Thread 939621569

how can i make someone obsessed with me? i want him to be completely obsessed by me in the most unhealiest way possible, i love him too much i want him to only look at me, i want him to stalk me

>>939621569 (OP)
I think I dated you once

>>939621569 (OP)
He would have to be mentally ill to do that. If he's not, he won't get unhealthily obsessed no matter what you do.

>>939621631
me???

>>939621755
I mean, probably not literally, but yeah you remind me of how my ex was.

>>939621703
oww (i mean its cool if he's not mentally ill but im sad because i want him to just bag for my attention

>>939621802
is that a bad thing?

>>939621802
Cluster B, am I right?

>>939621882
huh

>>939621933
https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-are-cluster-b-personality-disorders

>>939621569 (OP)
Step 1 is making sure he's okay with you having a dick.

>>939621861
Hmm. She's an incredible and complex person and I'm very proud to have had her in my life.

But it's a tough ride to be like her. As a general rule, I'd advise people to avoid somebody like her.

>>939621882
Yep NPD

>>939621957
oh

>>939622014
uhh i'm transgender thats gonna be hard for me to have a penis (FtM)

>>939621569 (OP)
that's cute, ngl

>>939622088
Still doesn't change the fact that you're mentally unstable and want him to be the same way.
Are you talking to a therapist?

>>939622088
K. Show us your fat clit.

>>939622167
She won't, calling it now.

>>939622143
you think so?

>>939622160
its been a while i havent seen my therapist

>>939622143
it seems cute until you have to live with someone calling you 24 7 and never giving you time to do your own thing

>>939622167
no i only show it to him

>>939622299
i will give him the time he needs to do his stuff

>>939622326
So why would any of us help you then?

>>939622206
i find it cute that someone is so obsessed that they want to do all those weird things like stalking or even consider kidnapping. it's like a broken love
>>939622299
i guess that my life belongs to them. if we're a couple, i already devoted myself to them

>>939622403
i dont im panicking i want him to talk to me but he's busy

>>939622445
know*

>>939622422
it gets old trust me

>>939622422
finally someone that understand me

>>939622445
Lots of men here that could give you insight into how a cis-male mind works, but you know what it'll cost

>>939622445
Go chat with your gooner buddies on discord.

>>939622499
i'm a nutjob myself. i don't mind having another nutjob at my side
a bit of craziness makes life exciting

>>939622543
like??

>>939621569 (OP)
Hot thought, not so fun irl

Have you been assessed for any personality disorders or anything like that?

>>939621569 (OP)
Glad to know you have narcissistic personality disorder, but it should come naturally to you on how to do it. Use fear of abandonment as a leftover. He must always be chasing you. He always needs to feel like he isnt measuring up or needs to do more. Alternate between hot and cold, shower him with affection and then take it away, then give him tiny little bits of it to make him addicted.

>>939622619
This is what he means.

>>939622622
idk i was diagnosed with depression but thats all, but i think i might have bpd im not so sure

>>939622619
Tits, t-dick, holes. You know the drill

>>939622665
oh but he alread has it on snapchat lmaoooo

>>939622669
BPD wants to be the desirer, NPD wants to be desired.

>>939622704
No, he means he'll give you advice if you show him on here.

>>939622537
cute crazy anon

>>939622660
okay!!

>>939622774
i only show them to the boy i like

>>939622660
Kek, nice.

>>939622829
Tell that to >>939622683 not me

>>939622829
Then get off my website.

>>939622777
hehehe

>>939622861
is someone jealous?

>>939622905
Ask reddit for help. You won't get it here.

>>939622960
yes but its maybe easier to find someone on reddit than here bc this thread will get removed

>>939622669
Gotcha.

Try and find yourself a decent therapist and float the idea with them, I can take a solid guess but I'm obvs not a doctor. Maybe discuss this idea you have of being stalked by your bf at the same time.

Very few people are wired in a way that will make him do that. Of those, very few are actually safe to be around.

