How is everyone doing this fine /fit/ weekend?

It was actually a good sunday, i had an off day from work and i was working yesterday night, also i was paranoid that i was diabetic due to fatigue and drinking a lot of water but i checked my blood sugars this morning and my blood sugar was at 80. I also walked my dog in the afternoon and a girl that was walking her dog flirted with me but i didn't do anything. Wagmi bros

>>76291145
based

>>76291135 (OP)
Took the long drive into town to go to golds this morning. Walked the dog and picked up a steak on the way back. Now I'm back inawoods living in my van down by the river. Gonna cook my steak and asparagus over the open fire and chill with my hound. Good day.

Sometimes i feel like i'm gonna make it and sometimes i don't.

Ghosted an old friend, kinda feel like shit about it but knowing arguments weve had in the past and how he treats his GF hell just gas light the hell out of me. I got stung by a bee today so thats pretty cool

I knew the gf would be shit at supporting me after, but I still tried talking after a physically exhausting week and an encounter with a real asshole.
Got the most surface level response then silence.
So now I've had a shit week that I get to deal with alone, and a gf that runs and hides when I need her most.
She doesn't always respond so terribly, but really dropped the ball this time.
Other than that just resting a lot and trying to recuperate.

>>76291135 (OP)
had sex so it was good

>>76291135 (OP)
weight lifted for the first time this year on friday and i still really hurt, work is going to suck tomorrow

>>76291135 (OP)
>Gym closed on Sundays
>could really use the workout to clear my head, but whatever
>"I'll go for a long walk instead"
>walk up to the nearest grocery store and buy cigarettes and a soda
>smoke
>go back home
>"it's was too hot anyway I'll study"
>waste the rest of the day online

literally 16 hours spent online.
3rd day in a row spent like this.
I think I need psych meds at this point.

>>76291135 (OP)
I’m working for the weekend

>>76291332
Literally me. how do we recover brother?

>>76291135 (OP)
I'm alright. About to hit chest and back. I have divorce court and the first day of a new high paying job tomorrow so I'm feeling a bit on edge about that. Ex isnt insane and the job is good so it's not so bad.
God will see me through.

>>76291332
>goes to the gym
>then smokes and drinks soda
kek

>weekend as beautiful as a weekend can be
>not a cloud in the sky, no wind, perfect temperature low 70s
>spend entire saturday in room doing nothing
>doing the same here on sunday
i have nothing to do, nowhere to go, no one to do anything with anyway. life is completely worthless.

>>76291425
based

34 yo boomer autist here. Finally found the lifestyle stack.
carnivore diet- eat as much as possible every day, it's impossible to get fat. Currently averaging 4lb beef/day looking to get to 5.
Sunlight-maxxing- absorb at least 2 hours of direct sun every day. The sun god wants to heal your ailments but the Jews put a box in the way (climate-dependent, of course, but it's Summer).
Compete in sports as often as possible. Plenty of boomer sports leagues out therr, like pickleball. If youre a nerd video game player, dont play effiminate one player games, do esports.
Still socially awkward but the happiest I've ever been.
Thanks for reading my blog.

>>76291285
Raw?

>>76291512
>it's impossible to get fat.
>Currently averaging 4lb beef/day looking to get to 5.
lmao ok bro

>>76291135 (OP)
today was fine, spent an hour juggling around noon, then for better or worse fell asleep and only woke up in the evening. Just did some calisthenics and ate dinner.

>30
>Finally getting my life on track
>Down 100lbs
>Started a HNC in Engineering
>Hit by a suddent realisation that i wasted my teens and 20's and should have done all this shit back then
>Instead i spent my entire 20's just gooning, browsing 4chan and drinking untill i passed out
>I can never get those years back
I know things are going in the right direction but some day i just get crushed by the reality of life. Fuck. Anyone else feel this way?

>>76291551
at least despite wasting those years youve actually had the ambition to try to fix things. im a few years older than you, similarly wasted all my teens and 20s, and when i hit that 30th birthday and realzied how i had wasted my entire life, its been nothing but misery and suicidal ideations since then

>yet another weekend of existentially questioning what my future will be

Paralysis by analysis is a bitch, but at 31 I don't get to commit to something free of consequences anymore.

>>76291525
I've been stuck at the same weight for weeks. I think my body refuses to gain weight until more muscle is built. Going to lift harder and maybe I can make it to 160lb.

>>76291569
at least you only do that on weekends. i do that pretty much all my waking hours.

>>76291135 (OP)
Feeling strong.

I got drunk last night.
It's not bad and I did nothing regretful or shameful but man I feel like shit right now. I wasted the entire day laying in bed. I didn't expect the hang over to hit this hard, I expected to do shit today. Fuck booze man.

>>76291706
you have to eat before you go to bed

I broke up with my gf late April and I was acting tough until a few days ago doing my shit lifting,working,praying etc but yesterday I really broke inside and I started crying, like not crying but I shed some tears and this didn’t happen in the last 10 years. I don’t know what to do bros

Awful workout this morning, first deadlift day of a peak, couldn't even make it through my warmup, a weight that should be 5+ reps on any other day wouldn't budge from the ground
Odd because my nutrition and training have been going great recently

>>76291135 (OP)
Got fit, got attractive, got the social gains, got the attention, got the women, got sex, realised everything was worthless and im now enjoying talking to lonely lgtb randoms on discord and getting mires from them. They seem really appreciative of my body and they are very enjoyable to talk with. I could say i pushed the rock to the top of the hill and it didnt make me happy. I love lifting, watching or reading fitness banter and autistically planning dieting and supplements tho, its a fun hobby that gave my life a meaning
>inb4 gay
Been bisexual since i was a kid, i dont care about your /pol/ brainrot.

>>76291722
Lmao cringe faggot

>>76291135 (OP)
4 job offers, went to a girl's place on Tuesday night. Can't complain.

>>76291722
Ecclesiastes talks about this. All the women, wealth, fame, sensations, in the end they bring no deep or lasting joy.
Romans 14:17
"For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit."
This is the way Anon. I've banged so many cuties and been so popular and socal and lean and admired by my fellow man but it was all hollow, all smoke. Give yourself over to the Lord and know what true joy and peace are.

>>76291717
Why did you break up

>>76291135 (OP)
I changed my entire life once and then went through some shit regressed lost progress and have mostly stagnated with some small victories here and there my entire 20s. Idk how I did it back at 17. Overnight became a straight A student after only getting Ds and Fs. Started going on walks and eating barely anything and I was so out of shape 15 minutes made me lightheaded and super dizzy built up to walking for hours on inclines over a couple months. Went from fat fuck to 100lbs lighter lean and running in a year. Idk how I just up and flipped the script. It’s like before that I had a shit focus because I never tried, and now that I try I have a shit focus because I genuinely do.
Idk. Back then I just told myself lies like I would get pussy if I did the work. Now, I’m out of shape and broke and I still have women who wanna fuck me. And I don’t even care enough to wanna fuck them
>test
It could be. But that poses the issue of how do I fix it if I’m here. Or does that mean even as a fat fuck sedentary arguably much more out of shape at 17 I had higher test than I do now?
Fuck matter of fact I was firing way bigger loads and way more often back then. 10x a day and always a massive 10 roper.
I wake up with raging wood every morning, I check women out everywhere. But I have this apathetic “what’s the point” mood all the time about everything even pussy
What do I do guys? I want better. Finally at the point I could be fucking women like I want to and I don’t care

I crave intimacy so much. All that's been going through my mind for the past few days I'd bring kissed. I just want a woman to grab me by the collar and kiss me deep. Or even just to hold and cuddle someone. I feel so lonely bros.

>>76291810
You sound kinda gay bro

someone on /b/ made a megsquats loras, so yeah, good day

>>76291826
We're on /fit/, that's a given

I realize now that I am straight, not bi.

>Be me, 25 yo male, go on vacation
>Resolve to lose virginity, no matter if to a girl or guy
>Try getting girls on Tinder/Bumble
>0 hits. Not even a single match (or even a like as far as I can tell).
This bothers me more than I would like to admit. Anyway
>Try getting guys on Grindr
>Swamped with horny dudes in the same hotel, like "100 feet away", "300 feet away", etc.

I dunno if I've watched too much porn but for some reason my fantasy of gay sex was with a femboy. IRL there's a sea of middle-aged men, fat boomers, etc. Even the guys who looked sort of feminine from a body pov had masculine faces that just turned me off. The few trans people looked good in their profile pics also proved to be too manly when they sent a face pic in chat. I feel bad for chickening out on one dude in particular, he was very polite but the realization that if I pulled up to his room I would have sex with a man (combined with fears of catching an STD via hookup) made me want to throw up. I ended up blocking him. (Hopefully I didn't hurt his feelings).

I went home with virginity intact but now I am confused. What do I actually want? Sex? I had countless chances at that last week and I turned all of them down. Sex with a woman? Yes, but the fear of STD/complications is present in hetero hookups too. It's like I was obsessed with sex for a long time and now I don't even know if it's worth it outside of a relationship where there's the promise of fidelity and safety.

Too much worries in my life right now. If I'm ever going to meet a girl, if my current job is the right choice for me and if it's going to allow me to live a comfortable life.
I'm only fucking 20. Everybody my age is having fun partying and not giving a fuck and I have to worry about if one day I might not have a roof over my head.

