Thread 21559877

How much is right to spend, as a host, on food and alcohol at a wedding? Does the overall cost change how much you should spend? Have you ever been impressed or disappointed by food/drinks at a wedding?

$4,724

>>21559877 (OP)
My wedding was at the clubhouse at my grandmother's retirement community. We paid nothing for it, and we ate pizza and costco sheetcake.

maybe $1k if you're pushing it.

>>21559877 (OP)
>spray tan
>party bus
>the existence of this chart
I feel bad for the groom, he married a vapid whore who is ALSO a pedantically granular graphmaker that itemizes everything down to the cent

>$18k wedding for 80 people
>only $2700 for food, drinks and the wedding cake
>that's $34 per person
you just know a woman planned this

>>21560288
That's a rather small price for a catered event, no?

>>21560288
and $5k for a photographer

>wedding dinner $1.377
>96 guests including vendors and children
>about $14 per person
I didn't know McDonald's had wedding menus

>>21559877 (OP)
wedding parties are ridiculous and outdated. the best and most natural way to celebrate the fact you're getting legally bound to someone is offering a good homemade meal to close family, maybe accept gifts. nothing else

>>21560291
Exactly

>>21560339
women are (especially) retarded when it comes to weddings.
even less affluent people spend ridiculous amounts of money and make debts for years just to give the bride her "perfect day". Nobody cares about that shit except for women.

I had to have my ceremony on a quiet ranch in Wyoming near Thermopolis because of age/family relations concerns. That was what she wanted and we soaked in a hot spring all night. Total cost? ~$1600 and that's including the priests 200 dollar fees.

Some women are stupid and or have a terrible ego. Run from high maintenance women and get them as young as you can and preferably not brainwashed by the public school system.

>>21560370
Kek, my cousin nearly ruined her marriage before it even happened because of this attitude. She called me in hysterics a month before the wedding to tell me that due to how tight their budget had gotten that I couldn't bring my girlfriend at the time who she'd previously said I could, because each plate at the reception was fairly expensive. My parents later revealed her fiancee almost called the whole thing off because of the retarded amount of money they were spending, I don't understand why anybody would want to put themselves under that kind of financial strain right at the outset of starting their lives together just so they could feel good for a few hours at a ceremony.

women's retarded decisions make a lot more sense when you come to understand that they hate their friends.
they'll take out credit cards that they can never pay back, if it means they have a chance to dunk on becky

>>21560469
it's mostly to flex on their female friends and acquaintances. they try to outdo each other by having the most lavish and "unique" wedding ceremony.
"have you heard about Becky? she rented a fairground carousel for her wedding!"

>>21560449
>not brainwashed by the public school system.
explain what this means without parroting /pol/troon talking points and buzzwords

>>21560291
>>21560362
So women are financially prudent even when it comes to their big day? Got it

>>21560288
>that's $34 per person
>what are economies of scale
you just know a libtard posted this

>>21560564
I meant the very socially liberal policies and pushing inappropriate customs and backwards belief systems and degeneracy.

What they teach in public schools is highly skewed to the left and it imprints on the minds of children very very VERY bad unhealthy outlooks on life including this country, marriage, recreation and everything that makes life good and worth living.

Tldr: Just get a home schooled conservative girl. They also cook alot better than those who went to school.

>>21560252
This is grimmer than just doing it at city hall.

>>21559877 (OP)
Amerigrim wedding
>>21560339
The natural way is to have the wedding at a church and then go home where you host a celebration for your closest family and friends (should be around a 100 people) where you drink about 100 bottles of vodka and celebrate til 4 am and eat an outrageous amount of food. Ideally bring a whole roasted hog or two.

But from my experience with american weddings I don't think ameriturds could ever comprehend this

>>21560618
It's not an American wedding, as you can see they didn't add a tip.

>>21559877 (OP)
the best part about this thread was people were wondering why the cocktail hour was only $77, apparently the cocktail hour was only popcorn and no alcohol, but there was a cash bar
then what was likely a shit dinner after
basically spitting in the face of your guests, pretty funny

>>21559877 (OP)
>Bride's dad: $5,000
>Bride's mom: $80

>>21559877 (OP)
>18 thousand dollars
Fuck that shit. We spent next to nothing at the courthouse and have outlasted every relationship our friends have gotten into, going on 10 years in June next year. We could have budgeted 10k or so without going into debt but that went into a down payment instead. We're just not party people and it felt excessive.

