i let this get so I'm doing at least a month of no porn and no nutting. i was just wondering if anyone had any good tips to get back into being totally straight sexually, so your prostate isn't involuntarily begging for pleasure any time sex comes up and how to get my asshole tight again? I'm really worried the doctors will know what I've been doing if they have to inspect it, or if i do start dating a girl (zero interest in men) she will feel it and go "why are you so well trained back here?"

also do i have to stop listening to gessafelstein and lazer sword and one true God and this other good music i made from things i heard in BNWO? it makes me feel like a cool guy to play it and gives me confidence

>>33885071
i only skimmed this but i think eyebleaching may be in order

Iv just noticed something right now that may sound really simple to most you, but i´ve never really stopped to realize it fully. I just really, from the bottom of my soul, don´t know how to cope without porn. Memories, pain, lonliness.

I work out, i pray, i go out, i try but always, in the end, i can´t sit with the pain of past memories, of anxiety. I don´t know how to live without coping, coping using porn.

>>33885256
Sleep bro, sleep is all it takes, forget about it
>>33884906 (OP)
>Why you’re doing it this year
I started fapping daily a few months ago
I feel ashamed for not controlling my urges
If nofap can give me super magic stuff then I'll practice it too
I want a challenge as well
>Whether you think it’s actually worth it or just a meme
100% worth it

>>33884906 (OP)
I would also say that if you want to browse 4chan without relapsing then you need to install 4chanx and automatically hide all images so you don't accidentally see porn.
Though you're better off just not coming here.

>>33884913
i think you need a second chance

>>33884906 (OP)
>Why you’re doing it this year
I keep trying to tone down on the porn regularly and sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. Obviously I've never managed to quit completely. But it's like the whole thing with new years resolutions, where having an "official" date for it tricks your mind into making it easier
>What’s helped you stay consistent
Knowing that the hardest thing to get past is the very beginning, where you're mostly fighting the habit. I've once managed to quit for 200 days and it becomes so much more easy after the first few weeks or so
>Any benefits or changes you’ve noticed
None of the magical bullish people keep posting about online. But the regular stuff you get from quitting a bad habit like confidence in regards to self control, one less thing to waste your time on, more motivation to do other shit instead
>Whether you think it’s actually worth it or just a meme
I think it's a bit of a meme to go in with the expectation that on the first of December you'll just go back to normal like nothing has happened.

Honestly the most annoying part is just how used I am to absentmindedly play with my nuts while sitting at my desk
>>33885366
I'd extend this advice by adding on that you should do some soul searching about what your triggers are. I know that for me some video games get me mega horny (even some that don't really have anything overtly sexual about them for some reason)

i'm part of a gooning server that's extremely active and i always join in on the VC's
i have been for the past few months and it feels weird not joining tonight
everyone's having fun and i can't join

>>33885256
I feel you, I don't think I rely on it unless i'm absolutely bored but i noticed that i always find my way back to watching it
Ive never gone a long time without it

>>33886535
this cant be real

>>33886641
there are literally tons of servers with 40k, 80k, 30k members
do you really think gooners don't hang out and watch porn together? lol

>>33886725
>>33886535
I've never in my life wanted to watch porn with another person, let alone some gross, porn-sick str*ght guys.

>>33886828
if you could read, I used the term gooner. clearly you're just a guy who watches porn alone.
i recommend picking up some books instead of shit posting on 4chan.

>>33886841
You are very stupid. The point of my post is organizing around gooning is a profoundly disgusting and pathetic past time. You should kill yourself.

>>33886878
Congrats on still not realizing that I do what I do because I enjoy it and nothing you say will change that. As you typed that out feeling strong and angry, you still have trouble reading.
A 4chan user who feels holier-than-thou. Absolutely hilarious.

>>33886888
Rope. Now.

>>33886922
Thanks for proving my point. Keep being angry.

>>33886934
>angry
Nope, not at all. The LORD will deal with you in due time.

>>33886969
>begs for user to commit suicide
>brings up god next sentence

Not only are you terrible with ragebait, you can't even do it properly. Because I know you'll keep typing angrily, please respond with something clever next time.

do i fap or do i not fap

>>33888662
do not fap

>>33888669
ok will hold out for day 2

>>33886535
>i'm part of a gooning server that's extremely active and i always join in on the VC's
Wait this shit's real? What the fuck dude. I thought that was mostly ironic shitposting. Do you not see how messed up that is?
>>33887015
I just wanna let you know, that people who act like you are the reason why I never wanted anything to do with Christianity. And it took meeting one of the nicest people in the world (who is religious) to remember that not all Christians are the 4chan types that seemingly just use their religion to justify hate against others.
Feeling righteous about someone else going to hell is kinda fucked up dude.

>>33884913
Every year is the same thing. Just start again and finish one day later. No excuses.