But idk what to do with your desire which is filling you, and tbh /b/ in general isn't the greatest place for advice on that. Seek a competent professional.

On a lighter note, it IS kinda cute. Just... Not workable or 'real' in terms of what you can actually get.

>>939623072
ty for the advice!!

>>939622998
There's an archive made of every thread posted.

>>939623175
i dont think anyone would try to find my thread again here

>>939623072
aha!
told you that it's cute. anon agrees

>>939623155
Yw

I'm rooting for you! Sorry if it wasn't the advice you wanted but I promise it's good advice.

Do you have any irl friends you can talk to about this kinda stuff?

>>939623305
i do but i dont really go out and stuff soooooo

>>939621569 (OP)
I will do it but if you start losing interest you gonna be sorry.

>>939623384
huh

>>939623353
That's fair, but at least you got some support. We all gotta have that.

>>939623273
I do.

>>939623472
yea you're right

>>939623384
She's got a boyfriend and means a specific guy.

>>939623566
Possibly uncomfortable question, but... He IS into you, right?

>>939622829
if OP is who i think he is, i have his nudes and i'm not sharing them

>>939623658
"He''s a girl so...

>>939623721
he's a boy with a boyclit and hairy nipples

>>939623826
Proof?

>>939623852
on my PC, all for myself to appreciate

>>939623852
Nobody's posting proof, thankfully.
I"d rather not see a girl covered in hair from hormone therapy.

>>939623939
I would. Their clits get huge and throbby and their pussies get extra sloppy

>>939624000
See, I like girls, I like twinks, but anything in between does nothing for me.

>>939621569 (OP)
Why obsession? Why is just him loving you not enough?

>>939621569 (OP)
if you are a female, all you have to do is smile and ask if he wants to have sex. it's pretty easy retard.

>>939623649
he's calling me with pet names and when i say i wanna kiss him/cuddle him he's like "please do"

>>939624202
Because she's mentally ill and wants attention. She can't get it from her boyfriend so she's getting it here.

>>939623658
sadly i havent start testosterone yet so thats not me

>>939624284
Good! That's all you need rn. Just suggest some time together and arrange for when you BOTH can dedicate some attention to each other, and see what happens.

>>939624315
Not that anon but good luck with it!

>>939624407
thank you stranger, you're very sweet i hope you're having a good day! :3

>>939624202
i cant stop overthinking of the worst like he would leave me for someone else, so if i make him completely obsessed with me he wont leave me for someone else

>>939624458
Thank you :)

Today is meh but better for having hopefully helped someone.

when did /b/ get so pussy whipped lol

>>939624562
yayy

>>939624547
Too much of a good thing can become toxic/suffocating/cloying

Let things flow naturally. He already likes you, so they will.

>>939624665
She doesn't want that though. She wants an unhealthy codependent relationship.

>>939621569 (OP)
mel?

>>939625011
who's mel?

>>939625058
Another npd girl i guess

>>939625115
okay?

>>939625058
>i want him to be completely obsessed by me in the most unhealiest way possible
that's impossible unless you're a succubus.

>i want him to stalk me

you're already doing that.

>>939625159
It seems he mistook you for another girl named Mel, because you act the same way. Guess reading comprehension has really declined in schools lately.

>>939625324
ah okay

>>939625298
mhh true

>>939621569 (OP)
This might seem an odd question, but how do you feel about YOURSELF?

>>939625431
i completely hate myself

>>939625370
How can you make him obsessed with you if you can barely understand what people say to each other?
Half the planet has a pussy ass and tits. You've gotta set yourself apart by being better than other girls. Smarter than them.

>>939625431
"He" is "trans", so what do you think?

>>939625526
im a trans male but okay

>>939624562
this anon is kind and deserves a hug

>>939625520
Yeah, I kinda thought you did. Or you wouldn't feel the need to have him so extremely drawn to you 24/7/365.

You don't seem that bad. I'm sure you're capable of Some Real Bad Stuff, but I don't see a monster here. I see scared vulnerability.

He seems to be somebody whose thoughts you value, and he likes you, so there's that too.

