Thread 216398665

My normie friends said I (a 27 y/o virgin loser) need to get out more and dragged me to a Halloween bar crawl with them. They're currently all sitting around in the kitchen one of their girlfriend's apartment drinking beers before we go out to presumably drink more beers. I'm posting this from the bathroom.
There's about 6 girls here who are already all wasted and are currently in the living room shrieking and clapping because one of their single friends just matched with a Chad on tinder and she's (in their words) "going to get some dick tonight!"
Happens in your country?

>>216398665 (OP)
Me too but I'm 29 and I don't have friends

>>216398665 (OP)
fuck off normalfag

>>216398723
Only one of them is single and she's the one who just watched with Chad. 4 of them are my friends girlfriends and one is the girlfriend of another guy who couldn't make it tonight.
We haven't even left the apartment yet and they're already excluding my from their conversations and acting like I'm not here. I don't understand what the point of even inviting me was.

>>216398665 (OP)
Grim

>>216398665 (OP)
Just relax and shitpost, make sure to contain your powerlevel and don't say shit like "niggerfaggot lmao".

>>216398763
Kek I hate being ugly too
What race are you? If you are white at least you have that.

>>216398763
>inviting a single guy to a party with non-single women
...That just sounds like a humiliation ritual.

>>216398665 (OP)
>>216398763
Man up and fucking shoot these normalniggers already

Live it up faggot, soon those doors will be closed to you and only an eternity of wagecucking waits for you after

>>216398752
>you’re a normie because you forced yourself to go a party you didn’t want to go to in order to not distance yourself even further from your only friends and are now dreading your decision and eagerly awaiting the point where it will be socially acceptable to head back home to your apartment which won’t be for at least another 4 hours
okay
>>216398798
I’m white but I’m fucking hideous. I have a huge bulbous nose and a receding hairline. The only thing I have going for me is that I’m 6’, but that’s meaningless when you’re as ugly as I am.
The worst part is that I’m under socialized and give off creepy awkward vibes as a result. Women can tell I’m a loser from my body language alone.

>>216398665 (OP)
Sounds like hell, def not my crowd. Stop being a pussy tho, I'd try to band the girlfriend and then cut them off.

>>216398829
It’s not intended to be humiliating. This is the downside of having normie friends, they have no idea what it’s like to not be a normie. They assume everyone will benefit from being in social situations like this because they can only picture what they would do in such a scenario.

I like my friends, but I also realize you have to be a bit retarded to be a normie. It’s incredible how little they think about how others perceive them.
>just talk to a girl bro who cares if she says no and then tells all her friends about how creepy you are
>just go to the bar alone bro no one will care if you’re there alone
>just make a dating app profile bro who cares about the Facebook groups of women who will screenshot your conversations and mock you relentlessly
It’s as if they think the world ceases to exist outside of what they’re currently engaged in.
>>216398875
Fuck off fed

>>216398665 (OP)
I hate normalfag promiscuity so much

>>216399212
You sound like you have some kind of paranoia or anxiety disorder.

>>216399212
You're even more retarded for hanging out with those drooling idiots

>>216398763
rip but you only have yourself to blame should have made up a bs lie that you had work

>>216399212
if you ever want to actually acclimate yourself to these types of social situations, you have to essentially dumb yourself down to your friends level to enjoy it, you can't be hyper self-aware all the time, you genuinely just have to let it all go and approach it with the same mindset your friends do.

>>216398665 (OP)
You just described every encounter I ever had with my sister’s friend group

>>216399317
Probably. Whenever I hear people whispering or laughing in my vicinity I immediately assume it’s about me. I’ll think about it for days, even if it was total strangers at a restaurant. I’ve been like this my entire life so I’ve just learned to live with it.
>>216399350
They’re my only friends. If I push them away I’ll have no one left.

>>216399397
Wouldn't it be easier to just not have friends?

Humans are so pathetic they will deny their real selves just for the bottom space of the social order

>>216398665 (OP)
im glad all of my friends are other incels like me

>>216398665 (OP)
I went to my friend yesterday for a halloween party and there were a bunch of his normie friends and coworkers there but also other friends who are 4chan adjacent people
I drank 10 beers and had a good time
also there were at least 3 gay guys there including a french-swedish couple

that's it, that's some incredibly boring information about my life

>>216398912
The solution to being under socialized is socializing

>>216399513
For some yes, but others do feel lonely and genuinely don't want to not be this way, I've seen it in myself, it manifests as a paradoxical social isolation while also longing for connection, so it really depends who you are and what you want from it. social skills are still ultimately skills that need to be honed in or toned down, depending on what you suffer with.

