It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhale

Were you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as well

What are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.

Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own pace

We're ALL gonna make it

The motivation thread is open

Last week’s thread >>76266704

Woke up really rusty, last night I was dreaming about my orthodox gf that we broke up 2 months ago and I woke up thinking about her. I still went to the gym this morning and did a brutal full body workout and 45min cardio right after, gonna relax a bit, pray and start working on a project, good luck anons. Godspeed

I signed back up to the gym today
wagmi bros

Sawadee kahp. I am still a 24 year old virgin schizoid doomer. I am no longer a wagie.

After room rotting for my first week due to jetlag and latent anxiety, I headed to muay thai for the first time in years. I was surprised I managed to last most of the class, and probably could've made it to the end but I need to get home. Many westerners and seemed friendly. I will likely do 2x a day sessions since it could offer me more opportunities to make friends as well as monk mode maxx. The gym has housing so I hope the rooms don't get fully booked in the next two days I still have at my hostel.

Whilst I'm here, I will also commit to working on some type of hentai vn game project as it could be a better opportunity than most in the States. Below is my bloggu for any who might want to support if only superficially.

Perhaps it isn't over.

https://x.com/draws_tc?t=FPXMKB2EJ3HgkfSwgkM9Yw&s=09

>>76293443
Good job motivating yourself to go to the gym, even though you didn’t feel like it. You’re strong even when you don’t want to be. Eventually you’ll feel better, but keep pushing yourself

Down 10lbs and im already starting to appreciate my new looks in the mirror. 20lbs to go and ill probably be a model

>>76293452
Welcome back fren! WAGMI

>>76293437 (OP)
It's going to be light weight baby!

Down to 195 and it's weird to think that my goal weight of 180 is actually no longer that far off.
It's funny though, when I dropped from 230 to 220 everybody commented that I looked like I was losing weight, same thing from 220 to 210, but now that I've gone from 210 to 195 no one's said shit.
But yeah, 35/50 pounds down, only 15 to go. I'd say it's keto that's helped the most, but honestly it was just kicking my addiction to sugar and carbs. I spent months sabotaging myself with donuts and snacks amidst fasting and exercise. I will say one thing, it was a hell of a lot easier to quit sweets and bread than it was to quit drinking.
Also a year sober as of the 18th.

>spent another beautiful weekend sitting inside doing nothing, seeing and talking to no one, doing nothing to help myself and improve my life, might as well have just been staring at a wall
Man there’s literally nothing in life that makes me any sort of happiness and I’m too retarded and useless to be able to do anything myself

I WILL STUDY HARD THIS WEEK
I WILL SUCCEED IN MY JOB
I WILL PASS MY LEVEL 3 CFA EXAM NEXT JANUARY

Work is going decently, but I know it’s about to ramp up again. I know that it’ll take a little longer for me to learn how to do this job. In order to study without stress, I need to ensure that I can keep this role. After I pass my level 3 exam, I’ll get a role I truly want.

Today my journey begins again. The summit beckons me. The path upwards is difficult, I’m sure I’ll stumble more than a couple of times. But I need to get up every time. I’ve already conquered two mountains, now only the final one remains. This time I’ll have 7 months to prepare. I’m ready to finish this journey.

Best of luck on your travels frens! Our trips are not linear and filled with hardship. But we must keep steeping forward, believing that we’ll reach our destinations.

>>76293535
Congrats on actually going to SEA! Joining Muay Thai will give you a lot of opportunities to make friends. Just remember to be friendly.

Honestly, I’d consider commissioning you to make comics/art for /fit/

>>76293717
Keep cutting so you can keep ‘mirin!

I'm going through all sorts of shit.
I don't mean to whine but I'm kind of anxious. Life seemed so easy just a while ago.
I wonder if just pushing through will work in the long run. That's what I did for years and I ended up here. And it all seemed to be working out but now I'm stuck and instead of making progress I'm going backwards in spite of my effort.
I think of starting over or giving up, but I don't even know if that's possible at this point.

>consultant with 7 YOE
>paid well, not rich though
>want to move to US but visas are nearly impossible to get for skilled white collar professionals, ironic considering the amount of unskilled individuals you let jump a fence
>constantly comparing to others, not letting me enjoy my progress, all my own fault
>fit, 1/2/3/4 etc, lean 12% but very meh genetics
>look good but constantly comparing myself to others, not letting myself enjoy my progress etc

Keep on grinding, chaps. Always chase another goal; it’s the only way.

