Thread 21702712

Got invited to my first house (bday) gathering in 15 years. Host is in her late 20s, I'm in my 30s

What am I supposed to bring? Should I bring some obscure snacks to share that this person liked (that i got her for her actual bday, which she then mentioned she wants to source for her friends to try). Or offer to bring some soft drinks? I don't really drink and don't think I will be drinking that night as I will be driving there. And how do I enjoy the night if im in general a pretty awkward person to new people

>>21702712 (OP)
>Host is in her late 20s, I'm in my 30s
Save it for the courtroom, creep

Just bee yourself

>>21702712 (OP)
Bring a decent bottle of wine. Simple as.
The snacks, too, if you want.

>>21702712 (OP)
The snacks are a good idea. Can't go wrong with a bottle of wine, you won't be expected to drink it, in fact a lot of times the wine isn't even opened at the party it's brought to and is more like a gift for the house. But, I think the snacks will be enough if that's what you want to bring. Don't be like Costanza showing up with a bottle of Pepsi, unless you know in advance the vibes are gonna be super casual. I imagine the host will have drinks.

Anyway just relax and try your best to socialize. If they invited you, it means they want you there, so don't psyche yourself out. It might be awkward if you haven't been social in awhile but all you can do is show up and try. Having a glass or two of alcohol at the beginning of the night might grease your wheels a bit and shouldn't be impairing for when you drive home later, but if you don't like to drink then don't pressure yourself into it.

>>21702727
>>21702735
I really don't know much about wines and the likes

I'm not much of a drinker besides (the same) hard liquor mixed with coke

>>21702712 (OP)
Also how do I know if this is a dinner thing or just a party. Should I eat before hand? Invite time was 630 to 7ish

>>21702767
just ask m8

>>21702712 (OP)
>And how do I enjoy the night if im in general a pretty awkward person to new people
>so where do you know <host> from blah blah job blah blah some relevant interest or other hook involved with their job/interest ALSO AVOID POLITICS

>>21702735
>Don't be like Costanza showing up with a bottle of Pepsi, unless you know in advance the vibes are gonna be super casual
Lmao I actually was going to just bring soda, is that bad. I know they're going to be drinking. I just really don't know much about alcohol to know what to bring

>>21702824
bro u live in 2025 just fucking use chatgpt u dumb cunt

chatgpt suggest me a bottle of wine for a young 20s girl i am interested in, keep the budget within 20-30 dollars, and suggest a snack to go with it

>>21702712 (OP)
why not try asking the hostess? kinda depends on the country and customs there tbqh

>>21702824
Go to a wine shop and ask.
Tell them exactly what you've told us.
The bottle is a gift for the hostess, give it to her with no expectations it'll be opened for the party (although it may be), just say it came recommended to you and hope she enjoys.

>>21702712 (OP)
Buy any random bottle of wine. She doesn't know any more about it than you do and she doesn't care.

ooooo op got a crushhhhh

>>21702824
really depends on the vibe of the party, if it's just something casual with people hanging out and drinking beers, then it could be fine and some people might appreciate having a non alcoholic option to drink. if it's something a bit more formal like a dinner party, then it might be weird. we don't know the kind of people these are or what kind of party this is. thing with a bottle of wine is it's appropriate in pretty much any circumstances. but if you're unsure, just bring the snacks you were talking about and that's fine. other people will bring drinks anyway.

Deviled eggs

>>21702854
Tbh I really don't know. She's a pretty chill chick so I'm not sure if it's a full blown party or just a casual gathering with a few of her friends

How do I go about asking if she needs me to bring anything?

>>21702720
kys gay

>>21702886
Just ask straight up. "Hey, do you want me to bring anything to the party?". If she says yes bring x or y, there you go. If she says no, still bring something, but just something small like the snacks or wine.

>>21702712 (OP)
Honestly, it doesn't matter what you do from this point. You've already fucked it

>>21702712 (OP)
Bring an open bottle of whisky, be the only one drinking from it throughout the party, and take it with you when you leave.

>>21702930
Well I ended up asking and got the response while at the shop. She said she feels they have everything covered and just to bring whatever snacks or drinks i want.

I ended up getting a random bottle of wine from there. Should I just hold onto it and bring Pepsi/coke with the snacks

>>21703124
Wait, no I'm thinking that the fact I asked is making me look like I've never been invited to a thing like this before

>>21703126
Dude. It's fine. Stop overthinking this. Just take what you want, go and have a good time.