I had a wild past month, I'm trying to now get my shit into gear this weekend. Been working on finances and planning out what I am wasting money on and making a budget

On the fit side, not great but not terrible. I went skating yesterday which was fun and biked today, but there's a massive heatwave going on rn so it's not great

Looking to get back into lifting/gym so gonna be lurking here again and probably read the sticky once again

Honestly any other advice besides read the sticky would be great. I've always wanted to get into calisthenics, I don't really want to get massive just fit

It's over.....

>>76291932
lmao ngmi faggot

>>76291135 (OP)
I think I shall spend this week also intoxicated and shitposting and jerking it to porn. My life rules.

>>76293276
Uhhh based?

>>76291135 (OP)
Good weekend,. Hit 135 for 5 on OHP to keep it fit. Got out of work early friday, so went to my parents for a cookout, and met up with some friends for a birthday afterwards.

Saturday some friends came over and we hung out by the pool, until I had a party to go to, where I rode the fuck out of a mechanical bull and ate some burgers.

Sunday I hung out with my gf and our friend by the pool some more, and then went to another party. All in all a very enjoyable weekend, albeit I am pretty sunburnt.

i'm cooked, i suddenly started to feel jealous looking at random couples, especially if they do lovey-dovey shit like hand holding, kissing, hugs, or laughing together, i just want to be loved yet i feel like i don't deserve being loved

>35C
>max humidity
>full sun
I'm fucking dying
Saw a homeless guy getting treated by an ambulance for heatstroke running out for a bit of ice

>>76294852
37c today here and i almost passed out squatting, what are we gonna do bros? I still have a mild headache since then

>>76294835
Same, i had a receptionist at the gym i worked who was like a 10/10 goth metalhead with tats, piercings and dyed hair and during break we talked about anime and music while blasting bring me the horizon, and cellweller playlist on the gym speakers. It was the best time of my life and man she invited me to her birthday and now i wanna go full dive into the scene despite knowing it will probably hurt me in the long run. She had a boyfriend so my love for her is only platonic but still just talking eith her was enough for me. Now ‘m starting uni this September at 29 so let’s see if i remember how to study. I’m still without a girlfriend despite my extroversion, physique and money and i’m getting incredibly jealous of other couples.
I only have passive income now (157€k in portfolio that made me 7k from this year but it’s still too little i need a serious career if i want to build a family)
Cut is going great tho. Might get some tats soon

>>76294857
I just bought a 100$ industrial metal fan and it couldn't have arrived with better timing. I do everything in 5-10 minute intervals between 10 minutes of sitting directly in front of the fan. Don't get a cheap plastic one, I promise it makes a difference.

Feels like the rat race is getting worse and worse. My physical and academic goals keep going higher and I can never be satisfied, I also might get drafted soon if the war heats up, so it also feels like there is no point to all this. Damn

>>76291810
Yeah, women are really pretty, I wish they were kind and nice too, maybe in another life. cope and bury the loneliness with 2D, I don't mean porn, that doesn't really do much, I mean Visual novels, you can try to learn moon runes too, if you're interested.

>>76291135 (OP)
I was a pretty good weekend.

On one hand, it was 95°F the entire weekend, so it was too hot to do much of anything.

On the other hand, I went out to the bar on Saturday and met this qt shy skinny goth girl that was really into me. I didn't hook up with her since her friend was too drunk and had to go home, but she gave me her number and i plan on texting her either tonight or tomorrow.

Overall, not a bad weekend, even if it wasn't the most eventful.

>>76291943
In the same boat, friend. I'm 21 years old, I'm working a great job that pays dirt, but I love the field and the work. I could make 3x my current wage if I switch to another career, which I already have the skillset for. The future is very worrisome, between the economy, the current state of society in general and everything. It feels like a losing battle, constantly uphill. >Having fun partying and not giving a fuck
Who knows, maybe they were born rich, maybe they don't care. The world is quite cruel and unjust, but it's not bad enough to give up, and it's not good enough to be hopeful for the future.

>>76292136
Check the calisthenics reddit wiki, it's pretty good. I got my routine started by reading it.

>>76291135 (OP)
Guys this business degree has been a joke. The last 4 years of my life have been a joke. This market is a joke

man, covid really did a number on me and I can't stop.
I used to ONLY socially drink unless my dad offered me a beer he no longer has the desire to start anymore or some other outliers, hell I even constantly raided ffxiv/wow and would never drink before a prog night, since covid I started to drink solo to unwind after a long wfh day, it was beers, ciders, wines, homemade cocktails with shit like gin/rum/whisky/vodka/tequila/etc, but even then I feel like during 2021-2022 it wasn't bad and I was actually pretty fit/skinny imo picrel (6ft, 70-ish kg in the pic lol) now I have the desire to make a few simple cocktails most evenings even on work nights and then drink half a bottle every night over the weekend, how the FUCK do I fix this shit man? I drink before concerts, I drink when I'm out in work/friend social interactions, hell I even drink when I'm vacationing with gf.
What's worse my dad is a proper alcoholic and pretty much drinks at least 4 beers every day 95% of the year.
Even worse I somehow managed to get gastritis a few years ago that I can't even cure cuz I eat too much shit food and alcohol.

>>76294923
>bmth, celldweller
that would be my dream over a decade ago, nowadays not so much, but still a goth baddie into geeky shit and not just listening to pop shit is always a good one, looking absurdly good btw bro.

met this qt girl with huge tits on friday. we fucked but I had to use a latex condom. now I got a rash on the shaft of my dick. she wants to meet again in a few days. I knew this would happen but I felt that was my only chance to make a move.

>>76295455
Leave

>>76295358
>fell for the university degree meme
should have learned how to dig ditches instead

>>76295455
confused about this part
> I knew this would happen but I felt that was my only chance to make a move.

Iran and this girl I've been messaging are my current motivations to lift harder
it's working

>>76291332
>today was monday
>was a rinse and repeat of sunday
it's over

>>76295455
Please think of me next time you coom in her. Also stop using protection you ninny.

>>76295358
>business
lel
(the chem degree isn't helping either)

i meet my ldr gf in two weeks and she doesn’t know how bald i am, i’ve been on fin and minox for 6 months with good results. i mentioned it and she responded that it didn’t matter but i guarantee it will give the ick. i will NOT pursue wigs or hair pieces, to me that’s worse than downplaying the hair loss. i might lose her once the hat comes off

>>76295677
The thing that'll matter won't be the baldness, it'll be the hiding it. It's not the bald that gives ick, it's the insecurity.

>>76295680
i have hair, but very thinned and recessed. i am growing it out but it’s at the stage where it’s very obvious. i dont know how to go about the meetup without a hat desu

I can't commit to my health because I can't control my impulses for fast food and weed and I don't know how to change that.

I was counting calories for a single fucking day two weeks ago, and am now 340.6 pounds instead of 333.5.

I really want to just be dead, I'm not improving and Sam Hyde said my life was over anyway, but I don't even take steps to kill myself. I just exist in this state of self-hate and I can't even ask you guys because they've heard that so many times they don't want to help it so I know if I'm at that stage I SHOULD kill myself but I can't. Could someone here come and kill me, or is that a not your personal army thing?

>>76296209
Take mounjaro unironically

>>76295677
dude just own it. if you go bald, you go bald. what's the point of coping
>>76296209
yikes. imagine sitting in front of your children and typing this out in front of them and then proceeding to hit post. now reevaluate your perspective
>>76295531
should motivate yourself. what if both of them disappear
>>76294835
>focusing on others instead of yourself
NGMI, that's why youre alone
>>76291722
>appreciative of my body
pic related

>>76296464
>imagine sitting in front of your children and typing this out in front of them and then proceeding to hit post.
I can't because I don't believe I'll ever have children, let alone a partner
>now reevaluate your perspective
Don't even know what you mean here
>>76296434
I thought those drugs were evil and cheats and stuff

>>76296464
>dude just own it. if you go bald, you go bald. what's the point of coping
if i can have hair with a little time and effort why shouldn’t i? it’s this intermediary phase that is sorta unsightly that’s the problem

>>76295437
Thanks! It was like a childhood dream. I have no ideas on how to get into the scene. It’s been alot since i played guitar and made music on fl. I know jack shit about fashion and i’m bad at drawing.
Just curious how did your music taste evolved?

>>76296501
>worrying about something you aren't in control of, time included
dude just don't worry about it. insecurity is far more unsightly than any of the other garbage. if she loves you for you then what do you have to worry about. why change yourself physically or worry about such an inane thing, would that not be changing something that she doesn't even know is already an issue therefore stressing about something that to her doesn't even exist? odd take if you ask me. also min and fin are only temporary and carry many side effects. literally just stop worrying about it

>>76291135 (OP)
I began overpowering monsters within my dreams

>>76296963
A master of his destiny

>Heinkein
Its a fine evening , straight chill and vibe here....

I ate a whole pint of haagen dazs last night just to feel something, anything.

>>76291135 (OP)
Skipped gym this morning because boxing practice was intense last night. I am going tonight though

>>76295677
>I'd rather have to put chemicals on head/in my body every day instead of gluing some fake hair to my head every 4-6 weeks.
You people are terminally retarded.

first time coming back here since the chicken jockey thing happened
how are you guys doing now?

>>76299242
CHICKEN JOCKEEEEYYY!

