Thread 40679501

i hate not being able to cum from anal
i hate being broken and defective

>>40679501 (OP)
why are you blaming your body, queen? not very fem brained. your man has a defective dick, duhhhhhh.

>>40679501 (OP)
Anal is literally the worst sex you could have..there are many other ways to do it than sticking your dick into a loose hole made for shit, or getting your shit hole fucked

>>40679501 (OP)
try finding what feels good for your anatomy with a toy and then riding him. make sure you're comfy and arching your back so he hits the right spot when you're taking it doggy.

>>40679501 (OP)
Just keep doing it. Eventually you'll get there.
Often getting fucked is as good as the orgasm, so as long as you're enjoying yourself what's the problem. ^_^
>>40679786
Everyone is wired differently.
For some people there's nothing better than getting fucked in the ass.

>>40680029
Your invalidation of OPs lived experience comes across as incredibly insecure

>>40680039
Please explain which part of OP's experience I invalidated.

>>40679501 (OP)
same I've never really been able to have real successful anal that feels good with my bf either cause Its painful and doesn't feel good or I get grossed out by anal itself. it makes me feel defective and useless like if I can't be a happy normal person I should I least be able to fill some sort of animistic need for other but I cant even do that either.

>someone relegated to bottoming doesn't enjoy it
"haha just keep at it, doesn't matter if it's painful for you and you don't get off, getting used as nothing more than a fleshlight is the next best thing! haha"
>try to switch it up for once
"whoa, whoa whoa WHOA, not like that haha everyone is wired differently o algo"
why are they like this?

>>40680055
>just keep doing it. eventually you'll get there

>>40680331
>>40679501 (OP)
prostate orgasms are made up
it's an invention created by porn industry, to serve the ancient purpose of perpetuating a culture of pederasty and victimization where 16-22 year old let themselves be sodomized by older men
in ancient times they would just rape them but now they need to convince them, so this idea that bottoming secretly feels really good if you do it juuuuust right was invented

>>40680029
>Often getting fucked is as good as the orgasm, so as long as you're enjoying yourself what's the problem
k but i'm not enjoying myself because it doesn't actually feel good
the first few thrusts are kinda nice, like a massage, it's not really a "sexual pleasure" though and definitely doesn't feel like it will make me cum
then after that it's just boring af + sometimes hurts so it's like 10-15 minutes of me pretending to enjoy it until he cum
i do this because i love him and he deserves to feel good without guilt but i don't like it

>>40681742
Your bf is fucking incompetent.

>>40681742
seconding that you need to experiment with toys on your own first and find what makes *you* cum, because right now your bf just uses you like a sex toy and disregards your pleasure

>>40681742
so, does he not even offer a reach around?

>>40681912
obviously not i always have a piece of tucking tape over it

>>40681814
i've tried using toys, well, i bought this 100$ vibrator and i tried it and it was even less interesting than actual sex. so i threw it out.
other than that, what is there, dildos? what can a dildo give me that a real dick can't?

>>40681774
no he isn't i can tell he's good at sex because he has good stamina and rhythm and a big dick. it's not his fault my body doesn't work the way it should.

>>40681912
oh i misread the question
no he never offered because i already told him i didn't want him to touch it before we ever had sec

>>40679774
Actually, she has the defective dick. Estrogen makes orgasm wayyy more difficult. Congrats.

>>40681742
If you don't like it you don't like it.
I don't know why you're trying to force it. Try and find other ways to spice things up.
>>40681975
Depends on the person desu.

>>40681986
no but he likes it that's the thing
and spice it up how
anything that involves my dick is off the table
there's nothing else to do really besides that i mean blowjobs i guess? but he likes anal more and it hurts my mouth
i don't dislike sex in general because i like making him feel good. and we cuddle after and i like that part. it's just the sex part i don't like (physically)

>>40681975
there's nothing wrong with my dick. honestly it works pretty well considering how long i've been transitioning for.

>>40681955
>what can a dildo give me that a real dick can't?
Actual control and stimulation, probably, since it seems like your bf is just thrusting about with no skill, technique or idea.

