>>17952684
You need to examine your biases. Emotional connections can be much stronger than mere physical attraction. I think you're just using other people's attractiveness as a stand-in for myriad other things like age, wealth, social status, what you think they smell like, and other things. Labor saving assumptions.
In all seriousness, you're referring to the gap between human and nonhuman companionship, or life and death. If you have an NDE or dangerous experience it's obvious that humans and human life are the most important thing in the world, ego and attractiveness far down the list. That has nothing to do with the day-to-day working of the world, which is about surviving repetitive stress and growing as a person. In order to have adult relationships that help you instead of sapping energy, you need to be around compatible people. That's where physiognomy comes in. I can tell from your eyes and your expression the broad strokes of how you think. Anyone can tell things about you from how you dress. Real things, substantive things about your life. Not cosmetic only.