>>76515250 (OP)
Basically, you just want to achieve a certain look. If you are not (or no longer) conventionally attractive, the best thing you can do is achieve a look that is typical of a certain type of man who is still attractive to a niche group of women. Think of all the types like fighters, musicians and artsy dudes, surfers, athletes in team sports, hippies, metalheads, tatted up or pierced guys, badboys and whatever. They may not be objectively attractive, but if a man looks like he belongs to such a group, he could also be attractive to the women within that group or to those who have a preference for this type of man.