Thread 33892395

Did my girlfriend rape me /adv/? Last night she brought up that she’d like me to call her mommy while we’re having sex but I told her it weirded me out because of the implications of incest that word has in a sexual context. I didn’t think much about it because we’re very open about exploration in our sex life. Later we were on our bed and I was tied down. She was edging me and kissing me. She was telling me how much she loves me and how hot my muscles are but things got complicated at the end. That was when she started telling me to call her mommy. I told her that we talked about this and how I wasn’t comfortable. She squeezed my dick with her hand giving me a bit of pain and told me that if I wanted to cum I’d have to call her mommy. I started begging her and that I was getting blue balls but she kept edging me. She knew exactly how much arousal she needed to give me to keep me just on the edge. I couldn’t take it anymore and gave her what she wanted. I called her mommy then a huge wave of pleasure and relief washed over me. I felt very conflicted about it. It felt weird but in that moment I kissed her and told her I love her (which I do but it felt like I was rewarding her for breaking my boundaries.) After a few minutes of cuddling together I told her that I still felt uncomfortable with calling her mommy during sex which she responded by saying that I clearly liked it and that she hasn’t seen me enjoy myself like that in a while. I told her it’s just that I enjoy sex with her not that I enjoy calling her mommy and that I wanted to never do call her that again. She dismissively giggled replying “Never say never baby boy.” I think she wants to train me to accept this new kink of hers by coercing me. I doubt that next time she won’t try this again. What do I do? I she doesn’t seem to care about my boundaries if it means her sexual satisfaction.

>>33892395 (OP)
dude... yeah, thats so fucked up... she raped you man. you gotta call the cops, or at the very least, dump her. you dont need your mind to be poisoned like that bro! just find someone who wouldnt treat you like that. good luck

>>33892395 (OP)
Okay but is she your mommy? obviously not. It's just a roleplay kink holy shit. You need to break up with her since you can't just spit out one word "mommy".

Tell the police, your family, your friends. Let everybody know how much of a manlet you are.

I apologize for what you went through, but I would have came multiple times if that was my girlfriend...

thats pretty fucked up dude, yeah she raped you
the best you can do is to end the relationship right there, it doesn’t matter how much you love her or how much “fear” (if thats the right word) you have, if she can cross your boundaries in the sexual aspect she can do it on any other aspect of the relationship.
good luck man :-) you are not alone !!

>>33892395 (OP)
i'm sorry, but bdsm stuff is so stupid to me
>tie myself because it's hot being sexually controlled by another person
>other sexually controls you
>nooo not like that! (cums anyway)

anyway, you might have to put a leash on this bitch of yours OP or she might peg you next time

>>33892395 (OP)
Bro this is so fucking hot. Break up with her and let me have her, you obviously dont appreciate her.

>>33892395 (OP)
I had an ex do a similar thing except instead of making me call her mommy she beat the shit out of me and slapped and punched me in the face and told me to shut the fuck up. I almost cried. Most confusing orgasm of my life. Still hot though.

>>33892395 (OP)
OP I'm in love with your girlfriend, please introduce me. Show her my post please.

>>33892395 (OP)
i want her now i need her please god

actually i dislike the proclivity of pushing boundaries that forcefully
but i uhhh

>>33892395 (OP)
No this isn't rape, mainly because you didn't withdraw your consent. That doesn't mean what she did was necessarily good. She pushed you into doing something you weren't comfortable doing and used the physical pleasure of sex to excuse/cover up your discomfort with that kink.

If she tries this on you again, you can try a few things.

> Talk to her before sex and tell her that you'll go along with this kink, but only if you can try a kink of your choosing on her in return. You probably got a bunch of untried kinks, pick one and go with it. Only go along with it if she's willing to play tit for tat. If she doesn't want to make it fair then she's trying to dominate you for her own desires instead of for the both of you, like a degradation thing some people make their partners do by violating their boundaries. If you're not enjoying the sex as much as she is (and I mean ACTUALLY enjoying it, not being coerced by unwanted sexual pleasure) then it's a pointless power play on you at best and harmful at worst.

> Try flipping the kink back at her and make her call you daddy or something during sex instead while being on top. This one depends on how she reacts to it. If she's comfortable with doing this then return to option 1. If she tells you she isn't comfortable with doing that then make her realize that's literally what she coerced you to do the first time. If she refuses to realize this that's a big red flag.

> Pull yourself away from her. Get up and get off the bed/couch/wherever you are and stop her from touching you. Make it clear to her that the mommy kink is uncomfortable for you and refuse to continue the sex. If she tries to hurt you while you back away, like by yanking your dick really hard or shoving you around, those are big red flags that she wants to keep you dominated there, and THAT would be the start of a rape. Obviously this is the nuclear option, so only do this if the other options have failed.