>>76299242
Ngmi

>>76296209
How old are you? Despite what a comedian on the internet says, it's never too late to turn your life around. Sure you may miss out on prime pussy or whatever, but losing weight at the very least will have a positive impact on your life. The best time to change was 10 years ago, sure, but the second best is right now.

Bonne St-Jean m'en va crisser des claques aux anglos.

>>76291810
white men can't be incels

>>76299828
42

>>76299242
Honestly, thriving and as productive as ever

I can't keep working this job
I'm so fucking stressed, I'm drinking every single night, I'm taking swigs of liquor before work, I'm bringing booze to have on my lunch. Not even enough to get tipsy most of the time, but it's still not healthy
I have never experience such acute stress, my life feels like a living hell right now

>>76291135 (OP)
>dog is dying
>started stress eating again to cope
not doing so well bros...

>spend beautiful weekend doing nothing, barely leave house because i have no one
>week comes
>get to take the subway and see all the cute girls and women and all the well dressed guys excited going to their worthwhile, impactful, well paid careers while i stare at the floor in the corner thinking about how much i hate life
>go to my piece of shit job im too afraid to leave and spend the entire day doing nothing, staring at a wall, speaking to no one, listening to the people with the real jobs talk about how happy their lives are and how they all laugh with each other, get to hear the annoying as fuck always bubbly and happy woman is going on yet another vacation tomorrow ike she does every few months and always hear about how great her perfect life is but she still complains about shit
>go home on the subway and think about how all the people im riding with are going home to spend their evening with their spouse, children, friends, whatever other things they do while i will spend it alone, doing nothing, miserable at how ive wasted another day, and another evening
2/7 of the way through another worthless week as i continue the slow, miserable march towards death. please god, let it come soon for me.

>>76300271
seeing all the cute subway girls in japan caused me so much mental damage

>>76291810
You just have to learn to get over it. Or get some divorced single mother. Your choice

>>76294835
Get over it nibba.
>>76296963
Based

Cute new gym asked me a silly question today. She definitely wanted to talk, but I didn't know what to say other than answer her question.

>>76300265
You have my sympathies anon. It's not much, I know. But it's better than nothing. I've lost a family dog too and I chose to be there with her in her last moments instead of anything else. Treasure every moment with your friend anon

not fit related, but i made my bf cum twice tonight just by fucking him.
puffing my chest a bit.
wanna go for round 3, but he's sound asleep

>go on date
>think it went well
>go in for goodbye hug
>she keeps her arms by her sides
Fucking hell lads a new memory to keep me up at night

>>76291135 (OP)
can I get a double whisky neat

>>76291135 (OP)
I'm kinda a fat fuck. 5'8 220 pounds. I have a lot of muscle on my back, arms, and shoulders, but a lot of that weight is belly fat. Basically a dad bod. Been single for a while and recently stayed dating a cutie. She likes me for some reason but she's out of my league physically. I should probably change that. I spend about an hour a day watching TV or YouTube, so I bought myself a walking pad. Walking for an hour a day has got to be a good start to burning fat. Plus I can add a slight incline and speed up the pad as much as I want to burn more calories. There's a million of these on Amazon--big ones, small ones, expensive ones, el cheapo ones, doesn't matter. If youre like me and you hate cardio, just get a walking pad and use it while you watch TV or whatever.

>>76296209
Don't kill yourself. You're globalizing failure. Failure is not the end, failure is part of the process. Trust the plan. People tell you to kys to build your resilience.

You have two addictions, fast food and weed. I don't know you, but since You're a dude, there's an 85% chance you're also addicted to porn. So that's three addictions.

You're not going to quit two addictions simultaneously (fast food and weed) while also having your dopamine crippled by porn. It's just not possible. Instead, you need to have your priorities in order.

You should focus mostly on quitting porn, while also lessening your fast food intake. You won't have the willpower to quit fast food cold turkey (especially since you'll be going through withdrawals from nofap as well), so while weed is harmful, I wouldn't try to quit weed just yet. Your highest priority should be quitting porn if you haven't already, eating less fast food, and doing some basic exercises at home whenever you feel the urge to fap or over eat.

You'll slip up, but don't let a slip turn into a slide. If you slip up, acknowledge the mistake, think back to what caused it, and remove any temptations that may lead to it happening again.

Watch the Doyle video https://youtu.be/Vtp31feyTfM?si=xMOBJopZXPAHiLaJ

>>76291932
Homosexuality isn't real, just low T. Get your T levels checked. Guaranteed once you get them up you'll be hetero.

>>76300575
I got an exercise bike thinking I'm a special boy and I'll be the 1 in 10,000 that actually uses it. I don't.

There's only 2 types of cardio I can actually do, walking/hiking because I enjoy nature, and rowing. Rowing at the gym becomes a mental torture after a week though, unless I'm only doing 30 min.

Same stats as you (minus the gf), I'm at my giving up phase. I thought about ozempic, but the 1% chance of pancreatitis baseline (more for me probably since I'm smoking and high cholesterol) seems pretty off putting. The last thing I need is a trip to the ER and a fucked up pancreas (or death).

>>76300625
To be fair, I own an exercise bike and I never use that, walking pad is just so much better to use. Exercise bikes are too big and take up too much space--and mine doesn't have very adjustable pedals, so my knees are always crunching up against my fat gut when I try to use the bike. It makes me kinda nauseous. Walking on the pad actually feels good--I just set it to 1 MPH on an incline in front of my TV and it feels slightly invigorating without the discomfort of using a bike. I just make a rule that I can't watch TV or YouTube unless I bring the pad out.

>>76296209
Sam Hyde a fat trustfund pedo kike. The fact at your weight he is someone you listen to, or even agree with, should tell you how significant his opinions are/aren't.
>yeah dude I love bob marley
>yeah dude I do smoke weed. how could you tell?

>>76300749
Sounds like Sam Hyde buck broke you without even trying. Sad!

>>76300751
Shut up. It's not funny anymore. Sam Hyde isn't funny abd never was.

>>76300676
According to an online calculator I use, at 7.5% grade (what my desk treadmill goes up to), 1mph, 220lbs, it's 320 calories burned in an hour. Every 0.5mph boost adds 100 calories to that, so 2mph is 520. Do what this info what you will.

>>76300751
>Sounds like Sam Hyde buck broke you without even trying. Sad!
> I'm not improving and Sam Hyde said my life was over anyway

Has anyone here ever started over in a different country? I'm facing the biggest crossroads of my life, this shit is terrifying but necessary.

>>76301419
Which country are you in? And where do you intend to go? What's stopping you from moving, are you worried about leaving your parents in your previous country or what is it?

>>76301519
Whoops, didn't mean to upload a photo with that.

>>76295396
You're addicted and need to treat it as such

>>76295677
How are you in a ldr if she doesn't know what you look like? Have you ever even seen her?

Old anons, how do I let go of my hobbies? I'm 21 years old now, I don't have as much free time as I used to. I've been playing Vidya since I was 7, I feel like I have to let go of this hobby to have more time to train and read(my occupation requires me to keep up with the latest research and such), I used to enjoy it, but the lingering thought that I'm wasting my time and that these games give me no transferable skills saps any enjoyment or fun I could have with the game. How did you guys let go of your hobbies when the time came? Did you just do it?

>>76301419
Why don't you tell us what the issue is?

>>76301564
Try to play for 30 minutes less and study 30 minutes more for a week or two, then gradually up the time.
That being said, you don't need to give up hobbies if they bring you enjoyment, they just need to be balanced

>>76301564
I'm 33 and still posting on 4chan. Guess how great my self-control is when it comes to building healthy habits.

>>76291512
How are u boomer at 34 u stupid twat

What a disgusting thread. Bunch of weak incels.

U disgust me.

>>76301519
>>76301419
I'm from southern yurope, things are tremendously dire for people my age, absolutely zero chance of having a normal future, I'll spare you the /pol/ tier rant. I could move to the north or maybe Switzerland with some luck, but I'd be leaving everything I know behind. That's the hard part essentially, going into the unknown, no friends no connections. Typing this I realize maybe I'm just a pussy. In any case, my mind is dead set on leaving this place.

Man i hate summer
Im tired as fuck
Also the cut isnt going as fast as i presumed

Besides that the good old
>be 35 next year
>no gf
>everyone arund me is marrying, has a gf

Yeahhhhhhhh

>>76291717
Crap happens man. You will move on in time. Just keep soldiering.

having been single for i think 6 years now is dangerous as fuck
i relish in being alone
i love being on my own

>>76301718
Also from southern yurop, moved to the UK a few years ago. I don't know if I'm staying forever, and it was tough in the beginning, but it was 100% worth it. Nothing is worse than living paycheck to paycheck knowing you'll never be free from wageslavery. Good luck anon.

>>76291135 (OP)
/r9k/fags really need to fuck off if they're gonna bring their bullshit onto this board. If you're here it's because you've chosen to improve your life. Go be mopey somewhere else

>>76291135 (OP)
Broke with my GF of 2+ years a 2 months ago, it still hurts a lot. I was the one who broke the relation, we were always fighting and she had a lot of expectations of the relation which i was not able to fulfill. I miss her so much, but i know it was the best decision, but now she said that she hate me and she doesnt want to know anything about me... I just wanted to keep being friends, but damn.

>weekend
It's wednesday

>>76302661
>a 2 months ago
Sorry to hear, Mario. Hope you feel better soon

>>76301803
So fucking true, sometimes I'll feel lonely or crave physical intimacy but when I have someone in my home for more than a few hours I just want to lock everyone out and be comfy for a week.