>>33885011
>could you elaborate
lol, elaborate on what???
If you watch porn and masturbate every single day, you're not ok, period.

>>33884906 (OP)
>Why you’re doing it this year
Getting married next year, want to quit using porn as a crutch and direct all that sexual energy at my fiance.
>What’s helped you stay consistent
Wife is gorgeous and a great lay, I'm not really doing "no nut" as much as I'm doing no porn. I'm gonna try being a lot more direct about wanting sex instead of dropping her hints, and be more forward about things I want to try with her.
>How to deal with urges and setbacks
By forgiving yourself for feeling the way you do and resolving to be better, same way I got through alcoholism years back.
>Any benefits or changes you’ve noticed
Nothing yet, only day 2.
>Whether you think it’s actually worth it or just a meme
In my case, definitely. In the case of anyone with porn addictions or particularly extreme fetishes, absolutely.

>>33884906 (OP)
Fuck it I want to indulge in some hedonism but, I need to quit porn as it's gotten to the point where I need tiny girls who talk about getting their cunny ruined to get me off.
That and I had a pretty bad mental break so I'm sure not gooning will help with the anxiety
No Nut November Niggas

>>33889274
eh I think it could be debatable but I guess at the core of your opinion is porn is bad and I can't disagree with that

>>33889409
>with particularly extreme fetishes.

So what is the consensus on someone who watches porn a few times a week and doesn't watch anything extreme? Even if it's solo girl content.

I don't think it's still 100% ok but is ALL porn bad or are there levels to it where we judge on a case by case basis?

>>33884906 (OP)
No fap implies nutting is okay.
If you want to nut, you should get into HFO by stimulating the prostate via clenching.
You can find some good erotic audios for this on /t/.

>>33889784
I've had some amazing nuts using my imagination via past experiences vs porn

>>33889796
Imagination + clenching resulted in some back to back hfos for me. So epic.

>>33889743
If you had problems with porn, you would know it. You wouldn't be asking.

>>33890513
This wasn't about me, it was more to spark a conversation

>>33889228
>>33884913
That's good advice for getting any bad habit under control or kicking any addiction.
Most likely you will "fail" sooner or later and how you deal with that is the biggest test (bigger than fighting the urge that got you to "fail" in the first place), do you beat yourself down and just give up, or do you accept that changing a habit is hard, setbacks happen and you just need to keep going.
>>33889409
>By forgiving yourself for feeling the way you do and resolving to be better, same way I got through alcoholism years back.
This guy gets it
>>33889743
My two cents are that it's probably similar to alcohol, smoking weed, eating junk food, wasting time scrolling through social media and similar bad vices. There probably is some "healthy" dose that you can get away with, but quitting outright will probably always be better anyways.
Also I've once talked about addictions with my therapist and they said that quitting outright is many times easier than going from an "unhealthy" to a "healthy" dose. Even if your brain will tell you to do the latter, because it will fight tooth and nail to prevent you from quitting.

>>33885071
>I'm 100% straight
Nothing of what you just fucking wrote was straight. You're gay, nigga. Anon, seriously, read what you just wrote.

>>33884906 (OP)
hi, never posted here before but I felt like this is the right place. It's nothing dramatic just putting my experience with no fap into writing.

i'm close to two months of no-fap after decades of doing it at least once a day and the only thing out of the ordinary is having a harder time writing text like i'm doing right now, the words simply come wrong and out of order. Not even sure if it's related, probably (reverse?) placebo. Other than that everything is kind of normal. Sometimes (once a week maybe) i get urges and my dick get precum'd but i just take a piss and it usually goes away. Really strong urges i just wash my dick in the shower with cold water.

When I go to sleep right now I don't instinctively grab my cellphone anymore and everytime I think of jacking off, my consciousness just slaps the back of my head like i considered doing heroin or some other harmful thing to my body.

Anyway, like i said, nothing too dramatic, I do feel better about stuff in general and that's something nothing else ever made me feel in a long time.

Same bull shit that happened last year is happening this year

I start this NNN, I get to day 2 or 3 and I feel this underlying horniness
Then once day 4 or 5 passes, it becomes super easy

Last year I broke around day 18 just because I was super bored at home but this year I won't

>>33891664
good job anon, two months is something to be proud of. i don't know if this a life long thing for you but taking a break is always healthy.

I personally want to go 90 days minimum but it won't be a life long thing for me

>>33891957
thank you for reading my post for the kind words

>i don't know if this a life long thing for you

I don't know either desu. One thing that kept my way in the beginning was the idea of doing the first step into forever. What should be the proper reaction for relapsing after a month? or after two months? six months? a year? should I be proud for hanging on for so long? should I be mad at myself for letting a streak go to waste just for a quick meaningless release? My biggest fear right now is exactly, what would my reaction be if I relapse?