>>216399624
don't want to be this way*

>>216399397
>>216399591
I can’t fucking do it. I’ve tried so many times to fit in with normies and it always ends up feeling like I’m wearing a skin suit. It also inevitably makes me incredibly depressed when even in my adopted normie persona people still don’t want to talk to me. There’s clearly something about me that’s visibly off putting to others, but I have no idea what it is. I’ve even gone as far as to ask my friends if there’s anything off about my appearance, but being normies they either outright refuse to say anything critical or simply don’t notice it.

>>216399654
>There’s clearly something about me that’s visibly off putting to others
You have clearly stated in this thread that you perceive benign actions as hostile. People aren't as stupid as you think; they can see that. And nobody wants to bother establishing rapport with a guy who takes everything as a personal insult. It's just not worth people's time.

I am a normie and I have so much going on for Halloween it's kind of stressing me out. I have 2 more parties tomorrow but I think I'm just gonna hang out with my brother instead and play some video gaymes. I'm honestly more excited to get my privacy fence put in on Monday.

>>216399654
I understand, when I have done this I also feel like I am "losing my true self" and wearing a skin suit as you said, but realistically what is the other option? we either keep being like this and die lonely, childless and family-less or keep practicing until we get it "right", whatever that means.

>>216399654
You would be happy without anyone, it's the expectations society forces in you what makes you cling to a social circle, even if it makes you miserable

I feel like I COULD get laid if I really tried, but I am anything but horny when I go out to the bars. Like, I only ever want to fuck women when I'm alone in my basement gooning. In real life I'm slightly disgusted by the idea of going to some strangers house and doing the deed. Does anyone relate?

>>216399742
nobody cares about your boring ass life retard

>>216399654
I just stopped giving a shit and started being myself and it's okay, but maybe i'm semi-charming
I managed to tell a table of my coworkers+boss that cruise vacations are kinda for the retarded before half of them said "well i take cruises" and I managed to get unscathed out of that blunder
I don't look good either

>>216399729
I don’t understand what you mean.
>And nobody wants to bother establishing rapport with a guy who takes everything as a personal insult
Mostly this part
>>216399766
>but realistically what is the other option? we either keep being like this and die lonely, childless and family-less
This is probably the path I’m headed down. I’m sure once I’m older the realization that I wasted my life will hit me and I’ll kill myself.

Normalfags celebrate Halloween into November?

>>216399827
>I don’t understand what you mean.
What part is it that you don't understand? I think I was crystal clear.

>>216399871
The weekend before and the weekend after minimum are the designated Halloween partying nights. When I was in college underclassmen whores would go out 3 nights a week for the entire month of October

>>216399903
All of it. I’m not trying to be intentionally dense, I just don’t get what you’re saying.
>You have clearly stated in this thread that you perceive benign actions as hostile
What are you referring to? Do you mean how I perceive how others perceive me?
>People aren't as stupid as you think; they can see that.
See what? And I don’t think anyone is stupid, I was merely explaining how normies seem to see the world compare to me. I don’t think I’m better than them, just different.
>And nobody wants to bother establishing rapport with a guy who takes everything as a personal insult. It's just not worth people's time.
This part I don’t understand at all. What am I being insulted by in your mind?

>>216399212
>>just talk to a girl bro who cares if she says no and then tells all her friends about how creepy you are
>>just make a dating app profile bro who cares about the Facebook groups of women who will screenshot your conversations and mock you relentlessly

You seriously need to man up this isn't even about being a normie

>>216398665 (OP)
Similar story. At 27 I had some normoid roommates that knew I was a sperg take me out to a pub and one of them tried to wingman for me out of the blue but I wasn't playing along, when we got back to the table he told the others "fucking hell I tried, there's nothing that can be done".
Not even a virgin, just don't like clowning myself for a crumb of pussy. Made me realise I don't like socialising with more than one person at a time.