Thanks for reading my moderately-/fit/-related essay.

got married a month ago and in that time had one shot to impregnate my wife. last week she told me it was mission successful, blood test confirmed i'm gonna be a dad.

still kind of a surreal thing, but it does have me kind of resetting and realizing that i'm gonna be a bit of an old dad (i'm 39, will be 40 when kid is born). what do i focus on - cardio? strength? flexibility? just not being fat? how do i dad max?

>>76293867
>views his life based on his job and how much money he makes at his meaningless work
Will surely bring you happiness, lol

Lol posted in the wrong thread lol

>was chatting up this gorgeous chick who shares my very niche interests for a couple months last year
>she was actually the one who initiated the contact
>suddenly ghosted me (I definitely dragged my feet on actually asking her out, probably bored her)
>she's a hospital librarian
>my buddy is currently in the very same hospital for pancreatitis (he's a sickly little fucker who gets hospitalized like every 2 months)
>she's still single
Do I turn a visit to my buddy in the hospital into an excuse to 'accidentally' bump into the sexy brainy librarian who may have been into me a year ago? And if so, what fucking excuse do I use to be a civilian using the hospital library and definitely not stalking her?
This is the sort of shit that could easily be either 'sweet' or 'fucking creepy' depending on the girl and I'm too autistic to figure that shit out for myself.

>>76293437 (OP)
I’m still feeling burnt out. Didn’t get to sleep until the time that I normally wake up for work so I was 2.5 hours late plus I’m underslept so I feel shitty today even after caffeine.
Senile old fuck coworker has been pretty normal and great since I last posted about him. And he’s starting to switch up again. Last week I did 6/7 of our tasks. The he took was 30 minutes of work but it took him all day. The 6 I had 2 of them would have taken him the entire shift to complete I finished those and the other four within 8 hours. I ended up catching him doing non existent work. He was just making up work to do in the middle of his task in other areas away from his task. End of day I waited like 40 minutes for him to do the 2 minute wrap up routine he still wouldn’t start so I left and he got all pissy.
My boss emailed me saying she appreciates me which to me implies he whined about me leaving without him. Fucking boomer mindset of we have to leave together or else I’m somehow fucking him over.
Today when I got in he looked at his phone announced “okay so you’re starting at X time” and screenshotted his phone. What in the fuck. This dude isn’t my leader, my supervisor nothing but my equal. Keep in mind I’m the one who’s been doing lead work for us. Hate this prick so much.


Any day now I’m supposed to hear from my potential new job. I really hope they call me and I get the job. I need the pay bump, better schedule, and overall better job. It would change a lot
>work life balance
I would have half my day to do whatever I wanted. I’d be able to see the few women who have been wanting to hang out. See my friends again.
>exercise / chores / other
I’d be able to easily stay on top of house work, which means clear mind. I’d be able to make real focused progression in other pursuits.
>less stress
Obvious reasons and financial.

>>76294008
embrace the nigger mindset and just do it

>>76293766
You’ve made a lot of progress, you should be proud of yourself. The end is in sight. Don’t feel discouraged over your lack of praise, it’s easier to spot sudden abrupt losses.
Also congrats on your year sober

>>76293437 (OP)
I broke my SR streak by nocturnal emissions a couple days ago but I just hit lmao5pl8s for 3 on back squats.

Progress isn't linear, forget the naysayers. Let's get this shit top o' da morning

let's do our best today.

>>76293938
Congrats, my sister in law is pregnant too and I hope that I'll be a cool uncle.
Anyways my 86yo grandpa is still self-sufficient, mobile and mentally sound despite my grandma's death 2 years ago, imo thanks mostly to light cardio (walks in the woods, golfing, stairs because he lives at the 3rd floor with no elevator), a lot of reading, and frequent crosswords and other miscellaneous puzzles.
Also he doesn't smoke, rarely drinks and he has a big appetite but not so big that he's ever gotten overweight.
Basically as long as you stay active both physically and mentally without doing anything extreme and as long as you try to avoid the obviously unhealthy shit as much as possible you should have good chances to age gracefully, and by the time your son or daughter will be an adult you might still mog most of the parents of his/her friends

>4 kinds of fruit from the farm market
>hiking and art museum this week
>boss gone another few days at work

It's looking like good weather!!!!

>>76293764
LIGHT WEIGHT BABY!
YOU WILL DO IT!

>>76293790
You need a non-solitary hobby. Granted so do I. It’s so easy to become a friendless hermit once you start waging

>>76293855
You need to be strong, but you also need to reflect and rest. What’s upsetting you? Are you working in the efficient manner? You might need to pivot strategies in order to succeed. But whatever you do, don’t totally give up

Hello bros. I don't know where else to post this so I'll just dump it here.

