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i did
im not totally asexual but i am mostly; it doesnt bother my wife at all; & we are still extremely emotionally lovey passionate even without that; & even if i wasnt asexual my crippled deformed fragile body wouldnt be able to do much of that anyways so its actually a good thing its at the bottom of my priorities & only occasionally do i feel up to something; if i had the kind of libido i did pre hrt it would be a issue & very depressing
you have to be pure & wonderful enough to attract a person who is similar to you that can do without much or any of that stuff
if you can find a personality that goes really well with yours; & your able to atleast be & feel romantic love strongly; i think its possible to find someone who either is asexual (or mostly) aswell; or someone who can be with you & love you without wanting an open relationship & devaluing you
you must stand out & have some rizz & sense of style & be good at communicating; shy little transgirl who cant conversate well is going to have alot harder time with this situation; so if your lacking in those skills your first step is to work on that; play a social mmo game like pso2 or maybe even ff14 or vrchat or so & make friends there & get past your anxieties & shyness; carry yourself with confidence & be seen & be fun to be around & engaging to talk with; even online chats (especially where irl social cues like where your character is standing in relation to others are a factor) can help you build these skills & confidence & also help you find a fashion style (less so in ff case bc its all in-universe clothing that youd never see irl outside of a anime con)
having a relaxed social game to bring someone to to hang out & have a shared activity from the start of meeting someone helps a ton too; its why my wife & i fell in love in 4 days
ive made it to living irl w/ 2 diff relationships from pso2; my wife is from here tho but she came there immediately (unlike most others i met on the board)
