Thread 33920143

How do I deal with envious people everywhere I go? Family, friends, workplace
People treat me unfairly and act as if they are justified and then the next moment they're seeking validation from me and trying to measure they're own worth. Are they retarded?
This is a huge obstacle and burden. Nobody ever helps me. Everyone tries to take from me but also associate themselves with me implicitly. It's like a coordinated effort to tether me down and cut me off from resources for the benefit of the group

This is schizophrenia.

>>33920168
Fuck off, everybody tries to take me down a peg. It's impossible to get anywhere

>>33920189
I promise nobody gives a fuck about you in any way.

>>33920213
I understand what you're going for but it shows that you don't understand my situation more than anything

That's just how some people are.
Pay your black tax

>>33920143 (OP)
Establish boundaries. Call them out on their behavior. If that does not work then cut them out
Im talking specifically for "friends"
I cannot say anything in regards to your family & work.
If your friends are envious of you than they aren't your friends at all, call them out on their behavior and if they refuse to change than cut contact.

>>33920315
I'm not black and I'm not financially successful but that's an interesting comparison
>>33920360
It's lonely when you cut out all the takers. I used to be a giver but I'm trying to turn into an asker. I don't want to be the glue who gets taken for granted anymore

>>33920143 (OP)
It sounds like you need to adjust your perception of the situation a bit. It sounds like are you come across as unfriendly, you make people feel rejected by being so paranoid and defensive by default. You should think about how you treat people, and how they aren't out to get you for no reason, you are pushing their buttons unintentionally.

>>33920405
Do you feel miserable around your "friends"?

>>33920143 (OP)
Make friends slower. Make zero commitments. Make zero promises. Don't let any schedule or agenda be held against you. Don't compromise on your owm morals, personal space or time.

Only make friends with other givers, with other people with a spine, with other adults, however you want to put your actual minimum bar.
If they can't be that, ask them to stay - far away!

When someone knocks on your door and is insistent on you opening it, all you have to do is load your gun and wait.
Stop meeting people halfway in shit, let them come to you and face them down if they're not nice and good to you.

(This isn't some kind of profound, final life advice but it's a way to minimize the cost of this problem you're having. You'll know how to live your life when it's down to a manageable size.)

>>33920561
What you're missing is that in some places, people are just aggressive, untrustworthy, sly and miserable by default, their idea of friendship is base and ignoble, their plots and offers are worth rejecting, and they should feel bad because they are bad people.
OP is clearly pushing their buttons simply by not getting down to their level completely enough, it's true that more button-pushing won't help but that doesn't mean they're not OP's moral inferiors.

They may be that, as unhelpful as it is to make a definite determination of such a matter, OP needs to know that it may be the case keeping a hygienic distance from the sick may take priority over learning from his unjolly fellows.

>>33920143 (OP)
You think you deserve to be top dog, but you don't. You aren't cut out for popularity, so stop trying to be popular.

>>33920732
Is it any honor to be well-liked by such weasels? Absolutely not. I'd rather they shunned me socially and kept things safely impersonal when they were required to interact with me.

>>33920736
You'll just have to go ahead and set the example cause they won't.