I basically got kicked out of my moms house last month and now I'm living with my grandparents in a rural part of the southern US. I have literally 25$ to my name, some debt, no job, and although I have lived here before, i already feel isolated and lonely. My future has potential but it's all so uncertain.

I can help out my grandparents for some cash. I may have a job lined up but if I do actually get it I am certain I'm going to hate it (delivery driver) although it would pay quite a bit. It would be driving around the nearest town, which is about a half-hour away but It's a rundown shithole and I hate it. Jobs closer to me are closer but are all dead end ones.

I am relatively young and I want to go to college for first time. I know not everyone agrees with this advice these days, but attending a community college at the very least is cheap, provides some direction in my life, maybe some new friends since I know 4 people total in this state and only one of them is around my age. That won't start for another few months though. What I want most of all is some way to make money online so I can avoid having to commute anywhere in this place because I hate it. A close family member of mine now makes a bit under 6 figs with a wfh job, I've thought of asking her for connections or a nepo hire in some untermensch job as long as it's wfh lol.

I've been a neet before, naturally introverted, and haven't lived up to my potential. I've tried a lot of stuff to try and fix this but I didn't stick to much at all. I want to try and get /fit/ again. I have some random equipment (olympic bar, bench, 1 kettlebell, punching bag) ,but i can't afford a gym for now. Calisthenics is free, and i guess it may just be cuz im weak, but they always seem so fucken hard lol. I can only do like 15-20 pushups max before being dead.

Idk. I would cherish any advice or critique from you guys.

>>76294690
I'm stuck professionally, I'm poor as fuck and have debt, and also some problems with the law.
It all boils down to being poor, mostly. All of my current problems would be solved if I threw money at them, but I'm barely scrapping by.
It's not like my life is total shit. I live with my fiancee in a beautiful appartment, have a job to make ends meet with and I'm in pretty good shape. But ever since I graduated from university, things dragging me down have been piling up faster than I can progress and it's all going to collapse at this rate.

>>76294232
>t lmao5pl8s for 3 on back squats.
Congrats anon! Good work.

>>76293867
Learn to focus on yourself and celebrate your own victories. You’ll be miserable if you always compare yourself to others

>>76293938
Congrats on becoming a dad, Snorlax! As a piece of advice, try to become the type of man your child will look up to. I’d focus on a mix of cardio and strength

>>76294044
Good luck on getting a new job! All of your posts have indicated that your situation sucks. You’re making the right move walking away from this job

>>76294243
Thanks for the reminder. Let’s do our best

>>76294305
It’s the little things that help us live. Have a great week! :)

>>76294044
>>76295192
Old guy tried his BS on someone else and she put him in his place. It was great to see. He was starting petty arguments about everything again and essentially she offered us some help by giving us shit that just came off the truck for that store. He had just said moments prior that what we were building would be way easier with the actual product. He started arguing with her. They started going back and forth because she was insisting because it just made sense for us to do it and wasn’t gonna slow us down (it’s also our job if the stock is in to put it where it goes). In fact it would have sped shit up because then he wouldn’t just sit there fumbling with shit using imaginary compasses and rulers before dismantling everything again while I did all the work. They started going back and forth because she sensed he was just being argumentative for no reason. He tried to dismiss her by throwing his hand in her face and yelling “BYE” like a ratchet black chick. She got super stern and started scolding him saying she would contact his boss raised her voice. I walked away at this point because I was hoping to talk to her after she walked away.
When I talked to her I let her know I deal with that shit a lot and he wakes up in random moods where everything’s an argument just so he can be right about shit and how he does that crap to me a lot, told her she was 100% in the right what she was saying made sense he was just arguing to argue. She apologized for how she reacted and I told her not to that I wish I would react like that sometimes.


This guy argues about everything he can btw. If I say “can you pass that orange part” he’ll respond “what orange part?”
“That”
“I don’t see what you’re talking about”
*stop what I’m doing to go get it mysel*
“This”
“that isn’t orange it’s red gold” (in a pissy snapping tone like you’re retarded)
Not an exaggeration. He’s usually wrong when he does this btw

>>76293437 (OP)

Career goals: Send out my articling applications

I've finished up my 2nd year of law school and now I have to get applications out so that I can land an articling position. My grades are shit tho. I am trying to cope with the fact that I specialized in a less competitive field (tax law), but I know it will be an uphill climb. I was born weak and grew up sickly. I am used to the struggle by now.

Social goals: nothing

My girlfriend left me about a month ago. I hate being single, but I cannot bring myself to get on another dating app yet.

Physical goals: Fix hip

I thought I fucked up my low back, luckily it's a less significant injury to my right hip. Gotta start working my core more so this doesn't happen again and stretching like crazy.

