Thread 33907508

so, essentially, during the night, my bf and i are super close and he’s so happy, we’re making love, yadda yadda, doing all this stuff together. however when the daytime rolls around, during the week i should say, when he’s got stuff to do for school and whatnot, he seems a bit… indifferent? it’s weird. he’s still very loving, just his demeanor changes a bit i suppose.

this is my first relationship where i’ve actually lived with someone, so this is very new to me. sometimes i wonder if it’s me, but the one time ive asked him he just said “nah, it’s just bc i got stuff to do”

so moreso my overall question is, how can i get it out of my head that it’s a me thing? we love each other so, so much, and i tend to get fixated on some thoughts like this. im not interested in falling into a doom spiral over this, so if theres any help on how normal this is, or what i can do to get past it, i would greatly appreciate it

thank you all

>>33907508 (OP)
Have you tried asking him the same thing?

>>33907522
asking what? how to cope with it?

>>33907508 (OP)
its true, he has stuff that needs to be done during the day and it probably weighs him down until its done, find your own stuff to work on to distract yourself

>>33907508 (OP)
You say it's your first live-in. Perhaps you are expecting it to be at the same intense level of lovie-dovy 24/7. It is absolutely natural for other things to demand one's (his AND yours) attention at various times. As long as he comes back to you each evening, there is nothing to worry about

>>33907619
yeah, i tend to just clean or play a game or whatever when hes busy. it doesn’t bother me a ton or anything, just passing thoughts. thank you.

>>33907647
you’re definitely right, it’s just a bit new to me having it happen in degrees. any time we snuggle in bed or after the days done it’s reassuring at least. makes a lot of sense, at the end of the day im still his and i should take that to heart. thank you so much

>>33907508 (OP)
>>33907619
>>33907647
This. He's being a man with shit to get done, deep down that's why you're fucking him lol.

>>33908353
can’t tell if you mean im gold digging. i’d live with him under a bridge in cardboard box if that was what we had to do. i love him that much. i was homeless, and if i had to be homeless again, it would be a world of difference as long as he was there by my side.

if you mean it’s a subliminal “attracted to a hard working man” thing, maybe, i do love his dominance and manliness

>>33908434
Wow you're dumb

>>33908443
dudes surprised im dumb when im a woman. braindead behavior to not know that already. men, i swear lmao