>>216399212
normgroids literally cannot comprehend being unsuccessful with women because they were getting laid at 12 without trying or thinking about it and that continues today
>>just go to the bar alone bro no one will care if you’re there alone
Also they don't do this themselves

>>216399786
That's your instinct of horniness speaking, when you're out in public you're functioning under another mechanism

you still in the toilet? i mean if they haven't noticed yet, it's not going to make much difference if you just leave

>>216399787
How was your Halloween?

>>216400103
>fucking hell I tried, there's nothing that can be done
Just a bit of banter innit

>>216400159
I’ve been going back and forth between the couch watching them play Mario Kart and the kitchen eating snacks. Thankfully the shrieking drunk women left to go to their friend’s apartment.

>>216400017
>What are you referring to? Do you mean how I perceive how others perceive me?
Your own quotes
>says no and then tells all her friends about how creepy you are
>no one will care if you’re there alone
>the Facebook groups of women who will screenshot your conversations and mock you relentlessly
Believe me, nobody fucking cares about you. And I don't mean it in an insulting way. I don't care about random strangers on the street and it's reciprocal. I've gone to bars and restaurants alone, I didn't give a shit. And suppose some person has some thought in their head about this and that about you. So fucking what? Rent free. Take it easy.
>See what?
See that you perceive benign actions as hostile. It shows in your general behavior, down to body language.
>What am I being insulted by in your mind?
Not in my mind, you provided your own examples. You go out of your way to make up imaginary scenarios of people humiliating you before you do anything and with no grounds in reality. This is how you sound.
>Why would I take a shit in public. What if the guy at the neighboring stall hears me fart too loudly? Oh, man, imagine all the thoughts about me he's gonna have.

Some general advice that I hope you take to heart.
1. Nobody cares about you.
2. Nobody wants to humiliate you or hurt you. And the rare times they do, 99% of the time it's behind your back and you wouldn't know anyway and it would never affect your life in any way.
3. Get the zoomoid social media survivorship bias out of your mind. No, you won't be the target of the next tiktok, no you won't become an internet meme. It's statistically unlikely.

You have to literally make yourself retarded by getting drunk/high to hang around normalfags. If you don't want to do this you might as well leave now because its just going to get more annoying as they get drunker/higher themselves.

I've been experiencing the opposite, normalfags and women don't find me strange anymore no matter how deranged I'm acting while all my nerd chud autist friends don't like me anymore and avoid talking to me.
>th-thats agood thing!
No, it's not. The autists were better to hang with.

>>216400337
>The autists were better to hang with.
True, at least they're genuine. Normgroids are two faced pieces of shit 100% of the time that will judge you for not getting intoxicated on a regular basis, and will change the way the act depending on the people around them.

>>216400278
I see, thank you for the clarification. I think what’s confusing me are the conflicting ideas that I need to get over what people think of, while at the same time me perceiving them as being hostile is making them have a negative opinion of me. It seeks paradoxical. Do they or don’t they care about me?
>Why would I take a shit in public. What if the guy at the neighboring stall hears me fart too loudly? Oh, man, imagine all the thoughts about me he's gonna have.
I hate to admit this but I literally do this

>>216400486
>Do they or don’t they care about me?
They don't.

At least you have a friend that troes to invite you to the parties

>>216400657
I’d rather be home playing video games, at least I’d feel less like a loser. Probably.

>>216400450
I wish I knew why I'm automatically alienating them and automatically befriending normalfags. Is normalfaggotry just some sort of brainworm? Do I just pick it up and now everyone without it can sense and avoid it and soon I won't be aware of it? Fuck's sake

>>216401094
Autists are naturally socially avoidant and will gravitate towards other autists who they understand better than normies. Normies are an unknown commodity and much more dangerous to interact with.

>>216398665 (OP)
Humilliation rit-
>>216398763
Yup, guaranteed humilliation ritual. You're their circus clown

Also here's an oldie:
https://arfer.net/games/robot-test
What's your score like now anons? Any different from before? I score in the pic related range but haven't moved from there in years

>>216401689
34

>>216401689
Damn g I scored 154 what's mainly holding you back
>>216401813
Impossible

>>216401689
55
it's over

>>216401689
92

>>216401689
>18 points
I would have gotten grand wizard if it wasn't for these normalfag activities ( you think I can afford being a drug addict as a neet?) and the random 6 points tax
Just fucking nuke /r9k/

>>216398763
>Only one of them is single
doesn't matter
just because theres a goalie doesn't mean you can't score

>>216401689
>63
>Cyborg
Well, at least I'm moving up in life.