I don't know how to deal with loneliness. I just go outside somewhere and feel like i'm a fucking alien.

>>76302777
Why dont you try spending time getting good at something? You most likely are not good at anything

>>76302803
I've got a few hobbies, it doesn't really help

>>76302777
accept you are. I have been doing the facebook/meetup shit. I am finding that most people have nothing to say and then also complain that the people they meet have nothing to say.

Maybe I will meet an interesting freak, but it helps knowing that my pool of people I would want to hang with is very small.

Potentially breaking a 3 year dry spell next week and I’m not prepared at all. It’s with a girl I used to causally see. I recently got my own place and
>apartment looks like shit
Not the end of the world tbqh. I know my BIL had a pigsty apartment when he met my sister. Most of my friends keep way nastier apartments than I do. It’s just some vacuuming and mild organizing. But it’s barren here. Bed couch TV I don’t use PC and a few random things on walls.

The main mess is because I’m a hairy med and my body and leg hair sheds constantly and it shows on my white tile floors. I can vacuum and within 2 days it will be just as bad. I know because it’s been 2 days since I vacuumed. Idk what to do about this. I’ve never shaved my body hair and I think it would look really weird if I did as a not yet shredded guy.
>no cable because I don’t watch TV
I may get a Netflix subscription and hook my switch up to the TV if you can watch Netflix on the switch. At least the free trial.
>dont have any clothes
I only own work clothes and sweats/joggers and 8 solid color loose fitted acid wash Ts or black carhart shirts. Nike slides running shoes maybe vans. No real style.
>no food
I buy what I need each night for dinner and that’s it. Idk how to cook either, not in a way that would be fitting for someone else just for my fitness goals.
>haircut
I’m a month overdue. Easy enough to fix can probably see barber Friday.
>fat
Was fatter when I last fucked her tho
I’m pretty sure she’s gonna wanna go out to do something and I’m just not prepared for that. In the past we went on like 3 dates but otherwise just hung out and fucked. She’s flying to see me. She would probably be down just to hang at my place and fuck but I’d like to be better prepared. I’m broke. I feel like things aren’t as in order as they could be. I realize I’m overthinking. But I’d hate to disappoint her by just having drinks and fucking for 2 days straight in my condo

>>76303202
Is that even so bad? Just pick her up from the airport, take her to my place, maybe go on a walk, have some wine and fuck her? I did make her cum buckets whenever we fucked.

>>76291135 (OP)
I got kicked off hinge. Dumb bitch posted an essay bio and I was swiping while pissing at work so I just replied “yap”
She matched me today and said
>the posture is decrepit (untrue), the beard is patchy (untrue), and you’re 30 (untrue) give it a rest *yawning emoji*
So I replied
>youre 5’9” you may as well finish the transition and change your name from Michel to Michael
And apparently I’m the bad guy.

About to be on the phone with the HR bitch now that I finally can escape the US and fuck zipperpussy.

>>76303894
>youre 5’9” you may as well finish the transition and change your name from Michel to Michael
Fucking lol why do they play this game when they lose it so easily

>>76303894
I always just tell them to buy a cat, and they will be happier with that companionship.

>>76299828
>how old are you
35.
>>76300603
I masturbate a lot daily to hentai. IRL porn is too noisy and it feels uncomfortable to watch. I'm five minutes in though, is he just gonna rant about inb4s this whole time? I'd rather just skip to the part where he talks about what to do.

>>76291135 (OP)
Gonna start a 7 day dry fast. Wish me luck bar bros.

>be loser who still lives with parents over 30 years old
>get placard in mail today
>real estate advertisement
>its for this girl i grew up with and knew in elementary school but basically never talked to her again, she was hot even back then when i was a kid
>her mom is a self-employed real estate agent and shes been one with her for years
>her last name is now hyphenated so shes married
>and another girl who works with them, also hyphenated last name with theirs so probably married her brother or something
>think about how theyre all attractive women working in real estate in this expensive neighborhood regularly selling homes in the million dollar plus range, all living the life of attractive women in their 30s, married, maybe have kids, while being rich real estate agents
>more suicide fuel for me i guess

>>76304122
>>76300603
I couldn’t finish the video, he’s just faffing on about other people instead of talking about the thing. General idea is stop fapping to hentai and just do other shit to fill the time or masturbate sans porn? I can do that.

>>76291135 (OP)
I feel like such a failure. Everyone else is better than me in life. I'm not going to kill myself, but man, living through life is such a slug. I'll go to the military and see what I can do there.

No, I won't make it. Not in this life at least.

thinking about fucking this 5’1” 18 year old twink. gayest shit i’ve done was fuck a 20 year old tranny but i redeemed myself by fucking their non-tranny sister

>>76303209
brother, don’t over think it. you’ve already fucked when you looked your worst and she’s flying out to see you. you can do anything with her and she’ll be happy

>>76303894
i regret getting banned of Hinge in 2019. impossible to bypass it and i had the most success on there

>>76304784
Wow, thank you for this man. I think she really wants to go to the beach but I’m definitely not doing that. Maybe a morning walk so I’m not hanging out looking like a whale all day.
I’ll try to come up with something to do with her, but it will ultimately probably just be fucking and cuddling for 16 hours for two days straight. The only reason I’d have some wine or drinks at my place is for her I don’t even drink. But I have been wanting to try wine

Life feels pretty okay, actually.
I DO want to quit my job and focus on art, but I can't afford it for now. I want to work towards "early retirement". Fuck working until I'm 60.

I'm a bit sick though. Mulled wine for me.

>>76305270
my cousin quit her 6 figure graphic design job to become a tattoo artist. surely you can’t be as retarded as her

>>76304122
>IRL porn is too noisy and it feels uncomfortable to watch.
damn it bro. I mean there's social phobia and shit, but being unable to watch real people on a video? Maybe you're on the spectrum? Probably super deep? Have you been to a therapist?

>>76304477
rip. dry fast=you WILL die. absolutely stupid.

>>76304628
>comparing myself to nepo babies and trophy wives
ngmi

>>76304731
absolute decay. back to /soc/

>>76304726
at least amerifats have the army to scoop them up from rock bottom and put them on a fairly low-risk low-return meat grinder.

A year after getting my eye implants and one month after being finally allowed to do full body exercises, I'm back to deadlifting lmao 4pl8s for reps.
Feels good to be back.

>>76305838
can you see though?

>>76305847
Had -12 pre surgery, perfect eyesight after getting implants. They come stock with a bunch of uv and ir filters too. Cyberpunk as fuck.

>>76305896
so you can determine someone’s power level. hella cool

>>76305896
>>76305838
Eye implants??
I’m very interested in eye surgery please tell me more. I’m wanting to get surgery for mild strabismus. I think if I get that fixed I could train the eye to see normally again. Left eye perfect right eye basically blind because my brain learned to mostly ignore the signal from it. Like if I close my left eye and try to read I start to see the back of my left eyelid if that makes sense. No idea if I even have depth perception or if I’ve rawdogged life without it.


My plan was strabismus surgery, try to retrain the eye with the exercises that exist, if that fails get lasik or whatever then patch whenever not driving or working and FORCE the brain to use it

>>76305806
>but being unable to watch real people on a video
I can watch videos, I don’t like the porn UGGH AGGH URGH UUUH YEAH OOOH AAAH AOOO UGGHH UGGHN shit.
I am autistic though. I have a hard time remembering to look people in the eyes when I speak to them.

>>76306299
it’s cool, man. even Hassan Piker can’t look people in the eye and bangs onlyfans girls.

I'm so fucking angry all the time and bitter at everything and everyone. People deserver misery, we need another plague or massive civil war to completely decimate the western world or things are not getting better. That or another world flood.

>>76307000
We just had a plague and we turned out fine. Not mentally, but supply chain is back and people still have jobs.
Gonna need more than a plague to knock the human race down for good!

>28
>KV
>can't watch porn anymore without feeling like a genetic waste
Win/lose I guess?

>>76305270
Did you draw that? Looks good
I have the same feel. I've been writing songs and it's actually so much fun but then I get sad because I'll never get to actually record anything. All my friends are retards too lazy to learn instruments so my only option is buying all the instruments and equipment and recording it myself which would be really fucking expensive. So probably it won't ever happen.

>>76291135 (OP)
Has anyone managed to recover from a less than ideal upbringing in which they were neglected and experienced a non stop series of super fucked up things?
I feel haunted by some of my memories. I feel like I’m barely functioning. I feel like everyone’s playing the same game and I’m a Leroy Jenkins who’s having to learn his own rules. I feel like I cannot form any real attachment or bond and despite being extremely lonely I push away and avoid the few friends and women who want to give me a chance. I don’t trust anyone, I’m as sure as one can get without any real diagnosis that I’m autistic or a sperg which adds to the distrust towards others. I think I have abandonment issues, I think I’ve been dealt a shitty hand but not shitty enough to bitch about it compared to others. I feel unhinged.