>>33885071
Nice copypasta faggot

>>33892495
I think you should always be nice to yourself whether you choose to break your streak or not

I think the most important aspect of this is keeping it in moderation and if you're already on a break, you've proved to yourself that you can keep it in moderation.
Just remember to be kind to yourself

DAY THREE
How we doing lads

>>33893460
Good, my cock has basically stopped working i think the entire month will be smooth sailing

>>33893497
Mine is [spoiler] throbbing [/spoiler] most nights but I figure the nut on December 1st will be worth it

I have a feeling Thanksgiving break will be hard

How about NO FINDOM November?

I'm so fucking addicted to findom. The girl I'm talking to is so strict and bossy towards me. I just gave her $600. What did I get in return?

A few DMs about how I'm not fit or capable for making decisions on my own. How she's so generous to be making my decisions for me.

And I'm fucking hooked. I believe her. I'm a retard who needs a woman to tell me what to do.

Do I just kms? I can't stop myself when a strict, dominant woman tells me what's best for me. I really feel like I need her in my life.

I'm 36 and never had a girlfriend. This is all I have. And it's technically not a porn addiction because she's not a sex worker. I receive no benefits other than being controlled. She's just a random girl on Twitter who likes being in charge.

>>33893560
what the fuck

>>33893460
so far, so good

>NNN

Just another retarded trendy bullshit for zoomers

>>33893755
just say you're an angry porn addict

>>33893755
i know you're a faggot who gets off to men with pent up sexual energy masturbating because of you (or on you if you could have your way), but you're still stroking your microdick alone

I was at the point of literal daily fapping. Sometimes not even hard when I did it. JUST doing it for the sense of peace, post nut.
Getting on ADHD meds seems to be a massive factor in this and getting some other aspects of my life together.
I've got a family of my own and a good career, but this has just been how I've handled stress forever.
Actually getting medicated fixed a few issues in my life at once. Overall, now I'm just not a crunched up ball of stress with no working memory anymore. That I'm at day 3? And not even fighting with myself to keep from hitting /gif/? It's crazy.
>>33885256
I know what you mean. Whatever my reasoning had been previously, where I wanted to stop, those voices of reason would just be entirely absent. Like stress eating. You know it's retarded out of the moment, but in the moment... no one's home behind your eyes.
>>33885995
>more motivation to do other shit instead
That's a big motivator for me. The hours of energy I've wasted where I could have been working on a project that gets me closer to my life goals. Silly.
>>33893776
I get he's a retard, but yours is the second gayest post of the thead. That's not a healthy headspace to live in.

i'm not horny but i'm so insanely bored, i don't know how i'm going to last 30 days

>>33894188
run

>>33884906 (OP)
I need some comments/thoughts on my situation

I have a fetish for women acting like sluts in public settings, so sluts/OF models thirst baiting on insta is what I like the most. The appeal is unironically that they're humiliating themselves insta and a combo of the "begging for it" kind of thing and I crank it imagining myself fuck them.

Most of the women I attract IRL have a humiliation fetish too but I have health problems and haven't had sex in years.

so anyway its not like I'm cranking it to porn all the time technically, but I still think this was unhealthy. But at the same time I'm not getting a gf anytime soon

I thought of doing NNN, but I for health reasons I had to quit sugar this month (like ALL sugar) and that alone is a massive undertaking with withdrawals and stuff so I figured I may as well nut here and there because I could legit go crazy qutting both at the same time. I may join in for the last half of Nov or do a no nut December instead. But then I'll be horny as fuck over the holidays which would be weird.. idk.. no nut january?

>>33894262
hi, not sure if i understand what are you asking but reading your post I felt the need to ask, and i'm doing this in the most non-judgemental possible. Is there a chance that the reason you're not doing NNN is a cope? Be honest with yourself if you tried no nut october or september would you have also found an easy motive to not do it? I ask this because i fell into pit traps of reasoning my own vices like "i can stop whenever i want, i'm just having a rough time lately/i'm having a too good time lately/i'm just bored/my favorite show ended/price of smokes have gone up again/i've been watching star trek and beverly crusher is too hot/etc/etc..."

>>33894284
i guess it is a cope. I'm having a lot of anxiety around my health problems and feel like I need nutting as a temporary break from it here and there. I'm also genuinely worried that any additional stress could worsen it

so yeah, I will not do NNN this time just because I need to keep stress as low as possible but I won't be cranking like crazy either, just in moderation because I just can't handle "one more thing" rn but I will go on a break when things settle. Idk I just can't risk the additional stress.

