Thread 33907728

How do I come to terms with the fact i will never be socially fulfilled? Im physically unattractive, traumatised and completely unable to relate to others.

I have decent social skills amd a gandful of friends but litterally no ability to connect with people on a deeper level. I feel like most of my relationships are just kind of something I do not to go completely insane from the isolation but I feel like they're pretty surface level and I doubt anyone would care if I died tomorrow.

I think that even platonically im fucked becuse my mind has just diverged too far from normality becuse of past events and romantically im doubly fucked because of this plus that im unattractive due to my height.

>inb4 stop whining and giving up on life
Im still living as well as I can outside of the social aspect and im not whining so much as I genuinely want to understand how to deal with this situation.

there are ugly women as well
>but muh standards are above my traits
you deserve to be an incel

>>33907840
Ugly women still have friends and sex.

>>33907840
What? I litterally highlighted my mental health and trauma as the main crippling factor to both platonic and romantic relationship. Being ugly is just a secondary thing that cripples me more.

For the record i wouldn't mind a ugly woman who is nice, intelligent and loyal

>>33907728 (OP)
I feel like in this situation, it's good to sit down and look at your options. For all we know, maybe one day you will be sociall fullfilled. I mean hey, after all, you got some friends, which not all people might have (or atleast small number of them or even like 1 friend).
But for the sake of not diverging the topic, hypothetically if you were to remain social unfullfilled, I would reccomend going to Church. Not only does it draw you closer to God, but also gives a sense of welcoming community. I also reccomend finding people who are just like you. Remember that there are many people on this planet. My IRL friend I met randomly on the school hallway and I am a pretty not-so-social person.

>>33907840
ugly women have no problem finding bfs and friends.

>>33908563
Yes because women innately bat within their own league, they just aren't risk takers.
If you're some 4/10 manlet, you just won't walk up to some model girl and score right away. Simple as.

>>33908563
>ugly women have no problem finding bfs and friends
Yes, other ugly people. Plenty of people are willing to have sex with girls below their physical standards but not date. The vast, vast majority of people end up in relationships with those of relative attractiveness levels. Ugly chicks aren't pulling 10/10 chads for long term committed relationships.

>>33908368
I live in a very very secular country, at one point I was Christian but when I attended church there was maybe a 5 or so people aged 50-80 each time.

Also the issue is not really with getting friends, i have 6 or so friends that I regularly hang out with. The issue is that I feel only a kind of social connection and very little emotional connection.

I can grab a few beers and im decently good at talking and cracking jokes and I am also very emotionally invested in my friends, I care deeply about them and their happiness but I just feel that its not mutal. People only seem to enjoy the social aspect but they seem to have no emotional affection for me and I think that ultimately boils down to such a stark difference in how our fundamental psychology is wired that they cant understand my feelings or passions or self really becuse of alot of abnormal suffering ive had in life compared to the avrage person.

So to put it simply: i care for my friends socially and emotionally, they only seem to care for me socially. This disconnect leaves me constantly socially unfulfilled becuse I feel like people *enjoy* being around me but they dont *care* about me.

In retrospect socially unfulfilled might have been the wrong way to phrase it, im more so emotionally unfulfilled and I fear I might be for life.