>>21703126
Don’t overthink it bro, if I’m going to a person’s house for the first time I try to ask if I can bring anything. You don’t want to show up with nothing if other people are bringing stuff, and you don’t want to show up with something if they think it’ll be “competitive” with what they’re providing (you’re safe in both respects with your snacks, wine, and whatever you plan to drink)

I hope you enjoy yourself and that the people there enjoy your company. One piece of advice though is if they’re playing any sort of game you shouldn’t try to win (unless you’re paired with the hostess, then you should)

>>21702828
>bro u live in 2025 just fucking use chatgpt u dumb cunt
Do people actually live their life like this for every interaction?

>>21702712 (OP)
Be sure to quote “this is my first house gathering in 15 years” at least once every 15 minutes. Bring reduced sticker supermarket baked goods and enough beer for yourself only. Tell everyone you have anxiety and depression and you’re worried that you won’t be able to afford car insurance next year.

Just get a bottle of wine. Its for a woman, so just get chardonnay or Moscato. A $20 bottle will do. American chardonnay is buttery, popcorny. Moscato is just super sweet. Don't get shit like white Zinfandel. Or maybe a rosé if you suspect the lady isn't into sweets. Easy.

>>21702727
Too boomerish you only bring wine and whiskey(that's going to be regifted) only if they are a couple

>>21702838
Yeah so they can sell their most overpriced wine to OP

Hey Anon, along with the wine, bring these.

They are easy as fuck to make and will also get inhaled by other people at the party.

Bocconcini Cheese + Cherry tomato + Basil leaf or 2 + Bitta salt + olive oil drizzle.

You can add in little peice of bread, or put it on a cracker with pesto like the pics.

It will make you look cool and a bit cultured.

Dont stress, everybody is too busy thinking about themselves to notice or think about you.

Sounds way too complicated imo. I'd probably pretend to get sick and apologize for my absence via text.

>>21702749
Menage a trois sweet red blend. It's like 8 bucks a bottle and tastes like grape juice

>>21703570
>bring a fucking plate of canapes to a party of zoomers who only brought chips
yeah nah

>>21702824
If I'm in my 20s/30s having a party and some awkward guy brings a 2 liter of Shasta cola.. you're 100% getting made fun of. Grab a 12 pack of corona or whatever beer and you'll be fine

>>21703206
The dicked part is that it could say something 100% wrong and these folks would believe it no matter what

>>21703224
Mclovin you gotta chill out buster

>>21702712 (OP)
No idea if there is food planned, but maybe a heads up to know if it's a bbq, cocktail party, or what would help you.

Bring a cooler w/ice and an assortment of sodas or seltzer water (diet) too. I'd also bring an app. Being a guest in a way that makes you missed and memorable for the next party, haha. This means an amazing batch of spinach dip or buffalo chicken dip, or baked brie w/apples and chips. Be generous if your budget allows it. Like this girl? Restaurant gift certificate means 2nd date or another shared experience.

>>21702712 (OP)
>my first house (bday) gathering

>>21702712 (OP)
>obscure snacks to share that this person liked (that i got her for her actual bday, which she then mentioned she wants to source for her friends to try)

Don't go OP, make the noble sacrifice and don't inflict your sperginess on these people, it'll make them uncomfortable and you'll probably go full spaghetti mode once you pick up on that.

>>21702712 (OP)
>my first house (bday) gathering

>obscure snacks to share that this person liked (that i got her for her actual bday, which she then mentioned she wants to source for her friends to try)

Don't go OP, make the noble sacrifice and don't inflict your sperginess on these people, it'll make them uncomfortable and you'll probably go full spaghetti mode once you pick up on that.

>>21702712 (OP)
go rub her belly

>>21702720
Is that a hecking age gap? If you define a child as anyone under 30 it's shocking how common pedophilia is

>>21703570
Not OP but stealing this idea

>>21702712 (OP)
How long am I supposed to stay at the house gathering especially if I don't plan on drinking? And what should I be expecting from such an event with all adults?

I don't think I've been to an adult birthday gathering without kids or wasn't a daytime barbeque event since I was around 20

>>21702712 (OP)
Holy shit you're overthinking this, it doesn't matter what you bring as long as you are sociable and having a good time. Most zoomers don't care about what's considered customary or not

>>21704598
Just leave around the same time everyone else does

>>21704608
>it doesn't matter what you bring as long as you are sociable and having a good time
I am not going to be sociable or have a good time. So it does matter what I bring?

>>21704634
Why go if you know you won't enjoy it?

very funny how easy it is to tell the difference based on the advice given between well adjusted people and incels in here

>>21704634
If you're not going to be sociable and have a good time, then just don't go. You'll bring the vibes down and spiral. But for what it's worth, I think the only thing standing in your way of having a good time, is you. You're overthinking the hell out of this and putting way too much pressure on yourself. Just relax. You're not going to meet the Queen, it's just some 20-some year olds having a drink and chilling. There's no pressure to perform. They invited you, so you've obviously made a decent impression and are wanted there. It'll be fine.