>>33892395 (OP)
idk rape her back

>>33892395 (OP)
I won't read creative writing threads

>>33892395 (OP)
You were coerced into giving in, but you also didn't withdraw consent.
>No, stop. Get off of me.
That didn't happen. You 100% need to take a break from sex for a while and have a serious conversation about how she broke your boundaries.
>Nutting doesn't mean you liked it.
>You told her no and she did it anyway
Don't let her gaslight you into thinking what she did was okay. If she doesn't get it, then you need to institute the break. You need to do this regardless of her response, but don't say anything about it until the next time she wants sex. Then you reject and explain why.
>You broke my boundaries and I don't want to have sex for a while.
You save that notification for when she tries to initiate so she has to really think on it. And don't give in no matter what.
>>33892730
Not gonna lie bro, all the advice you're giving is incentivizing her ignoring his boundaries again.
> Talk to her before sex and tell her that you'll go along with this kink, but only if you can try a kink of your choosing on her in return.
That doesn't address that he doesn't want to do the mommy shit. He has to give in to do that. Maybe he'll want to? But the tone of his post is leading to a no. In that case, this is horrible advice.
>Yes honey, I'll do what I don't want to do if you pay me off.
She doesn't have to respect him because she can just use a loophole.
>Try flipping the kink back at her and make her call you daddy or something during sex instead while being on top.
Bro. You're telling him to flip it back onto her by doing some shit she'll probably want to do anyway. Again, incentivizing her to break barriers in the future.
> Pull yourself away from her. Get up and get off the bed/couch/wherever you are and stop her from touching you. Make it clear to her that the mommy kink is uncomfortable for you and refuse to continue the sex.
This is the only thing you said that makes any sense and leads towards respect.

>>33893040
>Not gonna lie bro, all the advice you're giving is incentivizing her ignoring his boundaries again.
Shit it does come off like that. I am retarded, sorry.

My first 2 suggestions are shit in this context. Under the pretense of BDSM-like conditions per OP, those can be easily misinterpreted and make the situation even worse.

I was trying not to immediately assume the gf was being intentionally malicious but possibly misinterpreting the complaints as actually part of the roleplay. Then I reread OP and facepalmed that I skipped over reading the first sentence.

OP should probably not have sex with the gf anymore if she's gonna intentionally violate his boundaries like that. If OP really wants to continue though then he needs a safeword. Again, sorry for the retardation.

>Did my girlfriend rape me /adv/?
Not rape. You went through with shitty sex.
If you don't feel comfortable with it, don't do it again with her.
>She dismissively giggled replying “Never say never baby boy.”
Yeahh... op is super fake. Hope you're getting off on
>>33892649
>>33892671
>>33892696
>>33892522
thirsting over your dumb ass

>>33892395 (OP)
Her mom is probably a controlling manipulative narcissistic cunt, and she hates her. So she takes revenge vicariously through you.
And you obviously enjoyed it tremendously.
Seems like a lot of fun.

The bad news: she is probably like her mother and bad things awaits for you if you end marrying her.

she basically forced you into doing something you clearly didn't want to do, that's beyond disrespect, and what a healthy relationship should be, if you wanna call it rape then it wouldn't be wrong. it may be sad, but if talking this with her doesn't work then end that relationship, because she clearly doesn't respect you and this may turn even worse down the road. 'cause someone who loves you doesn't make you suffer like that, always remember that anon

>>33892395 (OP)
I would normally say shitty larp but this was well written, made me hard

>>33892395 (OP)
>>33892671
OP please. We can share. I'll pay half the rent. You guys don't understand, I was fine until I read this and now I want to kms because I will never have this.

>>33892395 (OP)
Is your gf's name Erin? This sounds like the way she would talk. I miss you Erin.

>>33894441
Where do you even find girls like that, what do they look like

>>33894529
Tinder, many years ago when it was easy. Liberal queer feminist types, so they come with baggage and complications. The game has changed significantly since then though so idk... Find a way to get involved in a local kink community probably next best option.

>>33892395 (OP)
I got hard reading this btw

>>33892395 (OP)
"my steak is too juicy and my lobster is too buttery"

>>33892395 (OP)
This guy is living the life that 95% dream and yearn for in r9k

>>33892395 (OP)
judging by the op image you were fine with it

>>33893286
TBF she didn't *force* him to do anything, he could have just not cummed and had blue balls for a bit if he really didn't want to do it.
Doesn't matter though because this thread is a LARP anyway.

>>33892395 (OP)
Impose a safe word, it would prevent that kind of thing from happening again.

Without the safe word there's an implied consent, with it it's black and white sexual misconduct.

I'm finding the OP kind of annoying, but if this escalated to her wanting to eat my ass and not understanding a “no” because she thought it was part of the LARP, THAT WOULD BE A PROBLEM

>>33895493
I hope the safe word is "mommy."

>>33895384
It's not true dude. I am >>33892656. When you are with someone that you have that strong of feelings for and you are that into having sex with them, you can't help yourself. She was hurting me a lot. Like seeing stars, might have a concussion, feeling like she is going to rip my fucking dick off. I kept telling her to stop. I genuinely wanted it to stop. I kept trying to defend myself, and instinctively curl up into a defensive fetal position. I didn't want to come. But I couldn't help it. She just knew exactly what she was doing and my body just responded whether I liked it or not.

>>33895562
That sounds so funny

>>33895562
Bruh just overpower her

>>33895644
Easier said than done, especially if you know you don't want to hurt her. When you're with an abusive woman you kind of just have to turtle up and protect your face, because if you fight back or make any marks on her at all, you go to jail even if you were defending yourself. Usually you can just weather the storm til she tires herself out. But if she gets a really good shot in it changes things. Have you ever seen an mma fight? Guys get rocked and are on the edge of consciousness and all they can think to do is cover up and hope it stops. It was like that.

>>33892395 (OP)
You just had to break free from the chains with the strength of LGBT pride and sit on a dildo, which is what you wanted from the start, you miserable little faggot

>>33892395 (OP)
Is this smut?
Anyways one of two things. Either
(1) the ties are just for show and you could have seriously broken out of it if you didn't want it, which you should have done, or
(2) you actually let a psycho bitch tie you up inescapably without properly vetting her and knowing that she would respect your boundaries
If it's (1), then you should do that next time or communicate it clearly pre-sex. If it's (2), break up with that bitch.

>>33892395 (OP)
can you imagine ?
can you anons imagine if the opposite happened?
hitler was right