>>21560585
>What they teach in public schools is highly skewed to the left
Depends on where you go to school, the curriculum reflects the local culture. I went to public school in a big lefty city, a small geaorgian town, and a mid-sized florida city and it will just depend.
>but but but they have to do
In practice, they really don't.

>>21560299
you don’t cheap out on the photographer

Hit the local courthouse. Do what's needed. If you're still hitched 20 years later and can afford to have some fun burn the money then. Otherwise it is an incredible waste of money that would be better used elsewhere.

>>21560577
>economies of scale
lmao, that's not how it works, especially not for weddings where any vendor tries to screw you in every way possible because they know that people are willing to spend a lot of money without questioning.

>>21560291
for the average sized marriage?

>>21559877 (OP)
In Indian middle class families, it is considered a shame if the wedding costs less than 3,000,000₹ (~34K USD) to 4,000,000₹ (~45K USD). Parents save for their entire lives to spend on the wedding processions for a few days. This includes lodging for all guests (usually close to 200), etc etc

>>21560565
>2.5k for attire
>financially prudent
I am not sure what your angle here is. Your post too retarded for trolling, but not retarded enough to be really effective.

>$500 fo liquor, total
bro uninvite me

>>21560284
surely this awful chart is the groom's doing

>>21559877 (OP)
That photographer was really fucking them over, I would half his budget and spend more on food and drinks.

>>21561464
Are the guests expected to gift money tho?

>>21561464
Indians marry their cousins after raping them since they were single digits.

Nobody gives a shit about what you typed.

>>21559877 (OP)
Spray tan
lol

>>21559877 (OP)
Photo and video fucking $4,800???? That's way too big a chunk of the wedding. That's fucking idiotic. How did the planner cost less than $300? All of that is stupid as fuck.

>>21560489
>>21560555
Becky gave it away.

>>21560585
Hi, Cletus. Don't get those babies any Measles shots either. That's poison that causes autism.

>>21560633
Alcohol: $416.20

>>21561794
Give money.

>>21561464
They also probably don't get divorced very often. I can see investing in a marriage in a culture where it's going to last. I could be assuming though.

>>21559877 (OP)
$0, why the fuck would you not just do it at the courthouse

>>21560252
grim

>>21561819
There is a happy medium. To use a fitting analogy you're offering the choices of eating at the Four Seasons or the gas station.
Why not find a little Italian mom and pop and have a decent meal?

>>21561825
with the wife? sure. ideally there are no guests

>>21559877 (OP)
Fun fact. There's an inversely proportional relationship between the amount of money spent on a wedding and the longevity of that marriage.

Expensive weddings only make sense if you have big money anyway and already have all of life's essentials to your lacking.

Rather than a wedding a downpayment on a home makes far more sense for most couples.

>>21561794
Most attendees do gift something, but it's not a strict expectation. Close friends and family members often gift things which will help the couple setup their household. Stuff like pots and pans, cutlery, chinaware, gas burner, etc. People also often pool in money to buy things that are too expensive for a single person to gift like a refrigerator, or washing machine.

>>21561816
It's just a social thing. A grand wedding is a source of pride. Pretty dumb if you ask me but at least it gets the family together for a couple of days

>>21559877 (OP)

Depends on the amount of guests you have, the area you're getting married (like which metro area), and the item selections. I think for a lot of reception venues, you have to use their catering if you want to use their hall, so its a factored in cost.

I just recently got married and we spent a lot on this wedding (her parents are rich and paid for 90+% of it). We had ~400 guests (~100 mine, ~100 hers, ~200 her parents) and for the venue the cost per plate was around 130. This included a cocktail hour with 9 different dishes, full bar access (liquor, red and white wine, sodas, and customized cocktails, and some premium liquors for VIP guests), a full 3 course plated dinner featuring ribeye steak or sea bass, and late night bites for when the wedding was about to finish.