Today I noticed two people I know got engaged. Then I of course immediately realized how lonely I am. I’ve never had a “real” girlfriend, just crazy bitches who wanted to use the autistic guy. Then the idea of me having kids crossed my mind. I can’t raise a child. I’m at 30 figuring out basic life skills still because no one fucking taught me and my parents thought if I had food I was fine. They act perplexed if I ask them for advice on anything sometimes these days like I should just know shit. I’ve begged them to teach me some shit and it never happens.
The older I get the more I suspect autism may run in my family.
>TL;DR:
Probably autistic, what I thought was normal childhood turned out to be neglect apparently, struggling to learn basic life skills, lonely, probably won’t ever marry or have kids idk if I even want, feel like some kind of man ape pretending to fit in with normal society

>>76307567
DBT, don't bother with CBT

>>76291135 (OP)
Iced black coffee, please. Pretty sure I just ate 1500kcal of bread and cheese. Going to walk some off, gym, then swim. I really fucked my night up.

>>76307567
damn that sucks i was sexy as a kid lol lowkey i was looking through my old photo albums and got hard a bit

I drink around 15 standards per night and I can't stop. I'm 29, I don't want my 30s to be like my 20s and it's giga fucked. To be fair I haven't been taking my schizo meds so I hope this is just some reaction to me coping with something and when they kick in I can put down the bottle. I know why I drink and I know that doing the right thing (exercising, eating right, studying) is a much better cope than drinking but I need instant relief.

>>76308584
I’ll drink to that brother

>>76308587
Cheers mate

Feeling like shit because I found out I'm 5'7".
My whole life I thought I was 5'9". It's fucking over bros.

>>76308619
you should get blacked out drunk and wake up tomorrow forgetting that ever happened that way you’ll be 5’9” again

>>76307479
If you have a six pack you can just get photos at the beach in a bathing suit and cheap sunglasses and you will be able to pull 5s on dating apps.

Not that it will change anything when you fuck a slightly chubby whore, but you won't be a KV anymore.

>>76291135 (OP)
>Quit my job to work on a project with a friend.
>Work diligently for 3 months, get fat working on it
>whole thing explodes a week ago.
>Now no job, no income, no women, no physique, moved back in with parents.

I don't even know what the fuck to do with my life right now. The only thing I can return to is getting /fit/. I would go out and party my woes away sharing my peepee with enthusiastic hooers if I could, but I can't.

I'm watching everyone around me with good lives and shit rolling. I thought I had shit rolling too. Now I'm back at square fucking one, and cherry on top I'm a fat lumpy loser piece of shit.

Every Tuesday comes around and it's Tubby Tuesday. Because I'm fat. My great big bulbous fucking undulating ass creaks when I sit down, and groans when I stand up. My unwieldy tree trunk thighs visibly affect the feng shui at dinner parties. My tits sway to and fro like a white southern belle in a sundress on a swing. When I eat food, even healthy food, it paints a picture of grotesque horror as my dehydrated saliva audibly engulfs whatever poor god forsaken morsel I'm inclined to shove into my swollen and pressurized gullet. My stomach, oblong and cantilevered, creases at the waist and droops into my groin like a Hebrew's nose. My heart yearns for love, but God prescribes me suffering.

>>76306208
It's called ICL, Implantable Collamer Lens, recommended for people with thin corneas or too high myopia for Lasik.They basically shove a plastic lens behind your iris and stitch it there permanently. Cool thing is that it doesn't remove any tissue and lens can be taken out and replaced at any moment, for example when you start losing sight due to age.
Comes with a bunch of filters and shit.
probably won't help with you thing, unfortunately, I don't think it fixes alignment. Although if Lasik is an option for you, than maybe. Ask a doctor.
If you can get it, get it, I recovered after an hour of the surgery.
Had to take it slow for a year because they monitor intraocular pressure and don't recommend doing exercises that require bracing.

>>76291135 (OP)
Barkeep, I'll need 2 beers and a tequila n coke
>Can't find better job with my years of experience
>Finish degree
>Still can't find better job
>Can't get freelancing clients
>Ones I do find ghost

I'm finally built-looking, have abs, talk to hot girls, but now I'm cockblocked on major life shit because of demopoops and republicraps importing infinity immigrants. Is there a BAP island I can just go to?

>>76309800
you talk to 6/10s at best lol don’t lie to yourself it’s not healthy

>>76291135 (OP)
trusted a fart
it was a lie

>lament about how horrible my life is
>cry online about how horrible my life is
>still do nothing to improve my horrible life
I am severely mentally ill

>>76309017
I feel like I just read a page out of a Shakespeare play

>Meet girl
>get her number
>bunch of stuff in common
>invite her over for movies
>we fuck
>cuddle and finish movie
>fuck again
>cuddle all night
>do it again the next weekend
>find out she has bf away on business
>we still talk every day all day
>always skirt around bringing up anything related to bf
>her bf still gone for a month or two
>starting to feel more weird
I'm a total loss bros. She obviously is a cheating whore but we have so much in common and get along so well.

Failed 1 plate squat. I'm weak as shit man. Should I deload or try again next workout? Been following stronglifts 5x5.

>>76310918
look up numbers of reps and muscle/endurance gains. strongmen and everything else is a snake oil meme if you dont use roids.

>>76310895
You're retarded. She's a cheating whore. Full stop.

>>76310895
If you can't handle the heat, don't turn on the oven anon.

Stick your peepee in her if you're inclined, she may even be a good person to a certain limited extent. Never become attached to her. If you can't help but be attached to her, break it now or it will get worse. Your weak frame will be exploited and you will be sucked into drama and chaos when you need to be working on your goals.

>>76291135 (OP)
A couple of weeks ago I felt the sharp, hot pop of a muscle injury in my back while doing weighted bulgarian split squats.

Thing is, I had been doing BSS for a long time without trouble, so I assumed it was actually a lat injury from my recently starting to work on front lever holds.

Anyway, I had severe pain for a week, that only started getting better this week. But on top of that I rapidly sank into depression over the thought of losing all my pullups progress.

Today I couldn't take it anymore so I did some bodyweight rows and pushups and felt no pain.

It felt so good to exercise again I literally got emotional and choked up. I have nobody to share this with but you.

>>76310895
Bro, distance yourself. Once a cheater always a cheater.

>>76310352
haha, thanks anon. I'm pretty autistic.

>>76311253
I know man, its hard. Part of me is telling me to stay talking but I know thats just cope.

>have day off yesterday for appointment
>sit around all morning
>finally mid-afternoon decide to go museum
>suddenly get insane itchy spot on my foot/ankle
>legitimately painful if I ignore it, will be covered up by shoe if I go outside
>stay in
>itchy spot goes away after like an hour
>...
>day off today too for followup appointment
>sit around all day
>decide to go to museum
>sudden painfully itchy spot pops up on other foot
AHHHHHHHH
This has been happening on and off for weeks now whenever I have a day off. Literally within minutes of deciding to get up and do something I get an unbearable itch somewhere on my feet/ankles that doesn't go away until I give up on accomplishing anything.
Not related to putting on shoes/socks, not related to going outside, not bed bugs, not related to carpet, not bumping into stuff, never in the same spot. I fucking hate this. I've tried just ignoring it and walking around anyways but it just gets more and more intense until it feels like my foot's burning.

>>76291135 (OP)
>temporary job expires next week
>got a job offer last week, heard nothing since
>lost nearly 100lbs but still zero attention from women
>close to my weight goal at least
I’m… not doing terrible, I guess.

The weekend is here. Finally I can be a degenerate and drink until I pass out.

>>76300625
> can't handle 30 mins of repetitve task from rowming
> no ozempic for 1 % change of pancreatitis
> high cholesterol
> smokes
At what point in your life did you stop telling yourself you will do the things you want and start directly telling yourself you cannot do hard things?

>>76310895
You can lie to yourself that you're the other man or whatever and she's cheating on him.

But she is just as much cheating on you if you are getting emotionally invested.

Would you let your girl sleep with other men? If so, have fun, some people can be very happy in open relationships. I'm not one and I don't think you are either.

>>76311591
yeah I get pissed when that happens. I should invest the minimum into her and just get sex when I can. cause she is fucking hot

I sure wish my wife would show any desire for me. How is it I’m the one who exercises and I’m the one who doesn’t feel attractive, what, does she feel guilty or something? I should just cheat at this point, it’s been months without intimacy.

I just got home from the hospital after a multilevel spinal fusion. People were right, it is hell. I'm grateful to have a family help me through this. I can already feel my nerves in my legs reactivate. The years of pain are almost over if I can get through this last, difficult stretch.

My friend is obsessed with a BPD and I dont know how to help him.
>starts dating girl 5 years ago
>seems chill at first but like something’s off, have a sense for BPDs after dating and having entire life ruined by 2 so I can see them from a mile away but that’s when I’m the one involved with them
>lets her move into his apartment in the first month
>becomes very obvious over time that she’s crazy
>dude called me at his wits end multiple times a week, never took my advice
Main advice was “you need to leave her it’s only going to get harder she is manipulating you”
>becomes major advocate for her made up issues, some may be real but they’re all the more reason not to be involved
Towards the 4 year mark she starts getting weird and does shit like twerks if it’s just him her and myself hanging around, tried to not so subtly insinuate I had a big dick at random. Whole time over those years dude changed from a bro to an unhinged asshole btw super insecure where he would put others down to try and make himself look better. He became a shitty friend. And everything we did had to include her. Which meant any time I or other bros hung with him it was never real bro time it was always do stuff to appease her, it was really fucking lame. Due to that and him never taking my advice I just stopped talking to him.
>year ago she dumps him
>offer him chance to be friends again few months ago
>says he hangs with her and mutual friends and they’re on good terms
>says he talks to her still and wants to fuck her
>doesn’t seem to want to take my advice
Idk how to help him. He’s his old self again, I feel like I got my bro back. But this guy doesn’t even realize he’s in the clutches of a BPD. This bitch after dumping him has slid into my DMs multiple times I never once replied I unfollowed and idk how to tell him without him somehow trying to blame me or trying to suggest she’s innocent just being friendly and I’m looking too far into it because I want her

>>76311908
>>76311689
>>76311591
>>76311488
>>76310895
>/fit/
>exclusively talking about front holes
oh boy

>>76310895
you should steal her and then she definitely won't cheat on you. You are special.