I don't wanna pressure you into anything you don't wanna do, but is there a reason you're so against drinking? Cause honestly, having a drink or two might help you take the edge off and relax while you're there. You don't need to get drunk, just sip a beer. If you're really against drinking for a good reason, then don't listen to me, but it's called social lubricant for a reason, you know?

>>21704598
Do they have kids? are they home? Do the guests have kids? is it a school night?

30 is a weird age if you didnt settle down. Half your friends are waking their kids up from school when youre just getting home from the bars

>>21703206
The cult of convenience will be the end of mankind.

>>21702712 (OP)
Make some pao de quesos and marinara. Everybody loves gooey cheese balls with tomato sauce.

>>21704598
You should bring a couple twelve packs of White Claw and do a little Adderall before you go or bring a small amount of coke to do bumps in the bathroom alone. Don't tell anyone you're doing coke or are on speed. It makes people uncomfortable. Drink one of the twelve packs, and with the speed or coke to even you out, you'll be the life of the party

>>21704793
he a earthrocker

>>21702712 (OP)
This and some sparkling wine.

>>21703615
Its food haha, its gonna get eaten dude

Every party or gathering ive been to through my 20s, anytime there has been food thats better than chips, it gets inhaled.

It also at least gives him an “in” or easier introduction to others via: “oh yeah Anon brought these, so good right! Have you met Anon yet?”

Proceeds to introduce easily. People actually like nice things and nice people

You can go be cool and smoke your ciggies outside my guy

>>21704491
All yours anon.
I got some ripper hacks for this stuff lmk if u want more

>>21704793
Not adderall. That shit can likely make him go more tism.

Low dosa MDMA (30-50mg) probably the move.

Maybe a beta blocker or a half diazepam.

Coke sure if hes drinking otherwise hes just gonna talk and miss social cues

>>21703615
The women will be impressed at least. They LOVE shit like this.

>>21704598
Depending on what the host set up, it will be 3-4 hours average. It will be the following: conversation, food, conversation, maybe some board games? and then people filter out and go home. Basically (You) need to be gone by midnight. Minimum stay time should be to 1. eat the food provided, and 2. participate in basic festivities. This is based on you indicating a no-alcohol stance. If drunk the real departure time is when you sober up enough to drive.

>>21704696
>I don't wanna pressure you into anything you don't wanna do, but is there a reason you're so against drinking
Not against drinking at all. It's just that im going to be driving there

>>21705054
Fair. But if you're gonna be there for a couple hours, you could probably get away with one or two drinks at the beginning of the night. Just an idea, I respect you trying to be responsible.

>>21705054
>It's just that im going to be driving there
Perfect. Get drunk and then say you can't go home because you're too drunk to drive. Stay after the party's over to have some extra time with the host

Went to the party but it was a complete bust. Just me and host girl. Felt bad because she got all dressed up and everything. Had cake and left.

Her friends must be assholes.

>>21705112
Did you finger her at least?

>>21705112
anon...

>>21704091
A lot of zoomies seem to think an age gap of 10 days is pedophilia. Of course, this only applies when the man is older.
They have to be getting hit with some kind of psyop or something because it ramped up extremely fast pretty much out of nowhere.
>>21702712 (OP)
Make a cool snack (maybe obscure, maybe just decadent version of normal party snack) that is not at all related to anything from before. Its really not important why this is, but just don't do some kind of reference thing. There are plenty of other ways to impress the girl. Making a great kind of snack she hasn't had from you before, for instance. It makes sense that if you don't drink you probably wouldn't bring that. I'm the same way. Just do something cool now and don't try to repeat last time. Best of luck, anon!

>>21705112
she's just like me fr fr

>>21702712 (OP)
>What am I supposed to bring?

Seltzers and Beer. Or Canned Cocktails.

>>21704598
You could just... be the guy who cooks.
Bring prepped party snacks like some homemade pizza rolls or pepperoni sticks or bagel bites or whatever. Just something a stoned person would be real happy to see on a plate. Maybe they don't smoke, sure, but that's the idea. Chill, let people "help" you when they ask. That combined with normal socializing is plenty to do. Also, if things get awkward you have a prepared excuse to need to be in the kitchen for a bit.
>Why the fuck do so many anons here spend so much time cooking and thinking about cooking but then go on to act embarrassed about it and make every attempt to hide their [objectively cool] interest?