Thread 40754098

any advice on getting my (mtf) boyfriend (cis) to become less vanilla?
like, i want him to be more rough and try more out.
i bought nice lingerie, a collar and other stuff but he seems to stick to vanilla stuff.
i wont push him if hes not into it but i thought you guys might have some ideas.

If he's cis dating a mtf and not into degrading you during sex then he's gay

>>40754098 (OP)
I have this same issues his only fetish is thighs and he's sooo vanilla

>>40754109
why do you think that?
hes very loving, respectful and nice.
that doesnt mean hes gay.

>>40754118
aaaaaaaaaaaa i feel you girl.
i wish hed just be like a little rougher and more into power dynamics

>>40754129
While he may genuinely appreciate that you're a female unless you've had srs there is an unavoidable top/bottom power dynamic in play during sex. If he's not leaning into that then he might be gay

>>40754176
i havent had srs yet. obviously hes topping but hes still very loving and kind, asking me if everything is okay and if i like it and stuff.
im not saying this is bad. id just like to feel more dommed, maybe with some other stuff like choking or hair pulling added.
why would being loving and respectful make him gay??

>>40754203
>why would being loving and respectful make him gay
Because he clearly doesn't have a straight bone in his body

>>40754218
youre not making any sense

>>40754229
You describe him fucking like a gay guy would fuck, he has tricked you. If he was straight he would be automatically and naturally drawn to degrading sex.

>>40754256
im hearing this for the first time.
you know theres cis men with feelings too, right hon?

>>40754272
Ignore that retard he's just jealous of your loving relationship and wants attention

>>40754286
yeah seems like it,
thank you! xx

>>40754272
What you're describing is not related to emotional feelings but carnal feelings and his are clearly diminished. Wonder why.

>>40754296
girl you need help

>>40754315
And you need a straight bf if you want the sex you're asking for

>>40754343
why would he treat me different just because hes supposedly straight lmao.
my bf isnt gay

>>40754098 (OP)
tell him sexy stories while dressed in lingerie and giving him a lubed edging handjob and gradually work more of your kinks into the stories until you've conditioned him to be turned on by them

>>40754256
you don't know how gay men fuck lmao
you're just saying that a man being gentle is "gay" (bad, soft, weak) bc you're a sadist neaderthal without a thought in his head

OP, try stuff like this
>>40755208 condition him and make sure he knows you appreciate how loving he is but try to convince him that sex is just sex and other emotions and scenarios can be expressed through roleplaying and sub/dom dynamics

once you have had crazy sex the way you want a few times it will give him a massive boner and he will want more. he may just feel awkward or worried it is "bestial" and out of character or w/e the first few times. condition. him.

>>40754098 (OP)
have you tried talking to him about it?