I think the price you should aim for per plate should be lower (think 60 - 90 per guest), and you can do those things by doing things like a buffet instead of a plated dinner, using cheaper meats like chicken and pork, and having limited drinks at the bar.

>>21560339
The point of a wedding ceremony is to generate buy in from your community. The people at your wedding will be invested in seeing your partnership succeed. "I was at their wedding" becomes a surprisingly strong motivator for people as they get older, especially if you have kids - it takes a village and all that.
>>21559877 (OP)
My wife and I spend about $100pp on food + an open bar. It was good food too, from the restaurant attached to the venue. So a nice four course meal that was:
- Cilantro and Arugula salad with pecans and local goat cheese
- Honeyed crab cake
- Classic entree, choice of filet, red snapper, or king trumpet mushroom with robuchon potatoes and haricot verts
- Pie driven in from our favorite pie shop (Emporium Pies in DFW who for some reason refuses to open a shop in Houston. I email them asking to franchise annually and get turned down.)
That plus the venue fees, various vendors, Friday welcome reception, and Sunday morning brunch (family and particularly close friends only for that one) came to about $50k USD.
It was worth it for us, but we are rich so YMMV. By the standards of our friends weddings ours is the "sensible" one.

>>21561912
I used to live in DFW! I loved Emporium Pies. Lord of the Pies is so good.

How many guests did you have?

>>21561810
Funny how the rise of 3rd world diseases coincides with the rise of 3rd worlders in the country
Haha lolol

$2,000 per person
$15 food per person
$5 alcohol per person

>>21561814
yeah that was for something else
the OP said in that thread that their cocktail hour was cash bar and popcorn

>>21559877 (OP)
Reception should be open bar and very tasty snacks after an early-mid afternoon ceremony. Catering in mass is always a compromise and liability, barring Street food vendors (another thing to add to the above). Have family arrange lunch prior separately amongst themselves, and food truck(s) contracted to satiate the drinkers overdoing it.

>>21561912
The buy in is a panopticon for infidelity in Dunbar's # sized villages/tribes — larger weddings tend to correlate with lasting marriages (money troubles are a major divorce catalyst).

>>21560252
That's awesome

been in the industry for a while (>200 wedding attended/worked). very few times i am impressed with the food but its almost exclusively in house stuff at the venue. ive had 4 course service with a beef wellington that was shit and a fajita bar/nacho kit that was to die for so it’s hard to put a price on “what’s right” when the cost difference on those was well into the many thousands. what people don’t think about is what’s in house or what’s not, those fajitas were made out back by a couple of guys who brought a truck of flat tops and made it there fresh vs fancy food made more than likely mid day at best given the transport time. it’s hard not to get fooled by tastings from a caterer when it’s actually fresh. i always tell people to plan for things that keep well/are served cold to room temp for apps/whores devore and things you know will reheat well for the main like pulled pork, some pasta dishes, steaks are good too cuz you can under cook them and then bring them up to temp easily as they sit. another reason i’d say go simple is people very rarely even remember the meal more than a week later but they’ll remember it was a killer party so be picky on the DJ and don’t skimp on alcohol. the worst is no open bar with pricey drinks on top. if you have some land just rent a tent and some tables (don’t mention it’s for a wedding, that instantly means the business sees dollar signs), and buy a few kegs and handles of liquor as most venues don’t allow for outside alcohol. can even find bar tenders online p easy for the night if you want some staff trying to make sure people aren’t over served.
>>21560291
>>21560299
>>21561808
these numbers are fucking sideways. more than likely b8 picture and lmao sage reddit thread

>>21560592
Our official ceremony was at city hall, the clubhouse was friends and family.

>>21561822
>>21563139
It was nice. Not bad for two poorfags with of budget of nothing and no rich family to speak of.

my momma made homemade lasagna for mine and my wifes wedding :)
it was very yummy and made me even happier on our day

>>21560339
isnt the point of a wedding celebration to get gifts that are everything the couple are going to need once they move in together?

>>21560370
reminds me of this
https://youtu.be/gGIap2_tmng

>>21563631
Asians give money and you recoup the cost of the wedding and still have money to buy yourself household stuff. white people are dumb that gift a $20 toaster

>>21561814
Lol I have had bigger bar tabs.
I mean only a couple. But its happened.