>>76311003
glad it is working out anon. Take it easy for a fellow injury bro.

I've been so over for the last couple of weeks, but now I'm so back bros.

>after years of grinding, finally get a job at bulge bank
>move 3 hours away from family
>struggle with job, clearly doing poorly
>boss is already calling me out privately
>signed a lease back in february
>location is awkward, not directly in NYC
I just need to hold this job for 12-18 months. I need to lock in and survive. How common is it to get fired from an office job after a year?

>>76312322
If it makes you feel better anon, I got a high paying tech job right out of college. I thought I was gonna be fired for 2 years straight, they never fired me and just kept raising me. I finally quit because the stress was killing me and I didn't like the work.

Granted, I'm nice and personable and have a big smile like I'm very happy to see the boss all the time, and I'd take all criticism on the chin and never complain, ever.

>>76291135 (OP)
Bros I'm not well I broke up last night with my gf who I was planning to propose to soon and spend together the rest of my days. In all honesty I'm so spent I don't want to ever have to deal with something similar i just want a break from life

>>76312331
>I got a high paying tech job right out of college. I thought I was gonna be fired for 2 years straight, they never fired me and just kept raising me.
omg, that must have been so difficult. life must have been so hard for you.

>>76312331
Thanks. That's good advice. I need to be kind and social, which is hard because I have mild autism

>>76312322
what grinding did you do and what work do you do now in this bulging bank

>>76312384
I passed some certification exams and worked at an asset manager. I currently work in compliance

>>76312364
Life's easy for me because I'm smart and can do math good, dumb nigger.

>>76312444
Math well, black person*

>>76312366
It's ok, I'm also autistic. I just larp that I'm an Italian and act like a puppy dog, just happy to see everyone, and also make some good jokes.

Like if it's hot outside I'll say

"Hey everybody, how we doing?"

They respond "Good how are you..." etc.

I go, "I'm good, was just scooping up my melted cadaver off the asphalt in the parking lot. You see how hot it is out there? You brush a little butter on my forehead by 3pm you can serve me at Christmas dinner."

And all the indians at work just get all fucked up

"yes (ringadinga), perrrhaps you should apply some turrrrmerrric for a tahn"

and then I keep it going,

"Yea Nitish, and then a little garam masala as a fragrance, very chic these days at the club, with the butter and the turmeric."

Then they're all laughing and they forgot I barely did any work today.

>>76312455
Nah, I do math good. I got trips you can eat my ass.

>>76294835
>i just want to be loved yet i feel like i don't deserve being loved
I know that feel, brother

>visiting my family out-of-town
>only gyms in town are a Planet Fitness (I don't want to touch that can of worms) and a small, local gym where I'd end up paying $50 for a week
>decide to do cardio instead since there's a nice running path that goes through town
>immediately aggravates my soleus (?) injury even though i've avoided running for weeks
I just want to roon free... i'm going to just end up doing calisthenics at this point. however, my darling grandmother did say i'm a very handsome young man with a great personality, so that's a bright spot.

>>76311908
either cut him loose or introduce him to resources about BPD and hope he sees the light. i don't know whether you'd want to be honest with him about her trying to 1. triangulate you into their relationship (standard BPD tactic) and 2. trying to DM you after you broke up, because the BPD's obvious counterattack (he's going to go to her to corroborate this information, like a FUCKING retard) is to lie and claim that (You) were hitting on her, you initiated the DMs, and to try and turn him against you. don't get dragged down into the mud, because she has the home turf advantage.
in all seriousness, 5 years of a relationship (lol, lmao) and 1 year of obsessing over her after she dumped him... the prognosis is not good. the only way he's going to break free is if he's aware of what BPD is and he actually wants to break free from this toxic cunt. horse, lead, water, drink, etc. if he's not going to see the light, i'd go back to not talking to him.
t. obvious BPD psycho-bitch veteran

>>76312465
That's good advice

Interview tomorrow. Have not worked in over a decade but have been working to get healthy mentally and physically. Hoping I can get the job.

>>76312551
Good luck! Smile and remember to use the STAR approach

>>76312559
Thank you, Anon. Not sure what the STAR approach is, guess I'll research!

I know it's hard nowadays with modern women and marriages but I'm nearly thirty and I want a kid. I had a dream last night that I had a daughter and I want to be a father.

>>76312613
My kid would be 3 by now if I had only convinced her to keep her it. She was thinking about doing it just to spite me

>>76312632
So wait, she was blackmailing you with the death of your child to fuck with you? That's demonic.

>>76312650
I meant she was mad at me for impregnating her and not being there for her at the doctor visits that she sent death threats and threatened to keep the baby

I am in Thailand, alone, as a 24 year old loner virgin chud archetype. I realized I'm rustier and more out of shape than I thought when I went to Muay Thai class and struggled to throw a round kick, which would've been easy for me years ago. I also realized it's easier said than done to go from outcast to social butterfly when you've been a shutin all your life. I'll keep showing up, but I suspect I'm fucked.

>>76312669
You’re so focused on developing your round kick when you should work on fucking brown chicks in Thailand

>>76312673
I don't think I'm cut out for that sort of lifestyle, if I'm even interested in it. Plus it'd burn through my savings quick if I just spent all my time partying, not that I'm a drinker. I don't know.

I give up, I have no idea what women between the ages of 20 and 40 do.
I've joined art clubs, taken pottery classes, volunteered, joined co-ed sports leagues, gone to singles events, gone to concerts, joined jogging groups, gone to art shows, gone to museums, gone to game nights, and more. I'm more involved with life in general than I've ever been. I even went to a big event at this dance club I hate but the basic chicks in my area love and the crowd was majority male. I'm basically doing something different every night of the week and being outwardly social consistently, and I've been doing this since October.
And through all of it, the vast majority of crowds are guys. It's about 75/25 men:women absolutely everywhere, and about half of the women are old. It's not even that women won't talk to me or already have boyfriends, they're simply not there.

Are modern young women simply doing less in life or something? Do they really just sit at home and doomscroll? They already don't respond to me on dating apps, if they don't go outside then I'm legitimately out of ideas on how to meet them.

>>76312684
get a jon u retard

>>76312494
>i don't know whether you'd want to be honest with him about her trying to 1. triangulate you into their relationship (standard BPD tactic) and 2. trying to DM you after you broke up, because the BPD's obvious counterattack (he's going to go to her to corroborate this information, like a FUCKING retard) is to lie and claim that (You) were hitting on her, you initiated the DMs, and to try and turn him against you. don't get dragged down into the mud, because she has the home turf advantage.
Trust me man I know. I’m very sure her making those comments about me in front of him was just to further drive some kind of wedge or make him resentful towards me. The BPDs main tool, main tactic above all the shit they do is to alienate their victim so that she’s all he has. They want their victim as low and desperate as possible because they understand they are trash women and only a truly desperate man will want them and not be able to leave them. Combine that with all the affection and love bombing and other tactics to get him hooked and you know how it goes.
>in all seriousness
I would say I was worse off with my first. But the difference is for my first I went 20 years never even kissing a girl, then suddenly I was being showered in an overwhelming amount of affection, getting crazy head where even while inexperienced I knew it was top tier (she would blow me with this crazy tongue shit, keep sucking well after I nutted, then continue to suck my dick until I got hard again and do it again). I dated her for a year and spent 5 obsessed with her. Now I’m over her, I’ve dated more sane women now. He’s dated other girls he grew up with friends and GFs. I don’t think he’s ever had anything as serious as with her though.
>if he’s aware of what BPD is
That’s the thing. She self admits to having it. He KNOWS. I don’t think he KNOWS though. All BPD truly is is bad personality disorder. It’s selfish cunt who genuinely wants to hurt people.

>>76312714
>>76312494
Idk how to get him to understand man. I’m thinking of meeting up with him this week and telling him some stories about my first gf. Then seeing if I can steer the convo where I want it to go. I mostly want to show him the DMs but like you pointed out it’s not a good idea.
The other part I worry about is what if he somehow finds out about them then just assumes or believes whatever she says? It would be so easy to
>anon DM’d me first wow he deleted his messages
And of course a current BPD victim would believe that.
The nigga has gone on dates with new women fucked new hoes gotten good head from new bitches but still every couple weeks he’s mentioning how she’s sexting him, or how he misses her.

