Thread 33913136

I want to break up with my gf but her mother has terminal cancer and only has a few weeks left according to the daughter.

We've been dating for 3 years and I'm getting fatigued of supporting her through the many disasters she has. I just want my life back.

Should probably do it before you have to plan a funeral and then deal with the emotions after, which would be worse than anytike before.

>>33913143
Anon I thought about this and I don't think there's a good time now. I feel like I'm gonna have to ride it out for 6 months.

I'm secretly hoping the hoping the doc gives her 2 more months so I can disappear the following week and not feel too bad.

Her dad has diabetes and he's probably next. The thing that bugs me is that she's on antidepressants and there's a slight chance she will hang herself if I walk.

I feel so fucking trapped. How did I walk into this?

>>33913175
that's called life retard, your parents will be dying too and surprise, so will you

>>33913175
You undoubtedly say "I love you" to her yet the words are as hollow as your resolve. It is only a matter of time before tragedy will befall you as well, then whom will YOU have to lean on? Whatever woman you have at the time, right?

Kill yourself, unironically, scum.

>>33913175
If you ever felt any love for this person you ought to be there to support them as their parents pass. Doesn’t mean you have to do it as their boyfriend, but disappearing would be chickenshit.

>>33913273
>then whom will YOU have to lean on?
my self. Everyone has leaned on my but when I lean on them they disappear.

I'm just tired anon. My dad died from cancer so I know what it's like to go through it. Never leaned on anyone at that time either.

What's wrong with being selfish for once in my life?

>>33913282
fuck off. You've never been through it. You keep yapping like you're some anime protag. Most men would have walked I stuck with it for 3 years. Even watched her sleep over the phone when we didn't live together because she used to have panic attacks. I drove 2 hours to her place at 3am to look after her then drove to work in the morning.

3 years of fucking torture just hoping things will get better. I'm just fucking tired anon. I want out.

>>33913362
You waited 3 years and you cant ride out the last few weeks? Pussy shit

>>33913222
>that's called life retard, your parents will be dying too and surprise, so will you
My situation was supporting my wife through her parents' illnesses and deaths. After they passed, she wanted nothing to do with my parents. Yes, OP's parents will eventually be in the same situation... will his GF be there for him?

>>33913175
>I don't think there's a good time now

You'll just have to take my word that girls are exceptionally resilient when it comes to shaking off traumatic events like this. The best time to break up is when you've made the decision to break up. Anything later is just wasting her time.

She'll bitch and moan to you and make you feel evil for doing this to her, but that’s just her processing the shock. She'll recover faster than you expect, and once you witness this, you'll gain the superpower of being able to cut people out of your lives who logically don't serve you but emotionally you are attached to them.

Few men ever experience this though, so good luck.

>>33913527
I'll be fine. I have already been through it with my dad and no support. At this rate I think it will be easier.

Next time I'll pick a healthy young zoomer with healthy young parents. Less bullshit to worry about.

>>33913545
You're right man. But I feel so fucking bad. I don't want her mum's last moments to be comforting her daughter over a bf she new for 3 years.

I also don't want my last legacy to be associated with her dying mother.

>>33913362
>if you loved this person you should support them even if it means not dating them
>YAPPING ANIME PROTAG!!!
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>>33913136 (OP)
Get her to break up with you

>>33913527
well that really depends on a gf he chose, but man, what the fuck is the point of a partner that doesn't support you, you would save a ton of money by just buying a rubber doll

>>33913547
>Next time I'll pick a healthy young zoomer with healthy young parents
yeah, and see her running out of the door the first time you show sign of health problems

>>33914301
It's alright I have life insurance and a good pension so my family can bury me in peace.

I decided I'd would go on vacation and end it on my own terms if I have cancer rather than let my family suffer.

>>33913136 (OP)
why do you want to break up with her? because she has disasters? every woman will have "disasters" you have to support them through, your gfs disaster seems very legitimate, and she would hopefully return that favour to you in the future when your loved ones die, and ultimately become strong and dependable life partner.
The next woman you date would expect you to support them through petty disasters such as their instagram account getting hacked, or having panic attacks over not being as pretty and popular as her friends. And repeat with the next inconvenience because they haven't experienced real pain.
You feel trapped but this is what relationships are. You are expected to be there when they feel bad, and they are expected to be there for you when something bad happens to you. That's the beauty of it. Alternatively you can tarnish your 3 year growth with another human being and swap your life for loneliness and meaninglessness disguised as freedom, but you wont have someone who will freely look after you in return.

>>33913136 (OP)
That's what you get for playing white knight.
It's one thing to support someone through normal things like family members dying. But if your partner, male or female acts like a baby and you have to coddle them because they cut themselves, have "episodes", have an eating disorder, can't take care of themselves like a normal adult (but there are literally children out there who work and support themselves and take care of responsibilities without being coddled like a typical modern SSRI-roastie), then they are not girlfriend material, definitely not wife material, and only maybe pump-dump material.
I mean for the lurkers: Learn from OPs mistakes. When you play white knight you are just flushing your life down the toilet. And even after they are gone the trauma stays, the parts of of your soul that you sacrificed are tricky and time-consuming to get back.

>>33915390
Don't listen to this retard. If you white knuckle your way through a mentally unstable gf and build resentment, your relationship will fall apart eventually, she's just going to divorce rape you and then you'll be extra traumatized. It's likely she'll kind of notice that you think she's insufferable and that will be her excuse to do whatever she wants to get back at you for wasting her years.

>>33915444
Thanks for understanding anon. Everything you said is true. I have gone through shit too and I have dealt with it. I shouldn't put my life on pause because someone can't deal with their shit or has made bad decisions in life.

They have to add value to my life or fuck off. Simple as. I'll stick around until the mother goes. Help out with the funeral. Have some sex and fuck off.

That's the only path that gives me peace of mind in the long run. I left the as a man.

>>33915595
I’m not even saying who’s right or not here because I don’t really know the intricacies of your situation, but you are an insufferable and stubborn faggot. Any advice that was sincere and not just sucking you off and saying you’re 100% right for wanting to ditch this woman you either ignore or lose your shit over, but anyone willing to ball wash you gets all your attention and admiration. If you wanted a bunch of sycophants to call you Le not the asshole you should’ve just gone to Reddit.

>>33916059
No I understand. I accepted being an asshole a long time ago. At least I get to sleep peacefully at night.

I'm tired of paying the price for the fuck ups of other people. I only have 1 life too.

Thanks anyway anon. Without you I would have been in limbo crying like a bitch.

>>33913136 (OP)
>her mother has terminal cancer and only has a few weeks left according to the daughter.
start her on chlorine dioxide protocols

>>33916317
Are you a bot?

>>33915595
a man's duty is to protect and provide for his woman, the bearer of the family, and to provide stability and peace as the head of the household. you are leaving as a boy, who is leaving because the reality of life is too difficult.
where will you be once you break up with her? what are you going to be working towards? the only real lifeline you have in life is family. abandoning a girl you have dedicated time for 3 years because she is naturally distressed by a heartbreaking yet inevitable situation is not moving your life forward, but backward. Likely your reaction is also due to your own fathers passing, which you yourself has not come to terms with, which is why this situation is giving you such fear
you dont have to deal with anything but you are what you do.

>>33916935
>a man's duty is to protect and provide for his woman
holy betacuck
>just be a good little slave bro