>>33894317
cool man, i'll be rooting for you. Try to set a date in the future and go for a week, see if it works for you. I started small but then I managed to go a lot further than I ever expected of me

If you genuinely do NNN you're a faggot. Just stop completely bruh it's not even that hard. Porn addiction is not even real. Learn to take accountability and controll whatever urge you think you have. If anything you engage in the addiction because you like suffering and ofc there is comfort in missery.

>>33894374
not only is this poor bait but you should try harder next time

>shit myself
>get turned on
I don't think NNN is for me

>>33894188
same but i've picked up old hobbies to fill up my time

>>33884906 (OP)
I was able to successfully curb off of mommydom ASMR videos for a year but now I'm obsessed with them again. I never was able to get rid of porn but after realizing how mediocre sex without companionship is but realizing how improbable my chances of finding love is I've been sinking further into delusion and don't know how to stop. I'm back to being jobless and being stuck in my room all day.

>>33893560
Damn that sounds like a sweet gig. Are the DMs text only? Would it be reasonably possible to set up a findom account as a dude who poses as a chick?

>>33894188
Boredom is good btw. We live in a world where the internet has effectively eradicated boredom from our lives and that shit is horrible for mental health and creativity. Harness the boredom to pick up new hobbies or start a creative project.
I've actually started a little habit where every day I deliberately sit down and do nothing for a set amount of time and just exist in my headspace. As a sort of "artifical boredom" kind of thing. It's surprisingly nice.

>>33884906 (OP)
I've lasted one day longer each time I tried. Only 27 more years to go

>>33894188
Same. I just keep playing porn games but without masturbating now. I just have 2 extra hours to kill

I quit nicotine effortlessly because it was clear the tachycardia and high blood pressure were gonna kill me. The negatives of continuing and the positives of quitting were obvious, so I successfully quit.
When I was a teenager I lost 60lbs one uear going from obese to normal weight. It was successful because, again, the negatives of staying obese and the positives of being normal weight were obvious.
I even recently started running which I've always absolutely hated. I've worked up to running almost 4 miles every other day. Again, it was doable for me because the positives of doing so were undeniable.
With fapping/porn, I'm just not convinced. Wrt time wasting, I waste so much more time doomscrolling this shithole and KF than I waste on porn. Wrt productivity, I'm achieving most everything I've set my eyes on, and if anything is getting in the way of bigger success, it's the time I'm wasting on vidya, doomscrolling, etc, not porn. Wrt dopamine, I really don't feel like it does anything to me that a few deep rips of a strong nicotine vape doesn't do. Which is obviously not great, but not a debilitating life ruiner.
The only thing is that I do suffer from ED. But I also have a bunch of mental and emotional problems that predate my discovery of porn. On the stints of being porn free I've had in my life, these problems never really subsided. What does help, however, is being comfortable with a girl; thw first few tries at sex might suck, but after that I could fuck her like a champ 24/7 regardless of porn use.
For these reasons, I'm out.

>>33895960
it's fine, if anything it's a good thing that you don't need nnn

>>33884906 (OP)
This challenge is for weak men that want an excuse to feel empowered and placebo effects of not nutting.

Show discipline throughout your life. Simply masturbating every now and then wont harm you nor is it good for you to avoid it. Keeps your prostate healthier. Minimum once a week either with a girl or yourself.

No nut novembers is exactly like fat bitches who drink exclusively water. Everyone knows it doesnt mean anything.

>>33886535
I checked out a few of the servers and I don't get it. It's a bunch of people jumping through hoops to justify their obsession with penis.
>"troon shit, i'm actually a girl!!!, im straight but i love girl cock"

What happened to just being gay?

>>33896327
>I checked out a few of the servers
how tf do you even find them

>>33884906 (OP)
>Why you’re doing it this year
Porn addiction, so far not being anywhere near my phone helps

Honestly just trying to curtail my use of porn in general. I've fixed most of my health issues, gotten in better shape this year, lost a bunch of weight. Porn is kind of one the last things I'd like to kind of drop. I don't care about stopping jerking off, but turning off porn would at least make me more willing to try going on dates.

I just wish I hadn't have wasted my teens and 20s by not dating. I wouldn't be so damaged.

>>33896495
This is good anon. You changed some other stuff in your life and you want to improve even more

Good luck on your journey

>>33884906 (OP)
3rd of November and I still haven't beat my shit

>>33897365
day 3 and my penis is tingly

>start no fap late because forgot about novemmeber
>hit by a sudden was of severe depression immediately(not related to porn i promise)
>still dont masturbate, but got drunk alone for the first time in my life.
I hate life i hate women im just waiting for my parents to die so i can die

>>33897954
The alcohol is a depressant so if you felt low before, it'll make it worse after.
Things get better anon.
Remember to be kind to yourself.

>>33898032
>Things get better anon.
Ive been waiting nearly 30 years for the better things to come. They dont. Fuck off

>>33898051
Ah, you're just bitter at everything and anyone. Even someone who wishes well for you.
Congratulations on that.