>>76293437 (OP)
Think I strained a muscle is my mid-back doing squats last week. Piriformis is also acting up again.. I have never had a major injury before but all these stupid niggling injuries make it very hard to make consistent progress. I even tweaked my shoulder benching a couple weeks ago and it wasn't even a heavy set.

My goal this week is to open a savings account and try to have a few workouts that don't injure me even further.

>>76294268
congrats, being an uncle is a lot of fun, i love my nephews and niece.

Is it possible to escape this black hole at 26?

>>76295694
Forgot to attach picture

>>76295694
>>76295698
Just stop giving a fuck. I know it's horrible advice but that's really it. Life is unfair and you just got unlucky to be the second choice for everybody.
I'm like that too. The only people I really consider my friends are my immediate family. My friends that I've known since elementary I wouldn't even call them that, the'yre more like people I hang out with every once in a while.

Not that I care anymore. I got used to doing shit by myself. Only thing I really want is a gf and I'd be satisfied.

>>76295698
Gay black pill doomer shit. Do your job asshole

>>76295698
This is freedom. That's all you need to realize to turn things around.

>>76295516
Keep on applying to jobs, eventually you’ll get there! Try finding alumni that work in fields you’re interested in and ask them for 15 minute informational interviews. Don’t ask them for jobs, but ask for advice on how they reached their current role. You can do it

>>76296106
>try finding alumni that work in fields you’re interested in and ask them for 15 minute informational interviews.
I'm not the guy who you originally responded to, but I am wondering how to reach out to alumni that have jobs similar to something you want. I applied for an engineering job and found someone who went to my school on LinkedIn who is working the position that I applied for. Should I just send a message introducing myself and ask them some questions?

>>76293535
I'm 47 years old and I'm jealous that you're getting to do what I dreamed of doing as a kid. Going to some eastern country and getting trained in a martial art, not just learning it, living and breathing it. (for me it was dreaming of going to Japan and learning to be a ninja)

>>76295698
Good. Best life possible. Sign me the fuck up
>not being your biggest lover
NGMI

>>76294716
Delivery driver is a fine job for an introvert. Most of the job you're by yourself and when you do have to interact with people it's the same handful of sentences. "Hello, delivery for..." "Sign here please/that'll be x amount of cash" "Thank you, bye". As for community college go ahead and you'll more than likely make a friend or two, but make sure the course you take is directly related to an employment opportunity/skill employers want. Best of luck rural south anon!

>>76293437 (OP)
cutting now, it sucks - lost 10 lbs in a month and I'm aiming for 40 total

How I get through this? I can't sleep well my chest hurts all the time

Back to weight lifting. I'm in worse shape than when I started before, all gains lost. Been in a rut since I got done with school, trying to turn myself around. Feel like I can't complain if I'm not even doing the most obvious thing you can do to fix yourself. Got a simple goal tracker app. Gonna try to prod myself with daily dopamine hits from checking off daily tasks.

>>76294008
Go to the library, the difference between sweet and creepy will be how quickly you approach her after you see her.
If you approach her immediately and tell her how you felt, you're sweet. If you faff around in the library for an hour and make her wait for you to build up the confidence, you're creepy.
As >>76294073 said, just go full picrel and disregard the consequences of telling her how you feel. Worst case, you say bye as soon as she rejects you, and promptly leave and go about your day,

>>76293437 (OP)
If I'm going to do one thing right in my life, it's going to live and leave this earth with a healthy body. I only wish to one day carry a girl in my arms and to love her dearly.

>>76293938
It’s not that unusual, a lot of the teens at my gym have parents that are close to 60 and had them at like 36.

I can finally visit the Chinese embassy today to drop off my documents for a work visa. I'm going to finally be able to escape the US and its bullshit.

>>76296596
Thanks a lot for the reply man.

The delivery job would be fine, it'd be the most money I've ever made at a job, but the thing is it's delivering packages in the closest run-down depressing shithole town all day. Plus, since it uses Amazon vans, they track everything you do with the car and even have a camera in the cabin. For me it would be a half hour to get to the place and another back too. It could lead to me working up to 12 hours a day in a place I utterly despise. It would be good money, yes, but I don't know if I could take it for very long.

Did you go to community or regular college? I would love to hear your experience or anyone else's since It would be my first time. I'm sort of desperate to be apart of something out here since it's much harder to see people regularly

>>76297193
i know but i dont want to be a broken old fucker.

>sitewide banned from r*ddit again award
Anyway why did nobody tell me that straight bars were so much better for curls than ez bars?

