>>21516867
Be secure and easy going, that helps.
I used to be really shy. One day I thought to myself "If im shy in every social interaction where I dont know the other person, theres a very big chance this other person is nervous as well." I saw that as an advantage I could exploit
>Exploit how?
Well, if you know or assume the other party is as shy or even more shy than you, its very easy to just manipulate the conversation/topic to one you feel most comfortable.
Some NPC level conversation starters like weather, the experience you just lived (in the case of eating after the club) make it easier to "connect" to the other person with something relatable.
Everyone likes talking about themselves, just ask questions and try to guide the conversation so it feels natural to both parties, pretty easy if you just try.
>good looks help too