>>33898060
No shit anon

DAY FOUR

How are we doing?
Anyone feeling like they'll either make it to day 30 or break before?

>>33898189
I'm bored and I've been exposed to a lot of porn while browsing 4chan so it's kinda rough right now, should be better after I wake up tomorrow

>>33898189
I've once gone 200+ days without porn and the first week or two was absolutely the hardest, because I was so used to jacking it out of habit. Breaking that makes everything a lot easier.
That said I'm currently in the type of mood where usually I would have allowed myself to jack off pretty much just out of boredom and fighting that is crazy difficult.
I'm confident in making it 30 days, my real worry is if I just relapse into my old habits after that or manage to keep pushing

>>33898189
>How are we doing?
I got hard reading someone's instructions on how to fuck a dog.
I am down bad fr.

I failed :( (Aussie so it's day four nighttime here)
At least two days longer than last year...
I miss when AI didn't exist, back before on demand AI generated erotica I can cater to my exact fetishes/kinks I consistently made it past day 10, now my libido is through the roof (it's made faps better quality though can't complain on that front)

>>33889784
>>33890337
Where did you learned how to hfo?

>>33888662
To stroke the salmon or not to stroke the salmon, that is the question...

>look at calendar
>it's only day 4
it's going to be a long month...

I just do it to challenge myself... I have pretty much jacked off once every week for this entire year, so a little break is good. Just control your horny and challenge yourself lads, if you already failed don't panic and start your 30 day nofap challenge from today itself

the depression came back... it was there when i was fapping but fapping was a escape... now it hurts. But if it hurts either way i ratter hurt because I'm getting control of myself instead of succumbing to desire.

>>33900256
lmao this is me
I’m realizing how often I’d add in jerking off to my schedule that now when I don’t do it, i have to find other shit to do
but I’d rather keep going than stop at day 4

>>33898189
Terrible. I am extremely lonely and all I can think about is being held by an older woman who loves me. All my creative energy is gone.

>>33898189
I pretty much coom once a week anyway so nothing has changed yet.

same shit as last year
I get to days 3 through 5 and it’s when i feel it most
then it’s smooth sailing up until the last week

Day 5. I'm still kicking.
The hardest part for me isn't the no fap, it's the no porn. I still go to it as a crutch. And when you get hard, you want to beat your meat. Granted, my intake has reduced a lot in these past few days but I feel more pent up than ever.

>>33898189
DAY FIVE

Although we’re still in the first week, it’s no reason to give up now. Distract yourself with other goals. Stay disciplined and focused.

>>33898390
The real test now is, if you just give up or see it as an unfortunate setback and keep going.
>>33900256
>>33901518
It'll become easier once the habuit of it gets weaker

>>33902811
I'm failing today. I'm sorry bros, I don't feel creative and I'm unable to focus on learning anymore.

Today is tough man. A perfect storm of bad weather, an injury preventing me from doing sport, big loneliness episode, financial trouble and my closest friends being busy really doesn't help

>>33903335
I won't even begin to describe the terrible shit thats happening to me.

I'm going for a walk though.

You have a choice desu.

Day 5, going strong.
I am still depressed from my breakup, so it has been easy so far.

>>33903372
Nah man, I don't plan on giving up. Just know that whining ab out it a little does help sometimes

I got hit with a pleasure wave this morning while grabbing some milk from the fridge and had to stop, hold on to something and focus so I could ride it out without cracking. Full on moaning and everything, shit was insane. Please tell me I'm not the only one experiencing this? It's only been 5 days...

>>33903717
I get these too. Been at a half chub all the time since yesterday, like my soft cock has gotten bigger. Super sensitive to literally everything.

>>33903778
I literally can't sleep with pajamas on or under covers anymore since any fabric brushing on my dick gets me rock hard. I'm afraid if I fell asleep I'd end up having a wet dream

>>33903801
Wet dreams don't break NNN they're part of the experience

>>33903848
technically you get one (1) mulligan wet dream. If you have two you fail

I'm finding myself fantasizing about the more intimate aspects of sex as the days go on. Not just fucking and cooming.

is masturbating without porn "better" than masturbating with? After decades of jacking off at least once a day, i've decided to go without for an extended period of time just to see if I can do it, but after reading about other men's porn addiction i've realized that many of them resent the idea of having to consume porn, but 90% of the times i've masturbated were without porn, just "theater of the mind".

Not trying to use this as an excuse to break my streak, i've been doing fine this past month and I intend on keep going until at least new year's eve. Anyway, keep strong, anons, wagmi

>>33903961
It is better yes. Issue most have though is if you're trying to break a porn addiction masturbating and porn have become so interlinked in the mind that doing one without the other is nearly impossible and typically leads to using porn again.