>>216401689
I’m OP, I just got back to my apartment. I left after the second bar in the crawl. Here’s my score.
This whole experience wasn’t worth it. My friends basically stopped including me in their conversations after the first bar or would talk about stuff that excluded me by subject (women, sports, etc). At least they made an effort to look for me whenever we left for the next bar, which was nice of them.
Not a single woman smiled in my direction or even looked at me. I felt like a fly on a wall with the one major downside of being in my own body rather than a fly’s.

>>216401689
41

>>216399786
>In real life I'm slightly disgusted by the idea of going to some strangers house and doing the deed. Does anyone relate?
I relate. Did it once and it was awkward. I got laid, and it felt nice, but it baffles me that a girl will let you into her home and have sex with you after a couple of dates.
What if I was a robber or a serial killer? Are they stupid? It was incomprehensible to me that they'll let you fuck them just like that.

>>216403349
Things like this a good experience because now instead of wondering if you should do this you know you shouldnt

This is why I will never go to bars I just know I'll end up awkwardly sitting around doing nothing. At least at clubs you can dance.

>>216403750
But you can't even talk to people, the music is too loud. Also, dancing is an autists worst nightmare.

>>216403793
>Also, dancing is an autists worst nightmare.
I thought this too but everyone just just that thing where they shake their hips side to side

>>216401689
84, not surprised

How do you have friends?
I'm 29 and a virgin with no friends

>>216398665 (OP)
I don't know if it happens in my country, but it definitely doesn't happen to me (thank fucking god).
I did go out sometimes when I was in college and had a gf and nothing crazy happened but I was always exhausted by the end. I don't know how normalfags unironically enjoy all this

>oh no i have friends and they invite me to parties hehe i'm such a loser
just fucking kill yourself fag

>>216401689
I got cyborg. Shitty test, why would stupid questions like "gaming limited to consoles" give you points when it's factually better that you're not much into those things at all? I've never owned a console in my life and I play a game maybe once every two months

>>216398665 (OP)
>Saar, Saar, I am sad, lonely, useless faggot and this is my blog, saar. Please console me for being a failure in life, saar.
Why are you people like this? Always crying and groaning like bitches. Waaah, waaah, why can't I be normal? Have you actually tried being normal for once?

>>216398665 (OP)
>>216404168
This.

>>216398665 (OP)
Just enjoy it as much as you can lad, it's good to have mates that care about you and want to include you. Get drunk and don't say anything stupid that will make normoids cross.

>>216399654
I know that feeling. Even when I tried my hardest the best I got was being in the b-string of my friend group.

>>216398763
Probably your autism that makes you see everything through a retard lens. I doubt they would invite you only to exclude you. Go out there and take part in the conversation.

>People are nice enough to invite you to party with them
>Go of your own free will
>Proceed to hide in the bathroom and talk shit about how they're "normies" on 4chan
You sound like an asshole. If you're really such a weird schizo autist then just stay at home by yourself and don't socialize.

>>216401689
Cyborg tier. Could have been worse.

>>216398665 (OP)
at least your friends go to that, mine can't even bother they act like 40's and we are all 25/26

>>216401689
Robot
I took this test back in high school and I was "slightly strange"
you can obviously guess what happened

>>216405875
oh and i got 47

>>216401689
47. Is it over?

>>216398665 (OP)
obv you need to drink with them anon.

>>216403750
just go to expensive, classy bars and discuss the world-events you've read on /int/ this week with the other patrons

>>216398665 (OP)
Last year I was practically forced to attend a friend of a friends gf's birthday party, it was sort of themed so everyone had to dress nicely and all the girls were in dresses
Made me realise what a shut in freak I really am because I genuinely forgot how sexy women could be until that moment, point of this story is that getting too close to the normie sphere is a frightening of what you're missing out on

>>216406336
>a frightening reminder of what you're missing out on*
Proofreading is for nerds

>>216406336
Yeah I feel you. It's insane how even plain normie women will get totally dolled up and wear figure hugging dresses if given the opportunity.

>>216398665 (OP)
at least you have friends
>>216401689
24, wizard class. About what I expected.