Need some advice, I'm 35 saving a grand everyday and still living at home. My life is sleep-work-sleep, no hobbies, friends to hang out with or gf. I want to buy my own place but I only have 30k saved and at this rate will never be able to afford it. What's the point of this shit? Why should I keep grinding in a 1st world country rather moving to a poor shit hole and try to buy a house there? Is there even any place that 30k would go far living a comfortable life?

>>76298336
You could live in Thailand for years off of just that 30k. That's the most popular place for people who wanna "move to the third world because the west sucks". But the thing is, if you did actually move there you would quickly find out that it's not really worth it for most people. It's hot as fuck 's a complete fantasy land where nothing makes sense economically or demographically. Here are some reasons why.

Everything good there exists because of western tourism. Without it, it would return to being a humid asiatic shithole.

You can't grind for shit there either. It's very very hard to own property there as a westerner so good luck doing anything beyond renting a big house on a visa.

Most of the westerners who go there are precisely people who felt like they couldn't cut it here. I'm not saying you're a loser, but that if you went to Thailand, or Dubai, or wherever, you'd be joining an international demographic cluster of disgruntled strivers, nouveau riche wannabes, retarded brownskinned andrew tate worshippers, and the type of pathetic old men who gets eaten alive by predatory asian women seeking money and US/EU citizenship.

Memes asside, the West has fallen. But it is still superior to anywhere else barring maybe Japan. You would probably notice the difference of living in a third world society very quickly. There's a reason all of the shitskins of the world risk life and limb to get to Europe or America. Just tough it out and look for new ways to win. It's harder than ever, but you'll regret living anywhere else even more.

>>76294716
Just take the job. Even if you hate it, at least you’ll be making some money. Community college in your case is a good idea. But like the other fren echoed, make sure you’re going for something you can get a job in. Try making friends with your classmates. If you have time, you can even try joining a club. There’s no shame in resorting to begging to obtain a job. All that matters is the paycheck. You can get plenty done with calisthenics and some miscellaneous equipment. No matter what’s going on, focus on moving forward and improving. Your situation will eventually improve

My hockey/tackle football tombro and I celebrated our 10th anniversary. WAGMI
>pic rel player of the game in a 4 game tournament this weekend.

>>76294718
Sorry about your situation. Are there any ways you can increase your income by picking up a side job? But be grateful you have a fiance. Love is insanely important

>>76296312
Yup. Emphasize that you only want to speak to them for 15-20 minutes and want to learn how they got that position. Spend the session learning about the position and asking what strategies they have.

>>76298661
why do people wear those huge black rings? why not getting a normal gold ring?

>>76298495
Thanks man.
If I were to move to a third world country it would have to allow me to buy property there otherwise there no point. I misspoke when I said I save a grand a day, I save it a month! working on a trade since I'm a dumb fuck that didn't go to college.

Me moving elsewhere is not because the west has fallen but because I failed, I don't have a partner and on my wage there's no way I'll be able to own a house anytime soon, even if I kept this saving rate and have 150k saved in 10 years, by then a fucking dilapidated house will be 400k bare minimum. Although I have a steady job there's no way banks will loan me money, nor am I willing to go into debt for the next 30 years to pay it off.

At the same time I don't feel like burning my full wage buying retarded shit to fill the void because that would be pretty stupid too.

>>76296609
Stay strong bro! You’ve made incredibly progress but still have a long way to go. Remain hydrated and do plenty of light cardio

Been going through a period where I've been constantly sick, finally going through a stretch of good health and progressing well on my lifts. Down to 90kg from 95, started running again. Just finished Couch to 5k and running fairly comfortable again for the first time in years.

I moved to a small town from a big city in my country a few years ago, I hated the city, but the isolation and general backward-ness of the small town is getting to me, so I'm looking at getting a nice new house in one of the towns on the outskirts of my local 'big city'.


My problem is that I got engaged back in February. The girl is great, excellent relationship with her family and father, I'm good friends with her brothers, she's femine, submissive and really wants to have kids. The issue is, I've had this other girl in my life on and off that I've been absolutely obsessed with for the last 10 years.


She is normally the one that initiates contact after we stop talking for months, she has indicated that she could be interested in a relationship but I obviously need to be single for that. I feel like she's not super into me despite how obsessed with her I am, and I feel like she's treating me like an option, but I don't know what the fuck to do.


On one hand I have an ideal girl on paper, but on the other hand, I feel bad that she's not necessarily the girl I want the most, due to this other girl, who probably doesn't even like me that much. Should I just be single? Should I just kms?


I don't know what the fuck to do. I've been praying a lot lately for clarity. I know God will keep testing me to make me better, but it's absolute torture.