Nofap just makes me stupid horny all the time
Never really noticed any benefits
The number one thing is to NEVER TOUCH YOUR PENIS WHEN IN A PLACE WHERE YOU CAN FAP

>>33903896
this tbqh. All the little things you don't think about, like the eye contact, the scents, tactile sensations, etc. FUCK I'M SO GODDAMN HORNY AND LONELY

>>33904179
it's actually crazy how much of your mind is captured by horniness and fucking lust. It's like a dense fog that's ever present, only clearing for a few seconds once you've actually nut and fed the beast.

Really curious how monks can break through that and ascend beyond lust and earthly pleasures

>>33904202
This post gave me a boner at the gym. Pray for me boys.

>>33904306
I hate that w*men can make me feel this way

Almost lost
Opened twitter to search for something completely unrelated to porn and some big asian titties popped up
Had to delete the app at this point

>>33904367
props to you for staying strong brother. WAGMI

i've gotten addicted to cam girls where i send money and sometimes do one on one interactions, its all bs but it gets me so charged up and feels so fun, it affected my relationship, any advice on how i can get myself away from this stuff, i keep going back because its not only fun but theres this rush of the interaction. also just curious of ur thoughts on this while in a relationship, is this like a deal breaker, relationship ender

>>33904441
leave your relationship
you already made a mistake and if they find out
you are cooked
you have a fetish for being a paypig which is a whole other topic but you can also achieve the same horny high without spending money

another random pleasure wave...fuck bros...I don't know how long I can keep this up

lost nnn
wondering if i should try to get back on track and try to stop watching porn or if i should just completely give up

>>33905112
might as well get back in the saddle and try to finish the rest of the month without nutting. It's all just a self-discipline challenge anyway, nothing too serious

>>33905112
Cut yourself some slack.

end of day 5
doing fine actually but there's still tempting content all over this site and my media feeds, need to find a way to stop myself from automatically open the images to ogle them
What's gonna happen by the end, will I magically want to talk to women again? Never dated anyone at 30 so I don't even know if I would be able to get hard at this point since my brain's fried from all the hentai lol it's over for us isn't it

Lost. But I lasted 5 days and I'm pretty proud of that. This is my first NNN in a long time so I'll hop back in and see if we can make it 10 days now.

I haven't fapped once since August. I had one setback in beginning of september, and one other 5 days after, that's it.
>Join an online community to talk to every day
>Tell yourself, you will be more confident when you stop fapping, so you can belong more into the group
>Tell yourself, you will attract woman when you stop fapping
This is how I did it. I literally had let me think..5 girls since then who reeeaaly wanted me. They were all mentally ill freaks but still, I haven't had contact to other woman since I was like 23 and I'm 30 now.

This shit works, it really does. It completely changes your biology and thinking and behavior. You will become the man you always wanted to be. I also grew more chest and belly hair oO
But the most important thing was truly, turning to Christ. In him I am completely reborn, a new human, a new me. I still sin, mostly with lusting after woman and lying, but I didn't touch and stroked my penis once since august, and these two unfortunate accidents. But even if you fail sometimes, don't give up and return to your old habits. You didn't "Reset" anything, you just had an little accident. That's all.


AMA.

DAY SIX

We are almost to number seven which means we will be right around 25% of our goal.
How is everyone feeling?
What has been the hardest for you?

Day 6, had a dream where I started getting freaky with a very humanized version of Isabelle from Animal Crossing. We started groping each other and getting naked and then and then I woke up.
Thank god.
I am not a furry and I never even played that game man wtf is my brain cooking

>>33906409
>I'll hop back in
That's the most important part mate.

>>33906409
Start again and nut in 5 days again? That is your plan? Start again from today and finish 5 days later

>>33906594
Yea... But around 20ish %
>What has been the hardest for you?
Hardest part haven't even started yet

>>33906715
Wtf is this?

>Log-
Day 6: Nothing, no urges, no temptation, hopefully this will be easy

Feels like this is making my dick bigger. Haven't been soft since day 4.

After a week my morning wood has returned

Day 6: i feel like i'm going feral, i'm basically hard 24/7 plus i've been edging and i have blue balls, it hurts af but i'm too horny to stop

I find that I crave beating off to porn more than I desire having sex with actual women. When I get horny I just want to goon not crush some puss. Even in my erotic dreams I just dream about watching porn on my computer.

>>33884906 (OP)
jew psyop to reduce fertility

I haven’t cum since early October, so I’m already on day 33 or 34, but I figure I’ll just keep it going. Like others, I haven’t been able to cut porn out completely, which is really the long term goal. Or maybe not? I just feel like an alcoholic falling off the wagon any time I want to go back to looking at porn. 20+ tabs open, edging for up to an hour. Luckily no truly degen shit.