>>76291135 (OP)
I fucking hate bench press. It always feels like I'm about to drop it. I always feel my back muscles awkwardly working and that it's only a matter of time before I injure my back. I always feel the asymmetry of my shoulders and that sooner or later it will be snap city. When I first lift the barbell it always feels my grip isn't strong enough and that I'm about to drop it on my fucking head. I can barely finish my last lift and I have no idea what will happen if I ever fail it in my home gym. No one will notice for over a day that I'm gone kek.
Which brings me to the feels part. One mix of tonic and coke zero because I hate myself and I don't drink alcohol.
I am 35. I stopped trying to date at around age 24 after so many rejections. Granted, I was always going after high quality women - educated, beautiful, and being talkative and interesting is always a bonus, so maybe I should have lowered my standards. On the other hand, I really see no point in dating a girl I do not feel attracted to. How will I get myself hard? Let her suck my grower dick from its tiny resting size? How will I keep it hard? Besides, I want my children to be pretty. My brothers and sisters are all beautiful, I would say me as well if I weren't balding, and I had full head of hair back then.
I am now unironically considering divorced women and single moms. Sure you will always have to think about why they got dumped and how they made awful decisions like even getting into that relationship, but when I think about it, these are fucking women. They are herded like sheep and get overwhelmed when they see a good looking male. I understand how they get locked into bad relationships. Their nurturing motherly nature makes them feel they can fix a toxic man.
>>76312613
For me, it's my nephews. They motivate me to become a father myself.
>>76312106
>>76301849
Fuck off back to your youtuber threads. Literally 1 thread out of 150 talking about the reasons we all lift and stay /fit/.

>>76312690
Maybe you're trying too hard. That gives all women the ick. The right guy doesn't have to try.

>>76312690
i honestly dont know what women do either. i mean, im not going out to try to meet them or anything, but i legitimately dont even know what they do. maybe they do all just stay mostly at home because they already have a boyfriend or husband and kids.

>>76312725
you care too much. you lost him years ago. letting mid bpd girls have such a big efrect on your lives like this, c’mon man do better

Leaving the country next week and won't be back having to put up with the bullshit. I'll have new bullshit, but at least thats something new. Plus all the zipper puss puss I can shake a dick at.

>>76312762
But bro she took my virginity she sucked the soul out of me and now they ruined my bro-friendship how can you just forgive and forget

>>76312763
>le "white incel goes to southeast asia to fuck prostitutes and says how much better asian women are than the white women who reject him" 4chan poster
this will be you
>>76312669

>>76312714
>>76312725
>I don't think he KNOWS though
i also didn't know for ~3 years. 1 year into the relationship (still in the love bombing phase) she suggested that she might have borderline personality disorder, exactly once. however, i legitimately didn't know what the term referred to and i was preoccupied with my own (boring, but draining) issues at the time. it was only when i broke up with her that i coincidentally found a description of BPD and thought
>wow, she checks literally every box
before this i was, of course, entertaining delusions of getting back together with her. knowing what BPD was and r/BPDLovedOnes, taken with a grain of salt, immediately cured me of that delusion. it put my relationship with her in perspective to see story after story mirroring my own experience with only minor differences. in other words, it made me understand that it's a pathological mental illness, and i was simply the collateral damage of a very damaged person.

my intent isn't to blog, it's to point out that i was hopeless until i actually educated myself and understood that my circumstances weren't unique - far from it. i don't know if that sub is still around, but there's undoubtedly other forums full of both worthwhile resources and real horror stories that might ground him in fucking reality. i imagine that if you had a choice between
>cutting contact with your friend because he can't break free from demon pussy
>him going through a "i was a victim, i'm in therapy, etc." arc
you'd probably choose the latter

but again, there's no guarantee and i might be giving you false hope by sharing my experience. for reference, i cut contact with a lot of people (mutual friends) when i broke up with my ex-gf and i don't regret it at all. fuck 'em.

>>76312770
You can fuck right off with your defeatism bullshit. Theres a bunch of justified reasons but you don't deserve them because you're exist on /fit/ to spread your own misery I sincerely hope you get raped by a pack of niggers.

>>76312774
>Theres a bunch of justified reasons
sure there are bro. thats why the only thing you said about moving countries was "all the zipper pussy you can get". go fuck all the southeast asian prostitute bugs desperate to use you as an atm and for their green card and talk about how far superior they are to white women faggot loser incel

>>76312780
Again sincerely I hope you get gonnorhea

>>76312772
All I’d like is to see him have the growth I have. I have had many close friends. I cherish those that I do have. I know what it’s like being where he is. I care about him. We’ve been friends for 25 years.
He’s being incredibly dumb because he’s admitted he knows the idea of her is a bad one. And it’s probably to some degree personal because I hate these BPD cunts.

tweaking with my program, thinking about raising my volume. Soon i'll jerking off to prime Faith Ordway

waito sexpats LOL

>>76312787
Why would you hate the one thing that introduced you to sex? You’d still be a virgin without them

>>76312770
>white incel goes to southeast asia to fuck prostitutes and says how much better asian women are than the white women who reject him
GIWTWM

>>76312782
>retard going to southeast asia to fuck the women there hoping someone ELSE gets gonorrhea
holy fucking kek youre an even bigger retard than i thought

>>76294835
I see random couples and I just think they're cute. Good for them, I know it will be me someday
I will impose my delusions upon reality

>>76310895
>She obviously is a cheating whore
>We have so much in common
You have being rats in common

>>76311687
>she’s so hot
doubt. you sound like an inexperienced low standards having faggot getting emotionally invested in a whore

>>76312880
oh yeah? this is her. what do you have to say now? her head game is crazy

>>76312883
>hoop earrings
I cant quite explain why, but this instantly makes me lose any possible attraction to a woman. Like, legitimately more unattractive to me than if she had trashy tattoos or a black baby.
Hoop earrings, drawn-on eyebrows, and the e-thot style of gaudy fuckhuge winged eyeliner have to be the most unappealing things a woman could possibly do to herself in my eyes.

>>76312906
she’s hot dude you sound jealous lol are you the boyfriend i’m cucking?

>>76312908
Chill out lol I'm just saying I hate hoop earrings

>>76312883
Cute.

>>76312906
because hoop earrings dirrectly correlate to how big of a whore a woman is. the hoop size is equivalent to the size of her opening. and given how ridiculously huge this hole's hoops are, its no surprise shes a cheating whore. anon can probably fit his entire fist inside her gaping diseased cunt

>>76312950
So are you disagreeing with her assertion that she’s fucking hot?

>>76312955
its very strange that a still would be taken from a tiktok video, and leaving the account name active, meaning someone can probably dox her. so im going to say its fake. but regardless, no she really doesnt look "so fucking hot", and given what you can tell from her personality (the massive hoop earrings, the cheating, wanting to be with the type of 4chan poster who has no problem posting her supposed picture online for a ton of racist incels), no, shes pretty unattractive actually

How do you guys deal with women who are interested in you but you know they're out of your league? I keep seeing this girl who's checking me out at the gym who's really pretty and thick but I never have approached her because I know if I did it would end the same way it always does and I'd keep hating myself. Do you guys just drink a lot or what

>>76312969
>thick
she’s fat bro which means you’re in her league go for it

>>76291135 (OP)
Went out to go buy kilos of strawberries and flank steak. Local buses were just made free, so I hopped one for a short trip to the grocery store. Of course, six young black women begin arguing in the back of the bus and it rapidly escalated to them threatening to mace each other. Even though I had a decent respirator on, I was like fuck that noped out two stops early lmao. Literally tragedy of the commons, right? This is gonna be NYC even worse if Zofran Memedaddy wins.

>>76312976
nah she's not. A lot of dudes go talk to her and she's always alone there working out. We just so happen to workout at the same time and I see her looking at me. But the last girl I talked to at the gym who was cute and short ended up ghosting me. I need a fugly practice gf becHse I really have no idea how to talk to women. It's just torture at this point. I wish someone would fucking shoot me or a bus would hit me and kill me so I don't have to live like this. Seeing people get married, have kids and I'm still basically at square one. Not to sound like an incel but I am, and I feel hopeless and lost

>>76312745
>I stopped trying to date at around age 24 after so many rejections
>fuck off back to your youtuber threads
you literally cannot talk shit after posting 90% self-deprecation cringe like you just did. go back to being a miserable baby in a body the age of someone in their peak. pathetic

>>76312883
>this
>hot
She looks anorexic, and I’m not even a chubby chaser. Honestly, this whole image looks AI generated, something just looks off with her arm.

>>76313320
Said the nerd entering threads he hates, reads walls of text, and seethposts about it. It feels like you are a miserable failure as well and it triggers you people opening up about their lives.

>beautiful Saturday morning again
>wake up
>should be like a normal person, excited by the weekend, excited at the prospect of two days of my own time, can do whatever, see whoever, etc.
>instead I’m miserable because I have no plans and know that I’ll do nothing yet again, probably spend most of the time sitting in the house, and don’t have the motivation to do anything worthwhile with my time, wasting every minute of my life
I never in my wildest dreams could have imagined that life would get this bad

>>76291135 (OP)
Wife and I had a pregnancy scare
>3 negative take home tests
>1 negative blood test
>Thinks doctors/nurses are wrong anyway
>Sexos me 2 times within 12 hours.
Hopefully the weekend will be nice.

>thread survived two weekends

it's over isn't it

>>76312745
>Let her suck my grower dick from its tiny resting size?
I like that you prefaced this

Me personally I could get hard fucking most women as long as their PH levels are alright and they smell like a woman

Update from >>76312551. Got the job. Starting Monday. Excited.

>>76314600
what job anon, who would hire someone who hasnt worked in a decade

>>76314613
Hobby Lobby did. Stock/Retail, nothing fancy but the pay is good and the store is nice.