What do you think's so bad about you?

>>939625566
Don't believe the psyops

OP's issue isn't gender, it's NPD (or similar but almost certainly NPD)

>>939625583
You have not taken hormones. You are both biologically and visibly female. If I call myself a King, does that give me any power over people?
And nice job ignoring the point I'm making to stand on phrasing. A man wouldn't act like such a little bitch about it. Nut up if you wish to claim to be a man.
Back to my point; what do you have to offer him that he can't find somewhere else?

>>939625701
Hug gratefully received, friendo

>>939625520
don't hate yourself, OP. i think that you're a valuable person, just a little lost with your feelings. but the rainy days will pass eventually

real answer: suck his cock. a lot
do it shamelessly. suck his dick so well he wont even remember what porn is
very few girls (youre a girl btw) have any head game and deepthroating is the best possible physical sensation a man can feel

do it regularly and you will have him not only obsessed but addicted. your flaws will barely matter to him and he will always rationalize away bad behavior

It's kinda funny how pooners think they can become "men" when they'd end up as the most low value men around; overly emotional dickless manlets with croaky voices and tits.

actually ride his faggy cock with your boyhole(s). make him feel super gay over you

>>939621569 (OP)
looks like OP left

time to abandon thread

>>939625978
you're a kind person thank you

>>939625740
i dont know, i used to get abandoned by the people i loved the most, that's why im so insecure

>>939627680
<3
>>939627770
*hug*

>>939627836
thank you sweet stranger :)

How did you meet him? Does he know you're this obsessed with him?

>>939627770
Because you get attached too quickly and have an anxious attachment style. And it will not end well unless you work on yourself. You smother the people you care about with affection to the point where they want to escape. Unless you get healthy it won't last.

>>939627884
i met him online, he doesnt know that im obsessed with him (or so i think) because he didnt say anything about that so

>>939627770
Abandonment is one hell of a drug, and not a fun one. But it isn't a reflection on you, and even if it were it isn't a permanent one. I used to be an arse, not an awful person but a real pain, and I don't judge who I am now against that.

How old are you?

>>939626047
This only works if the man doesn't have any self respect or other options, you'd also have to psychologically break them down and make them dependent on you.

>>939627924
im very anxious in general thats why my therapist gave me some pills that helps me calm down but it makes me very sleepy

>>939627980
im 18

>>939628016
No, anxiety and anxious attachment styles are 2 completely different things. It has to do with how you were raised and your personality. For someone with so many mental issues you don't seem interested in getting better.

>>939627951
What have you tried to make them obsessed with you?

>>939627924
>You smother the people you care about with affection to the point where they want to escape.
that's what normies do. there are people similar to OP who want this

>>939628106
i dont know how to explain this, i am trying to get better but at the same time it feels safe to not be okay? i dont know if you will understand what i mean by that back as a kid i used to think of killing myself at a very young age but i never did it

>>939627986
most men are willing to throw self respect out the door if it means insanely good sex

how do you psychologically break them and make them dependent?

>>939628049
Bad news first: You have only so much life experience and you're still developing. Life and dealing with your head WILL feel overwhelming sometimes. Or often, or constantly.

Good news: It gets easier. You keep getting older and realising that actually you CAN do this because you keep doing it.

Hope that makes sense/helps

>>939628210
And then we have 2 mentally unwell people feeding into each other. Sounds like a wonderful foundation for a long lasting mutually beneficial relationship.
>>939628216
Change is hard it's not fun. It's easy to be unwell. Health is a constant journey. Doesn't he deserve you at your best?

>>939628216
Not the anon you're replying to but

It's because that's what you know and the unknown is inherently scary.

>>939628238
Yeah but the thing about a relationshipis that it is purely sexual it will get boring eventually no matter how good the sex is. That's why relationships that are formed purely around sex either have to eventually become open or result in cheating. To make someone dependent on you, you need to understand who they are as a person. Actions and behavior give a lot of insight into a person's desires, needs, goals. You use that to curate a version of yourself they like, then you begin your breaking down of them little by little. It's nefarious and involves you using their trust and insecurities against them, but it's also pretty textbook in a lot of emotionally abusive and fucked up relationships like this.