I really just want to find a better source of emotional regulation. Even yesterday, I was feeling super anxious and shitty and looked at porn for maybe 15-20 mins and it helped. The ED is also not great, but I think past trauma is an equal contributor to that.

I’ve already wasted so much of my life online looking at porn and fapping, I’d like to look back on the next 10-15 years and not say the same thing. Maybe have more actual sex or accomplish something worth being proud of.

Is it bad that I have been nofapping for 2 months but am not stupid horny like most of you? I feel like I should have more of a sex drive but I mostly don’t even think about it and when I do am mostly indifferent. I’ve got my T checked too and it’s all normal.

anyone else they find they'll come across porn because it's been a bad habit?
i've instinctively opened up Twitter vids, porn sites, even gif just out of habit until I realize there's nothing to do since i'm not jerking my dick right now

>>33907983
>I've been edging
Yeah, that's the key to blowing your load and losing. A couple years back I tried to make it through by downloading a picture set of Ava Addams. Each day I was allowed to view one additional picture in the set and I'd just tease a bit. Ended up accidentally shooting off so hard then proceed to jack off at least twice more that day. NNN was gone that year.

You gotta replace the gooning with something else entirely. Not just try to stop cold turkey.

>>33909662
Most of the men doing NNN are just beating off every day...

>>33909790
You gotta replace the fapping with something else. For me I found my purpose in life and started cold approaching women. Cold approaching builds up a skill we all need and *very* few men do it because most are too afraid. Nothing bad ever happens, lol. And I know that if I jack off, i'll just be skeeting away my confidence and renew all the approach anxiety I've destroyed. I know this path nets me real pussy so I'd rather get experience from rejection than reset my progress on something that truly gets me what I want.

>>33910456
I haven't jacked off since September (I think) and I occasionally bring up porn. It's just force of habit I think. Spending an hour or two downloading gigabytes of HD porn from torrent sites then not even watching or beating off to it.
>>33910336
It's not bad. You've probably found things to replace the habit in your life. Masturbation doesn't really serve your real needs anyway. It just sucks away energy and confidence all for 5 seconds of "bliss".

>>33910494
Some what same. I don't know why but today I just had to look up busty Japanese tits just to browse a few pages then closed off. Didn't even touch my dick. I'm pretty sure it's out of boredom but I'm hoping the habit dies out sometime soon

>>33910499
It is dying down. Are you doing anything new to take the space of the boredom? Most dudes miss that component and that's why it's so easy to fall back into it.

>>33910517
I WFH so I'm pretty busy all day with that stuff but when I have some down time, I'll go to whatever porn sites I like to see if they have any new updates, browse it, then close it.
It's just a bad habit.
But in terms of actually jerking off, it used to be every night but instead I work out now and it's been amazing at keeping me busy.

DAY SEVEN

Here we are.
Most people say the first week is the hardest to get though, would you agree?
How many of you are still going strong will plans to reach day 30?

Remember to stay focused and keep yourself busy.

>>33910635
I'll get back into working out. But for me, It's been starting my business. I've found my life purpose. So I need a clear mind and vital energy to pursue that and cold approach women. Very good motivation to not jack off.

>>33910780
It's all about occupying your idle hands so you don't busy them with stroking your shaft.

>Edged but didn't nut
This is extremely important >>33910780
Next week I'll get back into running after a month off

>>33910780
>How many of you are still going strong will plans to reach day 30?
I'm confident I can go for 30. The real question is can I go beyond?
It's like the whole thing where studies show that new years resolutions do work, because having an arbitrary date assigned to something you want to do, does give you a boost in motivation. So I wonder how easy it will be to keep going once the arbitrary restriction of "It's November" is over

>always thought I was addicted to porn/masturbation
>due to depression my libido has been lower lately
>given the coincidence, decide to give NNN a try, just because
>it's been 7 days, I've had 0 impulses, never opened a porn site, never touched myself

Is something wrong with me?
I don't think this is how it was supposed to go
I honestly don't feel abnormal or different or anything in any way, just more bored because I used to fap when I was bored
I feel like I replaced porn with scrolling instagram reels and nothing else changed
Will I get an ed from this...

>>33911049
Try using a simple if/then approach to breaking the habit, like “if I feel the urge to fap or look at porn, I will stop what I’m doing and do 10 pushups.” Like others have said, it’s often a way to kill boredom, so you need something else to fill that time. Hell, even try meditating.

>Log-
Day 7: Same thing, no urges as of now. Other than it being more sensitive (but this happens when you go for a week without nutting)

I nut once in a week, sometimes I'll go more than a week, so for now it's like any normal week.

Day 7. I'm more lonely than horny now. Women with beautiful eyes make my heart ache.