>>216406377
At my old office there was this tiny 5' tall nerdy girl with glasses who would always come to work looking disheveled. The type of girl who looked like she got off to yaoi fanfics, in other words she was not very good looking.
Then we had our annual holiday party and she showed up wearing this dress that was so tight you could see the outline of her belly button crease through the material. This was a woman I barely even viewed as female before and the moment I saw her wearing that dress I wanted to fuck her so bad. I never did of course, but I like to think I could have if I tried.

>>216401689
49 robot

>physical
16
>mental
14
>social
2
>accomplishments
6
>bonus
11

not being fat has saved me

im tall, attractive, approachable, and everybody loves me. i fit in to social groups i dont even belong because people make accommodations for me. i have every advantage in the world.
however ive always been a loner for as long as i can remember. i never have sex or relationships. i dont know how to change. growing older has been hard, because acquiantences who used to surround me have given was to genuine isolation. ive never met anyone like myself

>>216398763
Drink
Vomit on one of the whores
Leave
Fart on your way out

>>216403552
Fuck off chad

>>216403552
Fuck me chad

>>216401689
>69
>cyborg
>"As a result, you may be on your own with your feels."

This hurts. I dug myself out of NEETdom, entered a good career, even got a gf for a bit, but I never had friends, never cracked into that realm of normieness but also left the horrible but tolerable realm of loneliness I was in previously. I'm scared of being found out. All I got for my troubles was a job that I'm scared that I'll get silently replaced from if people realize I'm a weirdo.

My one and only proper gf once said, 'anon, you're not the anon I knew'. Yeah. She got too close. Realized I was a friendless freak with too many things wrong with him. Hit all those fears, all those insecurities, so close to finally making it to happiness, after convincing myself and getting used to love, love this powerful emotion, of caring for someone, wanting to be with them, and it's all fucking gone. Sure, before her, I got really sad sometimes, but it would go, and I would get on with life. Now I just have being hurt, sadness, regret and guilt.

too much of a fucking weirdo for people for me to not be scared of being honest, but too good at pretending and too much to lose, i dont even know what

>>216407243
maybe you're asexual, aromantic or both

>>216398665 (OP)
>>216398763
You sound like a little bitch who acts like a victim and is extremely boring to have around. No wonder why they're excluding you out of the party. No one wants a guy who only complains and behaves like he doesn't want to be there. You see, I used to be like you in the past, but then I realized that no one cares about your feelings so I stopped behaving like a teenage girl and my social relations improved a lot.

the real answer is that most average people are actually infinitely more autistic than higher than average intelligence people and constantly exude microaggressions and social violence without realizing it. they're generally low empathy and not very observant. BUT because they are all of these things they are very proficient at just doing what everyone else is doing without thinking about it. anyone who does not do this gets dunked on, which is going to be anybody who is even 1% prescient at any given moment. unfortunately average people percieve this as "social intelligence" so that's what you gotta deal with as a minority. sorry to say.

I just got dragged to a halloween bar crawl by friends and despite the efforts of both my friends and several strangers, the only people who hit on me were gay men and all women were grossed out by me
This was my last Halloween while I'm still under 30 years old and I'm still a virgin and I still didn't get a goth gf, it's so fucking over I want to kill myself and my friends for dragging me out and humiliating me

i mean shit just look at these retards:
>>216399317
>>216399355
>>216400055
>>216404096
>>216404168
>>216407939
these are the people who insist that they are more socially developed and empathetic and in touch. lol, lmao even.

>>216408131
>these are the people who insist that they are more socially developed and empathetic and in touch. lol, lmao even.
nobody said that you retarded projecting faggot, this is 4chan most of us have less of a social life than OP

>>216398665 (OP)
kill em all

>>216402068
Just never having had a gf. That's almost 30 points I don't get.

>>216407375
>gf once said, 'anon, you're not the anon I knew'. Yeah. She got too close. Realized I was a friendless freak with too many things wrong with him
Did she breakup with you when she realized you don't have friends?
I've never had a gf and I always wonder how much my friendlessness and lack of a social life would freak one out

>>216408844
There was more to it, I'm going through a busy and painful time and I was neglectful. She said those things about me when we were breaking up. I suppose she fell in love with the me I pretend to be.