>>40682120
what does it matter how you do it, it's still the same motion?
it's worth mentioning i've tried fingering myself before and it was just about as good and maybe a little less good than when i do it with him so like..... i don't think it's worth spending money on a dildo

>>40682172
>what does it matter how you do it, it's still the same motion?
jfc
because it's obviously NOT the same motion, since you're not fucking feeling any pleasure from the motions you're both currently doing
and he's not going to learn unless you show him his fucking ABCs, since like any braindead topoid his expertise in sex consists mainly of muh big dick and wildly thrashing about
and you're not going to teach him anything if you don't even fucking know how prostate play works
and you're not going to find out HOW it works until you start fucking EXPERIMENTING and FIGURING STUFF OUT

>>40682287
>prostate play
i've looked this up and tried it (the toy i mentioned earlier was a prostate massager vibrator thing) and as i said it felt like nothing so as far as i'm concerned it's made up or if it isn't it's a ridiculous amount of work and only works for some people

what makes you so sure there's some thing that i haven't done yet that i will like? cuz, like, i think i've covered most of it, alone or with him, and i didn't like any of it. how about you try "experimenting" with touching your, i don't know, kneecap in different ways until you find a way to make yourself cum from it, it's pretty fucking boring. especially since putting things in your butt is mildly uncomfortable and takes a lot of preparation. so like it's of you had to spend an half an hour washing your kneecap before you started touching it. this is a ridiculous example but you see what i mean.

the point of this thread wasn't really to ask for advice, like, because i don't think there's anything you can do. i think i was just born this way, so i just can't do it. which is why i called myself "broken" in the post.

>>40681742
>10-15 minutes
lmao. get a watch

>>40682342
what?

>>40682341
meaning the point of this thread is just to complain. like i'm just wallowing.

>>40682341
guess the only thing left is for you to do the ol' switcheroo and start fucking him instead

>>40682399
i'd do it with a strap on if he wanted to but he has never expressed interest in it

>>40679501 (OP)
ironically hrt and anti androgens shrink the prostate by quite a bit so the very act of transitioning lowers your ability to feel pleasure from it dramatically

>>40682476
this is actually proven to be not true

>>40682500
how is it not true? cypro is literally the main drug they give to prostate cancer patients to shrink it
that’s quite literally how antiandrogens work

>>40679501 (OP)
literally hate this shit so much. i hate how anal feels awful to me. i hate how my neovag just feels the same as anal without the prep but more painful anyway. there's no fucking winning in this stupid tranny life if you arent born with the anal liking gene why couldnt i just be a top

>>40682617
felt that
but the thing about srs... wow that's fucked up, i was hoping srs would fix it for me
did you go to a good surgeon?

>>40681701
It do feel good tho

>>40682172
>what does it matter how you do it, it's still the same motion?
anon please, fuck yourself with a dildo and only repeat motions that feel good
you have literally never had good sex if you think in and out thrusts is the peak of sex acts and it fucking shows

>>40682636
i dont see how srs really fixes it for anyone, its just the same prostate after all. idky i thought it would be different but the dysphoria made me have other priorities i guess. i think i went to a pretty good surgeon. bluebond in ny she's local to me covered by my insurance and my friends recommended her too. i know she's sometimes one of the "good" ones according to /tttt/ too though im sure someone out there will say something bad about her just because psyoppers will do that for any surgeon mentioned by name tbhon. i probably just wasn't built for prostate pleasure, i mean i doubt she actually did anything wrong?

>>40681701
You retards make up anything you can't experience.
You're the same kind of person who'd believe women can't orgasm because you haven't ever been a woman and orgasmed.

>>40682683
what can i do with a dildo that i can't do with my fingers?
and when i use my fingers, none of it feels good. it just doesn't feel good. i'm not sure why you can't understand this

>>40682790
tbf even not being an anal enjoyer a dildo can give a much better full feeling

>>40682790
fingers aren't long enough or big enough to stimulate the whole prostate
like you are on some kinda "i've only ever jerked it using snadpaper as lube why is masturbation so overrated" type shit rn anon
are you trolling?

>>40682920
that's not true the prostate is 1-2 inches deep according to the internet
my finger is significantly longer than 1-2 inches
you're a fucking idiot

>>40682920
straight up not true

>>40682920
??? bait or stupid, call it