>>33912102
So start cold approaching women. Do the thing which few men do and build a strength that few men have. That's what I've been doing the past two weekends. I've seen a lot of improvements in my life even though the numbers I've gotten haven't panned out yet.

>>33912199
I don't even know where to begin with that. The idea of randomly approaching a stranger for no other reason than "you're cute" makes no sense to me. What do you even say?
I have the balls and am running out of other options but I have no idea what to do.

>>33912404
>I have no idea what to do.
You're in luck. I explained this to someone in the htgwg thread yesterday
>Excuse me, can I meet you?
or if I'm in the mood I'll say
>Excuse me, have we met before? (No) Well do you think we can?
>What's your name
>Are you from around here?
>Why haven't I seen you before?
I usually approach in bookstores or Target so I might add:
>So what are you looking for today?
Then I continue
>Anyway, I just wanted to say hi because I thought you were pretty.
>Do you think I can put your number in my phone? You seem cool.
And if I'm in the vibe I'd say this following question before asking about the number
>Is this gonna be the last time I see you?

That's a basic script. You can fine tune it to yourself over time, but that will get you to where you want to go. If she's not interested
>No problem, you have a great day.
Or if she has a boyfriend
>Ah well I hope he treats you right. have a great day.
Simple. Straight forward. Easy. The thing to remember is: you WILL get rejected sometimes. Just focus on making the approach and speaking. That's a victory in itself because you pushed past your fear for 1 and 2: you become part of an exceedingly small group of men who have the willpower and mental strength to do this. Focus on conquering that as your benchmark of success and the contact info will naturally come as you improve. Then it becomes a game.
>Oh shit, I'll say *this* next time
>well damn, that didn't work.
Soon, you'll be able to approach without even thinking or even specifically going out for that. Could be chatting up the chick in line at the post office. Or you were at the shoe store and someone hot walked by. You'll have your shit on a hair trigger ready to execute at any time. I personally noticed that I look other men in their eye and do the whole head nod thing or a brief greeting because I'm more present and confident in my body. Its pretty cool actually.

>>33912415
nta but just reading this gave me anxiety, and I do cold calls all day

>>33912425
>nta but just reading this gave me anxiety, and I do cold calls all day
Trust me, it's a lot easier than you think. I started by watching cold approach POV videos on youtube for a few days. Then I started talking to women at Target. It's so easy. Not because you get a number every time. But...because nothing happens if she says no.
>Oh have a nice day
She forgets you ever existed within 5 minutes. You forget because you're already looking for the next prospect. You do cold calling so you already know it's just a numbers game. You get better over time and it's just about skill and fine tuning your script and dealing with objections. You'd be perfect for this type of thing. That is, if you decide to stop fucking your fist and get at some real pussy.

>>33912415
>Excuse me, can I meet you?
That's pretty smooth. Alright, I'll do it. I tire of this bitchless existence. Here's hoping I don't get stabbed or thrown out.

>>33912810
>I tire of this bitchless existence
Exactly. I recently saw a quote that puts cold approaching in perspective:
>Would you rather go to sleep rejected or a bitch?
Like...I'd 100% rather be rejected because at least I can say I tried. I don't have to wonder "what if" a year from now. And I got more experience while still making approach anxiety my bitch.
>Here's hoping I don't get stabbed or thrown out.
Nah, don't speak that into existence. You are never a creep for approaching. You are always a creep for continuing to talk to a chick that's uninterested. That's the key difference.
>Short answers. Is constantly looking away. Not even facing you.
Leave it alone. Actually, I saw a good example on Instagram recently.

https://www.instagram.com/p/DPNoGzvCTQD/

Another piece of advice: Watch POV cold approach vids on. youtube and instagram. It really helps you visualize what you're doing and how it can go.

>>33912842
>Watch POV cold approach vids on. youtube and instagram. It really helps you visualize what you're doing and how it can go.
I used to do that. It's hard to insert myself in there when the guy filming is always 6ft+ with a gigachad face. I'm very /fit/, white, blue eyes, dress nice, take care of myself, but my face is a 4/10 at best even with effort.

>>33912944
It's not about inserting yourself in so much as it's watching how the interactions go to familiarize yourself with it.
>but my face is a 4/10 at best even with effort.
The problem with this is you don't know what's in a woman's head. There are women who specifically go for your type because they want to be the prettier one in the couple. There are women who will legitimately find your face attractive. It's just like dudes who like shit you don't. There's someone who likes fat bitches, heavily tattooed bitches, chubby bitches with no ass but huge tits. Bitches with zero tits and gigantic asses. There's no one set type of woman that ALL men like. Same thing for women. There's someone that will like you. And it's your responsibility to find them. And the fact that you're fit puts you ahead of most men before considering anything else.

Fix your mindset. It's the one thing holding you back.

Day 7
I'm busy with other stuff, porn isn't even a consideration.