>>76298202
>it'd be the most money I've ever made at a job
That's reason enough to try it, even if you only last a month or two it'll get you some money
>it's delivering packages in the closest run-down depressing shithole town all day.
You don't live there, who cares what it looks like? Just don't act like you're too good for the place and no-one who lives there will care about you either.
>it uses Amazon vans, they track everything you do with the car and even have a camera in the cabin
Yeah, being micromanaged sucks but it's just how things are now. As for the camera no-one cares if you pick your nose or have to scratch your balls (carry some anti-bacterial wipes/alcohol get). No-one is watching you in real-time. That camera footage will only ever be looked at if there's theft, an accident, you're running wayyy behind schedule or a compliant is made against you.
>For me it would be a half hour to get to the place and another back too
A half hour is not a bad commute at all.
>Did you go to community or regular college?
I went to both, I went to community college to get qualifications to go to regular college (which I subsequently dropped out of lol). The thing about community college is that unlike high school the people at community college all want to be there and have paid money to be there. That tends to select for a similar group of people. I think also because most people at CC don't know each other there isn't really that "clique" culture that develops in high school. The atmosphere is a lot more relaxed than HS, you'll get treated like an adult. The flipside of this relaxed nature and adult treatment is that you'll have to be a bit more proactive when it comes to organising your own studying schedule or getting help with any issue you're having, there's less hand holding in CC than in HS. Also (I'm assuming you're young) don't be surprised if there's older adults in your class as well as kids younger than you. https://youtu.be/BJSXFaCWcIs?t=45

>>76296682
Welcome back! It'll be hard at first but keep exercising. Eventually your strength will return. But you need to commit to a workout routine.

>>76299599
Thanks! I am doing a stripped down version of the PPL I was doing before. Trying to keep it simple and focus on maintaining the schedule.

>>76296782
That's an admirable goal and I hope you achieve it. Work hard so she feels protected in your presence

>>76293437 (OP)
Evening bros.

A few months ago, I finally gained the confidence to sign up to a boxing gym to be more social after hitting 1/2/3/4. As I met more friends and got more lean, I noticed I started to not worry so much about the loneliness and enjoy the sport, teamwork and training. I didn't feel truly happy, but calm and at peace.

About a month I noticed several girls mirin constantly and one girl in particular recently joined and started following me around the gym and copying my schedule for classes, which there are multiple of. She would smile at me, partner with me for drills, and look at me from a distance whenever I entered the gym, making it seem like she only paid attention to me with multiple signs of attraction. I'd try to make small talk every now and then - thinking it might lead somewhere after years of solitary lifting after my last breakup. Last week, one my friends at the gym met and added her on social media, and told me she had been married months before. Yet again I feel empty and led on.

I know I should move on, I just wish people didn't toy with others like this. I won't fall for the blackpill, WAGMI

>>76299586
>alcohol get
I meant "alcohol gel"

>after not being sick for over a year get hit with a bacterial infection that flattens my ass for a week
>mostly staying in bed occasionally getting up to get urgent stuff done until my head feels like someone shoved an axe through it and lie down again
>on the plus side lost a ton of fat and am below my target weight

Silver lining and all that.

Literally all the problems in my life boil down to "tfw no gf"
I have everything I could want or need except for that. I have a job and money and hobbies but everything feels so pointless. I was fine as a dumbass virgin with no experience (still am lol) until I recently tried dating this year and realized what I'm missing out on. Obviously nothing led anywhere but I think that's the most satisfied I ever felt with my life, when I was hanging out with a girl and feeling hopeful. It's been a couple months since then and everything just feels like a blur, can't believe it's almost July.

>>76289875
its all good, i dont even really know much about mni z myself. So we went to Steak and Shake, food was good, I gave him the present and he was stunned and quiet for a moment, then he got up and gave me a big hug. I told him I hoped it was OK, that I could only find a used one because they are somewhat rare. He was really happy. We went to a local arcade afterward and played some cool old games. The best one in there imo is Sega Turbo from 1982, very challenging and fun racing game. I took him into the basement and showed him the busted old pinball that gives you infinite free games. Then he cleared the whole of Soul Calibur III while I cheered him on and we laughed at the boobs. It was a great feeling. Then we spent our last quarters on a spiderman 4 player side scrolling beat em up. It was good to have my friend back. I only seem to make friends with autistic and adhd people. Some day we will meet up and race our mini Zs. Somehow I feel more lonely now, but it was a good day and you have to take it a day at a time.

