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Anonymous No.33897576 [Report] >>33897865 >>33897920 >>33897936 >>33897965
Am I ugly or uncharismatic?
She said “I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship”.
I feel like this is one of the most common things in the world, and it’s happened to me before, but this time it really stung.

Been talking to this girl (lives in another state) for about 2 months. Having video calls weekly, texting, the whole lot. She says she’s down to meet in person so I go there.
After I get back I ask her if she would be interested in a second meeting. She’s a bit hesitant, I leave it alone for a couple days and then call her and ask her if she’s thought about it any further. She says she’s “confused” and “not sure if she’s ready for a relationship.”

Hits a bit worse than usual because the date actually went well, we had a good time and she was laughing, but seems like I wasn’t enough. She said she enjoyed the date like she was out with a friend but was unsure if she wanted to continue.

I think it’s either my looks or my lack of “rizz”. Maybe I should’ve complimented her more directly (I’m pretty bad coming up with good compliments beyond “You look pretty”, and on the first date idk what else to say) or maybe trying to get more physical touch…

I’m 27M and have little experience with dating, so it might be joever for me
Anonymous No.33897865 [Report] >>33897946
>>33897576 (OP)
You just try again with a different person. Doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. You should work out more too, no situation that isn't improved by being fit
Anonymous No.33897920 [Report]
>>33897576 (OP)
>She said “I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship”.
Ahh that old line. I remember hearing that once, then the girl that said it to me got a long term bf about a week after. Dude was a complete loser too. Fuck women
Anonymous No.33897936 [Report] >>33898494 >>33898500
>>33897576 (OP)
It could always be worse. Just a couple mi ths ago i got ghosted by a girl who acted completely obbsessed with me, and kept telling me how interesting funny and mature i sounded. Then we got to the point of sending eachother pics, the second she saw me.... blocked.
Anonymous No.33897946 [Report]
>>33897865
Yep, already been going to the gym and dropped a ton of fat and put on muscle and not stopping. I genuinely think I’m just shy around girls and don’t have “rizz” (or whatever the kids call it these days). I can make jokes, lighten the mood, but I suck at turning that into sexual/romantic tension.
s No.33897965 [Report] >>33898012
>>33897576 (OP)
You are low status
s No.33897971 [Report]
relative/local low status*
Anonymous No.33898012 [Report] >>33900407
>>33897965
Def doubt that. Not the best looking nor charismatic by any means. But money/status isn’t my issue
Anonymous No.33898494 [Report]
>>33897936
Damn, sorry anon. What a witch.
Anonymous No.33898500 [Report]
>>33897936
lmaooo
Anonymous No.33900393 [Report]
You should post your feet pics to get a proper judgement...
s No.33900407 [Report]
>>33898012
What is your status?