>>76314600
Checked, congratulations anon.

>haha oh look. its 11 am saturday on another beautiful weekend, low to mid 80s for these two days, and as usual i have no plans, nothing to do, no friends or family to do things with, no job to go do, nothing. i guess ill go on my pointless two hour long bike ride around the town to be physically active at least, where everyone i pass by is out with their friends, or spouse, or children, all enjoying a beautiful summers day, using the weekend as a way to destress after a hard week at their high paying careers they use to fund their families and lifestyles, while i have to see them and desperately try to not cry thinking about how if i wasnt doing this worthless bicycle ride, i would be sitting in my room alone in the dark rotting and contemplating suicide for the 3,000th straight day

>wake up
>down 2 monsters
>feel normal
>clean up the house
>hit the gym
>come back
>no energy to do anything
>spend the rest of the day shitposting


I am weak and I hate myself for it.
I will drop out of uni again for the second time.
If that happens I'm gonna quit life like I quit my job and live like a retarded hermit without a degree.

>>76314684
Don't worry anon. Just getchu some abs and you can make it too.

If your life is so bad that you're ready to end it anyway, what do you have left to lose?

>got up early and helped a crew of volunteers do yardwork at a shelter near me
>weed whackin, lawn mowing, stump digging
>felt good to be out on a beautiful summer morning with a crew of guys doing manual labor and getting thanks from the residents
>headed home, made salmon burgers and about to go sit on the porch with my wife and a beer
>got chicken marinading for the grill tonight (harissa)
If you ever need something to do, just go fucking volunteer. Anything helps. Show up and do some work for people who need it, and ask nothing in return. It's great.

>>76314688
Stop drinking caffeine.
Seriously. When I am on caffeine, I am tired all the time. When I only consume a small amount or no caffeine, I feel energised.

>>76314880
>does volunteer work just to feel better about hismelf

I keep having nightmares where I never met my wife.

>go to massage parlor
>haven't been in weeks to the new girl I keep seeing there
>while going to the room I am just in absolute awe at her perfect firm ass and beautiful face
>as she makes me cum she starts biting in my neck, like a leopard would feast on the neck of it's prey
>go home and lift

there is nothing better for the soul of a man than the beauty of a woman next to his body
you ever had that feeling in highschool when you were just awestruck at how perfect this girl is? it's good to feel it again from time to time


I recommend to other sad anons here to sleazemaxx to enjoy life more

>>76315371
those are real? i thought they were just in movies

Doing tons of cardio, eating properly, not losing weight, not progressing in my training, life is a mess.

Leave the bottle

>>76315371
Don't you get nervous of pestilence and ill-humors at such establishments with foul chi? Do they have ones that don't make me feel I'm in the company of hooker murdering truck drivers with no teeth?

>>76314131
im not seething, I never implied I hated the thread (me literally posting >fit thread about women sets you off, absolutely wild) and wall of text is crazy for something that takes maybe 15 seconds at most to read. literal goofball.

>>76315971
Keep coming back bro

oh yell ya man i thought these threads didn't exist anymore these are the best threads on the site

>>76316083
why would they be blasting each other i dont get it

>>76315954
eastern europe so no, there aren't chink shenanigans

because of immigration there is this one place littered with Sea monkeys but reviews says it sucks so I am not trying it

>company of hooker murdering truck drivers with no teeth?
they make sure the Johns don't meet face to face, tho it obviously can be different for different places

i want a ripped /fit/ boyfriend
167cm 57kg btw

>no gf
>no friends
>no ambition or life goals
my only cope is that each day that passes gets me closer to death :)

>>76291551
>Hit by a suddent realisation that i wasted my teens and 20's and should have done all this shit back then
>Instead i spent my entire 20's just gooning, browsing 4chan and drinking untill i passed out
>I can never get those years back
>Anyone else feel this way?
brother. What website are you on? that's the vast majority of this website, myself included

>just had breakfast and a coffee
>going to church later
good day

>>76291135 (OP)
FUCK YEAH
LIGHT WEIGHT BABY

>>76291135 (OP)
>vape runs out yesterday
>decide perfect time to quit have next week off from work
>wrap up game go to start cleaning apartment
>bathrooms flooded
>water coming up through sink
>flooded all the way to kitchen
>clean it all up disinfect floors
>starts flooding again
Said fuck it this calls for another faggy vape stick I’ll quit when this is fixed. Then on the way to the gas station some tour guide vehicle that only goes like 20 miles an hour kept cutting me off. Dude would speed up just to cut me off any time I passed him, mind you I wasn’t cutting him off I would get like 3.5 car spaces ahead before merging. This fucking fagatronic7000 cucklord supreme 360 just wanted to get in front of me and then go back to going 20 miles per hour. We get to the light it turns red now I’m losing my shit and I just blow through it and leave that faggot at the light. Get my vape. Hopefully I don’t get a ticket. Come home meet with landlord we diagnose it the best we can shut off water to sink for night, getting some replacement parts this morning if that doesn’t work we’re getting a plumber.


Every time I have tried to quit vaping crazy shit like this is what I start dealing with.

>>76316873
bruh like the week i quit smoking 9/11 happened and you used to be able to see the wtc from my school i still didn't resmoke but it was like really man damn

>>76316873
coping with stress by vaping is literally the addiction and what you are trying to kick. You are basically trying to quit but without quitting.

If one of your wife's oldest friends, like 15+ years, hit on you with unmistakable sexual intent when the two of you were one on one a while back, should you let your wife know, or should you just keep quiet? She was somewhat tipsy but nowhere near to the point of being completely sloshed.

>haven't told my wife anything yet
>had zero contact with the friend since then

>inb4 accept her offer
No, I won't.

The answers I've heard the most so far have been
>yes, tell her, she deserves to know
>don't tell her unless it happens again
>don't tell her, it was just the alcohol speaking
>don't tell her unless she tries to touch you intimately or tries to make you touch her body
>don't tell her, because the friend might try to gaslight my wife with a made up story about me being the one to try to fuck her

>>76317441
Tough. I've been in a similar situation. Partly depends on how your wife will react. If it was a slip of weakness and the friend is now being respectful and seems remorseful (you can usually tell from the way they act around you), I think you can let it slide, but be vigilant. If she's not really remorseful and you have a gut feeling she might try again, tell the wife.
I had someone who was sloshed try to hook up, they felt bad after and was very keen on not getting too close after that; still a good friend, never told anyone, not an issue and would probably bring more drama than necessary.

>>76314880
Big fan of this. I Donate blood regularly, and volunteer with delivering groceries for poor families from a cool non-profit (farmers donate "ugly" food that's still good but not shelf-worthy, they get packaged into family meal-prep type stuff, we deliver every week). Man if feels so good.
I used to also volunteer to chop down invasive trees (Brazilian pepper), its been an ongoing process and we managed to essentially eradicate it from several areas. Lots of manual labor, but it was very cool.
Volunteering is definitely the way to go for any anon feeling lost or not ambitious.

>Travelled for work for 1 week
>Had to eat every lunch/dinner with colleagues to """network"""
>no gym at hotel and no time to run, each conference day starts at 6am
>came back and weight is up 6lbs
>tired as fuck because 10 hour time change
part of it is probably constipation but FUCK work travel

>incel for 25 years until I lose my virginity to some fat drunk pig at a party
>briefly date decent looking chick and have meh sex a few times at 27
>at 28 date a 6/10 with a decent body for half a year, sex is nice but nothing special, feels like she just puts out to make me happy
>now 29, starts fucking insanely hot 9/10 with absurd body, literally looks like some AI render
>sex is completely crazy
>like the idealized version of sex you imagine as an incel when jerking off
>she goes ballistic in every position
>cums in seconds when on top
>nothing is too rough for her, even though I'm pretty big
>usually cum by ramming her in missionary as hard as I physically can while she screams and wraps her legs around me
>fucked 3 times in a row last time, didn't even lose my boner after cumming
>is into being dominated, told me last night I can just do whatever I want with her

How the fuck did this happen bros? This is like a fever dream. I'm genuinely scared I can never have a serious relationship because normal sex can't satisfy me anymore.

>>76317462
height? why you saging nigga

I'm glad good pussy has come to you, remember to breathe well during this period of pussy prosperity, because it makes the air taste sweeter

>>76314880
>>76317459
I might want to volunteer but I don’t even have the ambition to do the things required to make me have a non-worthless life. Going out of my way to start doing things done for free on my free time is useless

absolutely horrible. but i have climbed out of rock bottom addiction/lonliness/all of it before. i know i can do it again and you anons can as well. God bless

>can't work out cuz I'm still sick
>spent the last hour jerking off to femboy trap art instead of doing ANYTHING useful
>work tomorrow
Just.
Fuck my shit up, man.

>>76317441
Like the other anon said I'd wait for it to happen again before telling.

I feel more depress cuz the work almost crushed me out too many times sometimes i feel i can’t stop crying when I’m on my bed alone. Maybe i should quite my shite and give me some freetime to explore more than work in my life instead of keep doing this job

>work all week, looking forward to the weekend
>weekend comes, beautiful weather for outdoor activity
>get sick Friday
>absolutely wrecked today

At least I can sit on the porch I guess, really wanted to go swimming. I better be feeling OK by next weekend, I got a cabin trip I do NOT want to miss