>>76298661
Congrats bro! If you've been together for 10 years. You should think about marrying her. WAGMI

>>76293437 (OP)
>start new office job 3 months ago
>coworkers never accepted me as one of their own despite my efforts
>they're extremely cliquey and deliberately leave me out or fail to invite me to anything

I'm torn between looking for a new job or blowing the whole building up

>>76299423
Don't fuck up your relationship because of hypotheticals. Stick with the woman you're with, you've made it sound like she's incredible. If you chase the other woman, you'll regret it

>>76299944
just get absolutely shredded and form a 'b team' from the freaks and outcasts that aren't in the clique, invite them to the gym to workout with you, and train your own aesthetics crew to absolutely mog the 'a team.' when you team is ready, assert dominance and take over the office.
>disregard coworkers
>acquire aesthetics

>>76299423
i married a fatty and got some sons, its a good life if you dont weaken. Theres been other sows sniffin around but I like my little pudding

>>76299423
don’t marry someone you don’t love
don’t stay with someone when your heart shifts elsewhere
don’t settle for less than love
learn to be happy alone

>>76293437 (OP)
I need to get a divorce

Saw my psychiatrist over the weekend. She asked me if I wished I was dead. Now I can't stop thinking about it. I proceeded to fuck a girl I knew against doctors advice. My doc said I wasn't ready, she was right. The 10 hours of sex over the weekend left me unfulfilled and I was unable to cum. Spent Monday masturbating to get my release. The gym would have been shit anyways because my quads are fucked.

Today, I stopped crying and started unpacking. Most of the day has been productive. I have a full day planned tomorrow full of things I should be doing. I'll keep running forward until it gets better.

>>76300141
I am going through one now. I held on and got weaker. I am recovering now, but holy fuck it is hard. Either get into counseling or pull the bandaid off.

Bump.

>>76299639
Congrats on becoming a more social person! Can I leverage my strength to make friends at a boxing gym?

Don’t get discouraged. The fact that a woman was interested in you proves that you’re somewhat desirable. You’ll find someone eventually.

Keep on looking. WAGMI

How does one overcome lifelong misanthropy? It's gotten to the point where I don't even enjoy talking to my family and rarely make time to talk to my "friends". I know I need to level up my career, but I don't see the point if I'm just going to be this way no matter what I do. Therapy sort of helped, but I don't want to discuss my problems with a professional who has no incentive to help me besides payment. Talk therapy has me feeling worse about my issues after the fact. I know I have to put in the work to solve my problems myself, so what's the point in paying someone I don't know to listen or walk me through them?

Goals for this week are to train 4 days, lose 2lbs, talk to someone outside of my family, set up automatic transfers to my savings and investments, and get at least 7 hours of sleep a night. Nothing crazy.

>>76293437 (OP)
Found out the reason my knees hurt squatting- can't flare my feet at an angle. They must be facing forward. This is tough as I don't have great ankle mobility from years of sports (sprained my ankles so much it's literally impossible to do it anymore as there's so much scar tissue). Anyone know good ankle mobility? I'm just happy I figured it

>>76301956
Strive for 1 lb per week. You don't hate other people, you hate yourself. Once you understand this you can fix it. The human brain is wired in a way to protect you from hating yourself and misdirection that hatred to others because it doesn't serve our evolutionary purpose to hate yourself. The brain is not in line with reality or what we want. Once you understand this you'll be able to truly know yourself.

>>76301956
I decided to just embrace it. I'm not misanthropist because something is wrong with me, it's because something is wrong with humanity as a whole and I can't do anything about it. Might as well try to get the most out of it. Hating humankind doesn't mean you dislike individuals by themselves. You can still find worthwhile people to surround yourself with and find a way to exploit the weaknesses of the system. I break the shit out of the law all the time and it's morally justified.

Therapy will try to mold you towards accepting things that are wrong. That is wrong in itself. If your hate is justified you have to feel. Not hating the things that deserve your hate is yielding to oppression.

I'm finally getting matches on Tinder by showing off the muscles, but now I feel like a dog chasing cars. What am I supposed to do now? Make a quirky joke then ask when she wants to hang out? Lifting didn't fix my autism.

>>76298806 Another option is to buy some land and build a house on it. Assuming you're a fellow burger, look into land prices around the city you're in. It's often cheaper than you think to just buy it or finance it, although it will probably require some work to make it inhabitable starting out, and of course will require the constant work anyone should expect as a land/homeowner.

If you're willing to move, costs of living can change drastically state to state. Big states like NY, TX, CA are insanely expensive. The Sun belt states are booming right now because of how cheap it is although this may increase as more and more people clog them up chasing lack of income tax or warmer weather.

The housing market has never been worse. It's just insanely hard now for a million fucked reasons that I won't get into here. This is what I mean when I say "the west has fallen". With 30k you could afford to get some cheap land and build something over time. It wouldn't be much, but in the long run it'd be more satisfying and profitable than renting an appartment at least.

