>>942026587
yeah, the idea that being femme must be humiliating is just sexist bullshit IMO. but then again, I tend to think of the whole BBC stuff as racism with extra steps, so I dont know.
its like... ok, if someone becomes a woman - be that trans, be that feminising kink, be it any possible reason, why the fuck should it be a humiliation?
humiliation isnt sexy. its not fun. If I were to want to be turned into woman for a scene, if I were to be emasculated, either, alike, well its... not affirming, that's the wrong word, and empowering isnt quite right either - though i'm sure for someone who wants to be trans it is both. But for me its.... enabling? liberating, to explore a different direction, explore a wild fantasy.
I like body-writing as a "hidden under skin" kink, but I hate the boring "whore" with the "O" being an open mouth / ass. its fun when its affirming. writing "appreciated" on a partner's leg, for them to see if they lift the skirt discreetly at work.
positive sex is more fun than degradation. And if (and I wouldnt for real, so fantasy only) I were in some sort of castration/nullo scene, I'd want to to be loving, positive - "we're taking your balls, are you ready? what a good boy you were - now you'll be a good girl!". Even when its a pain kink element - CBT, or the likes, it can be loving.
there'a part of kink where its dirty, and dirty's hot, but dirty doesnt need to be shameful either. I kind of like the idea of being fucked into a filthy state and its secret, but never shameful.