>>939628387
>Sounds like a wonderful foundation for a long lasting mutually beneficial relationship.
i don't know if you're trying to be sarcastic or not but i see it working. emotionally broken people can also make bonds

>>939628567
Bonds, yes. A healthy, long lasting relationship that benefits both parties' growth? Less so.

>>939628608
not every relationship has to be a Disney's love story. sometimes people get into it while being neck deep in shit but they somehow work it out together

The anxious-avoidant attachment relationship style. This shit is exhausting for both people, but at the end of the day, both are dysfunctional and that's why they are drawn to eachother. The more one latches on, the more the other pulls away creating a toxic feedback loop

>>939621631
lol

>>939628447
This is interesting, please explain it in more detail? How do you break them down little by little? How do you use their trust and insecurities?

>>939628727
Not saying it has to be perfect, and every relationship is work, but if a relationship is inherently toxic I can't see it making everyone happy.

>>939628811
I mean I don't know them, you do and you either know how to do this or don't. Forcing this behavior can make it obvious, especially if the dude has had experience with manipulators before. Most people, when they catch wind of a manipulator put their guard up and gtfo. Some typical examples of manipulation, love bombing, if they're very responsive to your showering of affection and attention they're pretty easy to get wrapped around your finger. Some manipulators play the long game and try to gain the trust of their object of desire and then use that to make them form an emotional attachment, but this can result in you being friendzoned a la 'nice guy' or 'nice girl'. It goes on and on, and I don't think explanations will really help you with this as it's something you either know how to do or don't. Emotionally manipulative people are either born or created very young and their whole perspective on the people around them is much different than a typical person's. All about strategy for them, all a game of finding what to say to get what they want.

>>939628844
i feel like OP wouldn't be toxic. but i'm not OPs chosen one so i don't know much about him

>>939629060
You recommend a strategy then when asked to explain it you go "uhh umm well youre either born with it or not"

Doesnt really sound like something coming from a guy he knows what hes talking about nor is it persuasive, its just vague words and nothing practical

Either contribute to the talk or shut up

>>939629195
If that's how you want to view what I said, then again, you did just skip over the very first qualifying sentence of the statement

>>939629156
Have you ever been with someone who has a cluster B personality disorder? Especially someone who doesn't have any insight into their condition and doesn't want to get better?

OP drop your disc there's people here who actually care and have good advice

>>939629352
not really but i'm not normal either so i'll just deal with it

>>939629502
That's the thing. You can't just deal with it. Every minute of every day spent walking on eggshells, worried that saying the wrong thing will trigger an outburst. No choice in what you get to do. Any delay in a response? Expect phone calls, threats and screaming. Even if it's just a few minutes late because you weren't paying attention or your phone died or something.
This is a lifelong commitment to misery, not a cute quirk.

>>939629870
i'm fine with all that desu. i know that it's not my partner's fault and i'll take it all and be supportive

>>939629969
I thought the same... I'm speaking from experience here.
That being said, if someone gets help for their personality disorder it CAN work out. Mitigating all the negative sides of the obsession while keeping all the positive. It's not perfect but with work and insight into the condition it CAN work out and be beneficial for both parties.
But not without them getting help for their disorder.

>>939630149
i'm more worried about my partner dealing with MY bullshit

>>939630216
What bullshit do you have and why aren't you working on it if you're so worried?

Send nudes and I'll see if I can give advice in how to manipulate him with your body

>>939630360
She won't.

>>939630261
my bullshit is not related to my mental status but to me in general

>>939630538
Still, what bullshit are you working through that would cause a problem to your theoretical partner?

>>939630640
internet has fucked me up over the years. i've been lurking since 1998 and here since 2005. you can imagine what i saw

>>939630764
So? Jessi Slaughter mess you up that bad? PTSD from the Omegle games? How did it "fuck you up?"