>>76302015
>Once you understand this you'll be able to truly know yourself.
I don't care enough about myself to want to know anything else about myself.

>>76302002
Appreciate it bro, it's been hard this week but we can't give up yet. Martial arts gyms are full of people from all walks of life, but are especially welcoming to /fit/izens if you can demonstrate some skill, it helped me rebuild my social life.

If you lift regularly and can do 1/2/3/4, you are more than capable of succeeding in a boxing gym, just don't forget to work on your cardio.

>>76299734
Sorry about your sickness. At least there are some benefits. Now get back in the saddle and start working out again

Meant to reply to >>76301756, but I'll respond to >>76302002 anyways.

For ankle mobility you should determine where the mobility is lacking, in your achilles or limited mobility of your ankle joint, or both, depending on how the scar tissue has developed. Scar tissue is dense and needs time to be broken down, that can only be done by massaging or foam rolling consistently.

>>76299748
So you know what the problem is. If you have a good job, you can put yourself out there

>got left on delivered by a girl since monday
>she's posting shit on instagram as we speak
LMAO why the fuck do I even bother getitng my hopes up

>>76302175
Sorry, I'm being defeatist again. Ignore and carry on.

>>76303418
>putting all your eggs in one basket
I dunno

>>76302043
Get off dating apps asap. Even if you get matches and even dates they will leave you feeling like some pathetic beggar. A piece of your soul is lost every time you swipe. Fun fact if you didn't know, tinder and all other dating apps copy the grindr format. All of them are literally gay. You're kneeling at the feet of women in hopes they pick you for a quick night of ashamed sex the same way fat, hairy daddy dome choose who they want to give or recieve HIV from. Do yourself a favor and delete them.

Asking girls out irl is and always will be the way unless you can think of some other method online to find them. I know some guys who've met their wives on this site even. Do this and you'll skip the line of cucks, idiots, and even other chads who are desperately waiting for their princess to swipe right back and leave them all on read.

>>76299586
I've done everything they've asked of me so far and the job wouldn't actually begin for another week or so from now. I am in desperate need of some money so I begrudgingly prepared myself for the possibility that I do get it. I'd rack up some decent savings pretty quick so even if I quit after a month I'd have enough to last me for quite a while since I'm pretty frugal and there isn't much to do out here. When I spoke of the city being ugly and run-down, I meant that it's poor and dangerous. The type of place you wouldn't be in very long. I don't like the idea of interfacing with such a depressing place every day but I can for a little while if it comes down to it I guess.

I think a 30 minute commute is insane but I am a cityplanningcel so I get that not everyone sees it the way i do.

A friend who also took community college said that most people were just phone zombies for the majority of the time there, but it seems like despite this there was ample time to work/study/hang out there and everywhere has clubs too. I would love to go and it's gonna pretty much be paid for by my family if I do.

>>76303531
I literally only have one egg

>>76303901
Where'd your other one go?

>>76303939
That one also turned out to be fucked up. I only get an egg every few months. Would be easier if I was in a place to meet girls my age but I became a tradie who works with old grey boomers all day.

>>76300141
So stop being a pussy and do it?

>>76302015
Yes, chef!

>>76301956
Find love. It makes everything feel like technicolor. It’s the oxytocin. Physical touch and sex are helpful, too.

>niece's friend rubbed her tits on my arm multiple times
>gives out crazy hints
>never give in but enjoying the attention
It's not pedophilia if I never contact her, and never be alone in a room with her right?

>>76299821
That sounds like a great day! You're an awesome friend for doing all that for him. Who cares if your friends are weird? What matters is that you have fun and stick up for each other. I wish I had someone like you in my life.

>>76304193
I doubt a 12 year old has tits and does that so you're cool

Been getting blackout drunk almost every night for months. I live in a constant state of anxiety and binge eating. I'm insane. I'm nearly 30 with no skills. Please pray for me.

>>76305514
How did you end up like this

>>76305546
Death of my mother 5 years ago, drugs, mental illness, regret, apathy. Came out of the psych ward a few months ago. Please don't end up like me.

Rent management company has spent more time threatening me about breaking my lease so I am over their bullshit. I am leaving the country and never coming back so best of luck to them trying to serve me to come to small claims court. Going to take photos of the entire place and tell them to eat shit. If anons are in asia come have a bucket of beer with me

I need to keep this job for a year. If my boss hates me and I’m useless, will they fire me before a year?

>>76305551
Damn. I haven't had anything that bad happen to me yet. Maybe you needed help grieving? First things, first, quit the alcohol. You already know it's making you worse.

>>76299944
Stick with it for a year. Try to address the subject and join them. If not do your job and clock out